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Lies Men Believe: And the Truth that Sets Them Free
You are being hunted.
Like a seasoned angler, our enemy opens his tackle box and selects the lure most likely to attract his intended prey—usually the one you and I are least likely to consider harmful. Each lie we bite on causes us to feel pain, lose or injure relationships, and miss out on the abundant life that God wants us to have. Lies Men Believe exposes the lies that men most commonly believe, and shows you how to combat those lies with the truth.
Lies like:
Pleasure and Entertainment Can Truly Satisfy Me
If I Mean Well, That’s Good Enough
If I Discipline My Children, They’ll Rebel.
I’m Measured by How I Compare with Other Men.
Find out how lies are holding you back from freedom, joy, and intimacy with God and others. Discover the power of the truth. Because once you fully embrace the truth, nothing is ever the same.
Like a seasoned angler, our enemy opens his tackle box and selects the lure most likely to attract his intended prey—usually the one you and I are least likely to consider harmful. Each lie we bite on causes us to feel pain, lose or injure relationships, and miss out on the abundant life that God wants us to have. Lies Men Believe exposes the lies that men most commonly believe, and shows you how to combat those lies with the truth.
Lies like:
Pleasure and Entertainment Can Truly Satisfy Me
If I Mean Well, That’s Good Enough
If I Discipline My Children, They’ll Rebel.
I’m Measured by How I Compare with Other Men.
Find out how lies are holding you back from freedom, joy, and intimacy with God and others. Discover the power of the truth. Because once you fully embrace the truth, nothing is ever the same.
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Robert Wolgemuth
69 books29 followersRobert Wolgemuth (1948-2026) was an American author who was the chairman of the Evangelical Christian Publishers Association. Wolgemuth authored over 20 books and was in the publishing business for more than 40 years. Five of his books have received Silver Medallion Awards from the Evangelical Christian Publishers Association. His best-selling books include She Calls Me Daddy and The Most Important Place on Earth.
Wolgemuth headed the literary agency Wolgemuth & Associates, Inc., which represents over 100 authors. He graduated with a degree in Biblical Literature from Taylor University in 1969, and received an honorary doctorate (Doctor of Humane Letters) from Taylor in 2005.
Wolgemuth headed the literary agency Wolgemuth & Associates, Inc., which represents over 100 authors. He graduated with a degree in Biblical Literature from Taylor University in 1969, and received an honorary doctorate (Doctor of Humane Letters) from Taylor in 2005.
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October 9, 2018
Good but not great. This book is a sequel to the Nancy DeMoss (now Wolgemuth) bestseller Lies Women Believe, written by her husband Robert. There is some very helpful, challenging stuff here. At times, though, the book felt fairly disconnected and unstructured. I also took issue a couple of times with the interpretation of a few of the Bible passages. All in all, this book could certainly be helpful to any man who reads it, but there are better options out there.
I received a digital copy of this book for free from the publisher and was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I express in this review are entirely my own.
I received a digital copy of this book for free from the publisher and was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I express in this review are entirely my own.
January 27, 2019
This book is split up into 8 sections of lies believe:
1) About God
2) About themselves
3) About sin
4) About sexuality
5) About marriage and family
6) About work and wealth
7) About circumstances
8) About the world
None of the chapters are very long, and he mainly hits on some main points of what he discusses in that chapter. For example, one that was of particular interest to me since I have that particular struggle is chapter 19: if I experience same-sex attraction, I should pursue a same-sex relationship. This chapter, and most of the others, covers 5 brief pages. However, in those 5 pages, I feel he covered why homosexuality is wrong, and why a Christian cannot have a same-sex relationship.
Wolgemuth does a great job covering the many other lies that men can tend to believe, and he also did a great job picking out the ones to address. I found the book an interesting read as he has a way f writing about these issues that is not at all dull and boring, and I also feel this is a book that will be helpful to any man following Christ. With the wide variety and the amount of issues addressed in the book, there is something in here for everyone.
I was given a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.
1) About God
2) About themselves
3) About sin
4) About sexuality
5) About marriage and family
6) About work and wealth
7) About circumstances
8) About the world
None of the chapters are very long, and he mainly hits on some main points of what he discusses in that chapter. For example, one that was of particular interest to me since I have that particular struggle is chapter 19: if I experience same-sex attraction, I should pursue a same-sex relationship. This chapter, and most of the others, covers 5 brief pages. However, in those 5 pages, I feel he covered why homosexuality is wrong, and why a Christian cannot have a same-sex relationship.
Wolgemuth does a great job covering the many other lies that men can tend to believe, and he also did a great job picking out the ones to address. I found the book an interesting read as he has a way f writing about these issues that is not at all dull and boring, and I also feel this is a book that will be helpful to any man following Christ. With the wide variety and the amount of issues addressed in the book, there is something in here for everyone.
I was given a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.
