Това да съзнавате и да можете да контролирате емоциите си е един от ключовете за успех в живота в професионален и личен план. Този приятелско написан наръчник ще ви помогне да разберете вашите чувства и как да ги управлявате, вместо да ги оставите да ви контролират. Чрез практични, доказани техники и полезни упражнения ще откриете как можете да увеличите вашата увереност, да изграждате по-здрави взаимоотношения с партньора, семейството и приятелите си, а и да намерите искрено щастие.
В книгата: управлявайте вашите емоции; разпознавайте чувствата си, определяйте какви вярвания причиняват отрицателни емоции и спрете със саморазрушителното поведение; открийте силата на емпатията; разчитайте емоциите на другите хора чрез мимически издайнически жестове и език на тялото и им показвайте, че разбирате чувствата им; преуспявайте на работа; намерете работа, която е подходяща за вас, преодолейте суматохите и страховете и развийте лидерските си умения; изграждайте и поддържайте стойностни връзки; разберете как да усещате емоционалната температура на партньора си и управлявайте емоциите си, за да се сближите; отгледайте емоционално интелигентно дете; запазвайте самообладание пред детето, изкарвайте срамежливите деца от черупките им и накарайте детето си да бъде по-малко агресивно и предизвикателно.
Отворете книгата и открийте: науката зад емоционалната интелигентност; упражнения, които ще ви помогнат да превърнете отрицателните емоции в положителни; начини за потушаване на напрегнати ситуации; как да подобрите представянето си на работа; защо емоционално интелигентните места за работа са по-продуктивни; четирите разковничета към продължителни взаимоотношения; кои битки си струват и кога да запазвате мълчание; как да помогнете на детето си да бъде емоционално осъзнато.
These for dummies books where everywhere when I was growing up in the late 90s and early 2000s. They’re always great to help you along and whatever hobby or interest grab at the time. Internet may have been homes, but that didn’t mean had the resources to help you with everything you need to know. Then and now they do never had the trusted resource that you can count on in these for dummies books. But since these books read as a first step lot of the times it kind of takes away from the reins be earned reading these books nowadays.
I found a large chuck of information in this was standard knowledge that could be easily need to verify if it is confirmed by expert or not. Stuff like the breathe the method wall extremely helpful can be explained in the quick Google search of how to calm yourself when mad I didn’t need to stay a long portion of the book diving into these minor parts.
I still think for dummies are great and is resource I should use more often. But I can easily see now why these books are not nearly as popular as they once were.
Good start but over indulged into EQ for various specific conditions (too much detail for me) also little scattered and many facets overlapped and intertwined
Anders dan de klassieker van Daniel Goleman over emotionele intelligentie, is dit geen theoretisch boek maar wel een werkboek. Je leest dit stukje bij stukje en doet ondertussen oefeningen om je emotionele intelligentie (nog verder) te verbeteren. Emotionele intelligentie (EI) helpt je om beter met mensen om te gaan, en ook om productiever te zijn op het werk. Het boek is in verschillende delen opgesplitst. In het eerste leer je wat emotionele intelligentie is, en in het tweede deel dring je tot de kern van het begrip, en de verschillende componenten ervan. Deel drie gaat over emotionele intelligentie op het werk, emotioneel intelligent leidinggeven, en een emotioneel intelligent team samenstellen. Het vierde deel gaat over het gebruiken van je emotionele intelligentie in relaties, je eigen EI gebruiken bij het opvoeden van kinderen en het zelf emotioneel intelligent maken van je kind. Tenslotte geeft deel vijf nog eens een overzicht van alle componenten van EI die in het boek aan bod kwamen. De opzet van het boek betekent ook dat je dit boek niet snel uit hebt. Nadat je de tekst helemaal hebt gelezen, moet je er mee aan de slag. Het boek raadt je aan om een dagboek bij te houden met je emotionele ervaringen. Wil je echt aan je emotionele intelligentie werken, met boek en dagboek bij de hand, ben je één à twee maanden op weg, wat immers de gemiddelde tijd is die je nodig hebt om aspecten van je gedrag te veranderen.
