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Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow
Tackle toddler discipline and tamp down on tantrums before preschool begins
Make it easier to manage your little one's most challenging behaviors with these highly effective toddler discipline tools. This standout among parenting books helps you learn how to effectively support your toddler as you deal with day-to-day difficulties.
Written by mother of two and child development expert Aubrey Hargis, this guide to parenting toddlers teaches you about the behavioral challenges you'll face and the ways you can address them while fostering important life skills like curiosity, respect, independence, and confidence.
Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage
This child development book shows you how to build an effective toolbox of toddler discipline strategies that will serve you through every step of their growth.
Make it easier to manage your little one's most challenging behaviors with these highly effective toddler discipline tools. This standout among parenting books helps you learn how to effectively support your toddler as you deal with day-to-day difficulties.
Written by mother of two and child development expert Aubrey Hargis, this guide to parenting toddlers teaches you about the behavioral challenges you'll face and the ways you can address them while fostering important life skills like curiosity, respect, independence, and confidence.
Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage
This child development book shows you how to build an effective toolbox of toddler discipline strategies that will serve you through every step of their growth.
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Published November 13, 2018
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November 20, 2019
Another discipline book that says it’s wrong to punish—including time-outs and taking away possessions. This one is not as bad as “No Drama Discipline.” This one is shorter and more to the point. I liked that it divided chapters based on the age of the child, and gave developmental information about each age. It had a few interesting tips (like when asking for compliance, try saying, “It would be helpful if . . . ” [123]), but the main message was still flawed. At least this book says not to give in to your child’s demands (97) or whining (141). But it was still too spoiling; whenever your child wants your attention, you’re supposed to “completely stop what you’re doing and tune in” (97).
“When I asked a group of parents to name the characteristics they hoped their children would embody someday in the future, nobody mentioned blind obedience. . . . These parents hoped their children would become adults who were happy, responsible, independent, compassionate, honest, determined, curious, resilient, intrinsically motivated, and good problem-solvers” (5).
Yet despite most kids in generations past being raised by their parents to blindly obey, those kids still generally became adults who were those positive words above. Obedience has its place. There are times in life when you’re expected to obey, even as an adult: you’re supposed to obey your college professor, your military leader, and your boss or supervisor. There is a hierarchy. And parents are the superiors of their children, and that is why children are expected to obey. Teaching kids to obey their superiors does not prevent them from being all of those above words.
15 “Disciplinary strategies that are belittling, threatening, manipulative, deceiving, coercive, or sarcastic may gain your child’s obedience, but they will not gain your child’s cooperation. Trust is earned, not demanded.”
Yet most kids who were spanked do grow up to trust and respect their parents.
The author thinks letting a 2 year old pick what to wear is discipline (5).
The dictionary defines discipline as:
1. punishment inflicted by way of correction and training.
2. to bring to a state of order and obedience by training and control.
3. to punish or penalize in order to train and control; correct; chastise.
The author says she advocates for consequences, not punishment. Punishment sends the message, “If I don’t obey, I will be made to suffer” (94). But the author’s examples of good consequences are the parent saying the following to the misbehaving child (95):
1. “I understand how hard it is.”
This is not consequence; it’s just talking and empathizing.
2. “I am feeling so frustrated. I need to step away and go calm myself down.”
This is not consequence; it’s the parent putting herself in time out while the child gets to continue getting his way.
3. “Let’s pick up your toys together, and then we will have a dance party.”
This is not a consequence; it’s reward.
So what if the child does not behave or do as told after these strategies are tried? Just continue to talk/empathize, put yourself in time-out, and offer more rewards? At best, the child will get her way most of the time, and at worst she will be rewarded for bad behavior.
“Common tantrum triggers for this age include being hungry, not getting enough sleep or being ready for a nap, feeling overstimulated, craving more independence, experiencing a disruption in routine” (28).
What about throwing a tantrum for simply not getting their way? Turning off the TV or taking away the tablet too soon, not letting them have a toy or candy they see in the grocery store, etc.? It’s like the authors don’t want to place any blame at all on the child; in their eyes, the child is perfectly innocent and they are throwing a tantrum not out of selfishness but because of the cruel external world’s influence.
