Pussy Prayers: Sacred and Sensual Rituals for Wild Women of Color

by Black Girl Bliss

A NEW KIND OF SEX ED. Pussy Prayers is about rekindling the connection to your pleasure center - the space through which you manifest worlds - regardless of the body parts you do or don't have. These pages speak to the unique sexual experiences of Black women and femmes in order to help them heal from trauma and miseducation while learning how to powerfully conjure up a life that is dripping with sweetness - all by getting in touch with the one part of yourself that was divinely designed for pleasure. Here, you'll find stories, sister-girl-talk, and practical, easy-to-do rituals to begin your personal journey of understanding the importance of pleasure, its connection to manifestation, and ways to increase your personal power so you can enjoy #EverydayDeliciousness. BLACK GIRL BLISS is an educational platform dedicated to cultivating the spiritual, sexual, and self-care practices of Black women and femmes. Learn more at BlackGirlBliss.com

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Spirituality, Personal Development, Feminism

243 pages, Paperback

Published October 24, 2018

Reviews

[KBeautiful1 · Rating 5 out of 5]

I had no idea what I was expecting when I purchased this book. I got it because of the title which I felt was bold and in your face and a book about our bodies by a Black Woman was the deal sealer for me.

P*ssy Prayers is a book about taking back full ownership of your body (specifically your heartbeat that is between your thighs). The speaks on all topics from trauma to pleasure and everything in between. I liked how she stated that her book is not a replacement for treatment whether it be for therapy or medical issues.

The author has laid out the book in such a way that it is not overwhelming, it is bite-sized and even the way she laid it out, makes it very approachable. She has also included resources for each thing that she talked about regarding our P*ssies (side note this is the word that she used and does not deviate from it LOL!!!).

There is a lot of good information in it and basically, you take what you need, what will benefit you. This is a book that I know I will come back and read again because it is extremely helpful and eye-opening.

I look forward to reading the other book by this author which is called "Please: Radical Self-Care for Wild Women of Color" I will get to it soon.

Well Until My Next Review...Ciao!

[Brandy Nelson · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a great read. The title captures your attention and the content will keep it. This book is about women valuing their buddies, not being ashamed of it, exploring it and embracing it sexual and non sexually.

[ABAgail · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book gets 10 stars from me!! It truly resonates with me. It acknowledge the power to manifest and truly live a life of pleasure and revel in all if the beauty and emotions that life has to offer. It's a quick read, but so very powerful!

[JayleePlanz · Rating 5 out of 5]

Definitely recommend ladies to have this book in their collection. And I enjoyed the pressure points at the end of each chapter.

[Trisha Kissez · Rating 5 out of 5]

I completed reading this book in abut three days. I had a hard time putting down this book. This book help me understand the power that is inside of us as woman. And how powerful are pussies are. I still use the books because of the rituals and also the great affirmations. Anyone who reads this book you should purchase it because you would want to refer back to it.

[Britannica Reads · Rating 4 out of 5]

Informative

This book is an easier approach to learning information about your womb wellness from an african perspective. It’s very enlightening to newbies on the journey to healing. I would recommend to anyone black woman in search of healing.

[reading mom · Rating 5 out of 5]

Went into this book with no expectations at all! I enjoyed how authentic it was.

Also I reflected at the end of each chapter and I pulled alot from myself.

[Brittany · Rating 5 out of 5]

I meannnn...listen.

The fact that I can read a book with this title means your girl has come a long way in her sexuality and sexual expression. This is something that I NEEDED in my teens and early 20's but fear of retribution and what God and my parents would think of me would have had me avoiding a book like this back then.

However, better late than never. I highly recommend this one for people who identify as a woman. It's special. There is homework. There may be tears shed and eyebrows raised because if you're like me, you've never thought to connect with yourself in this way. This book makes space for it and doesn't judge those of us who weren't born as free or could be as free growing up. I will absolutely be suggesting this one for any future book clubs that I'm in.

My favorite part? The inclusion of queer women. I'm always hesitant to read books like this because it is typically written for a heteronomative lens and I'm happy to say this ain't that.

Now that I've typed up this review, I gotta do the homework. The book comes with a PDF of discussion questions that you can do solo or alongside a group. I feel like not doing the work after reading will be doing myself a huge disservice.

Read. Learn. Free Yourself. Give to someone else.

[Kevin Owagah]

For me, the title was captivating but it read like a self help book on life albeit the writer playing witty and replacing life/self with pussy. Or maybe I was the wrong gender for the book. But women are being advised to listen to their juicy juju. If it says don't go out today, don't! Who knows, it could be helping you avoid an accident. Your pussy only wants the best for you and the people who love you. And again, there is this:

"When you have to decide something or are wondering what you should do to remain in your power and on the path to pleasure, ask your pussy. Greet her, praise her, lay hands on her and simply ask what it is you’re thinking about. Listen to her and remember what comes up. Follow her lead. It could be as simple as what you should eat or what you should wear, or as complex as if you should stay in your current home or choose a certain job. Allow your pussy to remind you to be bold. Let pleasure guide you. "

I think the writer was by large into attention by sprinkling the name 'pussy' unnecessarily in the book. But it's not that flat if you replace that name with 'self.' You could end up with a self help read. Even as a man.

