Many of the wives who contact me after finding out there about their husband's extramarital relationship notice how much their particular perceptions of themselves have got changed. I often notice phrases "I applied to be so sturdy and self-assured just before the affair, but today I'm afraid and emotional. I don't like the person I've become, and I hate what his cheating has done to me. " Or, "this is going to sound overly dramatic, but I feel like a victim. I feel like I got no choice in typically the affair and that they are yet to steal something from myself that I can not get back. I'm very resentful and angry about this. How can I stop feeling this way because I hate it?? "