Do I have a vagina? Yes. Do I let that define me? No.
This book is a must read for everyone, whether one has a vagina or not. Even at my current age, I'm not embarrassed to admit, that I found this book educating, and there were a few aspects that Enright discussed, that I didn't know much about. That for me, is pretty damn embarrassing, that even today, girls and women are having to turn to books instead of well-rounded open discussions, because people are too embarrassed to talk about vaginas.
We learn that many women do not know where the vulva is located, and they presume that the vagina is in fact, the entire area. This information didn't surprise me, but I did find it quite disturbing when I thought about it on the whole. Why is this happening? Why is it not talked about?
I was sickened to learn about women and young girls that put themselves through pointless surgery to achieve the designer vagina look. I mean, we already have the pressure of ensuring that our hips don't get too big, or that we don't get wrinkly skin too rapidly, but now, now we have the added pressure that our labia lips look "neat."
Enright tells us of the taboo of the clitoris, and how it isn't discussed in sex education classes. Yes, it gets a little mention, but to tell girls that the clitoris has no other function except to give pleasure? How terrible would that be? It is concerning that the male climax is regularly and openly discussed, and how his pleasure is more important, but the female climax, is quietly swept under that carpet we know so well. It needs to change, and I agree with Enright.
Enright discusses the menstruation taboo, openly and thoroughly. We have to admit, it STILL exists. I think it's sad when I see a woman at a checkout purchasing sanitary products, and she feels the need to kind of hide them, under the other groceries, just so nobody spots them. We bleed. The pain bothers me like a bitch. Life goes on.
It is as though as women, we are made to feel as though we are dirty.
I love the cover of this book, it is simple, but bold, and it made me want to read it. I appreciate Enright and her honesty in this book, and her own personal story was relatable with me, too. This has made me feel even more empowered, and prouder than ever, of me, myself and my vagina.
"We have been far taught more about shame than about our anatomy. "