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The Xanthippe Factor: How Can Couples Overcome Today`s Challenges
If you are in a relationship, before or during marriage, The Xanthippe Factor is a book you will want to read
The Xanthippe Factor deals with the relationship between men and women in marriage. It examines what happens to love in the various stages of the relationship, why so many men and women are unhappy with their marriages, and what can be done to make long lasting and loving relations that fit the world in which we live.
The Xanthippe Factor argues that marriage has remained largely unchanged since the time of the famous Greek philosopher Socrates and his wife Xanthippe without adapting to the modern complexities of life in general and marriage in particular.
Acquire important insights and tools for improving your relationship!The book confronts the reader with basic questions about the relationships between men and women in marriage: i.e., role division, parenting, sex, and disagreements - and provides insights, solutions, and tools about how couples can overcome marriage pitfalls and improve their relationships.
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Published December 1, 2018
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December 2, 2017
ספר מדהים ומרתק. קריאת חובה לכולם. במיוחד לגברים.
December 22, 2017
I took umbrage at the title, but as much as I hate the idea of being called Xanthippe, she has many valid points in this book. She speaks from a female perspective about the challenges having a child brings into a relationship and why women feel isolated and put upon by their partners. The onerous role of child rearing is still mostly a woman's domain and her career usually takes a set back that is hard to recover from. Even though there have been great strides towards better equality in child rearing there is still a long distance to go, which i believe everyone will benefit from.
October 20, 2018
Our relationships with our partners start in our childhood in a subconscious way. It more or less picks our partners.
Xsnthippe Factor takes us through a journey through patterns in relationships. There are different levels in all relationships, each level comes with its own set of challenges and solutions. We just have to listen and talk about what we want or what we expect. Otherwise we become someone we don't want to be.
This book is for all couples, from the beginnings, to the middle, to the elder age. Each person in a relationship reading this book will see yourself, in one way or another. It is emotional and it invites changes to relationships no matter what stage.
Xsnthippe Factor takes us through a journey through patterns in relationships. There are different levels in all relationships, each level comes with its own set of challenges and solutions. We just have to listen and talk about what we want or what we expect. Otherwise we become someone we don't want to be.
This book is for all couples, from the beginnings, to the middle, to the elder age. Each person in a relationship reading this book will see yourself, in one way or another. It is emotional and it invites changes to relationships no matter what stage.
October 29, 2018
Acquire important insights and tools for improving your relationship...
Intimacy is what we all truly would like to have, not just a relationship. What if true intimacy is achieved only when all the barriers are down and there are no judgments in between? Dr. Sara Breslerman deals with the relationship between men and women in marriage. She examines ‘what happens to love in the various stages of the relationship, why so many men and women are unhappy with their marriages, and what can be done to make long lasting and loving relations that fit the world in which we live.’
There’s no doubt that this author is very knowledgeable in her field. Though, Just like any book, there are disagreements about its perspectives. You can use what you need to use. You can throw away what you don’t need to use. The Xanthippe Factor is a buffet of ideas.
I recommend it to anyone who wants to live more a sensible, joyful and happy life. Just read it and see whether it will change your point of view on relationships or not. A well-deserved five stars.
Intimacy is what we all truly would like to have, not just a relationship. What if true intimacy is achieved only when all the barriers are down and there are no judgments in between? Dr. Sara Breslerman deals with the relationship between men and women in marriage. She examines ‘what happens to love in the various stages of the relationship, why so many men and women are unhappy with their marriages, and what can be done to make long lasting and loving relations that fit the world in which we live.’
There’s no doubt that this author is very knowledgeable in her field. Though, Just like any book, there are disagreements about its perspectives. You can use what you need to use. You can throw away what you don’t need to use. The Xanthippe Factor is a buffet of ideas.
I recommend it to anyone who wants to live more a sensible, joyful and happy life. Just read it and see whether it will change your point of view on relationships or not. A well-deserved five stars.
February 8, 2019
It is definitely a very good book for couples. I recommend the book for sure and found it inspiring and worth reading.
The book gives a lot of knowledge and insights about what happens between men and women in a long relationship.
Very readable and interesting.
November 23, 2018
Xanthippe was the second wife of Socrates, one of the founders of western philosophy.
Israeli author Dr. Sara Breslerman (Ph.D., University of Haifa) is a family and couples therapist and researcher and has won recognition for her extensive research on the problematic relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. In The Xanthippe Factor Dr. Breslerman examines a common phenomenon whereby women change after marriage and especially after the birth of children. In her own unique, personal voice, she gives readers the opportunity to observe themselves in the more challenging stages of marriage and to find ways to navigate through the pitfalls of matrimony. Dr. Breslerman won recognition for her extensive research on the problematic relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.
