In my circles we are taught that a Jew is a Jew regardless of background. This message comes in handy for my kids with the last name Gonzalez as people do a double take when I tell them both my name and where my husband is from. There are many Jews of Hispanic origins just as there are Jews of Arabic origins. Other than the Persian and Sephardic communities; however, Arabic Jews are often overlooked and even denigrated by Ashkenazic Jews who will turn up their noses at their assumed less sophisticated brothers. Massoud Hayoun is from Tunisian, Moroccan, and Egyptian heritage. In We Were Arabs, Hayoun explores his family heritage and looks to debunk the gulf that has widen between Jews and others of Arabic origin.
Massoud Hayoun was raised in Los Angeles by his mother Nadia and her parents Oscar and Daida. Coming from Egypt and Tunisia, the Hayoun family observed Judaism in a manner unique to Jews of Northern Africa, mixing in what westerners mislabel as Sephardic customs along with Arabic and Islamic traditions that they had picked up along the way. In the Hayoun home in Los Angeles, the family spoke Egyptian Arabic and French; Hebrew was reserved for praying and English for school. Having brownish skin, Massoud’s classmates mistaken him for being Mexican or of other Hispanic origin, yet he was as Jewish as his Ashkenazic peers just originating from a different part of the world. Massoud attended Oscar’s Arabic shul and had his bar mitzvah there, giving Oscar much “nachas” (Jewish pride). The family ate homemade Tunisian and Moroccan dishes and Nadia and Massoud spoke fluent Arabic, until after 9-11 when Oscar nervously spoke it in whisper and the home language was replaced by English. Yet, until his grandparents approached the end of their lives, it did not occur to Massoud to explore deeper into the Hayoun family history and visit the cities in Tunisia and Egypt where his grandparents grew up. In homage to them, Massoud chose to tell their story.
Oscar Hayoun grew up in French controlled Egypt, considered the Paris of Africa prior to World War II. His family had immigrated from Morocco and spoke Arabic with such dialogues. Oscar was born in 1927 in a vibrant Jewish community in Alexandria, and it was common for Jews and Muslims and Coptic Christians to intermingle and form friendships, melding each other’s traditions and blending Hebrew and Arabic in prayer services. Daida Khadbouza was born to years later in Tunis. Her father was one of the leaders of the Jewish community in Tunisia, a business man in charge of a barrel factory. It is possible that the family descended from Berbers who had converted to Judaism centuries earlier. Like their Egyptian counterparts, Tunisian Jews intermingled with their Muslim neighbors prior to World War II. The Khadbouzas listed as close friends prominent Muslim members of the government, and the families would attend each other’s family and religious festivals. Both Oscar and Daida considered themselves closer to the Arabic culture of Northern Africa than the western Jewish culture that played a prominent role in establishing the state of Israel.
After World War II and the 1954 take over of Egypt by religious Muslims, the Hayoun family as well as the majority of Jewish Egyptians left for Israel, France, or the United States. Oscar’s father Yaquob settled in Israel; however, the early Zionists and government leaders looked down on their African brothers, relegating them to tent cities, a small step up from the Muslims in the country. Oscar saw no future in Israel and desired to leave. Daida’s family suffered a similar fate in France as all new African immigrates were sprayed with DDT. In Paris, she was expected to provide for her parents and also expected to marry a Jew from Tunisian origins. As fate would have it, she met Oscar at a party and decided that she would marry him. Tunisians viewed Egyptians as inferior even though they were both Jewish, yet Daida’s determination won out over her family, and she was allowed to marry Oscar. With little future available to them in France or Israel, the couple and their two daughters immigrated again to the one country with an opportunity for all comers, the United States.
As with many immigrant stories, eventually the Hayouns assimilated into American society. They were fortunate to find an Arabic synagogue in Los Angeles so Oscar could enjoy his traditions and speak his language. Daida eventually attended night school and went to work in a bank, achieving her slice of the American dream. Over time, she even found her native foods in American grocery stores, saving her hours from preparing pita from scratch. Massoud Hayoun grew up in this home that is a nexus of Jewish, Arabic, Muslim, and American cultures. Today he works for Al-Jezeerah, enough for an Ashkenazic Jew like myself to do a double take until I read his compelling story. With the world being what it is today, the Hayoun story should be a must read for religious schools and those looking to teach a higher level of religious tolerance.
3.5 stars