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Ova knjiga vam neće reći kako biti roditelj, što kupiti ili kako se treba osjećati. Ona nije priručnik za buduće roditelje. Ona će vas nasmijati, a možda i rasplakati te ćete nesumnljivo odahnuti zbog spoznaje da niste jedini nesavršeni roditelj.
Nije lako biti mama tvrdi uspješna blogerica Sarah. Još jedna knjiga o odgoju ali na realan način.
Autorica se ne libi nijedne teme - od izrazitog manjka sjaja u trudnoći do naoko beskonačnih noćnih hranjenja: od druženja za majke i dojenčad do povratka na posao; od nošenja s dječjim bijesnim ispadima do snalaženja u paklu igraonica.
Ova knjiga vam neće reći kako biti roditelj, što kupiti ili kako se treba osjećati. Ona nije priručnik za buduće roditelje. Ona će vas nasmijati, a možda i rasplakati te ćete nesumnljivo odahnuti zbog spoznaje da niste jedini nesavršeni roditelj.
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April 8, 2018
I liked this. There’s a certain amount of solidarity you share with someone who’s gone through a similar parenting experience to yourself. I’m a seasoned mother of two (soon to be three). I know it isn’t all baking (I hate baking) and doing ‘fun’ things with chubby cheeked angels - but it’s nice to know that I’m not the only one who knows this. Parenting is hard work. It’s boring at times (ten episodes of Hey Duggee in a row is enough to drive the sanest person over the edge), and lonely. A trip to B&Q is often the only light on the horizon of an otherwise groundhog style day.
But you know what? It’s ok not be be ok all of the time. Mum guilt is real, but it’s also ok to draw a line under today and start again. I think that’s what I gained most out of this book. There’s power in the perspective and reflection, and I enjoyed reading about the good times and the bad. It’s what life is all about.
It wasn’t a perfect read. A lot of this feels rather gratuitous, and more a personal memoir for the authors’s boys (nothing wrong with that, but I found the sections where she speaks directly to her children a little grating). It’s also a little outdated now as the author has since gone on to have another child, which changes the tone of some of her comments about the baby period being over. Again though, that’s life, circumstances change and families expand. I guess it means the author will just have to write another book as a mum of three.
I’d recommend this to all newbie parents. In fact, just all parents. We’ve all been there.
But you know what? It’s ok not be be ok all of the time. Mum guilt is real, but it’s also ok to draw a line under today and start again. I think that’s what I gained most out of this book. There’s power in the perspective and reflection, and I enjoyed reading about the good times and the bad. It’s what life is all about.
It wasn’t a perfect read. A lot of this feels rather gratuitous, and more a personal memoir for the authors’s boys (nothing wrong with that, but I found the sections where she speaks directly to her children a little grating). It’s also a little outdated now as the author has since gone on to have another child, which changes the tone of some of her comments about the baby period being over. Again though, that’s life, circumstances change and families expand. I guess it means the author will just have to write another book as a mum of three.
I’d recommend this to all newbie parents. In fact, just all parents. We’ve all been there.
April 23, 2016
Forget Bounty packs, this book should be given to every new Mum as they leave hospital. Would have saved my life in the early days.
May 5, 2018
DNF. I even bought this book bc I thought I’d love it. But the author is really pessimistic and looks at the bad sides of parenting. I totally get that her purpose was writing honestly instead of rainbows and letting other parents know they’re not alone if they’re not loving every minute. I just thought based on the cover and summary that it was going to be funny parenting stories. It’s more like a commiseration for parents.
March 19, 2019
Izrādās, ar vienu "reālistisku" jaunās māmiņas memuāru pilnīgi pietika (And Mow. We Have Everything), šo varēja arī nelasīt.
Nu cik var čīkstēt par piekakātiem pamperiem un nekārtīgu māju? Nodaļu pēc nodaļas, attaisnojums pēc attaisnojuma par savu neorganizēto dzīvi. Jā, ir grūti. Bet pienāk brīdis, kad gribas autori sapurināt un piespiest savākt sevi. Visi tur ir bijuši, visi izdzīvojuši.