Na eerst het boek van Goleman gelezen te hebben, vind ik dit een veel duidelijker en praktischer boek.
Emotional Intelligence For Dummies by Steven J. Stein is a thorough, insightful, and practical guide that demystifies the concept of emotional intelligence (EI), offering both theory and actionable strategies for applying EI in everyday life. As part of the highly respected "For Dummies" series, this book is designed to make complex psychological concepts easily accessible, using straightforward language, real-life examples, and step-by-step instructions to enhance readers' emotional intelligence in a variety of personal and professional settings.
The Core Concept of Emotional Intelligence At its core, emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive, understand, manage, and regulate emotions in oneself and others. Unlike traditional cognitive intelligence (IQ), which is based on logical reasoning and problem-solving, emotional intelligence encompasses how well individuals recognize and manage their emotions and the emotions of those around them. Stein explains that developing emotional intelligence is vital to creating strong interpersonal relationships, improving professional performance, and achieving personal well-being.
Stein breaks down EI into five essential components:
Self-awareness – Recognizing and understanding your own emotions and how they impact your thoughts and actions.
Self-regulation – The ability to control or redirect disruptive emotions and impulses, fostering adaptability and resilience.
Motivation – Being driven to achieve goals for reasons beyond external rewards, such as inner fulfillment and personal growth.
Empathy – Understanding and sharing the feelings of others, which aids in forming meaningful relationships and communication.
Social skills – Managing relationships to move people in desired directions, whether in leading teams, negotiating, or resolving conflicts.
These components serve as the backbone of the book, and throughout its chapters, Stein provides practical tools to build and improve these emotional skills.
In-Depth Breakdown of Each Component Self-Awareness and Self-Regulation The first step in cultivating emotional intelligence is increasing self-awareness. In this section, Stein emphasizes the importance of knowing your emotions, the triggers behind them, and their effects on your thoughts and behavior. To improve self-awareness, Stein suggests techniques such as journaling, mindfulness practices, and regular self-reflection. He also stresses the significance of becoming comfortable with negative emotions such as anger, anxiety, or sadness and learning how to face and understand them rather than suppress or ignore them.
Self-regulation is equally important, and this section introduces strategies for controlling one's emotional responses. Stein explains how to manage impulsive reactions and emotional outbursts, which can derail relationships and work environments. He provides methods for calming the mind, including cognitive reframing (changing the way you think about a situation), deep breathing exercises, and focusing on solutions rather than problems.
Motivation and Empathy Motivation in the emotional intelligence context isn't just about external rewards; it’s about being driven by intrinsic goals and the desire for personal growth. Stein connects motivation to a greater sense of purpose, emphasizing how emotionally intelligent people align their actions with long-term values rather than short-term gratification. The chapter on motivation encourages readers to identify their true passions and find ways to pursue meaningful work and relationships, even when external rewards (such as money or recognition) are not forthcoming.
The concept of empathy is explored as the ability to not just feel for others but to truly understand their perspective. Stein highlights how empathy is crucial in building rapport and trust in relationships. He provides readers with tools to develop their empathetic skills, including active listening, being fully present in conversations, and learning how to interpret nonverbal cues such as body language and facial expressions. The importance of empathy extends beyond personal relationships and is especially powerful in the workplace, where emotional intelligence fosters cooperation and teamwork.
Developing Social Skills Social skills are essential for building and maintaining positive relationships, whether in a personal or professional setting. Stein addresses how effective communication, conflict resolution, and teamwork are all enhanced by emotional intelligence. Readers are encouraged to develop the ability to influence others positively, handle disagreements constructively, and create an environment of respect and understanding.
