我们仨

by Yang Jiang, 杨绛

《我们仨》是钱钟书夫人杨绛撰写的家庭生活回忆录。1998年,钱钟书逝世,而他和杨绛唯一的女儿钱瑗已于此前（1997年）先他们而去。在人生的伴侣离去四年后,杨绛在92岁高龄的时候用心记述了他们这个特殊家庭63年的风风雨雨、点点滴滴,结成回忆录《我们仨》。 杨绛著的《我们仨》分为三部分。第一部分中,作者以其一贯的慧心、独特的笔法,用梦境的形式讲述了最后几年中一家三口相依为命的情感体验。第二部分,以平实感人的文字记录了自1935年伉俪二人赴英国留学并在牛津喜得爱女,直至1998年丈夫逝世,63年间这个家庭鲜为人知的坎坷历程。

Genres: China, Biography, Literature, Nonfiction, Chinese Literature, Family, Asia

206 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2003

About the author

YANG Jiang (in Chinese order)

Reviews

[Jenny · Rating 5 out of 5]

感觉中文的书得用中文写评论才合适—

过去一年我经历了一场比较大的家变，简而言之，原本也是我们仨的被拆成了几篇小碎片。于是看到书店里杨绛的我们仨就觉得又羡慕又温馨又心疼。羡慕书中的一家始终风雨同舟，共济甘苦，于是乎，苦中也便自然而然有了乐。心疼，是因为对于杨绛孤老的经历略有耳闻，虽标题名为我们仨，不用翻开封面便知道这是以离别做结局的心酸之作。

本来期待作品饱含深情，完全没有失望，而且大大超出期望，这大抵也是我人生经历尚浅，还未预计和设想过这些不可避免的大起大落。最喜欢的是第二章，作者以比喻的方式，讲述了失去亲人最黑暗最痛苦最如梦的一段记忆。叙述手法很新颖，又与其他章节相呼应，非常巧妙。

大概三天时间就看完了这本薄薄的书，但是感觉其中的滋味，会要品很久很久。

最后摘录书的结尾：
人间没有单纯的快乐。快乐总夹带着烦恼和忧虑。
“世间好物不坚牢，彩云易散琉璃脆”
我清醒地看到以前当作“我们家”的寓所，只是旅途上的客栈而已。家在哪里，我不知道。我还在寻觅归途。

[Chairimy · Rating 5 out of 5]

我该怎么和你说这本书呢？我相信你会喜欢这本书。写的是家。都是家里发生的点点滴滴的生活琐事。有点像老人家拉家常，琐琐碎碎，絮絮叨叨，东一句西一句。这本书的目的也朴实，就是为了纪念。作者在92岁的时候，女儿和丈夫先后去世，她为了纪念这两位至亲，写了这本书。读起来感觉很温暖，很平实，很有趣。行文也很朴实无华，淡泊而稳当。那些强烈的情绪都已经过去，写的收敛、含蓄而平淡。留下的都是思念、牵挂。记下的，都是快乐、美好的情绪。人的记忆，也许到了老都是这样，记住的，都是让自己愉悦的事情。是不是很像你的风格？恬淡又温柔，善良而美好。家，就是你的心灵港湾。我心向往之。

[Lbj · Rating 5 out of 5]

大爱杨绛女士，一生笔耕不辍，以暮年笔者独特的视角写了这篇家传。

[Edward · Rating 5 out of 5]

钱钟书《管锥编》里的古文写得艰深难懂，不是为了掉书袋，显弄学识，而是为了躲避红卫兵的审查。

[Alex Lai · Rating 5 out of 5]

A Chinese classic that provides the definition of love, relationship and familial value toward life and death. Jiang Yang's family is a good example for all families by being a caring, kind, intelligence but humbling group at the times when the majority in China, writers in particular, was struggling with political events such as Anti-Rightist Movement.

Jiang Yang used simple language to describe all the joyful and tough times spent together with her spouse (Zhongshu Qian ,錢鍾書) and daughter (Qian Yuan,錢瑗) as well as the love between them that usually cannot be described with words alone. You can not only understand what the two of them had achieved and how proud she was to have them, but also feel how sorry you would be for her sorrow, especially when you realise she had to spend the rest of her life without her loved ones.

