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360 pages, Paperback
First published October 13, 2015
We have to do things that are hard to feel fully human, to feel we have accomplished and that we have achieved. But in my utopia, the struggles we would experience would be more fundamental to or humanity and less tied to the accidental identities we are assigned at birth
Remember those dudes catcalling on the street? They have literally become cats (there is always room for more cats). Or, better yet, they will have stopped calling and started respecting
In my feminist utopia, the story can end here. I am able to interact with other members of my community and appreciate the splendor of a kaleidoscopic city without fear of violence. I can smile at a man and know that he feels the joy radiating from my body without the need to touch it. We can share the world's oldest hello without ever exchanging words
This is the transaction we make as women, a bargaining with fate to allow us an inch of restricted freedom, at the cost of an assumed risk. As women travelers, and women off of the grid, we are vigilant in our assessment of our environments, constantly identifying our escape hatch: if they try to ___, I will ___, with ___. The armor of observation and readiness carries us into the wild. When we go unscathed, the world around us is perceived as just. When we do not, we didn't listen and it is our fault and our fate.
If we were able to travel not as consuming tourists but as compassionate learners, we would not become war-mongering, we would not become power-hungry, and we would not become so hateful to and dominating of one another
Measure the sickness of a society by how frequently its children see their own reflections - in surfaces, photographs, PhotoBooth, iPad screens, and, subtly, but relentlessly, in software designed to learn, replicate and reinforce their behavior. A vicious cycle of self-surveillance narrows experience until there is no self left to reflect. In its place, merely the frantic scramble for confirmation of existence: I am that I look in the mirror