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Fear Is My Homeboy: How to Slay Doubt, Boss Up, and Succeed on Your Own Terms

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AMAZON BESTSELLER IN ANXIETIES & PHOBIAS
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AMAZON BESTSELLER IN BUSINESS MOTIVATION & SELF-IMPROVEMENT If you love empowering non-fiction books like "You are a Badass" by Jen Sincero, "Everything Is Figureoutable" by Marie Forleo, or "5-Second Rule" by Mel Robbins you'll love Fear Is My Homeboy.

In Fear Is My Homeboy , author Judi Holler has a message: It's time to stop letting fear boss you around so you can start leveling up personally and professionally. This is a book for people who believe that they deserve more.  Holler focuses on helping the reader shut down self-doubt so they can start taking action. After reading this book Judi promises that you will get braver, bolder, and more confident in your natural-born badassery.

Inspired by her improv theatre background at The Second City Training Center's Conservatory in Chicago and building off her decade of speaking, sales, and marketing experience, in addition to her current role as a business owner, Holler's book is your own personal life coach and cheerleader.  In it she shares valuable, actionable advice on how to accept and even embrace fear, so readers can start to live more balanced, successful, and fulfilling lives. 

If you enjoyed the book then you'll also love Judi's weekly Podcast: Yes, And with Judi Holler! You can listen in and subscribe on iTunes, Spotify and most places you love listening to your podcasts.

151 pages, Hardcover

Published May 28, 2019

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Profile Image for Melissa Lenore Hamann.
141 reviews4 followers
August 14, 2020
If you are not middle class, aren't white, are LGBTQ, disabled, have mental health issues, aren't Christian, this book is not for you. I have many questions and comments for Judi Holler, the first one being "how does taking an improv class qualify you to write this book?" I get it Judi, I'm a theatre kid, theatre teacher, acting is fun. But we're not all authors.
I won this "book" in a giveaway, read the first page, and promptly did not touch it again until today. I was curious, but I should have known from the cover that this was going to be exactly what it looked like.
I find it hard to have any respect for a book where the author writes curse words, and then censors them out. Why write them at all?
Fear is My Homeboy is another in an ever-growing list of books written by someone who makes a living telling people how to live, but you're not entirely sure how they got there or why you should be listening. Judi Holler patronizes her reader throughout the entire (thankfully) short book, using words like "badassery," "Googlelicious," and "swag" to make her point. Again, I do not have faith in an adult who speaks to me like I'm still a teenager.
I also found portions of this book to be irrelevant or insensitive. There's a lot of talk of being grateful that your body works to 100% capacity- because disabled people don't read? There's assumptions you can afford weekly/daily spin classes, the main problem in your life is your "iWatch." She suggests travelling solo once a year and that fear is the only reason you don't. Judi, your experiences are not universal.
Oh, and a note, Judi, you are not Native, you do not have tribes. Stop calling every group of people you like a tribe. It's not a tribe. Also, putting in your "about the author" that you like your "books non-digital, [your] wine bubbly, and [your] music hip-hop" makes you sound like an asshole.
There's name dropping, people she's heard of, that do nothing to emphasize her point and make you think, "hey why don't I ready something by them instead?" In addition to the writing being incredibly juvenile and condescending, it wasn't well written. Holler repeats herself several times to make one point, and it's not even a particularly good one. I'd like a word with her editor, please. The format of the book lends itself to random blocks of text, using font style for emphasis, a very Lele Pons/Gabbi Hanna way of trying to make it seem like you're qualified to write a book, when really you're just a white lady. Replete with hashtags and reminders to do things on social media, save the time and skip Fear is my Homeboy.
Profile Image for Kristara Araya.
41 reviews10 followers
May 7, 2019
Rating: 2.75/5.00

My inner introvert is shooketh (eww..why). This is, for sure, the very first book in this genre that I have ever read, and I had mix feeling about it. It's not that this book is bad, I just don't particularly understand how to enjoy this type of genre, aside from the occasional inner thoughts of "yes i know this already..yes i already did that..good idea! perhaps i can try doing that". I flew through the pages fairly quickly (not necessarily in a good reasoning). The narrative seems at times very repetitive, but maybe that's just my lack of exposure to these kinds of books that did all the talking. Perhaps in order for this book to depict strong waves of motivational/inspirational values, it needs to be on repetitive mode so as to make your brain numb by these narratives.

