Atomic Attraction: The Psychology of Attraction

by Christopher Canwell

“20% of Men Get 80% of Women.” ~ (Source: Medium | Data Science)

If you want to be a man that 80% of women desire, this book is your key. Based on over 120 scientific studies, this book is the ultimate guide to creating and maintaining attraction with women.

Attraction doesn’t grow in a warm, safe environment, it grows in a swamp of discomfort and anxiety. This is just one of many truths you’re about to discover.

In Atomic Attraction Christopher Canwell takes us on a journey through the dark waters of attraction. What turns women on? What makes them choose one man over another? And how can you become truly desirable and attractive?

This book answers these questions by combining the latest scientific research with real-life case studies to show you, the reader, how to ignite the fires of attraction and captivate those around you.

INSIDE YOU’LL DISCOVER

– How to get more sex, love, and affection
– How to increase your sexual market value
– How to use body language to attract women
– How to create instant attraction with women
– How to keep your girlfriend/wife interested in you
– How to maintain attraction in long-term relationships
– How to become the most attractive version of yourself
– How to build attraction online by text and social media

Everything you need to know about creating, building, and maintaining attraction with women can be found within these pages.

*This book includes 40 real-life case studies.

Genres: Psychology, Relationships, Nonfiction, Self Help, Personal Development, Love, Sexuality

312 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2017

Reviews

[Vaibhav Bhatia · Rating 3 out of 5]

80% common sense, 10% relevant studies, 10% blatant sexism.

[Daniel · Rating 3 out of 5]

Two of the best points in this book is "Attraction grows in space" and "Alpha men are not born, they are made". Attraction is a quality that can be cultivated and grown. It is never static. In this regard, men have the advantage, as most qualities that women find attractive are within our control. While women, valued more for their physical traits than men, are restrained to work with what nature gave them. Work on your self, set goals and have a vision for your life, or at least the near future, that is unrelated to women. This is the only way to truly integrate qualities that are described here. It will take time and effort and it is up to you to make the process enjoyable.

There is a lot of good advice in this book, backed by scientific studies. Many of the lessons and points made feel obvious and like general common sense, but one aspect of science is proving in a rigorous and quantitative way what is already obvious. The advice is coupled with case studies. presenting typical scenarios men might find themselves in. While some of the case studies are a little cringe worthy in their presentation, they do a good job of illustrating some common dynamics in social situations between men and women.

If you feel the need to resort to the tactics described in the last part of the book, it is time to step back and reflect over your self. This part alone made me reduce the rating by a star. I doubt anyone would find much satisfaction in manipulating a woman in a way described here (spraying female perfume over yourself and then acting nonchalantly about it? I mean c'mon...). I have no doubt that these psychological tricks work, but would you really want a woman that stays with you only because you resort to them? I'd recommend Models: Attract Women Through Honesty for insights about how cultivate an attractive lifestyle and mindset that will create attraction in an organic way, without having to resort to any dirty psychological tactics. The only person you should have to psychologically manipulate is yourself.

For a different perspective on this topic I recommend The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire for understanding how to connect with women on a deep, spiritual level.

[Alex · Rating 1 out of 5]

Christoper Canwell by his look and voice could be a pure beta male that have no clue what he talks about.

I have read this book Atomic Attraction and there are many things that are not true or have to do with what women respond in reality. After been in the game since 2011 and banged and met woman both in reality and online more than this author probably done can I with confidence tell what works and not.

This book is based on things that are out of date and have very little to do with how the majority of today's women respond when it comes to if she is into you or not. There are some stuff that are true in the book but not all. Here’s the faulty:

1. If a girl does not respond to your messages or if she flakes on the first date, she is not genuinely interested. Period! You could done everything right. Everything else is just an excuse.

2. There is no such thing as called"creating" attraction. Attraction is not created by the advice given in the book. In fact, there are two types of woman, there are girls who are already interested in you and who are not interested in you but keeps you for herself as validation.

