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Beyond the First Impression: How to Succeed at Nearly Everything by Managing How Others See You
"You can get more of the things you want out of life if you will simply learn the art of managing perceptions." (Kerry O'Hallaron, Author and Trainer) Have you ever wanted to walk into a room – any room – and OWN it? Have people look your way, smile, whisper your name, and focus attention on you because you are in the room now?... Wouldn’t you love to say goodbye to awkward conversations and become a skilled conversationalist – almost instantly? Or how about “that” person who makes new friends everywhere he/she goes, seemingly without effort. Shouldn’t you be "that person?" How about job interview? A first date? Or any other new encounter? Wouldn't it be great to automatically create a commanding and lasting first impression in every situation? If so, then you’ve come to the right place. Beyond the First Impression is a life changing modern-day twist on Dale Carnegie’s timeless classic – learn quickly how to have more friends, show more charisma, and better manage every relationship – all in the comfort of your home. You see, forging great relationships doesn’t have to be difficult. In fact, it’s easier than you think – with the tools in this book. "Kerry O’Hallaron simply nailed it with Beyond the First Impression," says Jason Broadman, international book critic. "He took something everyone needs to know, which nobody teaches, and made it interesting, eminently readable, entertaining, and exceptionally useful to just about everyone." This means you can vastly improve virtually every human interaction without spending a dime on training courses and therapy sessions. Here’s just a small sampling of what you’ll •The 21 GoldenRules(tm) that will quickly craft a new, more influential, more likeable, YOU! •How to start an initial connection with strangers - WITHOUT feeling awkward. •Your Fifteen Minutes of Fame – It’s certain to happen. How will you handle it? •How to avoid the biggest mistake people make when dealing with arguments. •How to make others see you the way you want to be seen. •Become a leader WITHOUT a title – is that even possible? (Spoiler alert – sure is!) •REAL-LIFE examples of how People Skills have changed countless lives for the better. Let yours be next. ...and much, much more! Imagine how you’ll feel once you learn how to easily build genuine relationships with almost everyone you meet. And how your family and friends will react when they see this new and improved version of "you." Whether you are an accomplished social butterfly or a wallflower, or somewhere in between, this was written for you. "The ability to deal with people is a purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee, and I will pay more for that ability than any other under the sun," said John D. Rockefeller, one of the wealthiest people who ever lived. If you are ready to create a new and improved version of yourself – one that everyone instantly likes and respects - scroll up and click "BUY NOW."
236 pages, Kindle Edition
Published November 27, 2018
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February 10, 2019
People Skills 101 by Kerry O’Hallaron is impressively well-laid out. Each chapter starts with a social skills quote; many of the quotes are modern and relatable by today’s standards. Following the quotes are the chapter headings and sub-headings. O'Hallaron’s organization of his book makes it possible for readers to move back and forth, visiting chapters that have more impact and moving away from those that have less.
What is most remarkable about this author’s writing is his self-disclosure, revealing what shyness and introversion felt like as he tried to deal with people and often feared for his job, as he struggled to convey confidence. The author writes in a humble tone, avoiding preachy sentimentality, as he offers his self-taught social skills to readers. The positives in the book are: addressing politeness in the digital age, admitting the biases he was raised with and his conscious self-growth towards becoming inclusive, his personal anecdotes and his sincerity throughout his writing.
However, some of the people skills are recycled information from previous self-help books. The big smile concept and remembering names goes back to Carnegie. However as the book progresses, it becomes more original and humanistic. The tone remains positive throughout the writing, but in reality, people struggling to relate to others often need to to learn how to set boundaries, deal with mean-spirited people, and overcome prejudice and hostility by others. These are facts of life that often rob shy people of their confidence.
Although O' Hallaron’s book does not deal with relating to all kinds of people, it does a good job of teaching readers how to develop empathy, practice friendliness, and how to start an initial connection with strangers, how to use a positive attitude towards all stratum of society, and most importantly, how to practice gratitude as a powerful foundation of relating to others. People Skills 101 is an updated version of positive thinking and is an asset to people who are trying to make the world a friendlier and more peaceful place to live.
What is most remarkable about this author’s writing is his self-disclosure, revealing what shyness and introversion felt like as he tried to deal with people and often feared for his job, as he struggled to convey confidence. The author writes in a humble tone, avoiding preachy sentimentality, as he offers his self-taught social skills to readers. The positives in the book are: addressing politeness in the digital age, admitting the biases he was raised with and his conscious self-growth towards becoming inclusive, his personal anecdotes and his sincerity throughout his writing.
However, some of the people skills are recycled information from previous self-help books. The big smile concept and remembering names goes back to Carnegie. However as the book progresses, it becomes more original and humanistic. The tone remains positive throughout the writing, but in reality, people struggling to relate to others often need to to learn how to set boundaries, deal with mean-spirited people, and overcome prejudice and hostility by others. These are facts of life that often rob shy people of their confidence.
Although O' Hallaron’s book does not deal with relating to all kinds of people, it does a good job of teaching readers how to develop empathy, practice friendliness, and how to start an initial connection with strangers, how to use a positive attitude towards all stratum of society, and most importantly, how to practice gratitude as a powerful foundation of relating to others. People Skills 101 is an updated version of positive thinking and is an asset to people who are trying to make the world a friendlier and more peaceful place to live.
January 28, 2019
This book is as easy to read as it is useful.
I have seen advertising comparing the book to “Dale Carnegie’s classic” and stating that it “follows in the Dale Carnegie tradition.” I agree with both of these, but they are entirely too modest. The “classic” was written many years ago in the language of that time, and is not very readable today. People Skills 101, on the other hand, is written in today’s language, relevant, and eminently readable.