This book talks about fears, self-love, self-improvement, perks of social interactions, and so much more. It taught the readers to seize the opportunity in whatever forms it may come. This book mostly surrounds the idea of being the CEO (Chief Energy Officer, Ha!) of your own life and how you can make use of your "badassery" traits to be a fearLESS person, professionally and personally.

There are bazillions worth of good passages in this book, but the one that stick with me the most is:
"Fear is your friend, your best friend, your business partner, and your home-boy. Why would we want to get rid of something that can keep us safe, be an incredible compass in our lives, shake us, wake us, and remind us that we are very much alive?"

Despite my conflicting feeling towards this genre, i enjoy the various terms that were generously poured in the storyline. I also appreciate the practical examples with diverse scenarios, the social scripts that may be used for networking references that i find myself jotting down to these cues whilst reading. All things considered, this book was unfortunately not for me, but since one of my reading goals for this year is to incorporate more self-development-improvement books to my list, i will give this genre another shot.

I received this book from NetGalley in exchange of my honest reviews - all opinions are my own.
Profile Image for Samantha Kappes.
37 reviews12 followers
August 10, 2019
This book starts off with a powerful and true fact— that fear is a positive and healthy trait, and promises to help shape others views to that perspective. Unfortunately, it goes all downhill from there. First off, Holler’s a white woman, writing a book called Fear is my Homeboy, which is a phrase she thinks is... funny? Oh boy. I hung in there though, or at least I tried to.

Some self help books fall directly into the trap of trying to shame the reader into overcoming their issues. This book does the shame trap well, literally playing the blame game— “You can be a victim or you can be a badass. The choice is yours.” While this kind of tough love mantra is helpful to some, it can be extremely harmful and toxic to others. While Holler brags in this paragraph about how happy she is, how superior she is to all of the toxic people she knows that have these negative feelings, I make my own choice. I put the book down, and care for myself by not tormenting myself by reading the rest of this book.

I received this book as a Goodreads Giveaway. Not even the fact that it was free could make me kind to it.
Profile Image for Amanda.
99 reviews2 followers
May 18, 2019
I liked how the author integrated her improv background into this book. She offers good tips for both actual bosses and aspiring bosses (the schedules for people who work at home/on their own businesses were helpful). The writing could be a bit more concise, but overall it was very good.

*Thank you to Netgalley for allowing me to read this book in exchange for an honest review*
Profile Image for Kesley Smith.
6 reviews1 follower
May 21, 2019
A GREAT read on how to turn fear into a powerful asset.

Her chapters were so insightful and she is so inspirational.

MUST read for all my fellow boss babes.
Profile Image for Alex Schmidt.
569 reviews26 followers
February 25, 2022
“Have the courage to be who you really are rather than being who you think the world wants you to be.”

I LOVE personal growth books! I read 1-2 a month because I’m constantly growing and want to have the mindset I need to help people.

If you have any type of fear, and you may think you don’t, but we all do, pick up this book! It’s such a quick read and there’s so many takeaways. I already feel a boost in my mood after reading this.

And come on, it’s hot pink! Now #bossup and make fear your homeboy! 😆🎉💗
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829 reviews12 followers
July 13, 2019
**disclaimer** I generally do not read self help. This was recommended to me by someone and I gave it a shot.

2.5 stars, rounded up. Fear is my Homeboy covers tips on how to embrace and even celebrate fear in order to stop holding yourself back. I liked the fun approach and I thought some of the practical tips were interesting and doable. I could see how this would potentially be life changing for some people who need this message. I think it is awesome that the author acknowledges her own self doubt and calls out imposter syndrome, as I think it’s something that has always been prevalent but largely undiscussed.

