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I Am Enough: Mark Your Mirror And Change Your Life
THREE WORDS THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE
When you know that you are enough everyone around you will know that you are enough too. Your life will be so different and so much better when you can resonate your enoughness at a level that positively impacts your career, your relationships and your happiness levels.
You can use the power of stating that you are enough, that you always have been and always will be, to achieve success in every key area of your life. When you say it, think it and believe it and make it an automatic and regular part of your life you can expect to see wonderful improvements in your relationships, in your career and in how you feel about yourself.
This book is designed to help you massively increase your own sense of self-worth so that you like yourself, feel good about yourself and believe in yourself. Whilst becoming permanently free from self-sabotage and self-destructive thoughts and behaviors. When this happens you are able to live a happy, motivated and confident life, not just sometimes but all the time.
I Am Enough has been written in a style that is designed to change you from the inside out. It changes you on a personal level using Marisa Peers proven techniques to make a deep and lasting impact on how you feel about you and how others feel about you.
Marisa has been a leading therapist for over 30 years and had developed her own method of therapy called Rapid Transformational Therapy that has won numerous awards because of its effectiveness. Many of her most effective techniques and methods are contained within this book. The powerful wording and cutting-edge techniques inside this book, enable you to achieve powerful and recognizable results rapidly and permanently. Marisa is passionate about helping people to change using simple techniques that have powerful results and now you can use them to change your life.
When you know that you are enough everyone around you will know that you are enough too. Your life will be so different and so much better when you can resonate your enoughness at a level that positively impacts your career, your relationships and your happiness levels.
You can use the power of stating that you are enough, that you always have been and always will be, to achieve success in every key area of your life. When you say it, think it and believe it and make it an automatic and regular part of your life you can expect to see wonderful improvements in your relationships, in your career and in how you feel about yourself.
This book is designed to help you massively increase your own sense of self-worth so that you like yourself, feel good about yourself and believe in yourself. Whilst becoming permanently free from self-sabotage and self-destructive thoughts and behaviors. When this happens you are able to live a happy, motivated and confident life, not just sometimes but all the time.
I Am Enough has been written in a style that is designed to change you from the inside out. It changes you on a personal level using Marisa Peers proven techniques to make a deep and lasting impact on how you feel about you and how others feel about you.
Marisa has been a leading therapist for over 30 years and had developed her own method of therapy called Rapid Transformational Therapy that has won numerous awards because of its effectiveness. Many of her most effective techniques and methods are contained within this book. The powerful wording and cutting-edge techniques inside this book, enable you to achieve powerful and recognizable results rapidly and permanently. Marisa is passionate about helping people to change using simple techniques that have powerful results and now you can use them to change your life.
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First published January 1, 2018
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January 17, 2019
I encountered the author on a MindValley webinar. She did a hypnosis session that had a big impact on me, so I started checking out her other stuff.
Her premise is that all of our life problems are based in the mistaken belief that we’re not enough, so if we can just reprogram that, we can get out of our own way and basically do anything. That rings true for me.
The “I am enough” thing is actually a lot less of this book than I expected, but there’s a lot of good stuff in here. I’ve been studying personal growth for a long time, and I still gained some valuable insights here.
1. Your brain will believe whatever you tell it over and over, and it works to do what it thinks you want it to do. So, if you tell yourself, “I’m stressed” or “This is hell” or “This is killing me,” it sends you into fight or flight mode. But Marines can run mile after mile in heavy boots, carrying a backpack full of equipment on their backs, and still have a reasonably good time. Why? They sing songs and act like it’s fun until their brains think this is a fun thing to do and create feelings accordingly.
2. Successful people do what they hate first. If you do that, you can ride the wave of feeling like a baller for the rest of the day. This isn’t news to me, but I’ve been experiencing this lately from my writing habit, so it stood out to me more. Especially, the author recommends telling yourself as you’re doing the things you hate that you’re doing it because that’s how successful people act, and you’re a successful person. Rarrr!
3. Do the same with delayed gratification. Remind yourself why you do it, and praise yourself. Also, make sure to offer yourself a specific reward before you start, and then deliver it when you finish it—and savor it. Treat yourself like a little kid here. It’s good. ** To avoid burnout, make sure you deliver on the rewards and take the time to enjoy them. **
4. Many weight loss problems come from habitual notions of scarcity. If you think there’s not always going to be enough food, or enough of that specific food, it makes sense to wolf it down. Instead, if you’re craving chocolate, point out to yourself that the world is full of chocolate, and you’re an adult, so you can buy more chocolate than you could ever eat. But you choose not to have some chocolate right now because you choose to be healthy instead (or whatever). If you repeat this enough times, your brain will start believing it. By reprogramming this scarcity thing, you can break its hold on you.
5. A lot of what we do, we do just because it’s familiar. Consciously decide to make a better situation familiar instead. Ex. Start with tiny walks to get familiar with having an exercise habit.
Her premise is that all of our life problems are based in the mistaken belief that we’re not enough, so if we can just reprogram that, we can get out of our own way and basically do anything. That rings true for me.
The “I am enough” thing is actually a lot less of this book than I expected, but there’s a lot of good stuff in here. I’ve been studying personal growth for a long time, and I still gained some valuable insights here.
1. Your brain will believe whatever you tell it over and over, and it works to do what it thinks you want it to do. So, if you tell yourself, “I’m stressed” or “This is hell” or “This is killing me,” it sends you into fight or flight mode. But Marines can run mile after mile in heavy boots, carrying a backpack full of equipment on their backs, and still have a reasonably good time. Why? They sing songs and act like it’s fun until their brains think this is a fun thing to do and create feelings accordingly.
2. Successful people do what they hate first. If you do that, you can ride the wave of feeling like a baller for the rest of the day. This isn’t news to me, but I’ve been experiencing this lately from my writing habit, so it stood out to me more. Especially, the author recommends telling yourself as you’re doing the things you hate that you’re doing it because that’s how successful people act, and you’re a successful person. Rarrr!