Nu cik var čīkstēt par piekakātiem pamperiem un nekārtīgu māju? Nodaļu pēc nodaļas, attaisnojums pēc attaisnojuma par savu neorganizēto dzīvi. Jā, ir grūti. Bet pienāk brīdis, kad gribas autori sapurināt un piespiest savākt sevi. Visi tur ir bijuši, visi izdzīvojuši.
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June 12, 2023I have an insane amount of love for this book (laughed and nodded throughout the entire thing), not because I 'feel normal' - I've always known I was normal, but because finally somebody has said that parenting isn't just sunshine, smiles and rainbows. I'd never heard of The Unmumsy Mum blog before this book but will definitely be new follower of it now! So if you're one of the mum's that think 'for fuck sake' on a daily basis and need to know there are others like you there then I sincerely recommend this book to you!
September 25, 2016
Well this is a tricky one, because I teetered towards 2 stars. After thinking it over I've decided I did like it as a whole because the author is not afraid to tell it like it is which I think alot of mothers need for reassurance. However.... this is one to read in very small doses instead of all at once because it seemed to be one long winge-fest. Not to mention the amount of times the author calls her boys little bastards/arseholes etc. I genuinely question why she had two children in the first place. Even though I could see her point on most things, the overall feeling the book left was extremely depressing.
February 22, 2016
I'm normal!!!
March 8, 2016
Firstly, I will caveat this review, by saying I really wanted to love this book. The reviews for it have been astoundingly favourable and there is actually nothing to really dislike about it but overall it is a rehash of the authors, now famous, blog.
I will say that there are a couple of laugh out loud moments but overall these are much scarcer than the synopsis or blurb would have you believe. Added to this there is much sentimentality, as if this book is actually a legacy for her children, interspersed with amusing anecdotes of raising children.
Overall steer clear if you don't have children, the most amusing parts are the ones that are entirely relatable to a parent, who has gone through the process of giving yourself entirely to a small dependent person. I would also say it would be much better to read if you actually hadn't read the blog as the funniest stories would be funnier with fresh eyes.
In conclusion it is an average read for those wishing to fill the sleepless nights, that having children can bring, but not worth having to pay for when you can read the blog for free.
I will say that there are a couple of laugh out loud moments but overall these are much scarcer than the synopsis or blurb would have you believe. Added to this there is much sentimentality, as if this book is actually a legacy for her children, interspersed with amusing anecdotes of raising children.
Overall steer clear if you don't have children, the most amusing parts are the ones that are entirely relatable to a parent, who has gone through the process of giving yourself entirely to a small dependent person. I would also say it would be much better to read if you actually hadn't read the blog as the funniest stories would be funnier with fresh eyes.
In conclusion it is an average read for those wishing to fill the sleepless nights, that having children can bring, but not worth having to pay for when you can read the blog for free.
June 20, 2018
Ši Sarah Turner knyga "Motinystės atostogos" privertė mane kvatoti balsu ne vieną kartą ir į pačią motinystę pažvelgti per juoko prizmę. Autorė visą motinystės periodą/procesą rašo taip paprastai ir kasdieniškai, nesuteikdama savo pasakojimui jokių pagražinimų, kad tiesiog negali nesijuokti. Visa jos jos motinystės "karjeros" istorija pasakoja apie kasdienę buitį ir du jos mažus sūnelius. Ji be užuolankų pasakoja apie savo nešvytintį nėštumo periodą, nesibaigiantį naktinio maitinimo ir dantų dygimo maratoną, sekso ypatumus susilaukus vaikų, apie draugystę su kitomis mamomis ir grįžimo į darbą iššūkius. Ir kaip teigia pati autorė: "Tai ne vaikų auginimo vadovas. Tai tikras gyvenimas".
