You can’t change the world, but you can prepare her for it.
Today’s girls face a number of challenges we never dealt with at their age. From skyrocketing anxiety rates to bullying on social media, the Enemy’s lies are everywhere. How do you help the girl you love walk in freedom?
Equip her with Truth. Dannah Gresh, author of Secret Keeper Girl and Lies Young Women Believe (coauthored with Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth) brings you Lies Girls Believe. This fun, easy-to-read book engages your daughter in the twenty most important truths she needs. She’ll help solve problems using fun sidebars and it’s packed with wisdom, quizzes, games, exploded quotes, and graphics to help her absorb the message. Prepare your daughter for the difficult challenges she’ll face in the world today with sections
Lies about GodLies about FriendshipLies about the FutureLies about Myself Lies about BoysAnd more! Lies Girls Believe is designed to help your daughter fully understand the Truth so she can live the way God meant for her to live—free!
For the best results, use the accompanying AMom’s Guide to Lies Girls Believe which invites you to critically examine the lies girls believe and discover how to set your daughter free. It also helps facilitate discussion between you and your daughter.
Dannah Gresh, a mother/daughter communication coach, has sold well over three quarters of a million copies of her books—including And the Bride Wore White and 2008's best-selling CBA youth book, Lies Young Women Believe (coauthored with Nancy Leigh DeMoss)—making her one of the most successful Christian authors targeting teens and preteens. With the belief that today's culture has been seeking to rob little girls of their innocence, Dannah has been fighting on the front lines to protect them. Her fun line of Secret Keeper Girl mom/preteen daughter connecting resources and live events that tour the country provide moms with just the right tools to fight back. She has long been at the forefront of the movement to encourage both tweens and teens to pursue purity and is often called upon to defend the conservative position of abstinence in national news media like USA Today, Time, Chicago Tribune, and Women's Wear Daily. She is also a frequent contributor to FamilyLife Today, Midday Connection, and Focus on the Family. Dannah lives in State College, Pennsylvania, with her husband, Bob, and their children, Robby, Lexi, and Autumn, whom the family adopted from China in 2007. She and her husband founded Grace Prep, a new model in Christian high school education, which Bob administrates. She is shamelessly in love with her labradoodle, Stormie. (DannahGresh.com)
I’m honestly at the point where I don’t know why I bother with books like this anymore. I guess a part of me wants to be able to give these people the benefit of the doubt, to say that even though I know their inability to look at the world without putting opinion and belief over provable and testable factual evidence exists, maybe their beliefs might not be damaging. I want to be able to develop a reasonable understanding so that I can, at the very least, see any potential good in religion.
But books like this one seriously hinder my ability to do that.
I picked this book up because it appeared to be something that would discuss important topics and injustices in our society today only to find that it was basically just a collection of manipulation tactics to shame young women into Christian belief systems and control how they view the world. This book doesn’t aim to support the intellectual pursuits of women, it doesn’t aim to provide them with skills to critically think about their world and make decisions on their own. Instead, it pushes them to very predetermined beliefs and provides underhanded connivance to dominate other people all the while purporting this ludicrous idea that it is helpful and caring.
In calling out these “lies,” Lies Girls Believe asserts its own agenda, proceeding to actually lie to its young and impressionable readers on a number of topics. In a disgusting turn of events, this book subtly attacks the LGBTQ community by arguing that there are only two “very different” genders. And this, unfortunately, is precisely how hate is spread, by teaching innocent children that others are “sinning” for being who they are. And I cannot abide by this nonsense.
The book regularly pushes rather damaging beliefs about how a woman can feel about boys, using cutesy language about how girls should not be too “boy crazy” in an underhanded way of shaming women for wanting to be involved with someone of the opposite sex in any way that does not follow the very explicit and controlling “nothing before marriage” and how women are “made to make babies.” While the book does, fortunately, say that not everyone is “meant to be” a mother, it definitely does seem to imply that such a choice is not a good one.
The fact that this book was written honestly depresses me so much. I feel awful for every young girl who reads it and falls for the nonsense it supports. And I just feel like the more I try to educate myself on the Christian religion, the more disgusted I am by it. Lies Girls Believe is a book of manipulation, control, and shaming. It pushes opinion as fact, which is basically just a giant lie in and of itself. And at the end, I find that’s rather ironic considering the entire basis that the book is supposedly following. It’s very brainwash-y and I cringed the entire time I was reading it. At the end of the day, I found it nothing short of deeply disturbing.