August 8, 2024
I've been a Christian all of my adult life and have read many Christian non-fiction with lots of new insight, but this one was not one of those. It's hard to disagree with the sound reasoning based on scripture that Robert Wolgemuth delivers here, but it's done in a bland, pat-answer kind of way and with very little sincere doses of reality that captures the true human condition that we as sinners experience. He does admit it's not easy to follow this advice, and it's not. But I didn't connect very much with the concrete examples he gives. Our men in the church are doing a study using this book, but thankfully we are using it loosely, because our own discussion of the problems we experience regarding lies and truth is way more real, insightful, and inspiring than this book. Mr. Wolgemuth means well and he's been at it for a long time, and there are a few nuggets in here that are good. Most of it is stuff I've heard my whole life with not a lot of true human analysis of living as a Christian and dealing with the issues we face as husbands, fathers, and sons.
March 23, 2025
The title says it all. Wolgemuth covers some 40 lies that are common for men to treat as reality. He shares stories that illustrate both the blessings knowing the truth and the curses of affiliated with the lies.
Although the text felt disjointed at times, the truths that are conveyed read much like Proverbs.
If I missed it in the past, one thing that jumped out at me in the comparison of Peter and Judas, was that Judas was the only non-native of Judea.
I may be misremembering, but his mention holding the spear that killed Jim Elliott struck me as embellishment. I don't recall her or Lars ever saying that was "the spear" when we were visiting her home.
Although the text felt disjointed at times, the truths that are conveyed read much like Proverbs.
If I missed it in the past, one thing that jumped out at me in the comparison of Peter and Judas, was that Judas was the only non-native of Judea.
I may be misremembering, but his mention holding the spear that killed Jim Elliott struck me as embellishment. I don't recall her or Lars ever saying that was "the spear" when we were visiting her home.
February 3, 2019
I was given a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. As a woman, I’m not the intended audience of this book, but I found the lies and truths addressed relatable anyway. It was a decent read, but it was riddled with typos I found distracting. I hope the publishers do a re-print and fix those little issues. Other than that, the book had plenty of truth that men and women alike need to be reminded of. Other than a few select lies, I didn’t think it was too specific to men.
May 21, 2024
I am a woman (not the book's target audience), and I read this book specifically to compare it to Lies Women Believe, and holy cow, that was an interesting project! In spite of belonging to the same brand, the books are written so differently that I can't help but wonder why. Are the differences between Robert and Nancy Wolgemuth as authors just that pronounced? Is it because the books are directed at different audiences (men and women)? Or is it simply that 17 years passed between the writing of Lies Women Believe (2001) and Lies Men Believe (2018), and Christian culture changed during that time? It is likely a bit of all three, but regardless, here are my takeaways:
1) The list of topics covered in each book is very interesting. Both books cover lies people believe about God, Themselves, Sin, Circumstances, and Marriage & Family. Marriage and Kids are addressed as two separate chapters in LWB, while they are lumped into one for the men. Topics covered for men but not for women are Sexuality, Work & Wealth, and The World. Lies covered for women but not men are Priorities and Emotions. So apparently women don't tend to believe lies about Sexuality, and men don't tend to believe lies about Emotions (and believe fewer lies about Marriage and Kids than women do). This is pretty ironic, because the opening chapter of LMB is dedicated to arguing that men get themselves into trouble by ignoring their emotions.
2) Speaking of the first chapter, it's odd. Robert (I'm using his first name to avoid confusion with his wife) makes the aforementioned argument that men get into trouble by trusting to their logic instead of their emotions. He bases this on Paul's statement that Adam wasn't deceived, but Eve was (1 Timothy 2:13-14). It's an interesting take on a difficult bit of scripture, and if he'd stopped there I might have gone with it. But then he argues that David was listening to logic instead of his heart/conscience when he raped Bathsheba, which is a hard sell because David is nothing if not emotional all the time. Then Robert tells a story of how he himself was scammed in college by a former classmate. He ends the story by saying: "Like Adam, I knew--at least strongly suspected--in my heart that what I was doing was wrong. No one had deceived me. My eyes were wide open." But he WAS deceived! If he wasn't, he wouldn't have participated in the scam. Those mental gymnastics almost made me write the book off at the beginning, but the rest was thankfully much better.
3) LMB is notably less judgmental toward its readers than LWB. The best example of this comes from the section (in both books) titled "Lies (Wo)Men Believe About Themselves." LWB uses as an example a woman who was told as a child that she had no right to live, and who then grew up to suffer school failure and depression. LWB places the blame for that situation entirely on this woman's shoulders, because it is her fault she believed the lie. Similarly, LMB uses an example of a prison minister who asked inmates, "How many of you had dads who told you that someday you'd wind up in a place like this?" and a majority of the men raised their hands. Instead of bringing the hammer down on these men for believing a lie, though, LMB runs in the exact opposite direction and instead jumps straight to the hope that our real self-image comes from the Imago Dei, no finger-pointing judgment included. This trend was repeated throughout the book; Robert's writing style is much more gracious to those who are struggling.