Four words to conclude - Love...while you can

[新新 Xin-Xin · Rating 4 out of 5]

看完我們仨，覺得是否因為外在過於不可知與不可控，所以家庭內的人情溫暖分外珍貴

我喜歡楊絳寫早餐是誰負責，喜歡楊絳提到家中三人各自生活時會收集「石子」，相聚分享，喜歡楊絳說起家中只有自己喜歡整齊清潔，結果出國回家時會聽見父女抱怨非得收拾狗窩……喜歡很多很多日常

想到這一年來中国發生了那麼多事，世界發生了那麼多事，更加覺得中国人真的不夠恨自己的国家，也悲觀地認為他們以後也不會改變，因為即使到了現在，還是僅能接受党認為正確的事，在風雨飄搖中依賴那一點點人與人之間稍縱即逝的溫暖

這段時間中国新聞、中国 SNS、中国 podcast 追得比較多，已經不當作中国人都不會想，而這已經是他們想過之後努力的結果了（比方用 emoji 發微博、被炸號就重開……），但也就只是這樣，明年 2/7 還能提起李文亮嗎？

[Z.W · Rating 5 out of 5]

昨天半夜醒来睡不着，拿起杨绛老先生写的这本我们仨。
母亲大人曾经对我说，人年纪越大从前的事情反而记得越清楚。九十三岁高龄的老先生，如此细致描绘地从前，让人有落泪的冲动。可能是因为太过美好，失去以后才愈发不能忍受吧。
这曾是一个多么美好的家，温暖踏实，心意相通的三人，有许多欢乐的时刻。这个家的难得之处在于无论外面多大的风雨，里面的三人自始至终紧紧缠绕在一起，坚韧的保护着生命中小幸福。
他们三个人我都很喜欢还因为不管生活如何清苦，他们以书为乐，精神世界从来没有停止探索过。物质生活的贫乏并没有阻碍他们兴致勃勃地生活。知识分子的快乐，就是可以这么单纯和简单。
老先生最后说“人间也没有永远。我们一生坎坷，暮年才有了一个可以安顿的居处。但老病相催，我们在人生道路上已走到尽头了。” 众生皆苦里面，其实就包括了离别之苦。一切如梦幻泡影，永远并不存在，不管多么不舍，死亡也终会将人分开。
临终关怀志愿者培训时，负责人讲了一个green banana 的故事。她说那个病人是个老将军，住在豪宅里。老将军对她说，如果有一天我不能买绿香蕉了，请你告诉我好吗。有一天她对他说，今天你不能买绿香蕉了。他把孩子们都叫来告别。她记得，这个坚毅男人的脸上滑落了一滴泪滴。绿香蕉大概需要一个星期成熟，曾经呼风唤雨权力在握的男人，也有无法买绿香蕉的一天，因为他等不到了。
“世间好物不坚牢，彩云易散琉璃脆。一九九七年早春，阿媛去世。一九九八年末，锺书去世。我们三人就此失散了。就这么轻易的失散了。” 其实人世间所有相遇的结局都注定是分别。老先生拥有过这样的真情，也不枉此生了。

[Weiyi · Rating 5 out of 5]

人生終是一條要自己走的路，一路上有人同行的時間長些，大多則是匆匆而過。愛的人不在了，曾經的家就不過是另一片躲雨的屋簷而已。楊絳先生寫的過往越幸福，我就越感傷。讀完一遍就不敢再讀，只怕一直哭一直哭。

[Hannah Wu · Rating 4 out of 5]

Ugly cried the entire time my mom was like yo chilllll

[Sybby · Rating 3 out of 5]

I read the original Chinese version. It was so popular book in China indeed because of the death of the writer in 2016, in her 105 years old age. What this family suffered was very impressive, which I believe they are having such beautiful hearts and souls. And thanks to their contribution on Chinese literature, translation, and academic areas. I respect this old lady since she has such a brave heart to write this family biography in her age of 92 after losing her daughter and husband. But, however, as a critical reader, I think there are some missing information, which relates to her husband and his female student. I also think it is not appropriate to mention here. Although the family relationships are very nice and warm, there is also another side... I hope every reader can be critical, don't just believe what it presents to you.

