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First published February 26, 2019



We make evil when we label something so. Evil exists as a word, as a subjective concept. But I firmly believe there is no person, no group, no behaviour, no thing that is objectively evil. Perhaps evil only really exists in our fears.
We may think that our labelling of others as evil or bad is rational, and our behaviour towards such individuals justified, but the distinction may be more trivial than we expect. I want to help you explore the similarities between the groups of people you consider evil and yourselves, and to engage with a critical mind to try and understand them...Let me help you find your evil empathy.
Are those who sexually assault evil? They are certainly often portrayed as such. Unfortunately from the cases we do know about, sexual assault is so prevalent that if we were to send all the perpetrators to a remote island, we would see our population shrink dramatically.
I think that enslaving someone is one of the worst things we can do to another human being, but calling slavery evil feels like letting slaveholders off the hook. It is greedy. It is selfish. It is harmful. But it's the result of broken systems and an individual's broken values rather than some fundamental and immutable aberration within the slaveholder.
By trying to understand paedophilia we are not dismissing the realities of child sexual abuse, nor are we condoning or normalising the issue. Instead, we can work towards a world where we are in a better position to deal with the reality of the issue. Paedophilia has always existed, and always will. Flippantly dismissing it as an aberration helps no one.
When we start to scratch below their scary surface, even the worst killers turn out to be human beings. And, looking at the data, it seems that human beings largely kill for the same reasons that they do many other things – to find human connections, to protect their families, to achieve their goals, to acquire things they think they need. They do it to deal with basic human emotions like anger and jealousy, lust and greed, betrayal and pride...If your murder fantasies were deeper, and you had less to lose, you too might act on them.
When we understand what leads to harm, we can begin to fight against it. This involves taking action to stop harm, fighting against our own urges to do harm, and helping people who have done harm to get better. And whatever we stand for, fight for, feel for, we must never dehumanise people.
“Los actos malvados no son necesariamente los hechos de hombres malvados, sino que pueden ser atribuibles a la operación de poderosas fuerzas sociales… saber cuán fácilmente nos deslizamos hacia los malos comportamientos, alentados por los grupos en los que trabajamos, puede ayudarnos a detectar y detener nuestra propia radicalización”
"No existen fenómenos morales, sino solo una interpretación moral de los fenómenos" Nietzsche
“… los humanos matan en gran medida por las mismas razones por las que hacen muchas otras cosas. Para encontrar una conexión humana, para proteger a sus familias, para lograr sus metas, para conseguir las cosas que creen necesitar. Lo hacen para lidiar con emociones tan básicas como la ira y los celos, la lujuria y la codicia, la traición y el orgullo”
“Las cosas que a menudo llamamos malas son parte de la experiencia humana. Puede que no nos gusten las consecuencias, pero las tendencias humanas no son inherentemente buenas ni malas, simplemente son… el fundamento de muchas de las cosas que nos llevan a hacer daño también nos lleva a hacer cosas de las que se beneficia la sociedad”
... Think about the worst thing you have ever done. Something that you are probably ashamed of, and that you know would make other people think less of you. Infidelity. Theft. Lying. Now imagine that everyone knew about it. Judged you for it. Constantly called you names arising from it. How would that feel?
We would hate for the world to forever judge us based on the acts we most regret. Yet this is what we do to others every day. For our own decisions we see the nuances, the circumstances, the difficulties. For others we often just see the outcome of their decisions. This leads us to define human beings, in all their complexity, by a single heinous term. Murderer. Rapist. Thief. Liar. Psychopath. Paedophile.
These are labels bestowed on others, based on our perception of who they must be, given their behaviour. A single word intended to summarise someone’s true character and to disparage it, to communicate to others that this person cannot be trusted. This person is harmful. This person is not really a person at all – rather some sort of horrible aberration. An aberration with whom we should not try to empathise because they are so hopelessly bad that we will never be able to understand them. Such people are beyond understanding, beyond saving, evil. (Introduction)
[But marking a] distinction [between the good "us" and evil "them"] is not only adverse for discourse and understanding, it is also fundamentally incorrect. We may think that our labelling of others as evil or bad is rational, and our behaviour towards such individuals justified, but the distinction may be more trivial than we expect. I want to help you explore the similarities between the groups of people you consider evil and yourself, and to engage with a critical mind to try and understand them.
Our reactions to deviance may ultimately tell us less about others and more about ourselves. In this book I want to encourage a curiosity, an exploration of what evil is and the lessons we can learn from science to better understand humanity’s dark side. I want you to ask questions, I want you to be hungry for knowledge, and I want to feed your hunger. Come with me on a journey to uncover the science of your living nightmares.
Let me help you find your evil empathy. (Introduction)
I really dislike typologies that try to label people who have committed murder based on the crime scenes they leave behind, or their perceived subconscious motivations – ‘By golly, I think this murderer is motivated by power. He probably still lives with his mum. Clearly, he is a deranged psychopath.’ I partially blame TV shows for making it seem that this kind of offender-profiling is interesting or useful – I think it is neither.