According to this book, kids who are rude and insulting “don’t mean it” (139). Even a child lying is something for the parent to be happy about; the child has reached a developmental milestone and is exercising her imagination (134)! The author says that if you lie to your kid, you should expect the kid to lie to you. But later she recommends lying to your kid in response to the kid whining: “This car ride is so boooring. Next time I’m buying a car with wings” (142).
The book’s example of good parenting in action: “I also made sure that telling the truth didn’t get him in trouble even if the offense would normally be followed with some consequence. The perpetual lying calmed down with a few months” (137).
Of course the child will stop lying. “Yes, Mommy, I colored on the wall, and I’m gonna do it again too! Let’s clean it up together like we did last time! It’s so much fun!” There’s no reason to hide the truth when the truth doesn’t get you in trouble.
According to the author, a child whining for a candy bar at the store doesn’t really want the candy bar. Oh no. They are just “bored, frustrated, hungry, tired, or feeling ignored” (141). Bored? But what if the child *insisted* on coming to the store with the parent rather than stay at home? Tired? If the child were offered a nap, I doubt he would want one. Hungry? I doubt if the child was offered some carrot sticks to snack on, this would erase the whining for the candy bar. Feeling ignored? I also doubt if the parent pays the kid some attention, it’s going to erase the whining for the candy bar. Frustrated? Sure, frustrated that they can’t have the candy bar! The author says not to allow the child to have whatever he was whining about because “giving in reinforces this behavior,” (141) but then on the next page seems to contradict herself by saying “if you really want to stop the whining, you need to stop what you’re doing and give your child your full attention” (142). But attention seeking was one of the reasons given by the author for the whining in the first place. So giving the child attention is giving the child what he wants.
The book addresses a one year old hitting or biting, but says this is innocent because she is “not capable of purposely trying to hurt you or anyone else” and “it is in fact your child’s job to test boundaries” (40). The poor child is probably just teething or hungry and can’t use language to tell us of her troubles (41).
But it doesn’t even talk about a 4 year old being aggressive or violent. Hmm, I wonder why? Because the excuse used for the younger child can’t be used for the 4 year old! The child is not so innocent anymore; the child is choosing to hurt someone! This fact is completely ignored!
“When I asked a group of parents to name the characteristics they hoped their children would embody someday in the future, nobody mentioned blind obedience. . . . These parents hoped their children would become adults who were happy, responsible, independent, compassionate, honest, determined, curious, resilient, intrinsically motivated, and good problem-solvers” (5).
Yet despite most kids in generations past being raised by their parents to blindly obey, those kids still generally became adults who were those positive words above. Obedience has its place. There are times in life when you’re expected to obey, even as an adult: you’re supposed to obey your college professor, your military leader, and your boss or supervisor. There is a hierarchy. And parents are the superiors of their children, and that is why children are expected to obey. Teaching kids to obey their superiors does not prevent them from being all of those above words.
15 “Disciplinary strategies that are belittling, threatening, manipulative, deceiving, coercive, or sarcastic may gain your child’s obedience, but they will not gain your child’s cooperation. Trust is earned, not demanded.”
Yet most kids who were spanked do grow up to trust and respect their parents.
The author thinks letting a 2 year old pick what to wear is discipline (5).
The dictionary defines discipline as:
1. punishment inflicted by way of correction and training.
2. to bring to a state of order and obedience by training and control.
3. to punish or penalize in order to train and control; correct; chastise.
The author says she advocates for consequences, not punishment. Punishment sends the message, “If I don’t obey, I will be made to suffer” (94). But the author’s examples of good consequences are the parent saying the following to the misbehaving child (95):
1. “I understand how hard it is.”
This is not consequence; it’s just talking and empathizing.
2. “I am feeling so frustrated. I need to step away and go calm myself down.”
This is not consequence; it’s the parent putting herself in time out while the child gets to continue getting his way.
3. “Let’s pick up your toys together, and then we will have a dance party.”
This is not a consequence; it’s reward.
So what if the child does not behave or do as told after these strategies are tried? Just continue to talk/empathize, put yourself in time-out, and offer more rewards? At best, the child will get her way most of the time, and at worst she will be rewarded for bad behavior.
“Common tantrum triggers for this age include being hungry, not getting enough sleep or being ready for a nap, feeling overstimulated, craving more independence, experiencing a disruption in routine” (28).