[Rell · Rating 4 out of 5]

Fantastic little book, but I wasn’t really sure how to review it without coming off as having a bias. When I initially started reading this book I almost closed it and placed it to my “Maybe I’ll try it again pile” because the author came off as a hater of men, but I decided to give it another chapter to see if it changed my mind and it did. I’m so happy that I continued to read it, it’s a book on empowerment, rediscovering/discovering who you are as a divine woman. It opened a lot of things in me that I had forgotten about, and although I consider myself to be a very open, loving, and teaching Mother; I was still able to take somethings away with me that opened conversation between myself and my preteen daughter.

Initially I saw in the book the same as many others except for saying womb it says Pussy, but the truth is it’s a lot more than that. It’s a quick read and it’s an important read.

[Telia Teanna · Rating 4 out of 5]

Honestly, I have no idea how the hell I found this book or when I bought it, but it caught my attention and I read it all the way through in one sitting lol.

This book is definitely for the open-minded and more spiritual. I don't think anyone who has strong religious views would like this book every much.

If you are easily offended by the word pussy, this book is not for you. The word is on every page several times lol. I loved that, I mean look at the title lol.

I found this book to be arousing even though it's not erotic at all and is very informative. I dunno, I guess babygirl (my vagina) was appreciative of some of the ideas and agreed with the author lmao.

All in all, this was a good unexpected read for me. I didn't expect much going in, but left with a whole lot of useful information and things to think about.

[Crystal · Rating 1 out of 5]

What a disappointment! If repetition was an ENTIRE book. The first TWO chapters were an introduction to the book where the phrase “This book” was used at a minimum of 20 times. The chapters to follow were repetitive girlfriend talk that could have been summed up in one chapter. While the title offers shock and awe to pull you in...the book in its entirety is as repetitive as this sentence. If you’re 30 and over there’s nothing here that you don’t know already and or have heard before. Self-help pussy book for a young lady.

[Syvehlla · Rating 5 out of 5]

4.5 stars. Good read for younger or sexualluy immature women, or those uncomfortable with their sexuality and bodies. I read it out of curiosity and based on reviews from others. It does have great information in it. Good read for sure. And I appreciate that it suggests professional help for those deeply troubled or those who need it for whatever reason, as opposed to bashing therapy or only recommending treatments suggested in the book. Well done. 👍🏾👍🏾

[(Adri)ana | TenPieceLemonPepper · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.5 ⭐️

let me start by saying, this book has some really good gems. however, i feel like i’ve aged out of the target demographic. it definitely felt like it was written for 20 something’s and/or women who are exploring their sexuality for the first time.

…and i’m 31 and grown. so there’s that. 😂

i also skipped around because a lot of it felt repetitive towards the end. but overall, this would be a good solid read for a younger woman.

[Kelli · Rating 2 out of 5]

Not quite what I expected from this one. If you want a more thorough dive into womb health, I’d recommend The Sacred Woman by Queen Afua.

I listened to the audio and even though the word is featured in the title, I cringed every time the narrator said “pu$$y”🥴 I’m grown and in tune, but I would’ve preferred some interchangeable words now and then. I resonate with the “hey girlfriend” casual conversation tone but most of the material feels like fluff. I appreciate the herb recommendations but overall think this could’ve been better executed.

[Nakia · Rating 2 out of 5]

This might be helpful for someone in their 20s.

[Greyson · Rating 5 out of 5]

5⭐️ This book was a Wellness Community BOTM read and it is so important for people who have vulvas and/or wombs. I’m a transman and was open to learning new tools to start healing emotional and physical and mental limitations that I placed on myself. I love that this book was so valid for people of most ages. It also hits DIFFERENT when you read it with a circle of trusted individuals. Book is severely underrated. Some people may find this hedonistic if they do, its because it is. I’m a proud hedonist ❤️😄✌🏾

[T'challa · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was a great journey into connecting with your self. Understanding your feminine energy and boldly claiming your right to experience pleasure in every aspect of your life, not just sex. I love the title of the book and the freedom in freely talking about my pussy. It is a quick read but an even better nugget to chew on from time to time. Glad to have these prayers on my shelf. Power of the P ya'll!

[Joi · Rating 2 out of 5]

It should've been shorter based on the amount of valuable information shared. The writing style didn't run smooth. It is a self empowerment book that may help someone. 2 chapters about what will be in the book and how to read the book. It just wasn't for me.

[T'Keyah Vaughn · Rating 2 out of 5]

This was not my favorite book ever. It had some good ideas, but not a lot I hadn't heard before. It also promoted a few harmful ideas that I was not down with.