3. Do the same with delayed gratification. Remind yourself why you do it, and praise yourself. Also, make sure to offer yourself a specific reward before you start, and then deliver it when you finish it—and savor it. Treat yourself like a little kid here. It’s good. ** To avoid burnout, make sure you deliver on the rewards and take the time to enjoy them. **
4. Many weight loss problems come from habitual notions of scarcity. If you think there’s not always going to be enough food, or enough of that specific food, it makes sense to wolf it down. Instead, if you’re craving chocolate, point out to yourself that the world is full of chocolate, and you’re an adult, so you can buy more chocolate than you could ever eat. But you choose not to have some chocolate right now because you choose to be healthy instead (or whatever). If you repeat this enough times, your brain will start believing it. By reprogramming this scarcity thing, you can break its hold on you.
5. A lot of what we do, we do just because it’s familiar. Consciously decide to make a better situation familiar instead. Ex. Start with tiny walks to get familiar with having an exercise habit.
January 15, 2019
I recommend this book to anyone who wishes to snap out of resistant and unhealthy behavioral patterns. Being a psychologist and clinical researcher myself, I am aware of the limitations that major psychotherapy paradigms present us with. Understanding the root of resistant and unhealthy behavior is not enough, we also need an intervention that removes the underlying causes (beliefs and thoughts) that initiate, perpetuate and ultimately loop us into forming habits of unhealthy behaviors. This book focuses on how to undo the 'unhealthy' patterns we acquire over time. The brain is plastic, it has tremendous potential to change. Marisa Peer tells us how to identify, interrupt, change the course and not return to any behavior that doesn't nourish or uplift us. I have tried the methods recommended in this book and within days I see visible change. This book is like a guided manual that can help someone dislodge old thinking and install new beliefs. If you are examining your life and hoping to upgrade who you are or how you feel about yourself, this book is the "ultimate spring cleaning" manual for enhanced mental health.
June 12, 2020
Amazing book.
I usually hate self-help books because they are waste of time. However, I spent six days reading this book. It's realistic, evidence based, short and useful.
I loved the structure of the book. It's hard not to see yourself in Marisa's words. To be honest, many of her words were touching and seems to be meant for me.
Finally, the author believes in repetition. So many ideas have been repeated in different words and scenarios.
I usually hate self-help books because they are waste of time. However, I spent six days reading this book. It's realistic, evidence based, short and useful.
I loved the structure of the book. It's hard not to see yourself in Marisa's words. To be honest, many of her words were touching and seems to be meant for me.
Finally, the author believes in repetition. So many ideas have been repeated in different words and scenarios.
December 2, 2018
I AM Enough (10-29-2018)
One of the first things I need to say about this book is that the author promised a quick read and delivered. Definitely could have read this book in a few hours, but with limited time to read - it took me 3 days.
As I read the book, I felt like Marisa wasn't telling me anything new. I knew this stuff, I've heard it before and you probably have to. However, I've also got to say, Marisa writes in such a way that the words she writes and how she writes them are not just a quick read, they not only resonate but PERMEATE. The words have gone deeper for me than they ever have before.
I have been on the personal development track for a number of years. I've read all kinds of books and they all resonate and I say to myself "ME TOO" quite often and I try to implement a new strategy or two into my life. Yes, my life has changed. Everyone's life changes, it evolves the years move on and so yes I have changed, and I am better for it.
There's a reason I am a personal development junkie, I still have issues and I'm still looking for the perfect fix. Although, I am not exactly sure how Marisa's strategies are going to help me, I feel her words have impacted me on a deeper level than any other author has in the past. Maybe it's because I've read similar words before and the words are familiar and so it's easier to absorb. On the other hand, maybe the student is ready and the teacher has appeared. I'm excited to see my future and what changes are in store for me.
In any case, huge thumbs up on the book! I enjoyed reading it and am going to implement her strategies and finally have an unshakeable belief in myself that I AM ENOUGH!
Feel free to contact me if you have read the book, or after you read the book to share your thoughts...
One of the first things I need to say about this book is that the author promised a quick read and delivered. Definitely could have read this book in a few hours, but with limited time to read - it took me 3 days.
As I read the book, I felt like Marisa wasn't telling me anything new. I knew this stuff, I've heard it before and you probably have to. However, I've also got to say, Marisa writes in such a way that the words she writes and how she writes them are not just a quick read, they not only resonate but PERMEATE. The words have gone deeper for me than they ever have before.
I have been on the personal development track for a number of years. I've read all kinds of books and they all resonate and I say to myself "ME TOO" quite often and I try to implement a new strategy or two into my life. Yes, my life has changed. Everyone's life changes, it evolves the years move on and so yes I have changed, and I am better for it.
There's a reason I am a personal development junkie, I still have issues and I'm still looking for the perfect fix. Although, I am not exactly sure how Marisa's strategies are going to help me, I feel her words have impacted me on a deeper level than any other author has in the past. Maybe it's because I've read similar words before and the words are familiar and so it's easier to absorb. On the other hand, maybe the student is ready and the teacher has appeared. I'm excited to see my future and what changes are in store for me.
In any case, huge thumbs up on the book! I enjoyed reading it and am going to implement her strategies and finally have an unshakeable belief in myself that I AM ENOUGH!
Feel free to contact me if you have read the book, or after you read the book to share your thoughts...
February 25, 2021
The author Marisa Peer wrote the book I Am Enough as a risky venture despite all odds of rejection as she claims herself in the book. Being a RTT she claims this book will help make you feel that you are enough and so it does. The book goes on to explain that one common theme for all of her clients that had problems from various backgrounds was the feeling of never being enough. This is the ailment that most clients that come to her have and hence causing them to believe they are rejected and internalize such belief to direct their lives and outcomes as well as their self-belief. Her approach is magnetic because she states once we learn to attempt what it is difficult and rewire how we talk to ourselves we can ultimately become our best friend instead of our own worst enemy.
I felt a huge change come over me once I read the book. The dynamics of my relationships have changed I became empowered , less afraid of rejection and more welcoming of praise. In fact, I make time to praise myself and also give myself a chance to become my own best friend. The book also has two bonus hypnosis sessions and both are very effective once listened to increase self-esteem as well as internal healing.
I felt a huge change come over me once I read the book. The dynamics of my relationships have changed I became empowered , less afraid of rejection and more welcoming of praise. In fact, I make time to praise myself and also give myself a chance to become my own best friend. The book also has two bonus hypnosis sessions and both are very effective once listened to increase self-esteem as well as internal healing.