4) One of the most problematic parts of LWB was its stance on birth control (absolutely none, under any circumstances), and LMB steps nowhere near it. This seems to be a glaring omission given the common use of vasectomies as male birth control, and Robert might actually have something productive to say on the topic since he was married prior to retirement age and is a father of two. He wisely chooses to avoid a very personal and private decision made between couples.
5) There are noticeably fewer scripture references in LMB than in LWB. The book is no less biblically based, and there is certainly plenty of Bible in it in both direct quotations and story paraphrases. One of my major gripes with LWB was an over-use of (often out-of-context and inappropriate) scripture references, often presented as the reference only. In contrast, LMB uses exactly as much scripture as is needed to make its points, and the usage is clear and direct. Props for the improvement.
In summary, Lies Men Believe isn't exactly deep and thought-provoking, but when you try to cover 40 separate "lies"--each of which could easily fill a whole book on its own--in one book, that's inevitable. It is a generally good surface-level examination of topics many Christians struggle with. Robert is a skilled author and makes his points with memorable anecdotes and humor to keep the reader engaged (something also lacking in LWB). While I don't agree with everything in the book, most of my quibbles were too small to bother mentioning here. For Christian life advice, it's not the worst thing out there, and it's a heck of a lot better than its counterpart.
1) The list of topics covered in each book is very interesting. Both books cover lies people believe about God, Themselves, Sin, Circumstances, and Marriage & Family. Marriage and Kids are addressed as two separate chapters in LWB, while they are lumped into one for the men. Topics covered for men but not for women are Sexuality, Work & Wealth, and The World. Lies covered for women but not men are Priorities and Emotions. So apparently women don't tend to believe lies about Sexuality, and men don't tend to believe lies about Emotions (and believe fewer lies about Marriage and Kids than women do). This is pretty ironic, because the opening chapter of LMB is dedicated to arguing that men get themselves into trouble by ignoring their emotions.
2) Speaking of the first chapter, it's odd. Robert (I'm using his first name to avoid confusion with his wife) makes the aforementioned argument that men get into trouble by trusting to their logic instead of their emotions. He bases this on Paul's statement that Adam wasn't deceived, but Eve was (1 Timothy 2:13-14). It's an interesting take on a difficult bit of scripture, and if he'd stopped there I might have gone with it. But then he argues that David was listening to logic instead of his heart/conscience when he raped Bathsheba, which is a hard sell because David is nothing if not emotional all the time. Then Robert tells a story of how he himself was scammed in college by a former classmate. He ends the story by saying: "Like Adam, I knew--at least strongly suspected--in my heart that what I was doing was wrong. No one had deceived me. My eyes were wide open." But he WAS deceived! If he wasn't, he wouldn't have participated in the scam. Those mental gymnastics almost made me write the book off at the beginning, but the rest was thankfully much better.
3) LMB is notably less judgmental toward its readers than LWB. The best example of this comes from the section (in both books) titled "Lies (Wo)Men Believe About Themselves." LWB uses as an example a woman who was told as a child that she had no right to live, and who then grew up to suffer school failure and depression. LWB places the blame for that situation entirely on this woman's shoulders, because it is her fault she believed the lie. Similarly, LMB uses an example of a prison minister who asked inmates, "How many of you had dads who told you that someday you'd wind up in a place like this?" and a majority of the men raised their hands. Instead of bringing the hammer down on these men for believing a lie, though, LMB runs in the exact opposite direction and instead jumps straight to the hope that our real self-image comes from the Imago Dei, no finger-pointing judgment included. This trend was repeated throughout the book; Robert's writing style is much more gracious to those who are struggling.
4) One of the most problematic parts of LWB was its stance on birth control (absolutely none, under any circumstances), and LMB steps nowhere near it. This seems to be a glaring omission given the common use of vasectomies as male birth control, and Robert might actually have something productive to say on the topic since he was married prior to retirement age and is a father of two. He wisely chooses to avoid a very personal and private decision made between couples.
5) There are noticeably fewer scripture references in LMB than in LWB. The book is no less biblically based, and there is certainly plenty of Bible in it in both direct quotations and story paraphrases. One of my major gripes with LWB was an over-use of (often out-of-context and inappropriate) scripture references, often presented as the reference only. In contrast, LMB uses exactly as much scripture as is needed to make its points, and the usage is clear and direct. Props for the improvement.
In summary, Lies Men Believe isn't exactly deep and thought-provoking, but when you try to cover 40 separate "lies"--each of which could easily fill a whole book on its own--in one book, that's inevitable. It is a generally good surface-level examination of topics many Christians struggle with. Robert is a skilled author and makes his points with memorable anecdotes and humor to keep the reader engaged (something also lacking in LWB). While I don't agree with everything in the book, most of my quibbles were too small to bother mentioning here. For Christian life advice, it's not the worst thing out there, and it's a heck of a lot better than its counterpart.