However, I do rather like a functional typology. In this regard, what researchers Albert Roberts and colleagues put together in a paper published in 2007 bears examination ... [which basically states in academese that murderers commit crimes for very complicated reasons.]* (Chapter 2)
[Archer's point about gender roles] brings me to my point of contention with evolutionary theories of aggression and murder. They can quite readily be used to argue ‘Well, that’s just how men are.’ To counter this, first of all, humans have the capacity for inhibition. This means men can choose to not act aggressively. Predispositions don’t make some people commit murder; their own decisions do that. It’s a bit like the idea that guns don’t kill people, people do. Second, maybe men murder more because society raises boys to be more disinhibited, aggressive and physically active than girls.
There is ample research on this, and I also have a relevant story that I want to share. I had a friend when I was growing up in Canada. Our status as best friends was consolidated on the first day of Grade 3, when she gave me a colourful bangle and declared that we would be friends for ever. Even though she lived almost an hour away, my parents regularly drove me to see her for playdates. On one such playdate it was her tenth birthday. We had been told to wait in her bedroom until we were called. We were excited about what her parents had planned. They called us after what seemed like an eternity, and we came running into the living room, delighted to find a pile of beautifully wrapped presents waiting for my friend.
Despite her excitement, she sat down obediently on the couch adjacent to the pile, waiting for her parents to allow her to proceed. Before she could even open the first one, her five-year-old brother stormed into the pile and started tearing the presents apart. There was gift wrap everywhere. My friend couldn’t contain her disappointment and started crying, while her parents sat by idly, clearly amused by the spectacle. They never interfered. My friend was devastated for weeks. Even at the time I recognised the double standard. It was my introduction to misogyny.
Whenever people say that boys will be boys, that sexist comments are just locker-room talk, or that men are just naturally more violent than women, I think of stories like this one. Society often gives too much leeway to destructive, aggressive and violent actions carried out by men. This is bad for women, like my friend whose birthday was ruined, but it might be even worse for men. When we rationalise male aggression as natural and normal, we accept that men are more likely to be convicted of crimes, end up in prison, and be victimised by other men. But why should our prisons be filled with men? Is this not a disastrous situation for males? Gender inequality in how we educate boys and girls on violence and aggression is hugely problematic. If we want violence and murder rates to go down, this is something we can, and must, change. (Chapter 2)
In 2017, lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) relationships were still a criminal offence in seventy-four countries ... [But just] because they aren’t visible or accepted, it doesn’t mean they don’t exist.
Does it make you furious that LGBTQIPA+ individuals are treated as criminals? Or, even worse, as non-existent? Are you intolerant of other people’s intolerance, because we aren’t like that? It can be easy to villainise those who villainise others. I, for example, am intolerant of people who are homophobic. But it is also important to discuss issues that are dear to us with people who disagree with us. Even if there is just a greater understanding won, from either side, such discussions can help to humanise and destigmatise. In particular, minority and underprivileged groups can benefit from voices added to the discussion, someone sticking up for them. (Chapter 5)
[But even] in a society that claims to be ‘OK’ with LGBTQIPA+ individuals, coming out is hard. I am an advocate for the LGBTQIPA+ community, but rarely do I feel comfortable sharing my own sexuality. And as someone who presents as totally hetero-normative, my sexuality is also never called into question. She’s feminine-looking, of course she’s straight.
I am part of a particular group of people who are fetishised by the heterosexual community, but also don’t feel like they quite belong in the queer community. According to my own experience, and two researchers who study this, Milaine Alarie and Stephanie Gaudet, members of my group are often told that ‘it’s just a phase’, that I am being ‘greedy’, or even that I’m ‘doing it for the attention of men’. I am part of a mostly invisible group. A sexual orientation that heterosexuals rate more negatively than being homosexual, and that homosexuals rate more negatively than being heterosexual.
And, you know what? Fuck invisibility.
I am bisexual. (Chapter 5)
I’m the first ‘openly’ bisexual person most of my students have ever met. And in return I can see the strength build in my LGBTQIPA+ students, the sense of community and safety, the desire to tell their own stories. Some for the first time. It’s beautiful. (Chapter 5)
We fear that which we do not know. Be brave. Only transparency can help elicit the cultural change that we need.
Let the rainbow flag soar. (Chapter 5)
And whatever we stand for, fight for, feel for, we must never dehumanise each other. (Conclusion)
In the world, everyone knows enough to pursue what he does not know, but no one knows enough to pursue what he already knows. Everyone knows enough to condemn what he takes to be no good, but no one knows enough to condemn what he has already taken to be good. (Zhuangzi)
People all seek to know what they do not know yet; they ought rather to seek to know what they know already.