[Arthen · Rating 3 out of 5]

同事说，是一本很温暖的书，我说，看不下去看不下去看不下去。。幸好并不是很长，也算是硬着头皮看完了。之前有人说过，世界上好看的书那么多，为什么要难为自己。我总觉得大家都说好，如果我没看完就说不好，大概率是我的问题。如果我 看完了在说不好，我也只好咬着牙说一定是我生活阅历不足。。

[Ting Ting · Rating 4 out of 5]

Lovely. I’m thinking of rereading it. I didn’t catch all parts due to lack of vocabulary.

[Aurora · Rating 5 out of 5]

“能和锺书对等玩的人不多，不相投的就会嫌锺书刻薄了。我们和不相投的人保持距离，又好像是骄傲了。我们年轻不谙世故，但最谙世故、最会做人的同样也遭非议。锺书和我就以此自解。”抚掌大乐，太懂了太懂了，刻薄人打嘴仗的乐趣不足为外人道也。其实我对杨绛一直有一些偏见（估计是年轻时看了些SB公众号），这本书确实打破了我对她的很多无中生有的印象，比起前半部分的别后书辞、别时针线，倒是后面平平淡淡的回忆更加打动我，唉，这真的是很长，很好的一生啊。

[Joanna · Rating 5 out of 5]

The three chapter allegory of parting ways with her husband and daughter are some of the most melancholic I've ever read. But all in all I would say it's not a sad book, it's a lovely book. One of the least toxic books on intimate familial relations I've ever read coming out of Asia - sad that's so rare tbh.

[Chenye G · Rating 5 out of 5]

点点滴滴诠释着父母对女儿的爱。
之前看了钱钟书的《围城》，杨绛女士和他在学术上的成就是一流的。为人又低调，简单。真是难得的文豪。

[Angela · Rating 5 out of 5]

作者文筆很好，作為一本傳記，它成功感動了我。字裡行間都隱隱地牽動著我。最喜歡那句“世間好物不堅牢，彩雲易散琉璃脆”，說著他們三人就那麼輕易地失散了。

我很喜歡“驛道”那篇，那種敘述方式讓我看到了錢瑗和錢鍾書對她的愛，尤其是她的丈夫，她是多麼地幸福。“驛道”看到最後才發現，原來那是錢鍾書記得她曾經的一個小小抱怨，為了讓她能逐漸接受離別，慢慢說再見的溫柔舉動，我瞬間就淚崩了。看到後面的傳記部份，發現他們的生活起伏不少，分開的時間也不少，但是感情絲毫不受影響，真的讓人很感動。

看完整本書後上網查了一下，原來楊絳在失去女兒和丈夫後，活到了104歲，自己一個人活了20多年。我就在想，這20年得多煎熬。兩個深愛的人，深愛自己的人都不在身邊，這得多寂寞。在心疼她的同時，也好敬佩她。

總而言之，這是一本能讓你的感情和它一齊共鳴的傳記。

[Isaac van der Meulen · Rating 3 out of 5]

这本书是杨绛的自传。她和她的丈夫钱钟书是中国文学界最著名的人物之一。读这本书之前，我对他们并不熟悉，从未听说过他们的名字。

他们在1930年代就上了清华大学，然后英国的牛津大学和法国的巴黎大学。我自己也获得了博士学位，并留学过。尽管他们比我大一百岁左右，但我觉得他们在学术界的经历与我的相似。去国外，结识其他国家的学者，相互帮助找住所，一起吃饭等等。都比较平凡，一百年来并没有太多变化。

后来，杨绛和钱钟书回到上海，经历了日据和解放。我对当时中国的情况了解不多，但感觉到他们的生活既复杂又普通。复杂是因为政治环境，普通是因为他们始终是文学家，继续从事研究工作。最后，钱钟书生病了，但对他的工作影响并不大。在治疗期间，不能外出的时候，他的同事们会来他的住所与他合作。一个学者的生活自然就是这样。

[Yiwei · Rating 4 out of 5]

七年前买的书，以前觉得无聊看不进，这次在零碎时间看完了。

是个历经了日据时代、新中国成立后的文革等历史大事件的家庭。夫妻俩在海外求学生活很朴实真实，钱瑗小时候的机灵劲让人怜爱，羡慕这类知识分子家庭里其乐融融的氛围。钱钟书等待清华大学聘书的这一段是不是也后来改写到围城的情节里啊？

[Tannis · Rating 5 out of 5]

a thin book ,but is full of warm . u can see a classic acknowledge family life ,thought almost one century. author is humor .