May 2, 2019
This book is a profound and powerful book on exposing the lies men believe and discerning the truth found in God's Word. Robert Wolgemuth writes in a considerate and conversational style that captivates the reader's attention. If you are (or know) a Christian man who wants to be set free and find truth, then check out this book.
Full review at: http://www.entrustedbygod.org/2019/05...
Full review at: http://www.entrustedbygod.org/2019/05...
March 24, 2021
I almost rated this book a 3, but then realized I was not a huge fan of it solely because I read it wrong. It is a book that could be immensely powerful for small groups of men to work through/ talk about at a weekly church coffee time, or other less formal small group settings. I could maybe see this being a good book for an elderly pastor working through with men in their 30s or 40s in a casual discipleship format.
February 18, 2020
This book was a great read. The best way I can describe this book is as if you were having coffee with a wise God loving man and having a discussion on the lies that have crept into our minds about our lives. I throughly recommend!
March 23, 2023
Used this book with another guy for topics to talk about week to week. I wouldn’t say it gave me any new, revolutionary information, but I really enjoyed the conversations that it can start. Roberts personal life experiences can make for a very relatable read as well :)
July 8, 2021
Helpful reminder of how easy it is for us to be deceived by the world, flesh, and devil, and how to get re-oriented to God's truth.
September 30, 2019
3.5Stars I have read lots of Robert's books over the years. This one did not have the same flair/humour that usually comes from Robert. Content was good, but delivery so so...
January 15, 2021
Excellent book bringing many of Satan’s strategies from darkness into Light. How refreshing and encouraging to dive deep into writing that not only provides knowledge of the Truth but also sends the Truth of God’s Word coursing through the depths of the brain, heart, and soul.
August 15, 2024
I listed below the points the author used of what a man should cling to/not deviate from (in my own words). These truths will set and keep us free:
1. God is holy — Ps 29:2; 99:5.
2. Nothing is too grand or insignificant for God’s care – Ps 37:23-24; 139:2-3
3. I cannot earn God’s acclamation, I can only receive His favor — Ephesians 4:1-6; 2:8-9; Titus 3:5
4. Jesus is the only way to God – John 14:6; Acts 4:12; 1 Timothy 2:5-6
5. For the believer, church is not an option, it’s standard equipment — Ps 133; Ephesians 2:19-20; 4:15-16; Hebrews 10:24-25
6. Regardless of things that have happened to me or difficult situation I find myself in, I am responsible for my actions – 1 Corinthians 13:11; Galatians 6:7-8
7. He is no fool, who gives what he cannot keep to gain that which he cannot lose. – Jim Elliott. — Matthew 16:25; John 15:13; Ephesians 5:2
8. The Master is the master of my destiny, and daily submitting myself to Him will bring me joy, purpose, and true riches — Psalm 37:5; 40:8; 1 Peter 5:6
9. Real men are free to express and feel deep emotions. When I do so, it shows I am a real man with a heart like God’s. — Ps 42:3; Ecc 3:4; Rom 12:15
10. I need real friends, faithful enough to speak truth and that I could speak truth to them. – Proverbs 13:20; 18:24; 27:6, 17; 1 Thessalonians 5:11
11. God’s grace is needed both for the phony everyone sees and the real scoundrel inside I know so well – Ps 51:10; Mt 7:21-23; Rom 3:23-24; James 4:6
12. God cares about His rules; I must do the same for my own good. — John 14:15, 23; I John 5:2-3
13. I cannot look at other more wicked men to make myself look better. I should look only to the perfect righteous One which is God. — Romans 14:4; James 4:12
14. Nothing I have done puts me out of the reach of God’s complete forgiveness. — Acts 3:19; Ephesians 1:7; 1 John 1:7-9
15. My secret sins cannot be hidden indefinitely. They will be brought to the light. For good or bad, they impact those around me — Numbers 14:18; Proverbs 28:13; Luke 8:17
16. Living a holy life in dependence of the Holy Spirit is a wonderful thing, and is the pathway to happiness and pure joy. — 2 Corinthians 7:1; 2 Timothy 1:9; 1 Peter 1:13-16