My issue lies in what I feel is a problem with many self help books, so it is not a criticism of this author or book alone. I personally find that self help is a lot of “you can be happy if you just set your mind to it!” and “work hard and you’ll win!” and “just prioritize yourself, silly! If you say you are busy, that is just FEAR talking!” I feel that it glosses over real complicating factors in peoples lives (financial insecurity, rigid bosses/jobs, unhealthy relationships, etc.) and offers up generic tips that you have to have a flexible job and upper middle class financial resources to implement. Sure, if you dig there are tips anyone can use, and the target audience for this book is probably upper middle class white women in their 30s and 40s (which I admit I belong to), but generic advice just never resonates with me because it ends up being common sense platitudes that apply to a small handful of people. Did I take away a few tips from this that I’ll try to implement in my life? Sure. Did it bring about any earth shattering revelations for me? Nope.
Profile Image for Kelcee Cleveland.
61 reviews2 followers
December 12, 2023
As someone who is at cross roads in their life, I have learned that I am TERRIFIED. I shy away from new things, new opportunities and experiences because the unfamiliar makes me very uncomfortable. I have let my fear run my life and prevent me from trying new things. I have learned that I have let my fear keep me safe, but in doing so I have stopped myself from growing. I unknowingly made a #fearboss move when I did one of the scariest things I have ever done in my life – I left a job/career I had worked at for 18 years because the environment had become very toxic with new management. The only catch is now I find myself sitting here almost 6 months later, still jobless and starting to feel anxious that I am not financially contributing to the life that my husband and I are creating together.

Here is where Fear is my Homeboy comes in. I picked it up hoping it would confirm that this feeling I was feeling was truly fear and how I might go about getting rid of it. I have learned that fear will never go away, fear is the never ending story. This book helps us learn how to invite fear to our life party, how to accept it, and then do the scary thing anyway! We can plan for it, prepare for it, but most importantly, we CAN live with fear. Dealing with fear will be hard every time, but we will become comfortable with being uncomfortable and as a result we will become stronger and braver. We can all be a #fearboss with the right preparation and course of action (fear hates action)!

While this book did take me awhile to get through, I highly recommend this book for anyone looking to learn how to do the scary things in life and accept fear for what it is. I suspect it took me so long to finish because change is incredibly difficult and this was my first self help book. Just remember, we can all do difficult and scary things!

(Just to note, my husband is very supportive of my break in working and very understanding! I have not felt any pressure or guilt from him in any way! All of my anxiety regarding not contributing is coming from me and only me. I am sure I am not the only adult who torments themselves with anxious what if thoughts. #adultingsucks)
Profile Image for Amani.
297 reviews17 followers
August 19, 2019
I first met Judi at MPI WEC in Las Vegas 2017 and have been following her journey closely since then. I have been eagerly anticipating her book release and when it arrived I was thrilled. There were many favorite parts of the book but let me highlight my top 7:

1) I love how Judi uses a variety of quotes to start off each chapter. I am a sucker for a good quote.
2) I really appreciated the stories that Judi used throughout the entire book from her personal experience as well as observations she had from her peers and mentors. It gave the book a much more "real" feeling that other books which stay at too high a level and are impersonal.
3) I also respected how Judi consistently gave different mentors and authors credit when she discussed successful strategies and action plans she learned and practiced. Loved that.
4) The chapter on saying "YES" to a variety of opportuntiies that come to you when they come really resonated with me. I find too many people say "NO" and then regret it lately and this chapter hit home. Ironically, I have already been practicing this mindset for several years and reading it in the book made me nod my head and whisper "I knew I was on the right path."
5) I also enjoyed how each chapter had a theme and the final chapter tied all the themes back together with definitive action steps and suggestions. Excellent way to tell the story.
6) I could relate to the different times Judi would mention that even though she didn't have a strong relationship with her mom, she still was able to find a maternal role model and did not allow this to stop her from succeeding. Another very real and relatable element of the book.
7) Finally, I love that Judi is unashamed for her love of hip-hop (I love hip-hop too) and spoke about how when she finally embraced this love, she was able to really find her ideal clients and her tribe. Great quick story that makes me love the story even more.

I highly recommend the book and will be adding it to my Reading LIst for my college classes. Can't wait for the next book!!
Profile Image for Nikita.
9 reviews4 followers
September 2, 2020
This isn't the first book I read under "Motivational Business Management" category, however, this is the first book I read under "Fear" sub-category, if you will. So my views also reflect my thoughts on the overall concept and will lack comparison to other books in the same genre.