[Yujie · Rating 5 out of 5]

看完感触很多。。。千言万语归成一句话：“世间好物不坚牢，彩云易散琉璃脆。”

[Y · Rating 5 out of 5]

世间好物不牢靠，彩虹易散琉璃脆。
满是无奈…

[Barack Liu · Rating 5 out of 5]

128-Three of us-Yang Jiang-Essays-2003
Barack
2017/07/ 15
2020/05/ 20


—— In the spring of 1932, Yang Jiang met Qian Zhongshu at the gate of Gu Yuetang of Tsinghua University. The two met at once and talked freely. Qian Zhongshu eagerly clarified: "The outside world says that I am engaged. This is not a fact. Please don't believe it." Yang Jiang also took the opportunity to explain: "There are rumors that there are as many as seventy-two Confucian disciples who pursue me. Some people say that Fei Xiaotong is my boyfriend. This is not true either."

"The Three of Us" was first published in China in 2003. Collected books. It is a concise and heavy language, recalls has left her daughter Qian Yuan, the husband money Chung books, as well as a family of three of those happy and difficult, love and pain of life.

Yang Jiang, whose real name is Yang Jikang , was born in Wuxi, Jiangsu Province in 1911 and died in 2016. In 1928, Jiang Jiang single-mindedly applied for the Foreign Languages Department of Tsinghua University, but there was no place in the South, so Yang Jiang had to transfer to Suzhou Soochow University. In 1932, he studied at Tsinghua University from Soochow University in Suzhou and got to know Qian Zhongshu. In 1935, Jiang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu married and went to study in England and France with her husband in the summer of the same year. Representative works: "The Three of Us", "Going to the Edge of Life", "Bath", "Six Notes of Cadre School", etc.

Part of the catalog
1. We are getting old
2. The three of us are separated
3. I miss the three of us alone

Mr. Yang Jiang was born in 1911, his only daughter Qian Yuan died of spinal cancer in 1997, her husband Qian Zhongshu died in 1998, "We Three" was published in 2003, and Mr. Yang Jiang passed away in 2016. The heart-wrenching sadness is expressed in temperate language, which makes people very heart-shaking.

At the age of 17, Yang Jiang failed to apply for Tsinghua University and had to attend Soochow University in Suzhou. At the age of 21, Yang Jiang went to Tsinghua University to study and met Qian Zhongshu. At the age of 24, he was married to Qian Zhongshu because Yang Jiang failed to obtain the qualification to study abroad at public expense, and Qian Zhongshu obtained the qualification to study abroad at public expense. Yang Jiang accompanied Qian Zhongshu in Oxford University and Paris University in a similar capacity. Learn.

Yang Jiang’s perspective allows us to put aside the aura brought by the status of the two elders in the literary world, and look at this family from the perspective of ordinary people. Qian Zhongshu's temperament is submissive, he doesn't like rebuttals, he is not good at socializing, he likes to be quiet and he doesn't like to move, and he is even "clumsy." Yang Jiang's awareness of taking the initiative to fight seems to be stronger, he is more active by nature, and seems to be more capable. And Qian during a study of Tsinghua University, Beijing even the most attractions have not been to, during and Yang Jiang Jie Du visited Beijing many places

There is an anecdote like this in the book. While studying at Oxford University, Jiang Jiang just gave birth to Qian Yuan and was recuperating in the hospital. When Qian Zhongshu came to see her once, he said embarrassingly that he overturned the landlord’s ink and soaked the tablecloth. Yang Jiang said, “It’s okay, I will Wash." So Qian Zhongshu went back confidently. Soon after, Qian Zhongshu said that he accidentally smashed the table lamp. Yang Jiang said, "It doesn't matter, I will fix it." After that, Qian Zhongshu broke the door shaft again. Yang Jiang said, "It doesn't matter, I will repair."