Hopefully, it won't reach too many impressionable people who have yet to develop the critical thinking skills and intelligence to see it for what it truly is.
I was provided a free copy of this book via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
This was an awesome book! I will totally be buying it eventually for my little sisters. I loved how Dannah used so many stories that girls who read the book can relate to, and how the book just has so much truth. The Kindle formatting was super weird and hard to read so I ended up skimming some parts, but I still think it was cute and a really good book for tween girls to read.
“Naive means not worldly-wise; inexperienced and therefore gullible.”
Young girls should be naive. I had the privilege of being naive. I wish I read this book when I was 12. I really needed it but thankfully I have a mom who helped guide me because she had read this book.
I think it is still good for me to read it, even though I have for the most part already been through all of the issues a girl has when growing up. Hopefully I can help my younger friends or if I have a daughter someday.
I was hoping this could be a positive book for my daughter but it is preachy and intended for those who are fully 100% devoted to Christianity. It is condescending to those of different faith and forces outdated thought. Which is very unfortunate because there is a handful of helpful advice sprinkled throughout the chapters.
I received a free ARC copy of this title through NetGalley in exchange for a review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
A pretty, interactive and insightful workbook that will appeal to young girls. With practical examples and activities, this is a sweet and encouraging way to tackle the issues that may harm girls in the future if they are not handled when they are young. It makes sure that there is a clear Biblical basis for the advice it gives, instead of being overly preachy, which some books in this category can be.
Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for the ARC in exchange for an honest review.
I foolishly didn't read this before my daughter. Fortunately she is mature enough to see through some of the fundamentalist junk this book provides. For example it says that if a teaches about evolution you should not watch/read it. I don't recommend reading this with girls in the 2020s. Very out of touch with reality.
This book is designed for a Christian audience. It is more conservative than my worldview in some ways, but overall is a good read. I wanted to see what it said before my daughter reads it. I think it will open the doors for conversations surrounding a lot of good topics.
We may not be able to control the things that happen to us, but the things that happen to us don't have to control us. God gives you TRUTH.
Lies come in many forms, we hear the lies from ourselves and others. This book is geared toward tweens and how a lie becomes to fester and the consequences of those lies take hold of our lives and the ones we love. The format of this text is conversational with a made up tween Zoey that can be like any other tween. A young girl that desires to be accepted and is maneuvering her way around relationships and the culture and the will of God. Each chapter begins with a lie and what Zoey is believing. Her relationships with her friends and her parents. Each lie than is lead to a truth. The lie is spelled out in that we can miss what a lie is. For example. One lie is My sin isn't that big of deal. It goes on to say how we let this lie consume our life and how we act on that lie. It then ends with a scripture and a journal entry that makes you think about that lie. i.e. Write down any sins in your life that you don't think are a big deal. After your written confession, a note from Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth and a truth nugget that will help your tween to fight off the lie
Just like in the Garden of Eden, sin starts with a lie. This is not only for your teen, but for you as well.
How we cooperate with deception. We listen to the lies, we dwell on the lie, we believe the lie and we act on the lie.
There were many helpful hints but I appreciated the importance of relationships. One being that of a daughter and mother. One helpful hint was that it can be difficult for our daughters to share with their mothers the sin they are wrestling with, the suggestion was to start a journal that you both write in. The daughter with her struggle and later the mom responds in journal form as well. This open the gate for conversation. Sometimes the hardest part is just starting. This way it gives each person time to think and ponder and respond thoughtfully and not reacting emotionally.
I highly recommend this to be read by both mother and daughter and if possible in a bible study session. It helps to see others struggle with the same issues.
A Special Thank you to Moody Publishing and Netgalley for the ARC and the opportunity to post an honest review.
I loved this book which I got for my tween girls. It’s a full-colour, glossy paged handbook for tween girls about the lies that girls tend to believe about themselves, their families, and God. This book is part of a series that includes Lies Men Believe, Lies Women Believe and Lies Young Women Believe. The book is written by two women. Nancy is the editor for all the Lies We Believe Series while Dannah has added the information specific to girls. The book is full of fun fonts, cool illustrations and lines where girls can answer questions.