For starters the Xanthippe Syndrome is a phenomenon in which soft, loving women become nagging, critical, dominating women in their relationship as well as within their family.
In the Introduction Dr Eli Katz states ‘Much has changed during the last forty years in which I have studied the topic of parenthood. The “new father” was born, the mother gained more power than ever before, and yet the institution of marriage is only being more undermined, leaving us with angry women and depressed men. Why is this happening? Are there any solutions? This important book, The Xanthippe Factor, makes us confront the essential questions that we often try to escape. We try to escape through stupid jokes about the domineering woman or the helpless man standing before her. This book makes men look in the mirror and ask themselves: “What am I doing wrong? How did it happen that my wife turned into a different woman? Could I have prevented the change in the woman that I fell in love with? And if a change has already happened – how can I cope with it?” “What’s happening here?” needs to also be asked by women. “Why is our relationship no longer working like it once did? Why am I so angry and critical? How did we go from being a loving couple to two people who are staying together mainly because of the children?” It’s not easy to look inwards, sometimes it even arouses resistance and is discouraging – but The Xanthippe Factor stays optimistic throughout its entirety because the author believes in and values relationships, mainly with the hope that if husbands and wives modify their standpoint and listen to one another, they will once again find their way back to the same love and companionship that made them choose one another in the first place.’
What Sara shares in this illuminating book is a warm counseling session about the changes that occur in long term relationships. She offers her thoughts by sharing her own life experiences and then examines what happens to love in the various stages of the relationship, why so many men and women are unhappy with their marriages, and what can be done to make long lasting and loving relations that fit the world in which we live. She confronts us with basic questions about the relationships between men and women in marriage: i.e., role division, parenting, sex, and disagreements - and provides insights, solutions, and tools about how couples can overcome marriage pitfalls and improve their relationships.
A manual for everyone who wants a solid lasting relationship. Highly recommended
Israeli author Dr. Sara Breslerman (Ph.D., University of Haifa) is a family and couples therapist and researcher and has won recognition for her extensive research on the problematic relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. In The Xanthippe Factor Dr. Breslerman examines a common phenomenon whereby women change after marriage and especially after the birth of children. In her own unique, personal voice, she gives readers the opportunity to observe themselves in the more challenging stages of marriage and to find ways to navigate through the pitfalls of matrimony. Dr. Breslerman won recognition for her extensive research on the problematic relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.
For starters the Xanthippe Syndrome is a phenomenon in which soft, loving women become nagging, critical, dominating women in their relationship as well as within their family.
In the Introduction Dr Eli Katz states ‘Much has changed during the last forty years in which I have studied the topic of parenthood. The “new father” was born, the mother gained more power than ever before, and yet the institution of marriage is only being more undermined, leaving us with angry women and depressed men. Why is this happening? Are there any solutions? This important book, The Xanthippe Factor, makes us confront the essential questions that we often try to escape. We try to escape through stupid jokes about the domineering woman or the helpless man standing before her. This book makes men look in the mirror and ask themselves: “What am I doing wrong? How did it happen that my wife turned into a different woman? Could I have prevented the change in the woman that I fell in love with? And if a change has already happened – how can I cope with it?” “What’s happening here?” needs to also be asked by women. “Why is our relationship no longer working like it once did? Why am I so angry and critical? How did we go from being a loving couple to two people who are staying together mainly because of the children?” It’s not easy to look inwards, sometimes it even arouses resistance and is discouraging – but The Xanthippe Factor stays optimistic throughout its entirety because the author believes in and values relationships, mainly with the hope that if husbands and wives modify their standpoint and listen to one another, they will once again find their way back to the same love and companionship that made them choose one another in the first place.’
What Sara shares in this illuminating book is a warm counseling session about the changes that occur in long term relationships. She offers her thoughts by sharing her own life experiences and then examines what happens to love in the various stages of the relationship, why so many men and women are unhappy with their marriages, and what can be done to make long lasting and loving relations that fit the world in which we live. She confronts us with basic questions about the relationships between men and women in marriage: i.e., role division, parenting, sex, and disagreements - and provides insights, solutions, and tools about how couples can overcome marriage pitfalls and improve their relationships.
A manual for everyone who wants a solid lasting relationship. Highly recommended
December 19, 2018
She did a good job of reviewing the literature and descibing the problem, but she did not tell us how couples can overcome the problem.
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