#fuckathon 2019, fuck ableism prompt.
I loved the concept of this book; a romance with a fairly independant and spirited wheelchair-using heroine who lives with spina bifida, because I love stories about people we don't usually hear about. I also love that it's more than a romance and the MC has a whole other 'thing' going on with her fight to bring a new law to congress, albeit this plotline didn't appear until quite far into the story. And more love is the fact that Isaac, Carissa's romeo, is black* and this is not an issue, and his mother is also a wheelchair user. He also is a fairly rounded character, much like Carissa herself. I learnt some things about the disease that I have never heard of before, and found it quite appalling the fact that so many untruths are still told, mainly due to healthcare ignorance, about something that can have varying levels of disablement from mild to severe with associated issues. I'm certainly going to educate myself more about spina bifeda after reading this book.
However, there were a few things about the delivery that were not to my liking, and the top one was how very gendered Carissa's family are. Her dad is the 'head' of the household and goes out to work, her mom is a stay at home mom. Nothing particularly wrong with that, other than Carissa is 18 and doesn't need looking ater like a child and yet no mention is made of the things her mom is involved with whilst being a SATM. Her mom describes the home as being 'her fathers house'. REALLY? Also, the whole faux alpha-asshole bit with having to meet and approve his daughter's date before they could even go out anywhere, and her mom saying that so long as HE (the father) likes the young man, than all is ok - no matter whatever feelings she as mother or Carissa herself may have about Isaac. Again, she is 18 not 13 and they have only just met so it's not like marriage is on the cards just yet!
The insta-love. It happened within a few days of meeting. And neither Carissa or Isaac seemed to have anyone in their lives other than their parents. Carissa has lost her BFF to a spina-bifeda related surgery the year before, and this was mentioned in passing just twice that I can recall.
*Then, as much as I enjoyed the fact that Carissa's love interest is a black boy, and it not being a problem (that's always refreshing), Cariassa is noted mentioning this to her folks just in case whereas Isaac doen't mention to his (single) mom that the girl he likes is white, it's just taken as read. Also, did he have to be from a single parent family? Where his father left his mother very early on so he grew up without a father figure... other than the saintly pastor at church of course. Stereotypical, and added nothing to his backstory. This of course (!) left him being the 'man' of the house. Now there is a trope/plot point that I hate with a deep abiding passion - because young boys are not men and should never be called men or treated as if they are men, until they actually are. The fact that we are legally called adults at 18 in many parts of of the world is irrelavent as most people are nowhere near being fully mature at that age, despite what we may look like, and should not be be burdened with accepting those levels of responsibility.
It should also be noted that this is Christian Fiction, with many mentions of The Lord, praying and churchgoing. I wish I had known that going in, and think many of the flaws I found with the story can probably be attributed to that due to the limited and very traditional outlook that many devout religious people, including the author, have.
Lastly, the cover of this book is perplexing to me. The pregnant figure standing in what looks like a field of tall grass, one would assume is Carissa... but she is wheelchair bound, lives in Houston and even by the end of the book has never had more than a chaste kiss with Issac let alone is pregnant. I think it's meant to symbolise the women who are carrying children with spina bifeda (which is what the title is all about) but it is very misleading.