O’Hallaron starts out with a story from his past which ultimately was the catalyst for him writing this book many years later. It’s a good story about a person (the author) who had poor people skills, working in a job in which the primary requirement was good people skills. He does a good job describing how he got demoted rather than fired, spent the next 25 years mastering the skills he had lacked, and ultimately wrote this book because no other book of its type was available.
Each chapter starts out with a similar anecdote, some from the author’s experience, some from the experiences of historical figures, and some from a variety of other people. Each anecdote does a good job providing an example of the skill he wants to talk about in that section. He then goes about clearly outlining the skill, its need, and how to exercise it.
O’Hallaron states that everyone can use this book. I have to agree. I found that I already had some of this information; some was completely new to me; but it’s all very useful. If you buy this book as an investment in yourself, it will pay for itself the next day.
I have seen advertising comparing the book to “Dale Carnegie’s classic” and stating that it “follows in the Dale Carnegie tradition.” I agree with both of these, but they are entirely too modest. The “classic” was written many years ago in the language of that time, and is not very readable today. People Skills 101, on the other hand, is written in today’s language, relevant, and eminently readable.
O’Hallaron starts out with a story from his past which ultimately was the catalyst for him writing this book many years later. It’s a good story about a person (the author) who had poor people skills, working in a job in which the primary requirement was good people skills. He does a good job describing how he got demoted rather than fired, spent the next 25 years mastering the skills he had lacked, and ultimately wrote this book because no other book of its type was available.
Each chapter starts out with a similar anecdote, some from the author’s experience, some from the experiences of historical figures, and some from a variety of other people. Each anecdote does a good job providing an example of the skill he wants to talk about in that section. He then goes about clearly outlining the skill, its need, and how to exercise it.
O’Hallaron states that everyone can use this book. I have to agree. I found that I already had some of this information; some was completely new to me; but it’s all very useful. If you buy this book as an investment in yourself, it will pay for itself the next day.
February 27, 2019
Looking to improve your people skills? Hoping to find some tried and true principles to lessen the conflicts in your life and have better relationships? Eager to find ways to have more friends? Then People Skills 101 by Kerry C. O'Hallaron will be a great resource.
No matter where you go in life, people skills are important. In this engaging and informative book, O'Hallaron shares his 21 "GoldenRules." Each chapter focuses on a specific "GoldenRule" and there is a neat bonus section at the end.
Broken down into five sections, the tips are simple, while the reward can be great. From something as easy as genuinely smiling to the more complex concept of finding a way not to complain, applying these concepts can improve your life. The author teaches you about what he calls the Conversation Funnel to be considered a brilliant conversationalist. He encourages the reader to practice connecting with others. O'Hallaron also shares tips when you're communicating in a variety of mediums.
There is much value to be gained in reading People Skills 101. The best part is that these evergreen concepts will never go out of style and will be effective with a variety of people. Pick up a copy today and see what a difference it can make.
No matter where you go in life, people skills are important. In this engaging and informative book, O'Hallaron shares his 21 "GoldenRules." Each chapter focuses on a specific "GoldenRule" and there is a neat bonus section at the end.
Broken down into five sections, the tips are simple, while the reward can be great. From something as easy as genuinely smiling to the more complex concept of finding a way not to complain, applying these concepts can improve your life. The author teaches you about what he calls the Conversation Funnel to be considered a brilliant conversationalist. He encourages the reader to practice connecting with others. O'Hallaron also shares tips when you're communicating in a variety of mediums.
There is much value to be gained in reading People Skills 101. The best part is that these evergreen concepts will never go out of style and will be effective with a variety of people. Pick up a copy today and see what a difference it can make.
December 26, 2018
Contains lots of common-sense information to help develop appropriate people skills for everyday life. The book contains a lot of anecdotes to back up the theories contained. Useful pointers for both introverts and extroverts. If you want to develop better relationships with people (and who wouldn't?), this book is for you. I found the extensive use of italics and right-sided formatting of these paragraphs distracting, but that is a small point. The content is very useful, and I have certainly picked up some new ideas.
February 10, 2019
Interesting & Insightful.
Not being a person who likes small talk I have had my moments of feeling awkward, so I found this book quite insightful and interesting, really liked the key points.
I think this is a book you could dip in and out of, although I read it all the way through.
If you struggle to start up conversations or attract good friends/working relationships then this is definitely the book for you. Written in a good easy-to-read form with interesting stories from the authors own life. I recommend.
Not being a person who likes small talk I have had my moments of feeling awkward, so I found this book quite insightful and interesting, really liked the key points.
I think this is a book you could dip in and out of, although I read it all the way through.
If you struggle to start up conversations or attract good friends/working relationships then this is definitely the book for you. Written in a good easy-to-read form with interesting stories from the authors own life. I recommend.
June 18, 2019
Mostly recycled from previous motivational speakers.
This is a collection of mostly recycled thoughts and actions by other names in the motivational speaking business. I've read Zig Ziglar, Tony Robbins and many more of the same ilk and it all sounds the same, only with a new author's perspective and experience in putting theory into practice.
That said, it is still a good book to have to remind you of those things which make successful people that way.
This is a collection of mostly recycled thoughts and actions by other names in the motivational speaking business. I've read Zig Ziglar, Tony Robbins and many more of the same ilk and it all sounds the same, only with a new author's perspective and experience in putting theory into practice.
That said, it is still a good book to have to remind you of those things which make successful people that way.
August 9, 2020
Useful.
Great info!
You already know most of these, but the rest are the ones that will help you more.
Enjoy!
Great info!
You already know most of these, but the rest are the ones that will help you more.
Enjoy!
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