One of the critical social skills discussed is active listening, which is about paying attention not just to the words being spoken but also to the emotions behind them. Stein underscores how mastering active listening leads to better communication, reduced misunderstandings, and the ability to forge deeper connections with others. Moreover, managing social dynamics such as giving and receiving feedback, negotiating, and resolving conflicts are explored in detail, providing readers with concrete strategies to navigate various social scenarios.
Real-Life Applications While the book is structured to explain the theory and components of emotional intelligence, Stein ensures that readers can immediately apply the principles to their everyday lives. The book is packed with practical exercises, self-assessments, and tips that guide readers in developing their EI. For example, there are quizzes to evaluate your emotional competencies, journaling exercises to improve self-reflection, and role-playing scenarios to practice social skills and conflict resolution.
Stein also highlights the importance of EI in specific contexts, particularly the workplace. The book provides insights into how emotional intelligence can enhance leadership, improve teamwork, boost productivity, and create healthier organizational cultures. It gives examples of how emotionally intelligent leaders tend to be more successful in managing stress, inspiring others, and making thoughtful decisions. In personal relationships, EI helps readers better understand and connect with family members, friends, and romantic partners.
Emotional Intelligence and Personal Growth Another fascinating aspect of Emotional Intelligence For Dummies is its connection to personal growth and well-being. The book offers strategies for becoming more emotionally resilient, improving mental health, and fostering a more positive outlook on life. By focusing on self-awareness and emotional regulation, readers can learn to navigate stress, anxiety, and difficult emotions, which are part of every human experience. Stein connects emotional intelligence with increased self-esteem, emotional stability, and an overall sense of life satisfaction.
The book also explains how emotional intelligence can help individuals become more successful parents by teaching them to recognize their children’s emotional needs and respond appropriately. Whether navigating the challenges of raising emotionally intelligent children or dealing with the emotional needs of your spouse or coworkers, the book provides insights into improving communication, setting boundaries, and creating supportive environments.
Reception and Critique Emotional Intelligence For Dummies has been well-received by readers for its accessible writing style, relatable examples, and practical advice. The "For Dummies" series is known for breaking down complex topics into easy-to-understand language, and Stein successfully does this for emotional intelligence, making the book a suitable introduction for those new to the topic.
While the book offers valuable content and practical tools, some readers may find it to be somewhat introductory if they already have a background in psychology or emotional intelligence. For more advanced readers, the book may not offer as much depth on cutting-edge research or techniques. However, for those seeking a solid foundation and real-world application of emotional intelligence, this book is an excellent resource.
Conclusion Emotional Intelligence For Dummies by Steven J. Stein is an insightful and highly practical guide to understanding and developing emotional intelligence. Whether you’re looking to enhance your personal relationships, boost your professional success, or improve your mental well-being, this book offers essential tools and strategies to do so. Stein’s accessible writing and real-world examples make emotional intelligence less of a buzzword and more of a tangible skill that can be cultivated to improve various aspects of life. This book is an invaluable resource for anyone eager to enhance their emotional awareness and create stronger, more meaningful connections with others.
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Emotional Intelligence is a form of intelligence that is your ability to empathize with people and read their emotions and adapt accordingly. This is a relatively new branch of psychology and although society tends to measure intelligence in terms of academic performance there are quite a few other branches of intelligence, many of which are often largely. Another example of intelligence is spatial intelligence which is the ability to judge things in relation to your body and often comes into being good at sport. People with a low emotional intelligence are more prone to divorce and problems in general with getting along with people. To a certain extent you can work on and improve emotional intelligence but it is partially innate and is also influenced by childhood experiences, in particular whether or not your parents encouraged you to develop at what you were good at. At one time psychologists thought it was important to experience extreme emotions as part of your development but they think the ability to read emotions in other people is more important. There is a website at http://pearsonassessments.com where you can test your emotional intelligence in various tests. I haven't looked at the site as yet but it is mentioned in the book. A lot of companies use personality tests on potential employees and made big savings in staff turnover. Often a company has to train someone to do a job which costs money and if they can retain that person in that job they are saving money. Also many careers advisory centres use these tests to help people find the right career. I did really enjoy this book & I think it's an interesting topic.