When I read this paragraph, I almost laughed out loud. No wonder Yang Jiang jokingly called Qian Zhongshu a "big official", with a three-point dullness. According to ordinary people, the hero and heroine of this story should be changed. It is estimated that nowadays many girls meet this kind of boyfriend, and they will inevitably give a blank look. Qian's " Clumsy hands Clumsy feet" can be seen.

In 1929, Qian Zhongshu was exceptionally admitted by Tsinghua University . Mathematics only scored 15 points, but both Chinese and English were ranked first . In 1938, Qian Zhongshu was exceptionally hired as a professor by Tsinghua University. I have to say that Qian Lao and Tsinghua University are really related. But because Qian Zhongshu's father asked him to go home to " serve", although Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang were unwilling to give up Tsinghua's employment, Qian Zhongshu did not dare to challenge the dignity of the elders and had to obey orders.

Later, Qian Zhongshu's father asked his only daughter to marry a teacher he was in love with. The younger sister did not want to marry, so he asked his brother for help. Qian Zhongshu did not dare to violate his father directly, but wrote a letter for his younger sister. As a result, the letter caused the old man "Long Yan furious", and the younger sister finally married the teacher. Filial piety is certainly one reason, but as Qian Zhongshu, who has studied at Tsinghua University and studied in the UK and France, he should have been exposed to some new ideas more or less. These two things also reflect part of his personality and even "adversity." "specialty.

The world's best love about a lot of looks , one of which will be , I'm Qian, Yang Jiang you are. Although it is biased, in the reality that most people can only get married for the sake of living together, it would be a pleasant surprise and surprise if I could "see my only soul mate in the vast sea of people".

Many years ago, Yang Jiang read that the British biographer summarized the ideal marriage: "Before I met her, I never thought of getting married; I have married her for decades, and I never regretted marrying her, nor did I think about marrying. Other women." Yang Jiang read it to Qian Zhongshu, and Qian Zhongshu immediately responded: "I am like him." Yang Jiang replied: "Me too."

People say, "Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang began to fall in love at first sight, fell in love each other, and finally fell in love with each other over time." The joy of love is not a necessity, but a luxury. That's why people yearn for it.

Love someone 7 months is that everyone can do it, you love someone 7 years Knut force may also be achieved, to love a person 7 0 years is hard to do things. How many husbands and wives regard each other as enemies after only living together for less than 7 years, so how can they be talking about each other? It's just to reduce the cost of living and barely forget about it.

" I turned around in the middle of the night and waited for Zhong Shu to wake up, and told him that I had a dream, such and such; so I complained that he left me silently and walked on his own. Zhong Shu did not dream for me He defended and only comforted me: It was an old man’s dream, and he often did it. ”

When you are used to and happy to live with someone, she becomes a part of your world. When it was discovered that Yi Shi's bookstore went out of business homely could not help but be sad, let alone a man suddenly leave it. I sometimes envy people who are indifferent. For people and things in life suddenly appeared , they overly joy . I don't feel excessive sorrow for the people and things that will eventually leave . Probably only when you reach this state of mind can you be extraordinary. However, at least for now, I am still a mortal.

" Ayuan stood in the aisle between the bed and the desk, and stopped her father between the desk and the piano. Ayuan proudly said, "Catch it on the spot! "Bell Book shrink themselves despicably small, he closed his eyes and said:" I'm not here! "He couldn't stand up straight with laughter. I could see the smiling waves rolling in his belly through his belly. A Yuan said, "Is there such an alibi?" "(Note: alibi, evidence of alibi.) I couldn't help but laugh. All three were laughing. "

For a man, career and family are the two sides of his life. It doesn't matter which one is more important than the other , neither one is missing, and his life cannot be said to be happy. What is ridiculous is how many men pursue things outside of these two too much. As far as family life is concerned , whether you are a husband or a father , you should have a sense of humor. Only in this way can family life be always full of laughter, and laughter is the bond that connects emotions.

" Waiting is annoying. I told myself not to wait and bury my head in my work. However, when I said no, I waited eagerly. I couldn't get the book in, so I was spinning around at home by myself. It was almost two o'clock and Zhong Shu returned did not come back. I scoop and a half bowl of soup, two spoonfuls of rice bubble, casually eating, lying down cranky. think the thought , suddenly moved a terrible idea. how I can make the bell boarded a book of unknown origin car , I don't know where to go? "

Although it was a peaceful and prosperous age in 1994, there is no danger, but you should be more careful in such details. Yu Dafu just left with the unknown person, and finally disappeared .