June 14, 2018
Patiko. Labai labai. Tiesiog todėl, kad atvirai pasakojama apie motinystę ir jos sunkumus (ne tik džiaugsmus). Skaitydama pasijutau, tarsi draugė dalintųsi paslaptimis. Galiu tik įtarti, kad turintiems vaikų skaityti šią knygą būtų kažkas panašaus kaip rasti tėvus, kuriems irgi kyla sunkumų ir nėra viskas taip jau lengva ir vien tik džiugu. Manau, imu geriau suprasti, kuo gyvena/-o mano draugės, ir imu geriau suprasti kitus mažų vaikų tėvus. Ir viskas pasakojama taip juokingai, kad norisi skaityti dar ir dar. Hm, gal reiks paieškoti autorės tinklaraščio, nuo kurio viskas ir prasidėjo, kad gaučiau dar dar.
December 13, 2018
I’ve just read this as a new Mum and it certainly makes you feel better about not feeling all jazz hands and smiley faces! Parenthood is hard work and it is boring at times - this book allows you to admit that without feeling too guilty. Does it mean you love your child/children any less? No, of course not.
The book isn’t to be devoured in one sitting - I felt it best to be read in chunks as, although very truthful, it can feel very negative. I also wouldn’t recommend reading it before having a child - it might just put you off!
The book isn’t to be devoured in one sitting - I felt it best to be read in chunks as, although very truthful, it can feel very negative. I also wouldn’t recommend reading it before having a child - it might just put you off!
May 15, 2019
DNF. Was really looking forward to reading this book and understand that it is to help mums everywhere know that they are not alone but I felt this book was extremely negative. There are times mums struggle obviously because it is a hard job but this book seemed to moan about every aspect and I feel that in a growing negative world this isn't helpful.
April 15, 2019
4.5.. Jednostavno urnebesno. Mislim da ce se mnoge majke prepoznati u ovoj knjizi. Ja jesam :)
March 31, 2020
Nije mi se dopala. Sara je Engleskinja, majka dvojice dečaka i opisuje nam haos života s malom decom. Autobiografski roman (roman?) koji sadrži 90% kuknjave i 10% suvislih misli. Sara je zapravo najpre otvorila svoj blog na kom je delila naličje majčinstva sa Internet zajednicom, a nekome je palo na pamet da bi bila dobra ideja da to objavi u formi knjige. Kako saznajem, gđa se sprema da objavi i četvrtu knjigu- još jedan dokaz da danas svako može da piše. Ne preporučujem. Oni koji još nisu postali roditelji mogu biti obeshrabreni ako pročitaju Sarine žalopojke o tome kako dane provodi neispavana, ubljuvana, ne stiže da opere kosu (a za sat vremena na Fejsbuku kaže da ima vremena). Oni koji već jesu roditelji ovde neće naći ama baš ništa novo niti korisno. Meni je čitanje ove knjige kvarilo raspol0ženje i unosilo negativnu energiju - pritom, žena kuka oko običnih stvari, dakle, niko nije bolestan, s ozbiljnim problemima i slično. Čak je rekla da su joj i čitaoci bloga prigovarali što neprestano kuka, a takvima poručuje ''da se nose u tri lepe''. Knjiga za potpalu kad stegne zima. I dvojka joj je mnogo.
February 11, 2018
Моя оцінка: 3,5. Я з перших сторінок відчула, що книжка не зовсім «моя». Більше вражень тут: https://ilatanka.in.ua/pro-i-dlya-dit...
March 24, 2020
I couldn't get into this and never managed to finish it! It has some funny parts but nothing to write home about! Not a book I would be quick to recommend!
January 30, 2018
The Unmumsy Mum writes honestly about motherhood, telling it like it is. The lessons she has learnt whilst battling with her two boys, in this book you will roar with laughter and take comfort in the fact that it is definitely not just you.