[Tori Visage · Rating 5 out of 5]

The perfect book for all black women to guide them to love themselves and their bodies. This book really helped me (a woman in my 30’s) to start setting boundaries for my body and standing by them.

[Mourine Marango]

Conversations on sexuality, emotions and desires are not commonplace especially in the Afrikan setting. This has encouraged shame around womanhood and all women/girls do is to find faults with their bodies.

This book focuses on helping women deal with the shame perpetuated by the patriarchal society they live in which has led them to neglect their bodies and as such failed to harness their divinity and holy femininity through their most natural and powerful pleasure centre.

It is not an extraordinary book but it gives women the snippets on how to regain their natural power and harness it for their own pleasure and that of those around them. My key takeaways are the methods of clearing energy and begin healing as well as the reminder to fully and deeply feel all the emotions in your body so as to be able to experience your truest self.

I would recommend the book for every girl/woman. However, I was disappointed by the many typos in almost every page of the book. These typos spoil the juicy flow of the book as you read through.

[meera · Rating 5 out of 5]

I loved this. It helps with undoing misogynistic and colonial conditioning women absorb about their vaginas. There were some portions I had reservations about due to a lack of Western-backed science (yoni eggs). This made me think about how Western-backed science requires interrogation as well, and about its historical brutalization of people of color. When looking closely at studies online about some of the methods discussed in this book, it made me think about how the design of studies by researchers associated with Western medicine often fail to measure holistic and natural healing by neglecting spiritual and feminine dimensions.

Overall, it was an empowering + mystical read and I loved the energy the author brought to the audiobook. It is a jarring contrast from the sterile and shameful attitudes often associated with the topic. I especially enjoyed the exercises about acknowledging the trauma that has occurred energetically to this area of the body, and opening dialogue with the vagina as a source of inner knowing.

[Melissa Agawa · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is a reclamation. It invites a return to the body, not as ornament or battleground, but as altar. The language is bold, sometimes jarring, but always intentional. It doesn’t ask for permission; it offers an invitation to remember what was never truly lost.

The rituals are practical, yet sacred — journaling, yoni steaming, affirmations — tools to reconnect with the self. It’s not about performance; it’s about presence. As noted in a review by Joi Donaldson, the book encourages readers to release shame and embrace their bodies with love and gratitude.

I didn’t follow every practice, but I didn’t need to. The power is in the offering, the space it creates for self-exploration and healing. It’s a book I’ll return to, not for instruction, but for affirmation.

[Free Ekpe · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book was alright... I guess I just expected more. I think I would have liked it better if there were more experiences described in the book, maybe experiences from other black woman. With that, I don’t understand why the author was adamant in stating that this book is specifically for black women as none of the advice or concepts seemed specific to the black woman experience. The best part of this book was part three and chapter nine of the book titled “Resources”, followed by part two and chapter eight of the book titled “Affirmations, Meditations, and Rituals”. These two chapters alone are about 40 pages and will give you all the information you need.

[Therese · Rating 3 out of 5]

Considering the fact that this book is geared toward an audience that might not be knowledgeable about their vulva’s anatomy, I think it’s important that the author present her rituals as rituals that can improve the reader’s mental or spiritual health, as opposed to rituals that can potentially improve or cure certain diagnosis (e.g. fibrosis, etc). So please, seek out professional help in conjunction to these rituals. The book is a great resource to heal the relationship between you and your vulva, but is terrible if you’re looking to “heal” your vulva.

In conclusion, your pussy is the law of attraction.

[Say · Rating 4 out of 5]

inspiring but where are the rituals

I got this book thinking there would be a list of rituals that I could use but it’s basically just resources I can look up anywhere. The book itself was inspiring and definitely healing for any women. I will keep it by my side but I guess I was hoping for a set practice. She does give you great tools and questions to ask yourself. I guess the part that gets ritualistic is creating your own practice with the resources given. I like a one stop shop when I’m reading and with this book you are required to take the information and do your own research on what’s given. Still a good read overall.

[Pearl · Rating 5 out of 5]

When a friend recommended this book, I thought it would be a collection of femininity prayers. I was wrong. The book addresses traumas that we often ignore and offers a genuinely simple yet effective approach at healing, unlearning and relearn to self love and embrace all that you are as a woman. It is a great read, definitely recommend it to any woman who feels lost and needs a different approach to who she is and could be.

[Jewels · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love a practical book and this has been one of those. I liked how the author stayed open through the book, gave practical advice, and honoured the truth she stands by. I felt at more ease when I got to see how much I relate to the author’s reflections and thus found the book to be as real as ever.

cont.: https://harpocratesden.wordpress.com/...

[Jade Alexandria · Rating 3 out of 5]

I found this to be very repetitive yet informative. The reviews that say the first two chapters are an explanation of the book are not wrong 😅. Young women who are not familiar with their femininity/sexuality may find this book as a helpful guide. In my own personal opinion, most of the content was information I already knew. However, I did enjoy the manifestations and plan to incorporate them into my own life. The PDF guide was also helpful and full of introspective questions.