" I made a wish to them before I retire. I said: "When I retire, I will make up lessons, I will pay off the debt, and I will cook delicious dishes for you. "I'm only sorry lifetime, I thought I scribbled plug responsibility for housework, no dedicated they both laughed. Said:" Forget it! A Yuan said bluntly, "Mom's knife skills are not good. When I saw Kuai Knife, I was afraid, impatient, and impatient. "Zhong Shu said: "Why should you cook?" You quit, can you take a break? "To be honest, they have never disliked the dishes I cook. As long as I cook them, they always applaud. "

" I asked: Where is ""over there " ? A Yuan said: "I remember. Luo also wordy repetitious many things, anyway, I've got it here. "She showed me the notebook in her purse. She said: "We have to bring both the cash and the bank deposit slip, because the procedures are completed at one time, and the rest will be refunded. If it is insufficient, we cannot make up the procedures halfway. " I think it's more like a kidnapping case, but I didn't dare to say, because Yuan is never confused. "

The place where Qian Zhongshu is located should refer to the hospital. That's why there are a lot of procedures to be done here, and there are fees to be paid. The strict rules for queuing for work are obviously common in hospitals.

" The shopkeeper registered the deposit sheet and explained: "Our house here is simpler, but the management is new. The long and short pavilions on this road have been converted into inns, which are a chain of trains. You don't have to pay any more after you get the sign. Every inn provides food, accommodation and all convenience. Passengers' clothes and daily necessities can be collected at the inn and booked . When the passengers leave the room, they put their things together and hand them to the counter. The passengers on the ship are under the control of the ship and you are not allowed to interfere. Passengers who live in the inn must abide by the rules of our inn. "

He took out a printed warning and a rule. The warning is a red card in black and a big word. (1) Walk along the post road, don’t go where there is no road. (2) Don't go where you can't see. (3) Don't ask anything you don't know. The rules are in black and white, but also in big letters. (1) The sun sets in the front cabin and immediately returns to the inn. The post road is deserted, and even after the gate is bolted at night, the door does not open even after knocking. (2) Every inn, you can rest, convenient, and eat. Don't miss it. (3) Return to the original inn after disembarking. The shopkeeper gave each of us a round card with a number on it, and the north asked us to press our fingerprints, and solemnly instructed us to always carry a card when entering and exiting. Obey the rules and don’t forget to warn, especially the third one, because it is the most difficult to control. It's the mouth. "

" A Yuan stood still and said, "Mom, see that the stern has a number, 311, it's Dad's boat. I saw it too. Yuan went downhill first. I walked behind and said, "Don't worry, I am walking very steadily." "But Yuan has never seen the springboard, so she dared not go. I went up first and reached out to hold her, she walked carefully sideways. Both of them got on the boat. The boat was clean, the rear cabin was empty, and the front cabin was empty. With a clean overall bed, snow-white sheets, and snow-white pillows, it is almost like being in a hospital. Zhong Shu is lying on his side with his abdomen evenly lying together, sleeping very quietly. "

When a person is young and vigorous and proud of the spring breeze, he probably never feels that he has a day when he needs others . But when grown old while men, lying in a hospital bed, probably you will find fame and fortune are not all that important. Only the company of family members is the greatest pleasure.

" Zhong Shu seems to be still sleeping soundly. The blood-red sun behind the cloud hasn't hit the bedside. Suddenly Zhong Shu opened his eyes, looked at us, and said our name as if he were comforting himself: Ji Kang, Yuanyuan We hurriedly told him that the sun shone into the front cabin and we had to go back to the inn. A Yuan said, "I will visit you every week. Mom comes to accompany you every day. It's quiet here. "Zhong Shu said: "I heard it all." "His ears are lingering, he was only half asleep when he fell asleep. At this moment, he suddenly pulled his closed mouth into a straight line, pulled out a mischievous smile, looked at me interestingly and said, "Crimson, are you still dreaming?" I froze for a moment, and said blankly: "I seem to be dreaming right now. "My mouth answered like that, but I knew I didn't answer. I couldn't figure it out for a while. "

If one day we sit in front of our lover’s bed and accompany her . Or maybe we are lying on a sick bed and being guarded by my lover. Probably that is when we have the deepest understanding of the meaning of family affection. There is no way to exchange this kind of feeling for other things . It's just that scenes like this rarely appear in our lives, and we tend to ignore them. Thought it was not important. Others think they do not need care when you can not think they need love , but also think they do not need others to pay care.