August 27, 2020
The concepts that were in this book were some pretty simple yet quite effective, one of those things that are quite obvious but somehow in our busy lives we seem to miss.
It does mention that it is a journey, a repetition of good habits which I liked, instead of coming from a place of, this is a quick and fast fix.
It does mention that it is a journey, a repetition of good habits which I liked, instead of coming from a place of, this is a quick and fast fix.
March 27, 2019
A book we must read ourselves and give to every little girl we know.
November 4, 2024
O carte de dezvoltare personală plină de sfaturi practice pentru a schimba tiparele de gândire. Autoarea oferă exemple din experiența de terapeut ier conținutul este ușor de parcurs și structurat în capitole care din punctul meu de vedere se pot citi în orice ordine. Acord doar 4 stele pentru că mi-ar fi plăcut ca metoda terapeutică să nu fie prezentată ca un adevăr absolut. Suntem ființe complexe, diferite cu istoric divers.
Am testat metoda Marisei și funcționează, cu toate acestea, starea de funcționare este una, vindecarea sau întregirea sunt cu totul altceva! Fiecare avem propria rețetă de vindecare și aș lăsa spațiu mengal și loc emoțional pentru această idee.
Am testat metoda Marisei și funcționează, cu toate acestea, starea de funcționare este una, vindecarea sau întregirea sunt cu totul altceva! Fiecare avem propria rețetă de vindecare și aș lăsa spațiu mengal și loc emoțional pentru această idee.
February 19, 2021
This book encapsulates the author's entire "I Am Enough" revolution that has touched countless lives.
Even long before her book came out, I accidentally stumbled upon her Mindvalley video about "I Am Enough".
A little background is necessary for you to know how that video touched my life and changed things for the better and for good. I weighed 130+kgs(260+ lbs) when I watched this video and always felt ugly in comparison to my friends(who all happen to be HAWT!).
Being from India, my instincts were that the whiter I appear, the prettier I look. I started piling up Drag Queen kind of makeup(I am a cis-gender male that does not indulge in drag). The Sephora Assistants gave Caucasian foundation shades like Ivory, Vanilla, Bone, etc. for my Brown Indian complexion. It obviously looked horrendous and even family and friends tried to explain, but I had to somehow compensate for my ugliness by looking "Fair & Lovely"(a term used in India for years now).
After watching Marisa's video, in a matter of 2-3 days, I threw makeup out. I kept skincare products, but the unmatched shades of the foundation and powder were tossed out for good!!!
I still have issues to deal with and I am using Marisa's content to heal my paradigms!!!
Even long before her book came out, I accidentally stumbled upon her Mindvalley video about "I Am Enough".
A little background is necessary for you to know how that video touched my life and changed things for the better and for good. I weighed 130+kgs(260+ lbs) when I watched this video and always felt ugly in comparison to my friends(who all happen to be HAWT!).
Being from India, my instincts were that the whiter I appear, the prettier I look. I started piling up Drag Queen kind of makeup(I am a cis-gender male that does not indulge in drag). The Sephora Assistants gave Caucasian foundation shades like Ivory, Vanilla, Bone, etc. for my Brown Indian complexion. It obviously looked horrendous and even family and friends tried to explain, but I had to somehow compensate for my ugliness by looking "Fair & Lovely"(a term used in India for years now).
After watching Marisa's video, in a matter of 2-3 days, I threw makeup out. I kept skincare products, but the unmatched shades of the foundation and powder were tossed out for good!!!
I still have issues to deal with and I am using Marisa's content to heal my paradigms!!!
May 4, 2020
An accessible book, easy to read. Lots of good points in here. Definitely will re-read this a few times.
June 28, 2022
This is an engaging and thought provoking book on how we treat ourselves and live our lives. I will definitely be trying the ideas mentioned in this book. The author speaks with a real clarity on the issues that can dominate our lives and the source reasons as to why we have them.
March 19, 2025
O lectură scurtă, dar un reminder foarte bun. Eu cred ca a te simți de ajuns, suficient pentru ceea ce ești, trebuie să fie obiectivul fiecărei ființe care trece printr-un proces de vindecare și auto-cunoaștere. Și sper ca toți trecem prin unul mai devreme sau mai târziu în viața, ne datorăm asta.
November 23, 2024
HIGHLIGHTS:
1. EMOTIONAL NEEDS:
- Two most powerful emotional needs: find connection and avoid rejection.
2. TYES OF CLIENTS:
-DESIRES: loving relationships, great job, financial security, self-love, confidence, and inner peace.
- Type 1: wants to have it all
- Type 2: Has many of the things, but self sabotage.
- Type 3: (rare) who does manage to have it all because they worked on their mindset. Working on sharing it with people.
- It doesn’t matter where the rejection or lack of connection comes from, it almost always leads to a person who feels as those certain things in life will never be available to them.
3. FILL & FEEL:
- Many modern-day ailments are a function of humans trying to FILL the resulting emptiness or gap that they FEEL.
4. LIKING YOURSELF MAKES YOUR LIFE EXTRAORDINARY:
- So many people don’t like themselves and they create lives they don’t like.
- Self-dialogue insecurities and fears turn into tremendous self-belief.
5. MORNING COMMUTE:
- We tell the brain that it’s stressed and that we’re under direct threat, it believes us.
- Hour after hour, Day after Day, our brain uses the language. It hears us using it to inform how it should feel.
- Your mind does what it thinks you wanted to do and what it truly believes is in your best interest.
- Words are powerful: Your mind is always listening.
- The strongest force in you is that you must act in a way that consistently matches your thinking.
- Make your words more positive.
- Positively influencing, the blueprint you are constantly working towards.
- Once you realize that your mind responses to the detailed instructions, you give it through your inner and outer dialogue, you can use that information to your advantage.
- You make your beliefs and habits, and then they turn around and make you.
- Choose wisely and give your mind better instructions so it knows better how to respond.
6. REPETITION:
- Fill up your mind with better words and images and notice that consistently better response you get.
- Whenever you feel nervous, you can choose the emotion and instruct your mind about the feelings you are experiencing.