3. "Never rush seduction" is another bullshit that has nothing to do with reality. As I wrote, all this is just an excuse, if a girl is genuinely interested in you, it does not matter if you speed something up or not. She is already that one who are investing in you and when a woman are investing in you all other comes naturally. There’s no need to over do things or overthinking these crap stuff.

4. In the book he writes and he claims that if a girl takes 5-30 minutes to answer, you should also double that time and answer her. Yea probably true if you’re dating a teenager.

Much of this book is rather advice and tips on how to entertain a timewaster woman with various techniques that he claims should have something to do with psychology studies. If a girl is not a timewaster and genuinely interested in you, she would not play these games by not responding to your messages, flake on the date, thinking you are going too fast or you responding to her message too fast.

But if you as a man love to chase and waste your time on woman that are not interested in you or are time waster, you may like his advices.

[Nasos Psarrakos · Rating 5 out of 5]

Probably the most complete book I've read regarding attraction as a man and what you need to focus on. All 5 stars worth it.

[Q'Raun · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book was going well until he made this comment about feminist “how often do you see a beautiful woman at a feminist rally? Her cries of feminism are, in reality, a cry for attention.”

[Nahid · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is the best book on attraction I have come across. And it’s a must read for every man out there. The concepts of this book are backed by scientific research on how attraction between men and women works. Most men have no clue how attraction works and what creates attraction in the first place. Attraction is not a choice. A person cannot be forced to like someone. Attraction comes from within.

Most guys make the mistake of chasing women right out of talking and meeting with them because they do not understand how to interact with women in ways that create attraction. The relationship-focused man kills attraction because they rush in the process. Being an emotional creature, woman takes time to get intimated with man. When a man become too responsive, putting relationship at the forefront of his life, he risks killing attraction. Responsiveness, as measured by researchers, encompasses a series of traits includes being nurturing, kind, supportive, and supportive, and emotionally available. However, when they become “too much”, surprisingly, and somewhat counter-intuitively, these responsive traits have been found to kill attraction and turn women off.

If there’s one area of attraction that must not be ignored, it’s the concept of space. Space, or a lack of space, is responsible for more breakups than just any other relationship problem. Space is powerful and important it is, in essence, the means by which attraction either thrives or dies.

The book’s full gold nuggets!

[Luis Cardentey · Rating 2 out of 5]

Full of common sense. Not a bad place for someone that has never *read* anything basic. But basing what any person specifically women want thru studies, which themselves are correlations and not causation based on the rationalizations that these came up with afterwards when asked... by scientists. See how this is not contradictory at many places.

But not bad advice and tips at times. But this bases attraction on what statically should work. Not what you want or let you’re interaction flow into. Follow you gut instead guys.

[Pap Lőrinc · Rating 5 out of 5]

Unlike what movies and religion lead us to believe, scientific studies support a more politically incorrect attraction model.

[Jack Maguire · Rating 2 out of 5]

While this book had some practical insights, it was primarily filled with equivocations and anecdotes.

Be agressive but be aloof. Be calm and and unaffected to be direct and fast to express yourself.

And then there are the endless "examples" that are clearly just made up. They lack the complexity of real world issues.

Overall, this book addresses some key issues, but I felt it could have been more grounded in reality. Trying to follow all the 'rules' in this book would lead a man to contradictory chaotic suffering.

[Kevin · Rating 3 out of 5]

Ok... Not great

Not exactly wrong, but presents women in a pretty 1-dimensional way bordering on angry... NMMNG Dating Essentials was better. Worth the lessons but the case studies are a bit ridiculous.

[Zee · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book is Garbage. Follow this man’s advice and rest assured attracting women will be the least of your problems.

Here are some quotes:

‘As a man you must be bold! Even if you get resistance. Resistance is a woman’s way of testing you.’

‘ a woman will never punish you for touching her, she will only punish you for apologizing for your actions’

‘Even if a woman tells you touching is too much or you are moving to fast keep touching her’

As a woman I find it terrifying that this is an opinion for men seeking guidance. I suggest looking into the Gottmans resources/ books and reading The gift of fear by Gavin De Becker.