17. Pornography is deadly. As a married man, it is virtual adultery. Intimacy with Christ and shared expression in context of a monogamous marriage offer far greater satisfaction. — Ps 119:37; Mt 5:28; 1 John 2:16
18. An honest, open, and transparent relationship with my wife will be sweet and worth whatever it takes to get there — Colossians 3:12-14; James 5:16
19. God’s created order for sexuality is right and good. When we accept His way, repent of our own way, and rest in Christ, there’s fulfillment. — Ephesians 5:1-9; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, 18-20; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-7; Hebrews 13:4
20. Because I love my wife, her sexual fulfillment should be more important than my own. What is really good for her will be good for me. – Proverbs 5:15-19; 1 Corinthians 7:3-4
21. Instead of just doing good things for my wife, she needs to hear nice things from me, including the words, I love you. — Proverbs 25:11; Ephesians 4:29; Colossians 3:19
22. God alone can give me ultimate happiness and fulfillment. As I seek Him, He will give me ultimate joy. – Psalms, 16:11; 40:11; 119:2; Mt 6:33
23. God has called me to provide spiritual leadership for my family. You do not have what it takes to do that fully, but if you ask Him, He will give you all you need. — Jeremiah 33:3; first Corinthians 11:3; James 1:5
24. God calls me to be a man who loves, serves, and protects his family by His grace and for His glory. — Luke 2:52; 1 Corinthians 16:13; 1 Timothy 5:8
25. I must discipline, instruct, and encourage my children. Only God can change their heart, and that’s what I pray for. — Deuteronomy 6:7-8; Proverbs 22:6; 29:17; Ephesians 6:4
26. if Jesus is really all I want, He will be all I truly need. — psalms 16:5-8; Romans 8:31-32; Colossians 2:9-10
27. If I belong to God, all of my hours belong to Him as well. – Psalms 90:12; Ephesians 5:15-17
28. It is my God-given responsibility to provide and protect my family. Through my example, I can show them. They have a Heavenly Father that provides all of their needs. – Palm 107:9; 145:15-16; 1 Timothy 5:8
29. My faith and work cannot be compartmentalized. I should faithfully serve God and others in everything I do. — Colossians 3:23-24; James 2:26
30. I can never not afford to be generous to others. This blesses them and me. — Proverbs 11:24-25; Luke 6:38; Acts 20:35; 1 Cor. 9:6-8
31. I have been forgiven much, so I must forgive much. This truth must color the way when I respond. — Luke 7:47; Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:13
32. Pain and suffering are tools in God’s wise, loving hands. Doing His work helps me become more like His Son, and for that I need to give thanks. — Romans 5:3-4; 8:18; 2 Cor. 4:7-11; Hebews 2:10; 1 Peter 5:10
33. We live and serve in a world rigged against Jesus and if I live for Him, it is rigged against me as well. I have the confidence one day He will right all things, but until then He will help and sustain me. — 2 Chronicles 20:6; Proverbs 16:3-4; Is 46:8-11; 1 Peter 5:10
34. When the Holy Spirit lives in me, He will produce self control. — Galatians 5:22-23; 2 Timothy 1:7; Titus 2:11-12
35. I cannot run from the presence of God. I may try but will not succeed. My Father never loses sight of me. He will pursue me and woo me home. — Psalm 139:7-12; Proverbs 15:3; Is 57:15
36. Children are a gift from the Lord. He wants to use them to spread the gospel in this messed up world. When I embrace children as a gift, I partner with God in changing that world. — Genesis 18:19; Psalm 127:3-5; 3 John 4
37. When I receive God’s gifts to me with sincere wonder, gratitude, and humility, I’m free from comparing and competing. — Galatians 1:10; 2 Cor. 10:12
38. God sees every piece and ingredient of my life and declares “mine.” My wholehearted, joyful response should be, “I’m Yours.” — Psalm 40:8; John 17:6, 10; Romans 14:8
39. Following Jesus will never be easy or popular. My goal is not to be cool or relevant but a loyal follower of Jesus regardless of the cost. — Matthew 10:38-39; Philippians 1:20-21; Colossians 3:1-4
40. Through His death and resurrection, Jesus conquered sin and the grave. My end will not be the end, and it will be wonderful. — Ephesians 1:3; Philippians 3:20-21; 2 Peter 1:4; 1 John 3:2