For each chapter, a truth is introduced and then following is a lie that is opposite of that truth. Sometimes included is what some real girls said about that topic. Also statistics from research the authors did is included (such as 81% of girls fight with their siblings.) Truth Nuggets are dropped that counteract each lie. Real stories from real girls are included to illustrate the points.
SOME of the lies included are: God only loves me when I’m good, pretty girls are worth more, my family is sooo weird, My sin isn’t that big a deal, Boys and girls aren’t really that different, It’s okay to be boy crazy and It’s okay to be mean.
I received a copy of the book in exchange for an honest review.
I've read other books like this before as a teen and I love how it is very interactive and has pictures in it. But what I really like is how relevant this is among young girls as it is to me at my age as a working adult. Everything covered in this book was like a double edged sword through my soul and spirit. The lies we perceive to be normal really isn't what God plan for us at all.
Covered in quite detailed, Lies Girls Believe is a perfect tool to combating sin and creating a stronger relationship with God while fostering a healthy relationship with family and friends. Not that we won't sin at all after this, we are still human, but this book helps us come to a state of repentance to not repeat the same mistakes that causes embarrassment and disappointment.
The writing in this book is simple to understand. The explanations were very clear and I had nothing to question about. I would recommend young teen girls to read this book if they want to find the secret to a happy, fulfilling life.
A generous 3. There just aren't a lot of resources for girls this age and over all, this book offers some good insight. I'm not a huge DeMoss fan, so my main issues were with her contributions. The chapters on being a girl, boys, and future things should be well supplemented. They lacked a theological framework so without a basic understanding of God's plan for gender and the broader scope of how that plays into the story of scripture, these chapters could be confusing...or just legalistic. My main issues were with the more hard complementarian teachings (God made you to be a helper, God made you to have babies) but that's probably because I disagree with a lot of complementarian teaching at this point. So, with more theological framework, this book could be a helpful resource. On its own, I think it could give some wrong impressions about what it means to be a woman and how we image God as women.
I really liked this book!! It is direct and focuses on what matters. I only gave 4 stars because most of the indies written in the book were known to me, and not because someone taught me, I knew them from my own experiences.
I recommend it for girls who have gone through various problems or are facing the problems of adolescence or are at the beginning of the path in spiritual growth.
Anyway, I recommend this book to all girls because we are never fully mature and learn new things from anything.
I personally realized many things that I was doing involuntarily, I was living in different lies that seemed small to me, but that had a pretty big impact on my choices and reactions.
"You can’t change the world, but you can prepare her for it."
A few of my favorite things… -How it combats the world's lies with truth from the Bible. -The way it emphasizes the value of being a wife and a mom. -That it shares examples that are easy to understand.
I did this book as a study with a group of middle school girls. I really enjoyed it and I think the girls did too! The book outlines 20 lies and then truths and scripture to counter those lies. I believe it is important to start this truth training young!
I did think some points and writings throughout the book were stronger and others weaker, but it is overall worthwhile.
My 11 year old loved going through this book. She was so ready to talk about most of the topics. I was not 😂 but this helped identify lies and replace with truth.
I read this in a bible group with girls in my grade at church. It didn't disappoint! I loved this and it truly helps girls know that Jesus KNOWS they are beautiful.❤️❤️❤️
Dannah Gresh, author of Secret Keeper Girl and Lies Young Women Believe, takes her message to girls ages 9 to 12, addressing the lies that start young. The enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy. And what's his primary weapon? Lies... using our mindsets... beliefs. In today's society, these lies come younger and younger. And while we can't keep our girls from the world, we can prepare them for it.
Fun, engaging, and easy to read, Lies Girls Believe follows Zoey, a typical preteen girl trying to make good decisions in her every day life. Along the way, the reader is asked to weigh in on Zoey's choices on a range of topics, each connected to 20 truths important for today's girls. Girls will see the consequences of Zoey's actions, as well as have a chance to reflect on how they would react in a similar situation. Filled with questions, graphics, games, highlighted quotes, etc, Lies Girls Believe is an enjoyable read and well-written to the preteen audience. This book would be well-read with A Mom's Guide to Lies Girls Believe. Stay tuned for that review coming soon.
*Disclaimer: I received a free copy of this book from the publisher. All opinions are my own.