[Nik Vaughn · Rating 1 out of 5]

I think this tops my dumbest ever read book, and I've read Newt Gingrich. Women are really like fish... lmao. Title should have been Tips to being a Fuck boy.

[Sarah · Rating 1 out of 5]

As a woman, I’d throw any man that acted like this to me out of my life in a heartbeat. This book presents immature ways to date women that will never result in a healthy relationship.

[Florian Bador · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is absolutely brilliant!
Every man should read it. It's about 280 pages. If women had one like that about men it would be 2 pages long.
The book explains all the stuff in women psychology that we call BS from a man's perspective and how to deal with it. This is so good that I will make sure to recommend it to all great guys I know. I predict this book will get extremely popular given a few more years. It cuts straight through the BS and goes to the core truth that not everyone will like (this is how we recognize the truth).
My only critic is that it has a slight tendency to get a bit macho at times, but you can pick the best and stay yourself if macho is not you.
Personally, almost every single mistake he mentions in the book, I made it :) At least I won't make them again.
Absolute must read. Ignore it at your peril.

[Emerson Wood · Rating 2 out of 5]

I was recommended this book, but I can't say I enjoyed it. I understand many of the points made in this book come from research studies, but the author uses these studies to apply massive generalisations against all woman.

There is no nuance or depth to these points. The book will say woman want X so men need to do Y. Well, what if the woman I'm wanting to attract doesn't want X? This book doesn't leave any room for the diversity and differences that we have as individuals. Not once does it stop to reflect on who we should be trying to attract and why. No, instead this book would have all men become stoic emotionally detached assholes in the name of seduction. Would this help you attract more woman? I dunno, maybe. But will that attract the kind of woman that's right for you? Maybe not.

Having said all this, there are a few good points in here but nothing groundbreaking. Namely, give the relationship space and don't over invest yourself too soon.

[Zi-Xiang (Zack) · Rating 5 out of 5]

An excellent introductory book on male female dynamics. Wish I had the book when I was much younger!

The author gives it as straight forward as it can be. No beating about the bush like how women do or being confusing. To quote, learn to catch fish from a fisherman, not from fish.

Good for beginners (though some concepts are.. a bit outdated).

One thing to know, its very external orietented. Meaning there is a lot of focus on what women want. David Deida's book "The Way of the Superior Man" is an example of a internally oriented book, bywhich men understand masculinity and what it means to be men.

Overall, this book is an excellent read and a good starting point for men! That said, find other books on the market, for this will the foundation of your understanding and mastery.

Peace, brotherhood of men.

[Raymond Chung · Rating 5 out of 5]

Essential reading for all men

Canwell presents a road map for all men to become and/or remain alpha males, and he backs up his theories with scientific and statistical research. His concepts and advice, which can be also be found on his website and on YouTube, are finally explained clearly and thoroughly in this comprehensive book. His case studies, often presenting both sides of an if/then situation, are especially eye-opening. It is worth the cover price and more; you will be constantly reviewing the book and reinforcing your mindset as you become a better and more confident man. If you found this book, you’ve already been selected. If you follow Canwell’s advice, it will open new doors for you in your love, sex, social, personal, and professional lives.

[A Reading Wolf · Rating 4 out of 5]

I learned a lot from this book. It was incredibly painful to read because I knew when the book was talking about mistakes I made in the past. Definitely something every man should read, but also know that this is also a bleak look at human behavior between the opposite sexes.

[Barbara Valenta · Rating 2 out of 5]

Offensive

As a woman, I find part’s of this book extremely offensive. Life is too short to deal with cheating aggressive a$$holes. Kick this book to the curb along with any males who think the author knows what he’s talking about

[Akash Das · Rating 2 out of 5]

very useful tips for the people who never got out of home and don't have any idea what a girl is.

