Τα χέρια δεν είναι για να δέρνουμε

Best Behavior

by Martine Agassi, Καλλιόπη Κύρδη (Translator), Marieka Heinlen (Illustrator)

Τα χέρια είναι για να χαιρετάμε, να παίζουμε, να χειροκροτάμε, να μετράμε, να βοηθάμε τους άλλους, να κατασκευάζουμε πράγματα, να μας κρατάνε ασφαλείς. Υπάρχουν πολλοί εναλλακτικοί τρόποι για να χειριστούμε τα συναισθήματά μας χωρίς να καταφύγουμε σε επιθετική συμπεριφορά. Με τη βοήθεια αυτού του βιβλίου τα παιδιά θα καταλάβουν ότι η βία ποτέ δε βγαίνει σε καλό. Κάθε παιδί μπορεί να κάνει με τα χέρια του διασκεδαστικά και εποικοδομητικά πράγματα, να τιθασεύει τα έντονα συναισθήματα θυμού ή ζήλιας βρίσκοντας εναλλακτικές λύσεις όταν του έρχεται να χτυπήσει κάποιον. Πώς; Χοροπηδώντας, ζωγραφίζοντας, συζητώντας... Τα κείμενα είναι απλά και σύντομα ώστε να διαβάζονται μεγαλόφωνα από ένα παιδί, από μία ομάδα ή μία τάξη. Η χαριτωμένη εικονογράφηση και η αμεσότητα των φράσεων καθοδηγούν τα παιδιά στην υιοθέτηση βασικών κανόνων καλής συμπεριφοράς. Στο τέλος του βιβλίου οι ενήλικες θα βρουν θέματα για συζήτηση και δραστηριότητες που μπορούν να πραγματοποιήσουν με τα παιδιά.

Για παιδιά από 4 ετών

Genres: Picture Books, Childrens, Emotion, Parenting, Nonfiction, School, Education

42 pages, Paperback

First published May 1, 2000

Reviews

[Prabhjot Kaur · Rating 4 out of 5]

Hands are for playing, learning, doing and building.
Hands are not for hitting. Hitting is never okay.

This is such a good book with a very important message to children and grown ups alike. It tells of all the ways hands can be used but they are never to be used for hitting anyone. There's a note at the end A Word to Grown-Ups talking about violence in our culture and discussion starters and activities which I also enjoyed. It has lovely, inclusive illustrations.

4 stars

[Kayla Bennett · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was not expecting to like this book, but I loved it. Not only does it teach that hands are not to hurt or hit anyone, it gives us other things to do with them. I love how the illustrations depicted the story too. This would definitely be a book I would buy for my future children or my classroom. I really enjoyed that it did not come out and call children out but pointed out the feelings of it. I feel like the author scored with this book.

[Chelsea · Rating 4 out of 5]

1. Hands Are Not for Hitting
2. The book teaches about not hitting.
3. A learning experience I can use with this book for is teaching children good ways they can use their hands. I can do an activity of having the children trace and cut out their hands with construction paper. I can then ask them, "what are good ways we can use our hands?" and write it on their traced hands. I can then display all of their hands in the classroom where the children can see them.

[Jenny · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is such a huge help for my 6 year old son who has trouble with managing his emotions & impulsivity. I love that there is a section for adults to read & that there are so many good suggestions contained there. I'm also glad to learn this book is part of a series. We will be getting & reading all of them.

[Kit · Rating 3 out of 5]

I like that it focuses on different things the kid can do other than hit, different feelings that might make a kid want to hit, and what to do if someone hits you. However, I do think that all the other things hands are for doing is a bit distracting.

[Antoinette Scully · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very cute. I read this to my girls at breakfast and they loved it. Straightforward and relatable. Perfect for kids 4-7 (the age my kids are now). Presented in a caring way and never condescending. Highly recommend.

[Mr. · Rating 4 out of 5]

This version is for older kids but will be great for when he's a little older.

[معصومه توکلی · Rating 3 out of 5]

عنوان ترجمه فارسی: دست ها برای زدن نیستند!

[Olugbemisola Ogutuga · Rating 4 out of 5]

Hands are not for hitting is a story about activities that children and teachers can do instead of hitting.It teaches children how to correctly use their hands instead of hitting. This book is very good for teaching toddlers.

[Alice · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a simple book for kids, on their level about using their hands for good things and not for hitting. It gives idea and tips on how to deal with angry and what to do instead of hitting!

[Michala Smith · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book encourages young readers to know and learn the proper uses of hands, it teaches them that hands are not for hitting. The story is intended for children 4-7 years old. In the story, the author gives examples of how hands are supposed to be used opposed to how they can be used improperly. This story could be useful in my future classroom because it will teach students how to play nicely and not use hands for hitting or expressing their anger. This story encourages friendship, kindness and healthy communication. It displays children dealing with hard emotions and how they learned to effectively cope with them.