What about throwing a tantrum for simply not getting their way? Turning off the TV or taking away the tablet too soon, not letting them have a toy or candy they see in the grocery store, etc.? It’s like the authors don’t want to place any blame at all on the child; in their eyes, the child is perfectly innocent and they are throwing a tantrum not out of selfishness but because of the cruel external world’s influence.
According to this book, kids who are rude and insulting “don’t mean it” (139). Even a child lying is something for the parent to be happy about; the child has reached a developmental milestone and is exercising her imagination (134)! The author says that if you lie to your kid, you should expect the kid to lie to you. But later she recommends lying to your kid in response to the kid whining: “This car ride is so boooring. Next time I’m buying a car with wings” (142).
The book’s example of good parenting in action: “I also made sure that telling the truth didn’t get him in trouble even if the offense would normally be followed with some consequence. The perpetual lying calmed down with a few months” (137).
Of course the child will stop lying. “Yes, Mommy, I colored on the wall, and I’m gonna do it again too! Let’s clean it up together like we did last time! It’s so much fun!” There’s no reason to hide the truth when the truth doesn’t get you in trouble.
According to the author, a child whining for a candy bar at the store doesn’t really want the candy bar. Oh no. They are just “bored, frustrated, hungry, tired, or feeling ignored” (141). Bored? But what if the child *insisted* on coming to the store with the parent rather than stay at home? Tired? If the child were offered a nap, I doubt he would want one. Hungry? I doubt if the child was offered some carrot sticks to snack on, this would erase the whining for the candy bar. Feeling ignored? I also doubt if the parent pays the kid some attention, it’s going to erase the whining for the candy bar. Frustrated? Sure, frustrated that they can’t have the candy bar! The author says not to allow the child to have whatever he was whining about because “giving in reinforces this behavior,” (141) but then on the next page seems to contradict herself by saying “if you really want to stop the whining, you need to stop what you’re doing and give your child your full attention” (142). But attention seeking was one of the reasons given by the author for the whining in the first place. So giving the child attention is giving the child what he wants.
The book addresses a one year old hitting or biting, but says this is innocent because she is “not capable of purposely trying to hurt you or anyone else” and “it is in fact your child’s job to test boundaries” (40). The poor child is probably just teething or hungry and can’t use language to tell us of her troubles (41).
But it doesn’t even talk about a 4 year old being aggressive or violent. Hmm, I wonder why? Because the excuse used for the younger child can’t be used for the 4 year old! The child is not so innocent anymore; the child is choosing to hurt someone! This fact is completely ignored!
April 30, 2025
This book just reminded me that what my 3year old does is quite normal, which I sometimes forget.
For a person reading this as a first book on toddlers might be a good idea, but for a person who did some research on the theme will be boring and won’t give any useful information.
For a person reading this as a first book on toddlers might be a good idea, but for a person who did some research on the theme will be boring and won’t give any useful information.
June 27, 2019
In an ideal world this is how I would like to parent... compassionately, patiently, lovingly, respectful of my child's autonomy and uniqueness, and without punishment and/or goals/rewards. The book has good guiding principles that fit with my belief system and intention to inflict as little trauma and build my children up as much as possible into strong and emotionally resilient intrinsically-motivated human beings.
However, from a practical standpoint. I didn't have many aha moments. For sure good parenting like much described in the book requires patient consistent effort to see longer term results, but some of the practical advice left me wanting something more. For example, how to coax a child to get ready for the day or to leave for school, when all he wants to do is stay home with Mommy and Daddy? You can't just love / respect / distract / have fun with a toddler out of that situation. What is the natural consequence to draw on to solve that challenge? Maybe I missed that example, but I can think of many more where I wouldn't be able to find an "effective strategy" within the text of the book. Perhaps it is just a failure of imagination / application of the admirable strategies laid out within.
However, from a practical standpoint. I didn't have many aha moments. For sure good parenting like much described in the book requires patient consistent effort to see longer term results, but some of the practical advice left me wanting something more. For example, how to coax a child to get ready for the day or to leave for school, when all he wants to do is stay home with Mommy and Daddy? You can't just love / respect / distract / have fun with a toddler out of that situation. What is the natural consequence to draw on to solve that challenge? Maybe I missed that example, but I can think of many more where I wouldn't be able to find an "effective strategy" within the text of the book. Perhaps it is just a failure of imagination / application of the admirable strategies laid out within.