Judi is well-read and isn't afraid to quote various authors in this book, who sell books in the same genre. She has some striking ideas to share. I personally liked 3-4 ideas/concepts in the book. She repeats "action" enough times in the book to get you off of your reading chair/couch and take an action.

It gets repetitive more often than not. Some ideas are same wine served in a re-packaged bottle. Her "lingo" gets on your nerve at times (repeat comfy 50 times). Some sentences lack flow, and hence don't make sense in that context (specially towards the end).

Also, it's ironic that at the beginning of the book, "Fear" is introduced as your "Homeboy" and then conveniently "Fear" becomes the villain you're working against. While she's explaining how to identify "Fear-Squad", they conveniently become the baddies. I guess, it wouldn't be such a problem if she didn't name the book "Fear is my Homeboy"

I read this book as part of a professional book club, and I must say, it was an easy read.. It keeps you invested during the majority of your reading-time.
Some of the concepts can help all genders, even though, she assumes only women are reading this book.

I'd recommend this book to all!
Profile Image for Reading For Funs.
203 reviews6 followers
June 26, 2019
I received Fear Is My Homeboy: How to Slay Doubt, Boss Up, and Succeed on Your Own Terms through a Goodreads Giveaway.

The title of this book is what caught my eye. Fear is my homeboy? It's an attractive concept, almost everyone wishes they didn't have fear and could face anything that comes their way. For me though, the appeal was on how to slay doubt. I didn't think I suffered from fear, but rather just doubting myself and my abilities at every turn. Boy did the author prove me wrong.

From the first page, it felt like Judi Holler was speaking straight to me while looking deep into my soul and bringing all my flaws to light. I felt like I had a mentor guiding me towards success, and I loved it. Everything she said in each chapter spoke to me and represented how I had always behaved and felt.

Will this book help me to succeed on my own terms? I would think so. I've learned so much. I've always lived my life putting everyone in front of me without regard to my own wellbeing. This book taught me that it is okay to take a moment and focus on myself. I will be forever thankful for that.
31 reviews
April 29, 2020
I initially picked up Judi Holler's "Fear is My Homeboy" because of the cute title and eye-catching, hot-pink cover. I then bought it because it was a signed copy with the note inside that said "I wrote this for you" (it was basically serendipity). I had extremely high hopes for this book and it did not disappoint. As a college student, I found that the book was definitely more applicable to professional adults, but I still found many useful tips. I biggest tip I learned was how to welcome and accept fear into my life without trying to push it away. Holler's metaphors to improv really helped me visualize her concepts and allowed me to see that it's okay to talk about the parts of your life that others may find "weird" or "unconventional," like improv or hip-hop. It's okay to be a pink flamingo, unapologetically passionate and unafraid of your true self. I especially loved the little card in the middle of the book that the reader tears out and writes what they will do now that fear is their homeboy. This book as been a joyful read and a great addition to my self-help collection.
Profile Image for Amanda (Books, Life and Everything Nice).
439 reviews20 followers
August 18, 2019
I won this book for free through a Goodreads Giveaway. Thank you to Goodreads, Greenleaf Book Group Press and Judi Holler for an ebook copy. As always, an honest review from me.

Like:
- Inspiring and informative
- Lots of practical steps and examples too
- Short concise book that's easy to refer back to later on
- The writing style and author's personality is very approachable and relatable

Love:
- talks about the importance of loving yourself first before attempting anything - such great advice!

Dislike:
- it is geared towards people who work mostly in the typical business centric world, which isn't me. Due to this I had a difficult time relating
- Chapters are a bit longer than I would prefer