" The willows on the embankment began to fall yellow and gradually became bald willows. I walked on the post road every day, walking with my shadow on the fallen leaves. "

[Eva z · Rating 4 out of 5]

I originally didn’t have high expectations of the book since my Chinese teacher recommended it to me and she said its perfect for my level of understanding in Chinese. I’ve never heard of the book before but genuinely really enjoyed it. There were so many beautifully embedded and crafted symbols throughout the story that invites a deeper reflection. For me personably some parts were quite ambiguous but it made so much sense once you finish the novel and realise how it mirrors sad themes and the broader idea of life and death. The order the plot was organised in also created a nice rhythm making it more emotionally impactful. If I had to say one thing that Im unhappy with it would be how severe and heavy the post reading depression made me feel!

[Leah · Rating 5 out of 5]

书摘：
我们夫妇常把日常的感受，当做美酒般浅斟低酌，细细品尝。这种滋味值得品尝，因为忧患孕育智慧。钟书曾说：“一个人二十不狂没志气，三十犹狂是无识妄人”。

我清醒地看到以前当做“我们家”的寓所，只是旅途上的客栈而已。家在哪里，我不知道。我还在寻觅归途。

读后感：
杨绛先生和她的先生都是温暖的人。我们俩老了，我们仨失散了，我一个人思念我们仨。是梦境，亦是现实。婚姻是孕育美好，孕育温暖。他们仨终于团聚

[Jing · Rating 4 out of 5]

从个体来说钱家三人都是出类拔萃的文豪，从整体上老先生的笔墨刻画了朴实而不简单的一家三口朝夕相处的岁月，非常让人羡慕和仰视。

老先生在暮年连续两年送走了女儿和丈夫，发出“世间好物不坚牢，彩云易散琉璃脆”的感叹，再结合之前“驿站”三人失散的故事，顿时心里还是挺难受的，真是位坚强的老人啊。读完全书最大的启发还是活在当下，珍惜眼前人的陪伴，及时感恩，用心把自己平凡的生活过得充满了滋味, 相信这些一点一滴的平淡在岁月的陈酿下终究会变得五味杂陈。

[Beryl Liu · Rating 5 out of 5]

阳光明媚的早晨读完了古栈道那一部分，读之前以为我们仨是一本回忆录，它的确是，只不过没想到开篇是如此沉重，人生总是有走不完的路，绕不开的结，似梦似醒的瞬间。
这又让我想起了纠结很久的问题，人短短的一生，从宇宙的尺度看不过一隅，活着的意义究竟是什么呢？金钱名利都是生不带来死不带去的东西，我们体会到的情感，亲情爱情友情也都不是永恒的，孤独就是人生的尽头死亡的开始。
书里描写的家庭的温暖，和爱人的甜蜜总是伴随着已知结局的悲哀。很难想象杨绛女士是抱着多么孤独悲伤的心情写完了他们仨的故事。人间没有永远，没有童话故事的结局。世间好物不坚牢，彩云易散琉璃脆

[Wenting · Rating 4 out of 5]

去DC旅行的途中读的，文笔很随和，就像作者一家对待时代和生活无奈下的平淡日子，在伤感中闪烁着坚强，走下去就好。

[littlefairyyyyyy · Rating 4 out of 5]

我们仨都没有虚度此生，因为是我们仨。我们三个人很单纯。我们与世无求，与人无争，只求相聚在一起，相守在一起。

[Emily · Rating 4 out of 5]

#Relationshipgoal

[ECHO · Rating 5 out of 5]

很平和的语句讲述三人相处间的点点滴滴。明明很多风雨飘摇却还是十分幸福。
--从今以后，咱们只有死别，不再生离。