[Jilles Soeters · Rating 2 out of 5]

While this book has some valuable information and points to academic studies to back it up, it does feel slightly misogynistic.

[Bill Cook · Rating 4 out of 5]

Abstract
This is a pickup artist (PUA) book. The focus is attraction—how to prepare for it, create it, increase it, and maintain it. Canwell lays out a series of short, punchy chapters, each treating an attraction aspect.

He has advice for a man's appearance, approach, and attitude toward women. His points are backed up by a series of psychological studies and illustrated by cheeky relationship narratives, often comparing a woman's response to a nice guy and then an alpha male. The contrast is unsurprising.

Misguided beta males are promised better chances with women, now that their understanding of them is improved. And while intimacy is considered from many angles, Canwell has something to offer flagging males of every motivation—more sex, improved relations, and increased security.

Social media and cell-phone use are well qualified in the context of seduction.

Weaknesses
I've read a handful of these books. The ones written by men (HOW TO GET THE WOMEN YOU DESIRE INTO BED, BANG) are obsessed with sex; and the ones written by women (HOW NOT TO STAY SINGLE) are obsessed with marriage. Canwell maintains a focus on female attraction, irrespective of relationship goals. Having said that, the goal is often to get in her pants.

At some point, the "case studies" can be reduced to the following narrative:

John bought his pregnant wife Sheila an SUV for $90,000 cash. "I got you the luxury model!" he said. "It's a little over budget, but nothing's too good for the woman I adore." Disgusted, Sheila drove to the clinic and had an abortion.

A year later, Sheila sat on the patio of a café, wondering why men were so weak. Suddenly, a stranger with a throat tattoo named Brad shoveled horse manure in her face. She dropped her panties and lifted her ankles to the sky. "Pound my lady junk, manly Viking!" she demanded.

If this is the truth about women, they offer very little.

I've heard it elsewhere, and it's repeated here that apologizing weakens you. Canwell likens it to admitting guilt. But you can't accomplish atonement otherwise, so some loss of attraction may be due if your soul deserves welfare.

When it comes to initiating sex, apparently consent isn't considered attractive. Here, the advice is to "pursue intimacy fearlessly," "prioritize your own pleasure," and "become more forceful" if she "refuses to submit." (pp. 174–7) #metoo much?

Strengths
No reader should imagine that women aren't reading this kind of book. So if your love is like the fuzzy warmth of a teddy bear, you may be shocked to recognize tactics that have been used against you. "No, not Jessica!" you say. "She would never!" Yes, dear reader, she would.

So it's a good reminder that there's a game on out there.

Furthermore, you're totally into vagina. It's somehow reassuring to have a male authority figure meticulously emphasize your naked desire, as though it were as usual as having elbows. Yes, she's somebody's daughter, but she's also a beautiful pain in the ass.

Canwell reminds us that there's an approach to women, in the same sense that you don't pet a cat the wrong way. And it's only slightly more detailed than comb your hair, do some crunches, eat guacamole, get some sleep, plan your day, look her in the eye, ask her to come along, divest from her choices, and have a good time. And remember: She's not your mother.

[Kevin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Overall this book is a good read for guys who are more on the insecure side (it’s alright if you are, a good amount of people often are). I think there is a lot of good advice when it comes to attraction and maintaining it. I’ve read some of the other comments on Goodreads and it appears that a lot of people misinterpreted this book to think that it means they can “be an asshole and get what they want.” However, that is far from the point of the book. The reading more so teaches a guy lessons to put their needs first in their life and build confidence in pursuing women. I will say that there are some points made in this book that do seem childish or outlandish (i.e. the alpha thing, etc.), but just like anything else take it with a grain of salt because no advice is going to be perfect and every book is written in its own time period. Pull what lessons you can from it and use them for yourself. Personally I wouldn’t listen to a lot of the negative reviews, especially because of the present heightened-state of sensitivity in the world at large. If you are a cisgendered heteronormative dude that needs help with women this is good book to teach you some lessons and feel more confident, but please recognize that a lot of the information in the book should be balanced with a sense of maturity and emotional intelligence. If you don’t have those two things you could potentially just become a toxic son-of-a-gun, so go to therapy first.