Wish that:
- I could use more of the information for my personal life

Overall, a helpful book for the business savvy woman looking to help herself succeed even more. Not the book for me as I can't relate to it much. If the topic applies to you, then give it a go.
Profile Image for Jessica Tiede.
15 reviews1 follower
January 28, 2021
I gave 3 stars because it started out strong and many small moments stood out to me throughout the book. But this book felt a little more geared towards those who are wanting to level up in business or start up their own business. A great book to overcome the fear that you won’t succeed but if you can use that fear to help you get past your limits and succeed. For anyone else that is having a different life then owning their business or working in the corporate world there’s only a little helpfulness to gleam from. I would suggest is to find your favorite chapter(s) or phrase(s) and just go back a re-read those instead of the whole book again. Saves some time and it is still a great reminder of what you want to see happen in your own life. A good book it just didn’t grab me in and keep me looking forward to more.
Profile Image for Kzcishou.
24 reviews
July 4, 2020
Not my favorite writing style. Definitely a bit heavy with toxic positivity as others have suggested but there were some good tips for me personally on how to better talk to people. Although she talks a lot about living fearfully and accepting fear, she doesn't really go into depth on how that works. Just that it's a "mindset shift". It felt like a lot of the book was just filling pages and repeating the same thing with no real steps. I'm not sure. It feels a little critical to say that, because I heard her on a podcast and liked what she had to say, but maybe she's just not the best writer and felt confined to the way she thought a book should look, instead of what they best way to deliver her message would be.
Profile Image for Ash Sweet.
9 reviews3 followers
December 3, 2020
I met Judi at an MPI event a couple years ago and did a Fearboss exercise that stuck with me, and I brought home the little postcard with my mantra and hung it over my desk immediately. So, when Judi announced a book I was ecstatic. And I read at the start of something new for me when I really needed my fear to propel instead of slow me down.
Holler gives us very doable, applicable steps to: tackling your fears, taking control of your day, and understanding how to best harness your ambitions. Almost every sentence in this book could be a mantra, so inspiring!

Lines to live by: “Would you work for someone who talked to you the way you talk to yourself?”
“The goal shouldn’t be fearless. The goal should be figuring out how to fear our fear less and this is what makes you brave.”
Profile Image for Liz Phelan.
98 reviews4 followers
December 24, 2020
Self love.

That’s what I’ve determined the nuts and bolts of this book is all about. Self love.

And who can’t use some more of that?

I listened to the book which included a Q&A at the ending of the chapter which was kinda cool.

@judiholler included all kinds of great examples and tangible action items and homework to lock in the content.

This is a great book for anyone who enjoys and appreciates personal development books and particularly if you are a fan of New Year Resolutions and love creating lists, schedules, and new habits.

I may go back and re-listen as there were some good golden nuggets, ie “There are no mistakes only gifts” (I think that’s right - that’s the general idea nonetheless)

So my personal development book fans, this one’s for you!
Profile Image for Angie.
813 reviews33 followers
January 1, 2022
I plowed through the back half of this one in a day to wrap up my reading challenge for the year. That's NOT the way to read a book like this. Reading the whole book in one or two sittings was just fear-fear-fear-this and bliss-improv-yes-and-that with a whole lot of "Badass Fear Boss" thrown in the mix. If I had read a chapter a day, or 5 pages a day, or taken any other form of bite-sized approach to the book I may have liked it better. Even still, I'm not a fan of giving something like fear a personality and treating it like someone you can talk to. That's all just a little woowoo for me, so a lot of the book didn't resonate. All that said, there were quite a few good gems scattered throughout the book and I don't consider having read it a waste of time.
Profile Image for Olivia.
15 reviews
September 25, 2024
Great freaking book. I found it super easy to read and relatable. I love Judi's style. The way she starts the chapters off with quotes- I'm such a sucker for that. Really enjoyed reading those and how it set the tone for the chapter. The stories/examples she shared are so relatable that it made you feel like you were part of her conversation. It has been a long time since I've felt like a book could do that so very well done there.

Being a yes girl myself I really appreciated that she valued saying yes. You miss 100% of the opportunities you don't take right? It just made me feel seen/heard and I really really appreciate that.