Useful guide for understanding Emotional Intelligence. I suggest this for anyone who'd like to learn more about how to interact with different types of people. There are many who are in need of support, but you can better help if you know how to approach each person individually.
I had to read this book for a class, but I believe there's a lot of useful information that just about anyone seeking to strengthen their relationships (work, home or otherwise) could benefit from. Not my usual reading, but it can be done in small spurts.
Recognizing an emotionally unintelligent person: people with low emotional intelligence have a scarce awareness. They don't realize not being in harmony with their surrounding. They have no idea how to face others. They have no self-control, no social abilities, lack empathy. This kind of person is an enemy for himself. Often, they are unhappy and have no ability to solve their problems. Generally, unintelligent people: become angry, or anxious, without even knowing why. They tend to ignore the impression they make, not understanding other's feelings. They are egocentric, they lose control. They hardly can maintain their relationships. Emotional Intelligence is centered on the ability to manage your own like other people's emotions. You can be an intelligent person without having emotional awareness, empathy, or social abilities. Areas and factors of emotional and social intelligence: Interpersonal, self-awareness, independence, self-esteem, empathy, social responsibility, relationships, adaptability, stress management, mood, optimism, happiness.
I listened to this as an audiobook. I think that the Dummies genre is better read in book form so that you can see the examples and skip around easily. The audio book format is a bit boring in the for this content and how it might be best absorbed by the average reader. Now on to the content. This isn't my first book on EI. I didn't get as much from this book as I have with other books on the topic but would be a fine introduction to EI.
This book is a good overview of Emotional Intelligence and how you can increase yours. In each chapter, the author encourages you to think about and answer his questions in a journal to better yourself.
The section about identifying your emotions is the one that sticks with me the most. I will continue to review the list of emotions so that I can better understand exactly what I am feeling and how to use "rich emotional vocabulary" to describe my feelings.
Digging into your emotions can be difficult. Understanding emotions even more so. Steven J. Stein takes a deep dive into emotions in his book Emotional Intelligence for Dummies. You’ll gain an understanding of emotions and steps to become emotionally intelligent. He gives advise for handling emotions in work, life, and parenting. Check it out!
I recommend this book whether you are new to the concept of EQ or a seasoned professional. Even when we think we know a lot, there is always more to learn about EQ. I really liked the self-assessments and activities, as they are practical and relatable. Additionally, the concepts are explained in a straightforward manner, making them easy to understand without unnecessary jargon.
This book was recommended by a tutor to assist in clinical practice. I feel a lot of the suggestions were geared towards people who were perhaps not from the caring professions and made some sections feel boring as they were basic. Some good exercises and points to muse
Good book , to learn more social skills. It gives some solutions if you are a impulsive person and also a lot of tips to solve problems if you are in bad terms with friends and others.
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Generally helpful in understanding emotional intelligence! There was too much detail for my needs, but the author makes it practical for all kinds of situations.
Livre vraiment super complet, très instructif et facile à lire.
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This is a very good read on emotional intelligence. Easy to follow, many practical examples and exercises and tons of useful ideas. I have read several other books on EQ/EI including other books by the author. Of course there is a lot of overlap, but every so often there are some new and interesting points. I can recommend this book to people who want a great and easily understandable introduction to EQ. Also, there are interesting chapters on EQ in certain situations (e.g. EQ in the workplace, at home, as a parent, in intimate relationships...)
Emotional Intelligence used to be called "Emotional Regulation". It is a good therapy for people who are empaths (like me) or people with PTSD who have anger issues. It gives some good ideas on how to combat the emotions taking over your life. I learned a lot. Worth the read.