1. God is holy — Ps 29:2; 99:5.
2. Nothing is too grand or insignificant for God’s care – Ps 37:23-24; 139:2-3
3. I cannot earn God’s acclamation, I can only receive His favor — Ephesians 4:1-6; 2:8-9; Titus 3:5
4. Jesus is the only way to God – John 14:6; Acts 4:12; 1 Timothy 2:5-6
5. For the believer, church is not an option, it’s standard equipment — Ps 133; Ephesians 2:19-20; 4:15-16; Hebrews 10:24-25
6. Regardless of things that have happened to me or difficult situation I find myself in, I am responsible for my actions – 1 Corinthians 13:11; Galatians 6:7-8
7. He is no fool, who gives what he cannot keep to gain that which he cannot lose. – Jim Elliott. — Matthew 16:25; John 15:13; Ephesians 5:2
8. The Master is the master of my destiny, and daily submitting myself to Him will bring me joy, purpose, and true riches — Psalm 37:5; 40:8; 1 Peter 5:6
9. Real men are free to express and feel deep emotions. When I do so, it shows I am a real man with a heart like God’s. — Ps 42:3; Ecc 3:4; Rom 12:15
10. I need real friends, faithful enough to speak truth and that I could speak truth to them. – Proverbs 13:20; 18:24; 27:6, 17; 1 Thessalonians 5:11
11. God’s grace is needed both for the phony everyone sees and the real scoundrel inside I know so well – Ps 51:10; Mt 7:21-23; Rom 3:23-24; James 4:6
12. God cares about His rules; I must do the same for my own good. — John 14:15, 23; I John 5:2-3
13. I cannot look at other more wicked men to make myself look better. I should look only to the perfect righteous One which is God. — Romans 14:4; James 4:12
14. Nothing I have done puts me out of the reach of God’s complete forgiveness. — Acts 3:19; Ephesians 1:7; 1 John 1:7-9
15. My secret sins cannot be hidden indefinitely. They will be brought to the light. For good or bad, they impact those around me — Numbers 14:18; Proverbs 28:13; Luke 8:17
16. Living a holy life in dependence of the Holy Spirit is a wonderful thing, and is the pathway to happiness and pure joy. — 2 Corinthians 7:1; 2 Timothy 1:9; 1 Peter 1:13-16
17. Pornography is deadly. As a married man, it is virtual adultery. Intimacy with Christ and shared expression in context of a monogamous marriage offer far greater satisfaction. — Ps 119:37; Mt 5:28; 1 John 2:16
18. An honest, open, and transparent relationship with my wife will be sweet and worth whatever it takes to get there — Colossians 3:12-14; James 5:16
19. God’s created order for sexuality is right and good. When we accept His way, repent of our own way, and rest in Christ, there’s fulfillment. — Ephesians 5:1-9; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, 18-20; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-7; Hebrews 13:4
20. Because I love my wife, her sexual fulfillment should be more important than my own. What is really good for her will be good for me. – Proverbs 5:15-19; 1 Corinthians 7:3-4
21. Instead of just doing good things for my wife, she needs to hear nice things from me, including the words, I love you. — Proverbs 25:11; Ephesians 4:29; Colossians 3:19
22. God alone can give me ultimate happiness and fulfillment. As I seek Him, He will give me ultimate joy. – Psalms, 16:11; 40:11; 119:2; Mt 6:33
23. God has called me to provide spiritual leadership for my family. You do not have what it takes to do that fully, but if you ask Him, He will give you all you need. — Jeremiah 33:3; first Corinthians 11:3; James 1:5
24. God calls me to be a man who loves, serves, and protects his family by His grace and for His glory. — Luke 2:52; 1 Corinthians 16:13; 1 Timothy 5:8
25. I must discipline, instruct, and encourage my children. Only God can change their heart, and that’s what I pray for. — Deuteronomy 6:7-8; Proverbs 22:6; 29:17; Ephesians 6:4
26. if Jesus is really all I want, He will be all I truly need. — psalms 16:5-8; Romans 8:31-32; Colossians 2:9-10
27. If I belong to God, all of my hours belong to Him as well. – Psalms 90:12; Ephesians 5:15-17
28. It is my God-given responsibility to provide and protect my family. Through my example, I can show them. They have a Heavenly Father that provides all of their needs. – Palm 107:9; 145:15-16; 1 Timothy 5:8
29. My faith and work cannot be compartmentalized. I should faithfully serve God and others in everything I do. — Colossians 3:23-24; James 2:26
30. I can never not afford to be generous to others. This blesses them and me. — Proverbs 11:24-25; Luke 6:38; Acts 20:35; 1 Cor. 9:6-8
31. I have been forgiven much, so I must forgive much. This truth must color the way when I respond. — Luke 7:47; Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:13
32. Pain and suffering are tools in God’s wise, loving hands. Doing His work helps me become more like His Son, and for that I need to give thanks. — Romans 5:3-4; 8:18; 2 Cor. 4:7-11; Hebews 2:10; 1 Peter 5:10
33. We live and serve in a world rigged against Jesus and if I live for Him, it is rigged against me as well. I have the confidence one day He will right all things, but until then He will help and sustain me. — 2 Chronicles 20:6; Proverbs 16:3-4; Is 46:8-11; 1 Peter 5:10
34. When the Holy Spirit lives in me, He will produce self control. — Galatians 5:22-23; 2 Timothy 1:7; Titus 2:11-12
35. I cannot run from the presence of God. I may try but will not succeed. My Father never loses sight of me. He will pursue me and woo me home. — Psalm 139:7-12; Proverbs 15:3; Is 57:15
36. Children are a gift from the Lord. He wants to use them to spread the gospel in this messed up world. When I embrace children as a gift, I partner with God in changing that world. — Genesis 18:19; Psalm 127:3-5; 3 John 4
37. When I receive God’s gifts to me with sincere wonder, gratitude, and humility, I’m free from comparing and competing. — Galatians 1:10; 2 Cor. 10:12
38. God sees every piece and ingredient of my life and declares “mine.” My wholehearted, joyful response should be, “I’m Yours.” — Psalm 40:8; John 17:6, 10; Romans 14:8
39. Following Jesus will never be easy or popular. My goal is not to be cool or relevant but a loyal follower of Jesus regardless of the cost. — Matthew 10:38-39; Philippians 1:20-21; Colossians 3:1-4
40. Through His death and resurrection, Jesus conquered sin and the grave. My end will not be the end, and it will be wonderful. — Ephesians 1:3; Philippians 3:20-21; 2 Peter 1:4; 1 John 3:2
November 19, 2018
This was a good read - something I would recommend. It didn't really grab me where I couldn't put it down, but contains many nuggets of of truth. One of those books that serves as a great reminder for what I already knew. So in that I feel refreshed and encouraged. For any man feeling distant from God, I would certainly recommend you consider this as a way to identify the gap so that you might close it.