- What you present to your mind, your mind will present back to you. It all starts with the words which you have the power to change.
- The repetition of encouraging phrases is just as powerful as the repetition of negative ones. (*)
7. FAMILIAR:
- The mind rejects the unfamiliar and returns to the familiar.
- Once we make the idea of money as a renewable resource, our personal energy and output, more familiar, we see that money can come and go a lot more easily.
- We see money as a direct result of our own efforts, rather than some thing that we have to fight and call for.
- People who are happy and balanced express their hurt easily.
8. THREE BELIEFS:
- “I am not enough”.
- “I want something but it’s not available to me.”
- I’m different so I can’t connect.
- Our fear is to be different. It’s coded in genes to be the same as everyone else for survival purposes.
9. SHORTCUT:
- Do you one thing each day in the direction of your dreams.
- The power of repetition can unknowingly work in your favor, provided you repeat the right actions in your daily life.
- If you show up to something, each and every day, you’re guaranteed to get closer to it.
- Show up and you’ll see results.
- Doing one thing every day, without fail, in-service of who or what you want to be is a guaranteed way to improve the reflection you see of yourself.
- As you begin to believe in yourself and your capabilities. It becomes easier to move towards everything in life that you want.
- When you feel better about yourself, you start to conduct yourself with the air of someone who is successful, which in turn makes you successful.
- It doesn’t matter how big or small the action is, what matters is that you’re beginning to act like a winner.
- Think of your mind as a goal seeking laser.
- Choosing to commit to do something is going to make you feel like a winner as you move towards your goals.
- What you want, wants you.
10. YOUR MIND IS A CLASSROOM OF 3-YEAR OLDS:
- If you want to become the type of person who is able to delay gratification, then you need to set up reward systems and a spirit of really savoring the pleasurable things in life.
- You need to emphasize the upside that comes from delaying gratification.
- The nice thing about learning to savor rewards is that you can work it into every micro and macro facet of your life.
- Delaying gratification isn’t the problem. It’s their failure to reap the rewards once they’ve done the work.
- It is vital to reward yourself on the way to becoming successful.
- The rewards mean nothing in the absence of hard work.
11. HAPPINESS & INNER PEACE:
- The biggest emotional disease affecting humanity today is the belief that “I am not enough“.
- The feeling that you’re not enough is the issue that’s at the core of so many peoples problems.
- Children have one job: to seek and receive the approval, love of their parents.
- When children don’t achieve that, it’s so traumatic and disarming that they can’t rationalize it.
- It’s impossible for a young child at to understand that their parent is flawed, that they are lovable, even if their parent is not able to love them.
- Someone who can’t get enough of a substance or habit feels like they are not enough, deep down, so they self medicate.
- When you were first born, you are closest to the truth that you are enough. Even if you’re born to parents who didn’t want you, the universe wanted you, and that alone is why you are enough.
- The first six years of life something happened that tells you that you are not enough. Your belief will be enhanced by society, standards and expectations.
- Every single person on the planet, by virtue of their existence, is enough and is worthy of love.
- Unshakable conviction that you deserve it and you are worthy.
12. CRITICISM WITHERS. PRAISE BUILDS:
- Criticizing others is an outward expression of inward dissatisfaction.
- “You must not like yourself”.
- We deflect, minimize and self-deprecate because we’ve been taught that the worst thing you can be as arrogant.
- Giving someone a compliment can change the energy of the entire room in a positive way. Our refusal to accept those compliments is to our own detriment.
- When you praise yourself, indirect and relevant language, your mind has to believe it.
- Smaller incremental amounts of praise have an aggregate effect that can be very powerful on self-esteem.
- You have to be your own best friend and value and praise yourself. In doing that you make it so much easier for others to follow your lead.
- We all need praise and love. We don’t all need it from ONE source.
- Once you make it a habit to accept praise for all the sources most importantly yourself, your self-esteem, brain function, and productivity will thank you.
- The flipside to our human propensity for rejecting praise is that we are more than eager to internalize criticism.
13. SING YOUR OWN SONG:
- Happiness is an inside job. It’s not a destination you arrive at, it’s the journey you are on now and every day.
- You are free to take full responsibility for making our life happy and fulfilled.
- All our behaviors are designed to ensure we survive. We are born with driving needs to find connection and to avoid rejection in order to increase our chance of survival.
- Humans are resilient and able to change, to cope with the adversity because they are survivors.
- After you have changed your thoughts you are now able to recognize your thoughts belong to a child with unmet needs.
- You have stopped the looping by stating “it’s not me” in a powerful voice.
- You are now taking the new actions that the new thought requires and you get the lasting result.
14. BUILDING A LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF:
- The paradox of relationships is this: if you date or marry or live with someone who thinks they are unlovable, it is very hard to have a healthy relationship or love them back.
- People in bad relationships are afraid to end the relationship because they are terrified of not being loved outside of it.
- A feeling of lovability cannot come from another person, it has to come from within.
- The people in the happiest relationships are the people who are also happy on their own.
- Carer: This child learns to earn love, praise, and recognition by taking care of everyone else’s needs above their own. They have a belief that love must be earned.
- When you understand the role you played or were assigned to, you can take a different part as an adult and a happy, enriching relationship.
- You are free now to give up that part and play the part of a loved and lovable adult instead.
- Great relationship requires three things: sexual chemistry, best friend, chemistry, and a deep respect for each other.
- Humans have three brain systems for meeting and reproducing: sex drive, romantic, love, and deep attachment.
- When you use fantasy to orgasm, you were trying
- Teaching your body how to respond, and once your body gets used to the powerful orgasmic response, it will maintain it even without the fantasy as muscles have memory.
- You are responsible for your orgasm.
- Gratitude is the highest energy to vibrate at, and if you can stop and imagine your life without your partner, it helps you to appreciate them rather than be irritated by them.
- Orgasms are beautiful and affirming and nature to them.
15. INCREDIBLE LIFE:
- Success means being your own ally, friend, and cheerleader.
- Success means seeing the inherent value in building up those around you because you know how to build up yourself.
- Success means letting go of the stories and limiting beliefs you’ve told yourself.
- Success means being kind to others naturally because you’re kind to yourself first.