In today’s society, it is so important that we show our girls the truth about themselves. The world will fill their heads with lies, if we as mothers don’t equip them with the truth, who will? Their friends won’t, the world won’t, the world will tell them they’re not beautiful unless they look a certain way, weigh a certain number, act a certain way, dress a certain way, but what does God say? I loved this book, and can’t wait until my daughter is old enough to go through it. It says it’s recommended for girls 8-12, or tweens, my daughter is 7 right now, and I’m thinking I’ll wait until she’s at least 10 as there are still topics addressed I just don’t think she’s ready for yet. Every girl is different though, so I would read through it and see if your daughter is ready for those tougher topics. I highly recommend this book! **I received a copy of this book for review. I was not required to write a positive review, and all thoughts and opinions are my own.
This book deserves 0 stars but that was not an option. The only reason I read this tonight was because I found out it was to be used in a morning "bible study" at school and I was told it was problematic.
Holy handmaids tale batman. This book is fundamentalist Christian garbage with a pretty cover. So much subservience to your parents will while subjugating the child's will. "Don't be boy crazy....be god crazy!!". A lot of arguing for girls to not feel bad about choosing to stay home and be a wife and mother, an entire anti-trans, anti-anything but male/female marriage chapter (chapter 8) .
I can't believe there aren't more call outs on this book. The authors' website and podcasts are even more problematic. So much really hateful/hurtful anti-lgbtq+ propaganda (to give you an idea of where this book is coming from).
Do not read this book unless you need to inform yourself so you can actively fight against it's use anywhere near your daughters.
If you are a Christian mother raising a preteen in this era of "anything goes", this book is for you! I did it as a study with my friend, her two daughters and my daughter and we all absolutely loved it! The lessons are timely for raising God fearing girls in today's cesspool society. It was refreshing and helped me answer questions I was not prepared for in a godly way. If you are Christian, disregard the negative reviews this book is awesome!!
I became aware of this book a few months before it released and so it was one that I was waiting for HIGHLY impatiently. As a youth leader at church for the middle school age group I’ve been looking for a very long time for a book that could be a great resource for the issues the girls face in that age group. I own copies of both Lies Women Believe and Lies Young Women believe that I read several years ago. I learned a lot from them and found them both incredibly helpful personally, but there was content included that was a bit too mature for the age group. So when I saw that this book was releasing, I jumped at the opportunity to take a look at it.
One of the tricky things about talking about tough topics with girls in this age group is that depending on their life outside of church, their awareness of certain issues is highly differentiated. Girls who may not attend church regularly or come from a Christian home are far more likely to know about sex, drugs and other worldly influences than girls who have grown up in the church and are homeschooled. I say this not to pass judgement on anyone, but to share how this can be a difficult age group to reach appropriately yet sensitively. In my opinion this book is both relevant and age-appropriate for girls ages 8-12.
Satan is a liar and it’s not just adults that are under his attack. This book aims to equip girls with the truth to counteract his lies. It addresses lies about God, myself, family, sin, about being a girl, about boys, about friendship, and about the future. It shares truth about those specific topics and as well as shares ways to recognize other lies and how to fight them.
This book is designed to look more like a magazine with places to write notes, answer questions, and some other activities described inside. It can be as interactive or straight-forward as you make it. It’s a book that’s intended to help start up conversations and explore topics that can be confusing or difficult for girls to discuss.
While I do not own a copy and therefore am unable to share my thoughts on it at this time, there is also a Lies Girls Believe Mom’s guide that you can purchase to go along with this book. If I am being completely honest I would have rather gone through this book alone than with my mom at this age, but middle school is some tough years with a lot of changes for girls, so I think it’s important for girls to have a resource like this (and it can be helpful for moms as well).
I honestly don’t think I can recommend this book enough. It’s such an important resource for young girls and it’s for an age-range that’s in desperate need of more content. Girls need to hear more than to not listen to lies–they need the truth that counteracts those lies. Satan is hard at work against the youth today, and we need to help them fight against those attacks with the truth that comes from their Heavenly Father.
*I received a copy of this book from Moody Publishers. Thoughts and opinions expressed are mine alone.
[I received a copy of this book thanks to Moody Publishers in exchange for my honest review.]