Overall great book. I have read it 2x in different parts of my life and have appreciated it differently each time. One of my fav books!
Profile Image for Megan.
1 review
June 10, 2019
This book is a fantastic read! I read it on vacation laying by the pool in less than 2 days. What I found most valuable was that the author provides very tangible information and insight on how to do the things she writes about. I appreciate that each chapter ends in a very useable summary that will be easy to go back to for reference when I want to brush up on what I learned. The book has a fun and positive vibe and leaves the reader feeling like they are capable and have the tools to make big leaps in any aspect of their life. I felt that this book is about much more than overcoming fear and is a great add to my collection of personal development tools and resources.
Profile Image for Lisa Hagan.
30 reviews
May 9, 2020
This book came at the recommendation of a friend - an action which in and of itself lives out the momentum message of its content. Naturally prone to high levels of anxiety, and self-doubt, this book has been both needed and practically empowering. The authenticity of the author’s heart leaps off the page and it’s impossible for your mindset not to be shifted! I am grateful for the encouragement in Holler’s words; my flamingo pink highlighting as I went through will allow me to return to affirmations enabling me to consistently reframe my mind in a state of courage and belief.
Profile Image for Jill Little Bear.
79 reviews
October 11, 2020
Judi spoke at our T-Mobile Day of Learning and while I know and like her personally, this book exceeded my expectations. I tabbed dozens of pages, highlighted away, and think this book should be required reading for anyone/ha, everyone who doubts themselves and holds themselves back from their full potential. I used her words in a pep talk with my daughter and she literally stood up, patted me on the shoulder, said "That was a good pep talk, Mom" and then proceeded to do the "scary" thing she needed the push to do. Love this book and its messages!
Profile Image for Amy Dooley.
140 reviews4 followers
June 16, 2022
I really enjoyed this book. I listened to the audiobook and it also includes a podcast type of interview between the chapters that I really enjoyed. I normally read Christian non-fiction self help books and this is not from a Christian perspective at all. The first chapter had me thinking that it would be a 5 star read, but towards the middle of the book, it started to feel like it was dragging a bit. There were many points in the book that were helpful, and motivational and some things that I didn’t agree with.
Profile Image for Terri Mead.
Author 3 books13 followers
April 17, 2024
This is a good book if you are struggling to get out of your own way.
While there are many books that cover the topic of fear, not all of them will resonate with everyone. This is a relatively short book (less than 150 pages) with lots of examples and exercises to work through your fear and take charge of your life.
There are some gimmicky tools and sayings in the book but the author makes them work and it works with her brand.
If you are struggling with fear and want some ideas on how to work through it and get to what you want, I recommend reading this book.
Profile Image for Emily Elwardt.
1 review2 followers
April 2, 2020
I think that Judi is a force to be reckoned with, you can feel her energy and her excitement! The thing that gets me is my inability to figure out if I should be BFFs with fear, or not because I’m told to allow it into my life, welcome
It to my party but then the BFFs of fear are later described as things I don’t want in my life: stress, doubt, staying complacent. The first two chapters are not my fave but it does get increasingly better.
1 review2 followers
June 16, 2020
This book will motivation you into action!

There were so many great nuggets in this book that lead me into taking action with ideas that have been swirling around in my head for years and months. I love how she allowed fear to be a part of your life instead of shutting it out. She made it a guest of honor and taught you how you can live with fear but without giving it any power. I highly recommend this book if you’ve ever felt stuck or overwhelmed with fear!
Profile Image for Jenny Garrison-Harrison.
304 reviews2 followers
March 1, 2021
I started this book a year ago and put it down and forgot about it. One of my 2021 resolutions was to finish some books I started. It turned out that I did enjoy it. It is a motivational read framed around improv. The only reason I gave it four stars is because of the reason I put it down. I feel like it was written backwards (or edited in reverse). All the great stuff was towards the end and of had led with that it would have captured my attention sooner.
Profile Image for Jamie Gogocha.
309 reviews17 followers
February 12, 2022
I enjoyed the conversational tone of this book and the occasionally funny statement. There were a few things that resonated with me and I tried or will try. There were also a lot of things that are just too far of out of my introvert comfort zone or not applicable to my life as a library assistant and writer. I feel like a lot of these books are more geared toward corporate folks. I really l liked reading the "how to" sections at the end of each chapter.
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264 reviews3 followers
August 10, 2022
I received this kindle book as agiveaway more than 2 years ago. Took me awhile to start it. Then got to page 60 - finally some meat. No more cute sayings... But, I still had a difficult time making my way through this book and decided, that after a year, it was time to let it go. It just didn't keep my interest - I couldn't get beyond all of the sayings and references. Maybe this book is better geared toward the younger crowd...
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