March 12, 2021
Hargis' prose is calming and straightforward. Unlike many baby books, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage has no unnecessary padding. Just like the title says, it provides clear advice around toddler discipline until the age of 5, and then it ends.
Hargis approaches her writing the same way she approaches discipline: consistent, no-nonsense empathy. Your child will have tantrums, make messes, lie to you and you will be impatient, frustrated, and angry. This is all part of development and nothing that can't be solved with an acknowledgment of feelings, a heart-to-heart, and a deep breath. The fact that a child can know one thing to be true and say another is a major achievement! And what a lot of fun it will be to explore that with them.
Hargis approaches her writing the same way she approaches discipline: consistent, no-nonsense empathy. Your child will have tantrums, make messes, lie to you and you will be impatient, frustrated, and angry. This is all part of development and nothing that can't be solved with an acknowledgment of feelings, a heart-to-heart, and a deep breath. The fact that a child can know one thing to be true and say another is a major achievement! And what a lot of fun it will be to explore that with them.
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January 1, 2025ok first off hateeee the title of this book haha to be clear this is not a “discipline” book, this is just a sweet little book on how to respond creatively to your child’s very developmentally normal behaviors! Maybe I just have a warped view on the word discipline as punishment and that’s my bad, but I just want to preface that’s literally not the tone of what this book is at all!!!!! If anything it’s about finding ways to say yes more than you say no, creative redirection, and emotional empathy!!!! I also really appreciated that there was an entire chapter about one year olds bc I’ve noticed most books start at age two… And I was like girrrrrrl I’m gonna need some techniques and ideas sooner than that
anyways, I really liked this
anyways, I really liked this
September 8, 2020
I'm not a parent but I am an older sister to two much younger sisters and I'm always curious to learn more about psychology and how to raise children well.
Great book! Very easy to read although it took me a while to finish as there is a LOT of material but did learn a lot.
Great book! Very easy to read although it took me a while to finish as there is a LOT of material but did learn a lot.
October 12, 2020
There were some helpful insights into disciplinary tactics in this book, however, it lacked a strong foundation of understanding anthropology. I also appreciated its approach at understanding your child before disciplining your child.
My biggest complaints:
1. It suggests that defiance against parental authority is actually good skill to be honed and that it may result in a child who can stand up against her friends when they want to do wrong. This however is not compatible with a Christian worldview. The primary reason I am opposed to this is because defiance against parental authority is never just against the parent. It is also against God. If you want your child to be strong against the peer pressure of bad friends, don’t let them practice their defiance on you, instead show them that their loyalty and heart needs to be given to God. This would result in then obeying and submitting to your authority. If a child values God’s will, the character to stand up for what is right won’t come from a stubborn pride and self-will, but rather a heart that loves God more than self and sin. (I will acknowledge that a parent who does not love God himself will abuse this angle to leverage God onto his side and this can also be very damaging to children and cause them to doubt that God was ever really a consideration but rather a manipulation tactic.)
2. It suggests that lying is also just a stage or a game of pretend to the child and that it should primarily just be ignored. I just don’t see the benefit of ignoring lying. I think that lying is one of the most obvious keys a child can give you to their heart. They are crying out in a clear way that they need love and help. They are most likely driven by fear and need affection. But don’t ignore the lying or think it is just a game to play.
Anyhow. I prob wont ever look at this book again. Some of the tools were helpful but some were not. There are better books out there to help parents find useful techniques and tools.
My biggest complaints:
1. It suggests that defiance against parental authority is actually good skill to be honed and that it may result in a child who can stand up against her friends when they want to do wrong. This however is not compatible with a Christian worldview. The primary reason I am opposed to this is because defiance against parental authority is never just against the parent. It is also against God. If you want your child to be strong against the peer pressure of bad friends, don’t let them practice their defiance on you, instead show them that their loyalty and heart needs to be given to God. This would result in then obeying and submitting to your authority. If a child values God’s will, the character to stand up for what is right won’t come from a stubborn pride and self-will, but rather a heart that loves God more than self and sin. (I will acknowledge that a parent who does not love God himself will abuse this angle to leverage God onto his side and this can also be very damaging to children and cause them to doubt that God was ever really a consideration but rather a manipulation tactic.)