- When you’re happy on the inside, good things tend to happen. = Successful without even trying. (*)
- A purpose is driven by a desire for meaning and being helpful to others.
- When people honor what they enjoy doing, their path starts to unfold and progress in mysterious ways.
- The joy you feel from living out your purpose in someway will make you view your day job entirely different.
- We have to update the way our brain operates. (*)
16. HABITS OF THOUGHT VS. HABITS OF ACTION:
- We have habits of thought that we are not aware of.
- We indulge in critical self-dialogue without realizing that doing so is a choice.
- Saboteurs will never make you happy if you allow them to rule your mind.
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1. EMOTIONAL NEEDS:
- Two most powerful emotional needs: find connection and avoid rejection.
2. TYES OF CLIENTS:
-DESIRES: loving relationships, great job, financial security, self-love, confidence, and inner peace.
- Type 1: wants to have it all
- Type 2: Has many of the things, but self sabotage.
- Type 3: (rare) who does manage to have it all because they worked on their mindset. Working on sharing it with people.
- It doesn’t matter where the rejection or lack of connection comes from, it almost always leads to a person who feels as those certain things in life will never be available to them.
3. FILL & FEEL:
- Many modern-day ailments are a function of humans trying to FILL the resulting emptiness or gap that they FEEL.
4. LIKING YOURSELF MAKES YOUR LIFE EXTRAORDINARY:
- So many people don’t like themselves and they create lives they don’t like.
- Self-dialogue insecurities and fears turn into tremendous self-belief.
5. MORNING COMMUTE:
- We tell the brain that it’s stressed and that we’re under direct threat, it believes us.
- Hour after hour, Day after Day, our brain uses the language. It hears us using it to inform how it should feel.
- Your mind does what it thinks you wanted to do and what it truly believes is in your best interest.
- Words are powerful: Your mind is always listening.
- The strongest force in you is that you must act in a way that consistently matches your thinking.
- Make your words more positive.
- Positively influencing, the blueprint you are constantly working towards.
- Once you realize that your mind responses to the detailed instructions, you give it through your inner and outer dialogue, you can use that information to your advantage.
- You make your beliefs and habits, and then they turn around and make you.
- Choose wisely and give your mind better instructions so it knows better how to respond.
6. REPETITION:
- Fill up your mind with better words and images and notice that consistently better response you get.
- Whenever you feel nervous, you can choose the emotion and instruct your mind about the feelings you are experiencing.
- What you present to your mind, your mind will present back to you. It all starts with the words which you have the power to change.
- The repetition of encouraging phrases is just as powerful as the repetition of negative ones. (*)
7. FAMILIAR:
- The mind rejects the unfamiliar and returns to the familiar.
- Once we make the idea of money as a renewable resource, our personal energy and output, more familiar, we see that money can come and go a lot more easily.
- We see money as a direct result of our own efforts, rather than some thing that we have to fight and call for.
- People who are happy and balanced express their hurt easily.
8. THREE BELIEFS:
- “I am not enough”.
- “I want something but it’s not available to me.”
- I’m different so I can’t connect.
- Our fear is to be different. It’s coded in genes to be the same as everyone else for survival purposes.
9. SHORTCUT:
- Do you one thing each day in the direction of your dreams.
- The power of repetition can unknowingly work in your favor, provided you repeat the right actions in your daily life.
- If you show up to something, each and every day, you’re guaranteed to get closer to it.
- Show up and you’ll see results.
- Doing one thing every day, without fail, in-service of who or what you want to be is a guaranteed way to improve the reflection you see of yourself.
- As you begin to believe in yourself and your capabilities. It becomes easier to move towards everything in life that you want.
- When you feel better about yourself, you start to conduct yourself with the air of someone who is successful, which in turn makes you successful.
- It doesn’t matter how big or small the action is, what matters is that you’re beginning to act like a winner.
- Think of your mind as a goal seeking laser.
- Choosing to commit to do something is going to make you feel like a winner as you move towards your goals.
- What you want, wants you.
10. YOUR MIND IS A CLASSROOM OF 3-YEAR OLDS:
- If you want to become the type of person who is able to delay gratification, then you need to set up reward systems and a spirit of really savoring the pleasurable things in life.
- You need to emphasize the upside that comes from delaying gratification.
- The nice thing about learning to savor rewards is that you can work it into every micro and macro facet of your life.
- Delaying gratification isn’t the problem. It’s their failure to reap the rewards once they’ve done the work.
- It is vital to reward yourself on the way to becoming successful.
- The rewards mean nothing in the absence of hard work.
11. HAPPINESS & INNER PEACE:
- The biggest emotional disease affecting humanity today is the belief that “I am not enough“.
- The feeling that you’re not enough is the issue that’s at the core of so many peoples problems.
- Children have one job: to seek and receive the approval, love of their parents.
- When children don’t achieve that, it’s so traumatic and disarming that they can’t rationalize it.
- It’s impossible for a young child at to understand that their parent is flawed, that they are lovable, even if their parent is not able to love them.
- Someone who can’t get enough of a substance or habit feels like they are not enough, deep down, so they self medicate.
- When you were first born, you are closest to the truth that you are enough. Even if you’re born to parents who didn’t want you, the universe wanted you, and that alone is why you are enough.
- The first six years of life something happened that tells you that you are not enough. Your belief will be enhanced by society, standards and expectations.
- Every single person on the planet, by virtue of their existence, is enough and is worthy of love.
- Unshakable conviction that you deserve it and you are worthy.
12. CRITICISM WITHERS. PRAISE BUILDS:
- Criticizing others is an outward expression of inward dissatisfaction.
- “You must not like yourself”.
- We deflect, minimize and self-deprecate because we’ve been taught that the worst thing you can be as arrogant.
- Giving someone a compliment can change the energy of the entire room in a positive way. Our refusal to accept those compliments is to our own detriment.
- When you praise yourself, indirect and relevant language, your mind has to believe it.
- Smaller incremental amounts of praise have an aggregate effect that can be very powerful on self-esteem.
- You have to be your own best friend and value and praise yourself. In doing that you make it so much easier for others to follow your lead.
- We all need praise and love. We don’t all need it from ONE source.
