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December 14, 2020
Phenomenal. This book is under 100 pages of no-nonsense ways to life coach YOURSELF. As I coach others, I find it's important that I also have my own coach, and hold myself accountable. And this book was a great refresher to put things in perspective during this time that's trying for many of us, but also applicable for perspective-shifting toward personal empowerment any day.
Some takeaways:
- Take the charge out of failure, it's learning. Set audacious goals. Maybe that looks like getting 10 sign-ups and celebrate getting 6 if that's the case. Children learning to walk is a prime example- have compassion as you learn and know you'll get there- it's inevitable and there's no other option.
- Don't amplify your failures by then failing to, for example, show up fully for those 6 people since you wanted 10. This is a form of self-sabotage.
- What we're most afraid of is our own feelings, not a failure itself. (Let that sink in!)
- You must actively accept shortcomings to change them and move forward.
- Acknowledge your emotion to rise above. Ignoring true feelings that come up when something happens is resisting and thus reinforcing the victim mentality.
- Signs of victim mentality: blame, defensiveness, hiding, complaining, it's all about you, villainizing someone/people
-The only thing keeping you from what you want is the belief that you cannot have it.
- Ask yourself why it's a problem- what thought is making an event a problem vs. blessing, etc?
- "I was created by something bigger than myself. I am here. I matter."
- The model (plug your event or thought in and fill this out) :
1. Circumstances - can trigger
2. Thoughts- cause
3. Feelings - cause
4. Actions - cause
5. Results
Some takeaways:
- Take the charge out of failure, it's learning. Set audacious goals. Maybe that looks like getting 10 sign-ups and celebrate getting 6 if that's the case. Children learning to walk is a prime example- have compassion as you learn and know you'll get there- it's inevitable and there's no other option.
- Don't amplify your failures by then failing to, for example, show up fully for those 6 people since you wanted 10. This is a form of self-sabotage.
- What we're most afraid of is our own feelings, not a failure itself. (Let that sink in!)
- You must actively accept shortcomings to change them and move forward.
- Acknowledge your emotion to rise above. Ignoring true feelings that come up when something happens is resisting and thus reinforcing the victim mentality.
- Signs of victim mentality: blame, defensiveness, hiding, complaining, it's all about you, villainizing someone/people
-The only thing keeping you from what you want is the belief that you cannot have it.
- Ask yourself why it's a problem- what thought is making an event a problem vs. blessing, etc?
- "I was created by something bigger than myself. I am here. I matter."
- The model (plug your event or thought in and fill this out) :
1. Circumstances - can trigger
2. Thoughts- cause
3. Feelings - cause
4. Actions - cause
5. Results
December 4, 2024
Did not get to finish it, the digital reading made it too hard for me.
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