2. It suggests that lying is also just a stage or a game of pretend to the child and that it should primarily just be ignored. I just don’t see the benefit of ignoring lying. I think that lying is one of the most obvious keys a child can give you to their heart. They are crying out in a clear way that they need love and help. They are most likely driven by fear and need affection. But don’t ignore the lying or think it is just a game to play.
Anyhow. I prob wont ever look at this book again. Some of the tools were helpful but some were not. There are better books out there to help parents find useful techniques and tools.
February 23, 2021
Not helpful
This book made me feel like I’m incapable of being a good mom. I know that wasn’t what the author intended, but that’s the effect it had on me. The suggestions for how to help your kid were super vague and from my understanding you’re basically expected to try to be calm and patient and present and perfect at all times in order to discipline you’re child effectively. Which is just not realistic for most normal human beings.
This book made me feel like I’m incapable of being a good mom. I know that wasn’t what the author intended, but that’s the effect it had on me. The suggestions for how to help your kid were super vague and from my understanding you’re basically expected to try to be calm and patient and present and perfect at all times in order to discipline you’re child effectively. Which is just not realistic for most normal human beings.
May 10, 2020
Not horrible, and I admit to only reading up to the section for age 2, but I feel like this book says, "discipline your kid when this happens", and not a lot is said on how this is to be done.
November 12, 2018
Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage is hands down the best parenting book I’ve read to date. It is a gold mine of information and helpful suggestions for navigating frustrating and tough parenting situations, all while clearly pointing out my toddler’s developmental capability during those situations. This book has given me the tools to diffuse and even stop tantrums before they begin by enabling me to view my toddler’s behavior to certain situations through his eyes and evaluate why the behavior is occurring in the first place. I love that the book is extremely easy to navigate and Aubrey has real life practical suggestions for every type of situation: tantrums, sleeping, toilet learning, mealtimes, non-compliance, etc. Each age section begins with an overview of what that age child is capable of developmentally, along with limitations, before moving onto strategies for age-appropriate disciple and then highlighting common issues parents face during this age. As a parent to a one and three year old in the midst of navigating toddlerhood I highly recommend this book, I’m extremely grateful it now resides in my parenting toolbox!
March 29, 2019
I soared through reading this book. A true page-turner!
I angrily texted my mother about my frustrations with my fourth son, a 2-year-toddler, and she told me to check my email. She had gifted me this book through Amazon and I got to reading it straightaway, as I told her I needed all the help I could get.
Our first full day after my binge-reading (I wrapped up the entire book in 3 hours) our relationship was much less strained. We tend to see our children’s successes and create unrealistic expectations in all areas of their development. I needed a reset and to hear some sound advice for my 2-year-old that sometimes behaves like a 3-year-old, but is still just a 2-year-old!
Thank you for giving me a chance at sustaining healthy communication with my son and for allowing me insight into teaching methods for misbehavior.
If you are hesitant about which parenting book to select, choose this one, and then read the rest because we truly do need all the help we can get.
-Single Mom of 4 Sons
I angrily texted my mother about my frustrations with my fourth son, a 2-year-toddler, and she told me to check my email. She had gifted me this book through Amazon and I got to reading it straightaway, as I told her I needed all the help I could get.
Our first full day after my binge-reading (I wrapped up the entire book in 3 hours) our relationship was much less strained. We tend to see our children’s successes and create unrealistic expectations in all areas of their development. I needed a reset and to hear some sound advice for my 2-year-old that sometimes behaves like a 3-year-old, but is still just a 2-year-old!
Thank you for giving me a chance at sustaining healthy communication with my son and for allowing me insight into teaching methods for misbehavior.
If you are hesitant about which parenting book to select, choose this one, and then read the rest because we truly do need all the help we can get.
-Single Mom of 4 Sons
May 4, 2022
I love this book! If I owned this book, just about every sentence would be highlighted. Instead, I took about 15 pages of notes because I want to remember everything.
I picked up this book because my 3.5-year old has been struggling with the changes after having my now 10-week old, and I wanted to find some techniques to make things easier on all of us. Since I started implementing tips from this book, life has gotten much calmer, and everyone in our house smiles more - it’s only been a few days, but that’s how fast it worked.