- Once you make it a habit to accept praise for all the sources most importantly yourself, your self-esteem, brain function, and productivity will thank you.
- The flipside to our human propensity for rejecting praise is that we are more than eager to internalize criticism.
13. SING YOUR OWN SONG:
- Happiness is an inside job. It’s not a destination you arrive at, it’s the journey you are on now and every day.
- You are free to take full responsibility for making our life happy and fulfilled.
- All our behaviors are designed to ensure we survive. We are born with driving needs to find connection and to avoid rejection in order to increase our chance of survival.
- Humans are resilient and able to change, to cope with the adversity because they are survivors.
- After you have changed your thoughts you are now able to recognize your thoughts belong to a child with unmet needs.
- You have stopped the looping by stating “it’s not me” in a powerful voice.
- You are now taking the new actions that the new thought requires and you get the lasting result.
14. BUILDING A LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF:
- The paradox of relationships is this: if you date or marry or live with someone who thinks they are unlovable, it is very hard to have a healthy relationship or love them back.
- People in bad relationships are afraid to end the relationship because they are terrified of not being loved outside of it.
- A feeling of lovability cannot come from another person, it has to come from within.
- The people in the happiest relationships are the people who are also happy on their own.
- Carer: This child learns to earn love, praise, and recognition by taking care of everyone else’s needs above their own. They have a belief that love must be earned.
- When you understand the role you played or were assigned to, you can take a different part as an adult and a happy, enriching relationship.
- You are free now to give up that part and play the part of a loved and lovable adult instead.
- Great relationship requires three things: sexual chemistry, best friend, chemistry, and a deep respect for each other.
- Humans have three brain systems for meeting and reproducing: sex drive, romantic, love, and deep attachment.
- When you use fantasy to orgasm, you were trying
- Teaching your body how to respond, and once your body gets used to the powerful orgasmic response, it will maintain it even without the fantasy as muscles have memory.
- You are responsible for your orgasm.
- Gratitude is the highest energy to vibrate at, and if you can stop and imagine your life without your partner, it helps you to appreciate them rather than be irritated by them.
- Orgasms are beautiful and affirming and nature to them.
15. INCREDIBLE LIFE:
- Success means being your own ally, friend, and cheerleader.
- Success means seeing the inherent value in building up those around you because you know how to build up yourself.
- Success means letting go of the stories and limiting beliefs you’ve told yourself.
- Success means being kind to others naturally because you’re kind to yourself first.
- When you’re happy on the inside, good things tend to happen. = Successful without even trying. (*)
- A purpose is driven by a desire for meaning and being helpful to others.
- When people honor what they enjoy doing, their path starts to unfold and progress in mysterious ways.
- The joy you feel from living out your purpose in someway will make you view your day job entirely different.
- We have to update the way our brain operates. (*)
16. HABITS OF THOUGHT VS. HABITS OF ACTION:
- We have habits of thought that we are not aware of.
- We indulge in critical self-dialogue without realizing that doing so is a choice.
- Saboteurs will never make you happy if you allow them to rule your mind.
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April 12, 2022
Peer suggests that all our mental problems stem from feeling like we don’t belong, feeling disconnected and believing we are not enough. She suggest that there are only 3 types of people: people who want everything but can’t achieve it, people who can have everything but when they get it they sabotage it through things such as workaholism, alcoholism or cheating, and those that have everything they want and work on sharing it with others. Peer suggests that we can all be the latter type of person if we train our subconscious through hypnosis, positive thinking, positive self-talk, and visualisation to reframe our reality and change our thought patterns. Peer posits that we are the pictures we make in our heads and the words we say to ourselves, and that we have a choice to make our mind do what we want, if we replace our inherited phrases with clear instructions. For example if you think ‘I can’t cope’ you need to replace that thought with ‘I have phenomenal coping skills’. Peer proposes we should give ourselves regular praise and make that familiar so we attract more of that in our life. She suggests completing the things you hate first so that accomplishment leads to neurological cravings to continue, to do one thing every day so that you believe in your capability to be successful and to delay gratification and savour your reward. Peer also indicates that you have to retrain your subconscious away from gorging on sugary food due to our evolutionary roots, to meet our unmet needs ourselves, and to avoid gaining conditional love through providing a role such as a carer of others.
June 22, 2020
Definitely worth it more than 5 stars!
This is one of the books I was looking for such a long time to read..to find how to help myself and where to start the journey of my life in my 40th!
And what is more important I already do believe that all this possible! Thank you Marisa Peer.
This is one of the books I was looking for such a long time to read..to find how to help myself and where to start the journey of my life in my 40th!
And what is more important I already do believe that all this possible! Thank you Marisa Peer.
December 18, 2018
I am enough. If you can understand this from the consolidated knowledge poured in by Marisa, then you are on the right track of your life.
Marisa thanks for this precious gem, which can transform anyone to their ultimate glory.
Marisa thanks for this precious gem, which can transform anyone to their ultimate glory.
July 12, 2020
I've only started following Marissa Peer recently and I'm so glad I did because the woman is amazing and so inspiring.
I found this book so interesting and helpful and couldn't recommend it enough.
I am enough. I always have been enough and I always will be enough.
I found this book so interesting and helpful and couldn't recommend it enough.
I am enough. I always have been enough and I always will be enough.
February 17, 2021
The principles Marisa Peer presents in this book are very simple, yet helpful.
October 14, 2021
I debated a little bit before buying this book because of the title. I was pretty sure that "I'm enough" since I've come to a point in life where my self-confidence has improved and that I didn't need a book to remind me of this. However, I decided to give it a try. I started pessimistically thinking I would be listening to the same advice given by other self-books but I actually found thoughtful material in it.
I had the audiobook. I like the fact that it was read by a person who has a similar voice to Marissa Peer's. I had already listened to this therapist in several online speeches so I could identify her voice. It felt as it was being read by her.
The book was short and concise but each chapter provided useful examples of Peer's clients and valuable reflections and teachings. They were not repetitive which tends to seem to be a common issue on self-help books.
Through the chapters, you reflect on the habits of thought, your purpose in life, your brain's desire for only the familiar, and others. You get practical tips with how to change your habits, how to deal with difficult/hateful situations, how to perceive situations you fear, how to work on your goals, and others.