One thing that I did notice in the comments that I did want to address is that people claimed that it was sexist or had undertones of sexism. That is a completely false accusation. At no point does the author exclaim that one gender/sex is “superior” to the another. He just references studies from psychological journals about what “the majority” of women find attractive. Trust science, trust your maturity, and critical think about what the author is saying instead of jumping to conclusions.

One thing I wasn’t a fan of was a couple of the “case studies” seemed cringe and generic. But people are people so generic fits the bill.

[Édgar · Rating 5 out of 5]

I will say this: I've readen a lot of books about this topic, I think that I dont have any ability yet because I still need to take all the knowledgement into practice, all of these kinds of books are written to explain a big subject just in a few words so it's so easy for us, the readers, to have so many doubts about how to apply, but I must say that this book is somehow very pratical, of course, it has some things that you can't agree with, but I believe that's because we are not confident enough to accept the truth, I mean, for me, reading this book was kind of a lot of discomforts, because I wasn't able to accept what I was reading, and when I tried to see my expirience I found that this is true, maybe 90% of the book is true in at least 80% of the cases, In my expirience, I could say that reading this book gave a lot perspective and feedback about my mistakes with my previous relationships.

And because of all the data the book provides, it is important to know that we can think whatever we want, but finally, science has the full answer, so I think this is the most useful book that you can read about this topic, it goes the point, tells you what you have to do, and what you don't have to do in order generate attraction.

[Ann · Rating 1 out of 5]

AS A MATURE WOMEN I CAN ASSURE YOU THAT IF YOU FOLLOW THIS NEANDERTHALS ADVICE YOU WILL NEVER HAVE A DECENT DATE OR RELATIONSHIP IN YOUR LIFE! YOU MIGHT EVEN FIND YOURSELF IN JAIL… “AS A MAN YOU MUST BE BOLD! EVEN IF YOU GET RESISTANCE. RESISTANCE IS A WOMANS WAY OF TESTING YOU —- A WOMEN WILL NEVER PUNISH YOU FOR TOUCHING HER, SHE WILL ONLY PUNISH YOU FOR APOLOGIZING FOR YOR ACTIONS…… UMMMMM WHAT? WELL LETS SEE… A WOMEN WILL 100% PUNISH YOU FOR TOUCHING HER AGAINST HER WILL AND WHEN SHE’S THOUGH WITH YOU THE LAW WILL DO THE REST… THAT IS IF SHE’S GRACIOUS ENOUGH TO LET YOU LIVE!

… HERE’S ANOTHER FUCKED UP BIT OF ADVISE FOR THIS AHOLE AUTHOR: EVEN IF A WOMEN TELLS YOU TOUCHING IS TOO MUCH OR YOU ARE MOVING TOO FAST KEEP ON TOUCHING HER. HOLY CHRIST ON A BIKE. I WOULD LOVE TO GET THIS GUY IN A ROOM WITH A BUNCH OF WOMEN FOR TWO MINUTES. HE WOULD LEAVE THERE A VERY, VERY, VERY BROKEN NEANDERTHAL.

I CAN ONLY IMAGING THAT THIS IDIOT HAD HIS ALTER EGO WRITE THIS TRASH BECAUSE THERE IS NO WAY THAT HE HAS EVER SO MUCH AS LOOKED AT A WOMEN WITHOUT PISSING HIS PANTS - INCLUDING HIS GRANDMA!

THE TITLE OF THIS BOOK SHOULD BE CALLED “A LOSERS ADVICE ON HOW TO COMMIT DATE RAPE AND GO TO JAIL”

[Hasbe Alam · Rating 3 out of 5]

If you’re just starting out in dating or trying to understand women, this book hits hard. It tells you basic things like why showing too much emotion too early kills attraction. In today’s world, where most men are overly emotional and clueless about polarity, this book forces you to face uncomfortable truths. It gives you a crash course on emotional control, confidence, and masculine frame, things that don’t come naturally to most men anymore.