October 22, 2018
This is a solid overview of the Christian life for men. Highlighting forty lies that men are prone and/or tempted to believe, Wolgemuth answers them effectively to show what living by biblical trust looks like and how a man can pursue a godly life.
(full disclosure: the agency I work for represents Robert and this book)
(full disclosure: the agency I work for represents Robert and this book)
December 7, 2018
An excellent resource for a men's group. It gets to the heart of the lies and shines truth in. It was also a good book for my wife and I to read together. We've since passed this one on to my son-in-law.
December 12, 2018
Great book. Challenging ideas.
July 23, 2019
I didn’t realise Lies Men Believe, is a companion book to, Lies Women Believe. If I had, I would have read the book about women! Nevertheless, I expect there’s a lot of overlap in many areas, except for the chapter on sex, which I found interesting from a male perspective.
Robert Wolgemuth has chosen forty lies which he believes to be the most common amongst men. As he was gathering material to write the book, he sent his list to other experienced male pastors and counsellors for their opinions and believes the final composition is an accurate reflection of the areas where men struggle to believe the truth.
The questions have been divided into topics which have become the chapters. The topics are: Lies men believe about God, themselves, sin, sexuality, marriage and family, work and wealth, circumstances and the world. Robert has written some introductory comments and then explains the specific lie and the corresponding truth. The book concludes with a summary.
Probably the most insightful comment for me, as a female, is the tendency for men to answer questions about uncertainty with, “we’ll work it out.” Men often express confidence in their ability to solve a problem, even when they haven’t a clue. This is quite frustrating for a woman. Sometimes it sounds like faith, but often it’s a man’s pride that’s talking.
Overall an insightful read.
Robert Wolgemuth has chosen forty lies which he believes to be the most common amongst men. As he was gathering material to write the book, he sent his list to other experienced male pastors and counsellors for their opinions and believes the final composition is an accurate reflection of the areas where men struggle to believe the truth.
The questions have been divided into topics which have become the chapters. The topics are: Lies men believe about God, themselves, sin, sexuality, marriage and family, work and wealth, circumstances and the world. Robert has written some introductory comments and then explains the specific lie and the corresponding truth. The book concludes with a summary.
Probably the most insightful comment for me, as a female, is the tendency for men to answer questions about uncertainty with, “we’ll work it out.” Men often express confidence in their ability to solve a problem, even when they haven’t a clue. This is quite frustrating for a woman. Sometimes it sounds like faith, but often it’s a man’s pride that’s talking.
Overall an insightful read.
April 7, 2019
Great book, I wish that I could give it a 4.5 ( 4 doesn't seem adequate enough and 5 seems too generous). Lies Men Believe is a much awaited book for guys who are aware of "Lies Women Believe " and "Lies Young Women Believe." Robert Wolgemuth tackles difficult issues that men need not shy away from such topics like: sex, relationships, work, manhood, and more. His desire is that through reading this book men will realize the damage that these lies produce in our personal lives as the lies of our friends and loved ones.
The lies that Robert Wolgemuth uncovers is in no way the complete list that we will ever face; however, his coverage is enough and given in a great variety that the truth revealed could also help with others. I appreciate his transparency as he shares some of the struggles he has encountered. I also applaud his boldness in pointing his readers to the Bible, the source of truth.
I definitely recommend this book for men and even perhaps teens. I do hope that he writes a book for both young men and boys.
The lies that Robert Wolgemuth uncovers is in no way the complete list that we will ever face; however, his coverage is enough and given in a great variety that the truth revealed could also help with others. I appreciate his transparency as he shares some of the struggles he has encountered. I also applaud his boldness in pointing his readers to the Bible, the source of truth.
I definitely recommend this book for men and even perhaps teens. I do hope that he writes a book for both young men and boys.
