When Amanda Todd’s story went viral, I had many friends tell me that she'd deserved everything that happened to her - she deserved to have been bullied, she deserved to have felt suicidal, she was outrageously stupid and gross. “Disgusting”, “insulting”, “desperate” and “slutty” were words that were thrown around from tones dripping with hatred, as if people had the right to feel personally destroyed for the simple reason being that they’d heard of the scandal. All the while I sat there, trying not to judge – but judging a little bit - being not quite sure how to feel to, minutes later, being extremely opinionated on everything wrong with the whole scandal, and all the ways people in her life had failed and misguided her.
Thousand Words is a story that will stay with me for a very long time because it did a lot to make me understand. Brown made me rethink my opinions on Amanda Todd’s parental involvement, made me reconsider my opinions on bullying, and relook where I’ve placed blame in situations like this. This book created the grey space existing between the camps of black and white, and the depth Brown uncovered in such controversial issues as sexting and unjust juvenile offense has opened my eyes and widened my mind is many great ways. For someone who has always prided herself on being liberal and accepting, Brown has shown me that there is such a multitude of points that I’ve never even taken into consideration, and that maybe there’s something wrong with the whole idea of “blame”.
Thousand Words is completely frank in its narration and characterization. Ashleigh’s character rang realistic and true for me, and her questionable responses and attitude towards the people in her life has made her story seem even more honest to me. What I really appreciated were the aspects of the book which focused on how Ashleigh’s case affected her parents’ and ex-boyfriend’s lives and reputations, and also how friendship isn’t always the easiest wheel to steer. Thousand Words offers a lot to readers, but the biggest thing, IMO, is its portrayal of lives being tempered with by such an unthinkable, unconventional situation.
This book does not preach or bias, but enlightens, and I want to put it into the hands of everyone I go to school with. In the wake of continental recognition of Amanda Todd and other stories like hers, I genuinely believe this book needs to be passed around and talked about. Sexting isn’t going away any time soon - nor are unhealthy relationships or slut-shaming – but I think that this book might help make clear, for unsure and uneasy people like me, that there are about a gazillion ways to look at something so big.
4.5 stars.
An e-ARC was provided to me from the publisher, though this fact in no way affects my review.