Wow. Just like its original counterpart for young & older women, Lies Women Believe, this book speaks to girls, specifically those around the ages of 9 to 12. From the beginning of Time, Lies have plagued the human race, and until our Lord comes again, they will continue to do so. It is of the utmost importance for us to address the lies that seem as sweet as honey in our minds, but in reality they only entrap. This book by Dannah Gresh & Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth throws light onto the very real lies that girls face every day. Lies about themselves, about God, their family, boys, sin, etc.
Just like I recommend Lies Women Believe, I also HIGHLY recommend this one for young girls. However, I would suggest the girls read this book with their mothers & the guide that accompanies it. God knows a daughter needs her mother, and what better way to grow that relationship than with a book helps address the harder topics?
That said, I would add that it's entirely up to the parents whether or not they believe their daughter(s) to be ready for some of the lies that are addressed. Most girls I know in this age group are sheltered from a good portion of these lies that attack their other sisters, and they may not need something like this just yet (though I would say, eventually, they should still read it!). Again, that is up to the parents. But in my opinion, the only section that parents may be wary of in this regard would be Chapter 8, where it speaks of 'Lies About Being a Girl'---that God created TWO Genders, and that boys & girls are different, and it's a GOOD thing! Other daughters may struggle in some of the other areas more, like 'Lies About Myself' (the lies: "I'm not good enough," and "pretty girls are worth more") or 'Lies About Friendships', or 'Lies About Boys' ("it's okay to be boy crazy," and "I don't need to talk with my mom about boys").
In conclusion, this is a fantastic book for mothers & daughters. The chapters are interactive---you'll want some colored pencils & your Bible!---and easy to read. The girls shouldn't have a problem with boredom, and the illustrations are cute & engaging. It is easy to see the passion Dannah Gresh has in reaching girls with the Truth. Our world---these precious girls---NEED such resources as this!
Lies Girls Believe And the Truth that Sets Them Free by Dannah Gresh Moody Publishers Children's Nonfiction , Christian Pub Date 05 Feb 2019
I am reviewing a a copy of Lies Girls Believe Through Moody Publishers and Netgalley:
This book reminds young girls that though they may not be able to change the world they can change the way they prepare for it.
Girls today faith things that girls in my generation didn’t from bullying on social media to other forms of social media. This book can help the girls you love walk in freedom.
Dannah Gresh helps your daughter, niece or granddaughter or young girl in your life engage in twenty of the most important truths In this fun, easy to read book.
This book covers everything from lies about yourself and lies about your frwinds about boys .
Having read the book this was inspired by, Lies Women Believe, I was a little apprehensive, but curious about this book. There were some things in the original that really resonated with me, but there were also some things that I took big issue with. I'm happy to say that I didn't have any of the same issues with this book.
I can imagine that it would be hard to write a book for young women as an adult. Sometimes this book feels unnatural in the way it is written, trying too hard to "fit in" with the reader, and I worry a little the young women might not take it seriously, but I think the content is good and a book that lots of tweens and young women could benefit from.
Thanks to NetGalley for the free advanced copy of this ebook
I have read several of Dannah Gresh’s books and was excited to read this one. Having done Nancy Leigh DeMoss’ “Lies Women Believe” book, I knew what to expect. From the first page this book had me engaged. It spelled out simple truths for the tween aged girls. I have four girls (ages 8-14) and these truths are simply not being taught anymore. In a society that constantly feeds lies to innocent girls, this is a necessary tool in teaching and reinforcing to young girls their value and worth. Great book that would be worth the read of anyone who has girls or interacts with girls on a regular basis.
Overall, I thought the book was great, except for pages 58-59. That was a little questionable because praying that simple prayer won't make you become a Christian... Other than that, I loved it! There are so many great truths in this book that really helped me! Now I just need to work on believing more truths and uprooting those lies!
Even though the book says it is meant for girls ages 8-12, I think teenagers (like me) can read it also. I read it and it has helped a lot, so I think tweens AND teens can both read it (though it might seem a little kiddish for more mature readers). I would highly recommend this book!
This book was the perfect summer bible study between my daughter and I. It gave us a time to sit and chat each morning. Before we started our day. And gain new habits. It opened the door for discussions I thought I wasn’t quite ready to discuss, but sure glad it came from me. I’ve read some reviews and only seems like people not of faith have an issue, but that’s one of the discussions in the book. We Christian’s are set apart and supposed to be different than the world. So if you are a Christian mother of a daughter ages 7-12 this book is a wonderful read for you both.