The breakdown of how kids are developing at each age was interesting and helpful. It helped to understand the motivation behind behaviors and how I can help my boys navigate their emotions.
I picked up a lot of tips for things to do with my kids, and I’m already seeing positive results with my eldest as I implement the tips. The information is pretty common sense and feels easy and natural to put in place. The discipline style fits with my personality and how I want to feel and act as a parent. I cannot recommend this book enough.
I picked up this book because my 3.5-year old has been struggling with the changes after having my now 10-week old, and I wanted to find some techniques to make things easier on all of us. Since I started implementing tips from this book, life has gotten much calmer, and everyone in our house smiles more - it’s only been a few days, but that’s how fast it worked.
The breakdown of how kids are developing at each age was interesting and helpful. It helped to understand the motivation behind behaviors and how I can help my boys navigate their emotions.
I picked up a lot of tips for things to do with my kids, and I’m already seeing positive results with my eldest as I implement the tips. The information is pretty common sense and feels easy and natural to put in place. The discipline style fits with my personality and how I want to feel and act as a parent. I cannot recommend this book enough.
November 7, 2018
I have a one year old and a four year old, and I find the chapters for each accurate and immediately useful. I jumped to the spots that were immediately applicable, which is convenient as a busy mom.
I wish I had this book when my four year old was one as I see many things I could have done differently with this advice.
This books appeals to me because its approach is respectful to our children and shines light on why they are behaving the way they are. Understanding where they are at diffuses the level of frustration I experience when they are behaving in a way that challenges me.
Finally, it helped me understand where my children are at is completely normal for their developmental phase and not anything that should concern me.
This is a valuable resource for both new and experienced parents of toddlers!
I wish I had this book when my four year old was one as I see many things I could have done differently with this advice.
This books appeals to me because its approach is respectful to our children and shines light on why they are behaving the way they are. Understanding where they are at diffuses the level of frustration I experience when they are behaving in a way that challenges me.
Finally, it helped me understand where my children are at is completely normal for their developmental phase and not anything that should concern me.
This is a valuable resource for both new and experienced parents of toddlers!
June 5, 2020
The book helped me have a better perspective of what to expect developmentally from each year. I feel confident and comfortable with 4 year olds since I work with them but not so much here at the beginning of toddlerhood. It’s frustrating not knowing how to communicate with my son because he can’t communicate verbally or even understand what he feels or thinks being a 16 month old. It was helpful to learn that he literally is mindful in that he is always in the present and is all about getting his needs met. It’s a more advanced version of a baby (in a way). I knew the tantrums were his way of feeling out his boundaries and getting his wants/needs met.
I learned that memory comes into focus around 3 because kids start to learn the concept of time through past and present.
I did disagree with her statement that you can’t teach empathy directly....you can!
I learned that memory comes into focus around 3 because kids start to learn the concept of time through past and present.
I did disagree with her statement that you can’t teach empathy directly....you can!
January 8, 2020
Aubrey's book deals with finding effective style to discipline young toddlers. The book has four sections for 1 ,2 3 and 4 year olds. Each section is further broken down to the developmental milestones achieved, some common behavioral issues displayed and how to handle them with effective strategies. The easy style of narration and simplicity of language makes this an easy read.a sleep deprived mom barely has the time to go through parenting books in the first year or two. Aubrey's book certainly comes like a good sent gift. I wish I had read this book few years back. To new mom's please give this easy book a read . This will definitely help you understand toddler behaviors and how to face them
July 18, 2019
It doesn't take long to read this book. And you can read for the age of the child that you are expecting to discipline if you want. I read the entire book and found it useful. I liked that they described certain behaviors to expect at a certain age, why they are present, strategies to deal with emotionally tense moments and so on. I've tried some of these strategies and kept some of these tips in mind and I believe that they work. I especially liked that this book initially mentions that discipline is a long-term challenge to tackle with children. It's not something to get out of the way at the moment or expect quick and easy fixes for.
June 19, 2019
This book is full of amazing little nuggets and easily implemented recommendations on how to foster your relationship with your toddler. As a Montessori teacher, many of these techniques are variations on how I interact with my students (adolescents= second toddlerhood), but it was great to have examples of conversations about lying and death, for example. I got this book through interlibrary loan, and will be suggesting my library purchase a copy for our catalog AND buying my own copy for when my 17 mo starts lying...