June 12, 2022
My wife has read through the "Lies Women Believe" book and my daughters, the "Lies Teens Believe" book and so I finally picked up this book to read through it. I do believe this is an important book for men to read through (next to the Bible). Too often, we get caught up in our daily lives of getting up, going to work, church, vacations, etc, but ignore the fact that we're following after lies of the world. Mr. Wolgemuth addresses what he believes to be 40 of the most common lies that we believe about ourselves. For the most part, he is right on the money with most of the lies. I was very convicted in several areas, even though I might still be having daily Bible reading and prayer, I still find myself believing lies, because of my own sinful heart. Wolgemuth lists about 5 lies each chapter, with a truth for each lie to help us to overcome it. Wolgemuth writes in conversational style, much how he speaks, so that it is never boring. This book would definitely be good as a 12 week study for men to get together and discuss.
April 30, 2020
The author addresses 40 lies that men tend to believe. My main problem with this book is that it is way to too wordy. In each chapter in which the author addresses the lies, he takes way to long to introduce the subject of the chapter and to get to the lies. Basically, he tells too many stories in the beginnnig of each chapter. I know that he is trying to introduce the subject for the chapter, but I personally would have preferred a briefer introduction.
The same thing then happens with each of the lies. He tells too many stories with regards to each of the lies. It isn't that I do not like stories, but there is an over reliance on stories in this book.
This book would be much better if it was briefer and to the point. I found it hard to concentrate on the subject is each chapter. I kept thinking, 'when will he get to the point?'.
The same thing then happens with each of the lies. He tells too many stories with regards to each of the lies. It isn't that I do not like stories, but there is an over reliance on stories in this book.
This book would be much better if it was briefer and to the point. I found it hard to concentrate on the subject is each chapter. I kept thinking, 'when will he get to the point?'.
July 4, 2021
A fast read. Like, a really fast, one-day read. Not because it is unhelpful, but it’s written in a very conversational style. A lot of anecdotal stories to introduce ideas and principles (some of the stories seemed to have a rather tenuous connection to the principle). A lot of fleshing out of Bible stories (some of which add details not in Scripture). So, there is a fair bit that can be skimmed. In the main the lies and their counter-balancing truths are presented and explained well. This is a helpful book to read and a worthwhile resource to have on the shelf.
June 25, 2024
This book gets two stars unlike the other books in the series because it was somehow the least offensive and condescending of the collection. My suspicion is that the author being a different person contributed to this and his tendency to go on tangents that didn't ever seem particularly connected to the "lie" he was explaining helped in that regard. Still fundamentalist nonsense but at least this one wasn't condescending
March 6, 2020
Robert Wolgemuth hit the nail on the head by identifying 40 lies men believe and the truth of God's Word that can help them avoid letting those lies define them. Peppered with personal stories, anecdotes, and examples, each lie is broken down into general subjects and each one is handled briefly with a summary at the end of the book. This would be an excellent book for discipling men.
April 28, 2020
A decent book but I think there are many that are better. The book is very shallow in my opinion and I did not like many of the examples that were used. I understand that for a book on 40 lies it is hard to get too deep. Nevertheless, I don't think this book does a great job and could be a lot deeper.
June 9, 2022
Lies don't have to control us
Enjoyed this book. Great presentation, the lie, the truth, and examples. For believers an opportunity to recognize the lies and then implement the truth into our lives with God's help. We are not alone and God's loving desire is to see us free. Sure to provide much discussion in our book study group.
Enjoyed this book. Great presentation, the lie, the truth, and examples. For believers an opportunity to recognize the lies and then implement the truth into our lives with God's help. We are not alone and God's loving desire is to see us free. Sure to provide much discussion in our book study group.
November 28, 2023
Overall, the book was pretty good. Wolgemuth does a good job of naming the lies and behaviors that men typically fall into, and the format of the book is fairly helpful in setting out a good plan that will help men begin growing in the Christian life. At times, the book does begin feeling overly legalistic, but overall the book is very good.
December 4, 2024
Good thoughts! It’s more of a shotgun approach to biblical manhood, with multiple applications.
Some favorite quotes:
“You and I seek to maintain rule over our minds more than over our hearts.”
“Thinking consciously, planning carelessly, acting foolishly.”
A lie that men believe - “I’ll work it out later.”
“True freedom is only found in a vital growing relationship with the Lord Jesus.”
Some favorite quotes:
“You and I seek to maintain rule over our minds more than over our hearts.”
“Thinking consciously, planning carelessly, acting foolishly.”
A lie that men believe - “I’ll work it out later.”
“True freedom is only found in a vital growing relationship with the Lord Jesus.”
May 21, 2022
Such a blah book, was super disappointed with it. So repetitive and very predictable, his explanation of moving on from his late wife Bobbie almost right after her death gave me some weird vibes, and 80% of the book is just filler commentary and storytelling that I just didn’t engage with.
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