But here’s the problem: it’s repetitive. The same ideas keep looping. If you already understand basic dating dynamics, you’ll find yourself skimming. This book could have easily been cut down to 120–150 pages without losing anything.

It’s great for teaching attraction, but it doesn’t teach connection. You’ll learn how to create spark, not how to sustain it. And sometimes, the advice leans too close to manipulation, control over authenticity.

Still, for a beginner, it’s a wake-up call. It gives you the foundation most men never had: how to stop chasing, how to lead, how to stay grounded. Just don’t treat it as gospel. Take the principles, ignore the dogma, and balance it later with books like Models by Mark Manson or The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.

[Mike Hicks]

There are millions upon millions upon millions of forms of attraction that are hard at work in front of your eyes. Molecular attraction, atomic attraction, chemical attraction. Everything that you can perceive on the outward manifestation is only existent because of attraction. Feminine and masculine exists in everything. Whether we are to ignorant to realize this principal or law that governs all, then how can one intelligently and logically create effective forms absolute attractions if you can not grasp the underlying Truth to this concept of such significant and great realization. Whether it’s in the animal kingdom to the bug kingdom even elemental and chemical world to energy, atoms, forces, brain waves and that completely depend on such you will then begin to realize, positive and negative, up and down, back and forth, love and hate, hot and cold to even the smallest increments of known and unknown phenomena completely depend on the gender of attraction. Once you begin to see that this law is farther greater then the laws that modern men and women believe and think sexy is... then you have obtained a master key that human attraction must and will obey.

[Mike Cheng · Rating 3 out of 5]

A good nuts and bolts for men on how to be more desirable in the dating arena. The first half of the book discusses how to improve oneself, and the second half is about how not to act in the courting process as well as during the relationship. For the former, the why (i.e., developing traits women are naturally and biologically attracted to) was better than the how (e.g., getting yourself in good physical shape, dressing well, talking slowly and holding eye contact). The latter can be summarized as follows: less is more, and coming off as needy signals low value and low confidence. Imo the best part of the book was the introductory paragraphs, especially the author’s proposition that today society and the media’s denunciation of “toxic masculinity” has sublimated many men into an overcorrection that leaves them confused, castrated, and weak. To be clear, the author specifically carves out the distinction between aggression (unattractive and undesirable) and assertiveness.

[Christopher Pyrdsa · Rating 2 out of 5]

In Atomic Attraction, the author attempts to distill the mysteries of human connection into a series of principles, but in doing so, reveals a fundamental misunderstanding of the very people the book seeks to help. At its best, it offers moments of clarity that might appeal to those unfamiliar with the dynamics of attraction. But at its worst, it veers into territory that feels deeply out of sync with contemporary attitudes—its advice often marred by an underlying misogyny and a tone so outdated it reads as if written for another era.

What makes this particularly striking is how it reflects a broader issue: the persistence of self-help materials that claim to empower, but ultimately reinforce the same stereotypes they purport to challenge. For a book with "atomic" in its title, it ironically feels more like a relic than a revolution

[Rabin Rai · Rating 3 out of 5]

hmm thought provoking and sometimes controversial statements. Might be hard truths.

Scarcity creates value.
Dread and anxiety creates attraction
Space creates attraction, whether you feel comfortable or not. Allow her to come back in her own time.
Never be relationship-focused
Focus on yourself, your goals and your mission to have purpose instead of the relationship.
Never show weakness.
Attitude is everything.
Dealing with conflict - agree and amplify. logic wont work.
When women test, always ask if you are acting insecure or confident.
When a woman pulls away, mirror her.
Never use logic to fight emotion
Give her what she needs, not what she wants
Stay light and relaxed. Be mindful, focus on present.
Have social dominance and leadership