April 3, 2019
Perhaps I had higher expectations for this book but there wasn't much on strategizing for tantrums and challenges . Rather the author expects that a child simply needs to get their feelings out there and eventually, they'll realize that tantruming doesn't give them what they want. Really don't believe that's a viable way to deal with tantrums.
The most helpful bits were on talking to your child. Always a good reminder to get down on their level and use simple words.
3/5 stars
The most helpful bits were on talking to your child. Always a good reminder to get down on their level and use simple words.
3/5 stars
July 28, 2021
Helpful reminders, but not a lot I haven't already read/heard. The section on three-year-olds was helpful concerning my son's occasional shyness, but I was hoping for more, specific suggestions on defiance and potty-training/regressions too. Maybe the chapter on four-year-olds will prove beneficial in a year (uncharted territory as of right now), but there was only minimal information that was noteworthy concerning our children's current ages (3 years old, almost 2, 7 months).
December 27, 2021
I recently read a different toddler discipline book and this book was everything I wish that book had been. This book gave you practical steps to take in different situations, broke everything up by age/stage, and was kind to both parents and children the entire time. I loved this book. Will definitely be recommending to my friends.
December 21, 2023
A thorough & engaging guide
I like that this book was very to the point without a lot of fluff. It took me through scenarios every step of the way, which really helps lend clarity to what the book was saying. The techniques were easy to follow along with and given in a friendly manner.
I like that this book was very to the point without a lot of fluff. It took me through scenarios every step of the way, which really helps lend clarity to what the book was saying. The techniques were easy to follow along with and given in a friendly manner.
March 7, 2024
The journey through parenthood is wisdom collected not from one source, but everything you consume.
In this one, I learned a good phrase - "At year one, try to say YES to everything your toddler wants, and reserve NO for truly dangerous or disruptive things." Just another feather in my cap! I'll be sure and rent it back out from my library when the kiddo hits two. Just a wholesome book.
In this one, I learned a good phrase - "At year one, try to say YES to everything your toddler wants, and reserve NO for truly dangerous or disruptive things." Just another feather in my cap! I'll be sure and rent it back out from my library when the kiddo hits two. Just a wholesome book.
January 13, 2019
Practical tips
Practical tips and examples for parenting and disciplining your toddler. I liked that the author has the book organized by age and explains where your toddler should be developmentally while giving dos and donts of discipline.
Practical tips and examples for parenting and disciplining your toddler. I liked that the author has the book organized by age and explains where your toddler should be developmentally while giving dos and donts of discipline.
January 4, 2020
Not effective techniques
I read this book with hopes of understanding my three year old son better. It was a very dry read and different offer many techniques for understanding my son any better.
I read this book with hopes of understanding my three year old son better. It was a very dry read and different offer many techniques for understanding my son any better.
April 20, 2020
Easy to read and we'll written. Over generalized and simplistic strategies. Not sure of the control group methods worked with. A good place to start with kindness and compassion but, not a definitive work on behavioral work with ALL children.
September 7, 2020
Good book!
I’m looking forward to using the tools I have learned from this book! It has a lot of practical advice for specific situations, as well as information on how to relate to your child.
I’m looking forward to using the tools I have learned from this book! It has a lot of practical advice for specific situations, as well as information on how to relate to your child.
November 16, 2020
A not so informative book about toddlers
Seems like it’s been written for those who has not seen a toddler in his life. Too simple and repetitive. Was looking for a more indepth information but this was just “Toddler for dummies”.
Seems like it’s been written for those who has not seen a toddler in his life. Too simple and repetitive. Was looking for a more indepth information but this was just “Toddler for dummies”.
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September 6, 2022The concepts are nice….but the tools to implement them are vague at best and it’s a bit utopian. Even if I did want to practice positive parenting, the scenarios and specifics I was looking for are not there and therefore it was not helpful to me.
June 25, 2019
Hope it helps with my two year old.
Currently in a power struggle with my two year old and need something to give! I hope this helps I can’t wait to try.
Currently in a power struggle with my two year old and need something to give! I hope this helps I can’t wait to try.
July 3, 2019
Read it cover to cover as the ages include those I teach. Mostly things I already know/do but some good reminders and tips. Will refer back to it as my daughter hits each age.
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