[Ilana · Rating 3 out of 5]

A useful book if your little one is struggling hard controlling his or her aggressive behavior. Although useful for the one-on-one parent-child conversation, I may see the book rather used even more successfully in the classroom, with the educator/teacher trying to play different roles and engage a bigger audience.
No matter the context, it´s a much welcomed reading material.
Personally, I was not impressed by the illustrations.

Rating: 3.5 stars
Disclaimer: Book offered by the publisher in exchange for an honest review

[Viviane Elbee]

This book explains all the things hands can be used for and also explains that hands are not for hitting. There are moments of interaction, asking kids to tap a beat or clap or high five.

However it is quite long and the kids lost interest, finding it boring.

It can be used when going over rules or if discussing a non-violence theme or abuse/bullying topic. This is a message-based, didactic book.

[Brionna Harvey · Rating 5 out of 5]

Hands Are Not for Hitting by Martine Agassi is contemporary realistic fiction. It has no awards that goes with it. The intended audience is and age range of 4-7. This book is great to teach kids to not hit. Martine gives perfect examples to what hands are used for. Whether it is good or bad things. The illustrations help young readers she whats it like to express certain feelings. Hopefully, this book can be useful to anyone who reads it.

[Kwuniesha Hackworth · Rating 4 out of 5]

I love this book also compared to (Voices Are Not for Yelling). These series of books are excited to teach toddlers for beginning stage of learning new things on how to be nice to one another. It also teaches them how we can use our voices and hands in a nicer way or in a better tone to get what we want or to communicate.

[E & E’s Mama · Rating 4 out of 5]

A good book to discuss gentle hands and not hitting. The book focuses a lot of the fun, helpful, and and loving things we can do with our hand, then repeats that hands are not for hitting because hitting hurts and is not kind.

Read-aloud recommendation: a bit long for toddlers, but great for preschoolers and kinder

[Candice · Rating 4 out of 5]

The book talks about how to use our negative feelings in a positive way. The book focuses on how hands aren't for hitting. It's a great book for kids struggling with anger issues at a young age. I give it a 4 with great illustrations and meaning.

[Ilias Avramidis · Rating 5 out of 5]

Εργαλείο για τον κάθε γονέα και ακόμα περισσότερο για τον κάθε εκπαιδευτικό. Στο τέλος του βιβλίου υπάρχει μια ανάλυση και συμβουλές για γονείς και εκπαιδευτικούς, καθώς και δραστηριότητες και παιχνίδια που μπορούν να γίνουν συνδυαστικά με τα κείμενα.

[Jessica · Rating 2 out of 5]

I like the idea of this book, but it was too wordy, in my opinion, for the age group I would want to share it with (4 & under) because this is where I see hitting begin. Colorful, animated illustrations. I’m looking forward to reading more books from the series.

[Charles Cozette · Rating 3 out of 5]

muy largo, lleno de palabras

Para un niño chico resulta aburrido. No llegue a terminar el cuento en dos ocasiones. Dice que no hay que golpear pero no sigue tanto el hilo. Tampoco está ajustado para celular y las imágenes aparecen chicas

[Tami · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love love love this book. it tells me about hitting. no. 🛄🚫🚭🛄🚾💊🛢️💊🗿🗜️⚱️🚬🗿🚬🚭🚾🛂🚳🛄🎂🗜️🎂🗜️🎂🥕���🥕🥔🍏🍒🍐🥑🍒🍏🥔🥥🥕🎷🎤🎵🎧🎶🎤🎷🎷🎼🎸🛂⚠️🛅🛂🚭🛂🛄🛂hope. book is a good reminder.

[SaraKat · Rating 2 out of 5]

This was on my school's pillars of character reading list for responsibility. It is for young children and the author says it is for adults to read aloud and interact with children as they do so.

[Jeffrey Yasskin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Unlike most no-hitting books, this one describes more than one reason a kid might hit, and focuses on other, good things hands can do.

[sylas · Rating 5 out of 5]

A very necessary and useful tool in my household these days.

[Zahra Zarrinfar · Rating 4 out of 5]

کنار این کتاب میشه کلی فعالیت جالب با بچه‌ها انجام داد هر کاری که با دست‌ها میشه کرد. به جز زدن و هل دادن و غیره

[Aysa · Rating 5 out of 5]

It's Awesome!
عالی است!

[Anna Baboura · Rating 3 out of 5]

Καλό το μήνυμα που θέλει να περάσει το βιβλίο, αλλά καταντάει κουραστικό.... Οι μαθητές μου βαρέθηκαν.

[Emily Orton · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is so good. It is very informational, by teaching kids what to use your hands for instead of hitting. I would use this as a shared reading, as it incorporates so much interactive leaning.

[Kim · Rating 5 out of 5]

An excellent read that engages the kids by consistently asking questions.

[Jo Oehrlein · Rating 3 out of 5]

Written like a school lesson, lecture style but with pictures.

The illustrations are okay, but nothing special.

And there's no story here.