Actual rating: 3.5
I was sent an eARC of this book through Netgalley, in exchange for my honest review.
I was very excited to read this book, because this sounded right up my alley as a queer autistic person. And I did mostly appreciate this book, but I do have some mixed feelings.
First off, let me be very clear about what I did appreciate: this book offers a lot of interesting, important and valuable insights. In that sense, it felt like a very safe space for me to read. I didn't necessarily agree with some of the statements, about how autism shouldn't be seen as a disability, for instance. But I can clearly see the authors have a good perspective on autism as a whole, so it didn't bother me too much that some of my own views differed from theirs. They did go into detail about neurodiversity for instance, and the importance of listening to autistic people, and misconceptions like how autistic people are often considered unable to understand their own sexual, romantic and gender identities.
Something else that I really appreciated, was the authors being very vocal about trying to include diverse voices. They explicitly stated they were unfortunately only able to interview one Black person for this book, and went into the underlying reasons for that as well. But they did interview multiple people of colour, and it was also amazing to see so many queer identities represented.
However, for the majority of the book, I found myself getting quickly bored. And I think the reason for that is the way the book was structured. In my job as an editor, I read a lot of academic texts, and this read a lot like those. And if you do research, of course interviews can be a very important and interesting way to gain results. But as a reader, I'm more interested in the relevant results than I am in reading about the personal backgrounds of all of the respondents.
Overall, while these are valuable insights, I didn't really feel like I read a lot of new information. Especially because it consisted largely of repetition of the same insights and statements. But this book was still very validating to read, and it was great to see so many queer autistic people represented. I especially loved the intersection of those identities being discussed, because they don't exist in a vacuum: my being autistic very much affects my queerness. In that sense, this book exactly grasped my own experience in a way that neurotypical LGBTQ+ stories often don't exactly. It was, for instance, very interesting to see how research shows that autistic people are not only more often queer than neurotypical people, but they also more often identify with the "BTQIAP+" part of the community. In other words, autistic identities less often adhere to the binary and societal norms. There were, for example, multiple non-binary, aspec, and/or polyamorous respondents.
All in all, I think this book is a good example of the way autism research and understanding should be approached: by centering autistic people and hearing them. By approaching autism as a neurotype, rather than always comparing it to neurotypical functioning. But I was a little underwhelmed by the execution.
P.S.: I did love seeing such an elaborate checklist of possible autistic traits/symptoms in the back of the book! The checklists that are often used to diagnose are way less extensive.
CWs: ableism, homophobia, transphobia, abuse, self harm, mental illness, bullying.