I definitely recommend this book to any type of readers, at any stage of personal development of their lives. The book is intended to help everybody in all levels and it provides concise steps on how to do it little by little and one step at a time.
I had the audiobook. I like the fact that it was read by a person who has a similar voice to Marissa Peer's. I had already listened to this therapist in several online speeches so I could identify her voice. It felt as it was being read by her.
The book was short and concise but each chapter provided useful examples of Peer's clients and valuable reflections and teachings. They were not repetitive which tends to seem to be a common issue on self-help books.
Through the chapters, you reflect on the habits of thought, your purpose in life, your brain's desire for only the familiar, and others. You get practical tips with how to change your habits, how to deal with difficult/hateful situations, how to perceive situations you fear, how to work on your goals, and others.
I definitely recommend this book to any type of readers, at any stage of personal development of their lives. The book is intended to help everybody in all levels and it provides concise steps on how to do it little by little and one step at a time.
October 16, 2023
My mum lent me this book a couple of weeks ago, probably because I’d started counselling and after two sessions ended up worse off than before I’d started. I’m sure I’ll be alright and find something more suitable, but I’m a bit concerned about my mum now after discovering she’s buying Marisa Peers books!
I’ve heard of Marisa as a famous celebrity therapist of course and am aware she has a lot of success helping people. I’m not sure this book is particularly that different to other similar books from other authors though. One thing that sticks out is that Marisa is teaching people to replace negative thinking patterns with ones that are neutral or positive and realistic, whereas others may encourage unrealistic, toxic positivity.
It’s a short book with big fonts. You can read it in one sitting.
I expect if you want to get the best you can get out of Marisa Peer, books aren’t the way to go. You’d probably be better off booking sessions with her or someone trained in Rapid Transformational Therapy.
I’ve heard of Marisa as a famous celebrity therapist of course and am aware she has a lot of success helping people. I’m not sure this book is particularly that different to other similar books from other authors though. One thing that sticks out is that Marisa is teaching people to replace negative thinking patterns with ones that are neutral or positive and realistic, whereas others may encourage unrealistic, toxic positivity.
It’s a short book with big fonts. You can read it in one sitting.
I expect if you want to get the best you can get out of Marisa Peer, books aren’t the way to go. You’d probably be better off booking sessions with her or someone trained in Rapid Transformational Therapy.
November 10, 2023
La verdad leí este libro porque vi una entrevista de ella en el canal de youtube “the diary of a ceo” con Stever Barlett y la forma en la que hablaba esta mujer, sus pausas, lo relajada, se tomaba su tiempo para formular sus ideas, para hacer su story telling, una persona aparentemente unbothered, su lenguaje además iba muy acorde con todo eso, se veía muy cómoda consigo, con lo que representaba y decía, sus teorías me parecian un poco simplistas y demasiado pragmáticas, lo cual no está del todo mal pero hay procesos de pensamiento y comportamiento que en el ser humano no se desmontan en dos o tres consultas, si que puede que haya pacientes más proactivos o mas saludables que de seguro son los que le tocaban a ella pero bueno, me lei el libro, tiene algunas cosas buenas, otras muy pendejas, blancas y privilegiadas de quien nunca ha cogido lucha en la vida pero para leer antes de dormir y aprender a llevar la vida menos complicada, esta bien, recomiendo mucho la entrevista. Sin duda a ella le funciona su abordaje, se ve muy bien y muy saludable.
March 21, 2022
Buku ini berisikan tentang prinsip-prinsip dasar hipnoterapi yang ditulis oleh seorang terapis kenamaan nomor satu di UK, Marisa Peer.
Beliau membeberkan tentang bagaimana otak kita bekerja. Hal ini penting dipahami karena di dalam pergulatan antara kita dan otak (mind?) kita, otak kita selalu akan menjadi pemenangnya. Itulah alasannya mengapa para pecandu apa pun terus kambuh lagi dan lagi meski pun dia mati-matian ingin sembuh dari adiksinya.
Dengan memahami cara kerja otak kita, kita bisa membuatnya menjadi teman terbaik yang membantu kita untuk berubah ke arah yang lebih baik.
Beberapa prinsip kerja otak:
1. Otak kita merespon terhadap gambar yang kita buat atau kata-kata yang kita bisikkan ke benak kita
2. Imajinasi kita lebih kuat mempengaruhi kita daripada logika. Ini alasan beberapa orang menjadi fobia dengan hal-hal tertentu spt naik pesawat, kecoa, ketinggian, dll.
3. Otak kita menyukai hal-hal yang familiar dan takut dengan yang sebaliknya. Ini menjadi alasan mengapa kebiasaan-kebiasaan yang kita ulang sejak kecil cenderung melekat. Jika kita ingin mengadopsi kebiasaan baru, langkah pertama adalah dengan membuat kebiasaan itu familiar dengan cara mengulangnya berkali-kali sampai otak kita merasa familiar (21 kali minimal)
4. Kita cenderung lebih mampu menahan beratnya sebuah pekerjaan atau tugas apabila otak kita membayangkan adanya reward setelahnya. Inilah pentingnya mereward diri sendiri setelah mencapai target yang kita buat. Reward yang rutin dan terencana setiap kita selesai melakukan suatu targent membantu kita terus maju tanpa merasa exhausted.
5. Dll masih banyak
Beliau membeberkan tentang bagaimana otak kita bekerja. Hal ini penting dipahami karena di dalam pergulatan antara kita dan otak (mind?) kita, otak kita selalu akan menjadi pemenangnya. Itulah alasannya mengapa para pecandu apa pun terus kambuh lagi dan lagi meski pun dia mati-matian ingin sembuh dari adiksinya.
Dengan memahami cara kerja otak kita, kita bisa membuatnya menjadi teman terbaik yang membantu kita untuk berubah ke arah yang lebih baik.
Beberapa prinsip kerja otak:
1. Otak kita merespon terhadap gambar yang kita buat atau kata-kata yang kita bisikkan ke benak kita
2. Imajinasi kita lebih kuat mempengaruhi kita daripada logika. Ini alasan beberapa orang menjadi fobia dengan hal-hal tertentu spt naik pesawat, kecoa, ketinggian, dll.
3. Otak kita menyukai hal-hal yang familiar dan takut dengan yang sebaliknya. Ini menjadi alasan mengapa kebiasaan-kebiasaan yang kita ulang sejak kecil cenderung melekat. Jika kita ingin mengadopsi kebiasaan baru, langkah pertama adalah dengan membuat kebiasaan itu familiar dengan cara mengulangnya berkali-kali sampai otak kita merasa familiar (21 kali minimal)
4. Kita cenderung lebih mampu menahan beratnya sebuah pekerjaan atau tugas apabila otak kita membayangkan adanya reward setelahnya. Inilah pentingnya mereward diri sendiri setelah mencapai target yang kita buat. Reward yang rutin dan terencana setiap kita selesai melakukan suatu targent membantu kita terus maju tanpa merasa exhausted.
5. Dll masih banyak
April 9, 2021
If you read only one self-help book in your life, this is the one.
Short, concise and above all useful.
Marisa Peer, renowned therapist, shows us how the inner forces, often called "saboteurs", affect our lives. We are mostly programmed as children and we act accordingly as we learned and believed then. She teaches us how to attain unshakeable belief in ourselves and just like ourselves as we are.
All we need is a willingness to change the mental habits we have been stuck with ages, because we made them. The basic problem is that we feel we are never enough, but we can re-learn how to regain self-love, because we are always enough!
Short, concise and above all useful.
Marisa Peer, renowned therapist, shows us how the inner forces, often called "saboteurs", affect our lives. We are mostly programmed as children and we act accordingly as we learned and believed then. She teaches us how to attain unshakeable belief in ourselves and just like ourselves as we are.
All we need is a willingness to change the mental habits we have been stuck with ages, because we made them. The basic problem is that we feel we are never enough, but we can re-learn how to regain self-love, because we are always enough!
May 21, 2021
Honestly so life changing!
I have struggled with suicidal thoughts and non-existent self-esteem for decades. I decided to read this book after watching a 3 minute video by Marisa on YouTube that just completely gripped me in a way that no other self-help media has.
Since listening to this audiobook my inner voice has shifted from being downright abusive to genuinely caring and kind towards myself. I have more confidence, bounce back from mistakes and failures that would have previously consumed me for weeks. I have also since signed up for various courses and communities with Marisa. I’m so glad I found this book and it’s teachings, I wish I’d found it sooner! 💕
I have struggled with suicidal thoughts and non-existent self-esteem for decades. I decided to read this book after watching a 3 minute video by Marisa on YouTube that just completely gripped me in a way that no other self-help media has.
Since listening to this audiobook my inner voice has shifted from being downright abusive to genuinely caring and kind towards myself. I have more confidence, bounce back from mistakes and failures that would have previously consumed me for weeks. I have also since signed up for various courses and communities with Marisa. I’m so glad I found this book and it’s teachings, I wish I’d found it sooner! 💕
October 30, 2024
I love that Marisa Peer’s books always make me think deeply and see the patterns in my life in a new light. (Which feels like is saying a lot given my rationalization and overthinking tendencies!) She brings a level of simplicity to her work that makes potentially overwhelming and deep topics seem approachable.
This book felt like a comprehensive guide to feel better in many different areas of life and get connected to yourself and your specific areas of healing from a place of compassion.
Would recommend to anyone who is remotely interested in internal work and wants to healing their relationship with themself!
This book felt like a comprehensive guide to feel better in many different areas of life and get connected to yourself and your specific areas of healing from a place of compassion.
Would recommend to anyone who is remotely interested in internal work and wants to healing their relationship with themself!
April 19, 2020
An easy and enjoyable read. Don't be fooled by the size. Its short but packs it all in! Its a great summary of many of Marisa's teachings. Marisa speaks simply and logically and this book makes so much sense. Marisa is a great teacher and knows how to teach with humor. This book is supported by lots of humorous stories throughout the book. There are so many take-aways and actions for the reader. Take the simple actions and you will change your life. Check out also Marisa Peers RTT Therapy and Training. RTT has changed my life. I am forever grateful and this book was just the beginning.
April 29, 2020
Love Marisa Peer's view on thinking patterns and her solution for pretty much all the destructive behaviours. Each of us gives so much meaning to random things, that have happened to us in our childhoods and we even start believing that, these experiences define us. I love Marisa's message and core point that, we can't change our childhoods, but we can change the meaning we give to it. And it truly comes down to regaining the love for ourselves first and stopping our own destructive inner dialogues. <3
April 2, 2021
Transformative
This was a very well written organized book. The author laid out simple techniques for the reader to use to begin to change their life. Chapter nine resonated with me the most. It was so powerful, I immediately shared it with a family member. The author takes classic concepts and put her own twist to them. Reading this book gave me a lot of ah ha moments. This is worth reading more than once. I definitely recommend this book to anyone looking to change their life.
This was a very well written organized book. The author laid out simple techniques for the reader to use to begin to change their life. Chapter nine resonated with me the most. It was so powerful, I immediately shared it with a family member. The author takes classic concepts and put her own twist to them. Reading this book gave me a lot of ah ha moments. This is worth reading more than once. I definitely recommend this book to anyone looking to change their life.
October 21, 2020
Must read for anyone struggling with bad relationships, financial hardship, melancholy, PTSD, [I have experience with all of those]. Still reading, and noticed improvements in just two weeks that I did not get in 20 years of conventional therapy. [No disrespect to the providers, they meant well]. This is akin to the owner's manual for the brain we were born with. Cannot recommend it enough. --Ian
March 3, 2021
Not your standard self help book...Quick read packed with great info for...
- adults dealing with trauma from childhood
- people with self sabotage tendencies
- individuals trying to get out of reoccurring thought patterns
- students interested to dive deeper into the mind with practical examples
- couples on verge of breakups or loss of intimacy in their relationships
- partners in abusive relationships
- anyone looking to move forward in their life unknowing where to start
- adults dealing with trauma from childhood
- people with self sabotage tendencies
- individuals trying to get out of reoccurring thought patterns
- students interested to dive deeper into the mind with practical examples
- couples on verge of breakups or loss of intimacy in their relationships
- partners in abusive relationships
- anyone looking to move forward in their life unknowing where to start
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