So yes I am late to the party reading this, and what a party it is! Now, I only read this for interest and I found it to be a hilarious entertaining read and one that is brutally honest. The Unmumsy Mum writes in a very readable way and has a fantastically brilliant story to tell of her motherhood journey and she is definitely not afraid to tell it like it is.
Yes I laughed a lot reading this but I also cried. The subject matter means there are some more emotional parts and the way this is written only makes the words more realistic. I know it is real but the writing style means the emotion flows off the page in buckets.
If you are looking for an interesting, informative read that is also hilariously entertaining then this is the read for you. Prepare to enter The Unmumsy's Mum honest tale of motherhood.
So yes I am late to the party reading this, and what a party it is! Now, I only read this for interest and I found it to be a hilarious entertaining read and one that is brutally honest. The Unmumsy Mum writes in a very readable way and has a fantastically brilliant story to tell of her motherhood journey and she is definitely not afraid to tell it like it is.
Yes I laughed a lot reading this but I also cried. The subject matter means there are some more emotional parts and the way this is written only makes the words more realistic. I know it is real but the writing style means the emotion flows off the page in buckets.
If you are looking for an interesting, informative read that is also hilariously entertaining then this is the read for you. Prepare to enter The Unmumsy's Mum honest tale of motherhood.
February 24, 2018
«Мій розпач зазвичай здатні виправити можливість трохи постогнати і добряча чашка чаю. Я колись бачила знак, на якому написано: «Чашка чаю все вирішує», — і я згодна, що в житті є мало речей, тягар яких хоча б трішечки не можна було полегшити чашкою чаю або обіцянкою чогось міцнішого, коли діти вляжуться.»
Про щось міцніше ще поки мрію, але книга відбиває мій настрій останніх 8,5 місяців. А ще вона дуже весела.
Про щось міцніше ще поки мрію, але книга відбиває мій настрій останніх 8,5 місяців. А ще вона дуже весела.
February 19, 2017
I'm not sure if part of the reason this didn't speak to me as much as it has some of my friends is because I'm well past the baby stage.
There were definitely scenes from their family life I could relate to, and I did find myself giggling along at the comments about the challenges of parenthood, but personally I feel the short, sharp blog posts have more of an impact than a full-length book.
There were definitely scenes from their family life I could relate to, and I did find myself giggling along at the comments about the challenges of parenthood, but personally I feel the short, sharp blog posts have more of an impact than a full-length book.
September 4, 2017
Why do I have a weird obsession with mum books? I am 21 and not planning to have children anytime soon but The Unmumsy Mum is captivating because she's HILARIOUS. I love following her instagram because day to day dramas have never been more exciting. I also found the parts about her mother, who passed away when she was 15, particularly moving. From laughter to tears, this book was fantastic.
October 9, 2017
An incredibly negative but funny book.
Would not recommend to a first time pregnant lady as it will terrify you.
Would not recommend to a first time pregnant lady as it will terrify you.
January 31, 2020
DNF not my cup of tea
September 7, 2018
2.5*
(Citala na srpskom: Ok je... na momente jako smesno... ali brzo dosadi! Nonstop se zali i kuka, umesto da uradi nesto da promeni rutinu i malo uljudi razmazenu decu...)
My friend gave me this book and said "you must read this - her kids are your age, this chick talks just like you, likes her adult time, and she doesn't like doing a lot of the mommy stuff, just like you don't." While this is all true - there is a huge difference between me and the author. I don't like doing a bunch of this stuff - so i don't do it! I find alternative ways that work for me. The author feels bad about stuff that she really shouldn't. She focuses on stuff that is not important. She seems to have gone into motherhood with rosy sunglasses that soon got shattered. My story was different - i got into motherhood thinking "ewww, poopy diapers and sleepless nights! that's all that awaits me!", and i was literally prepared for the worst!!! But then was positively surprised to find out that it's not so bad, after all! I expected hell (based on people's stories and "well-meaning advice"), but found that parenthood is actually quite nicer and a lot better than what people warned me about! A lot of people have the opposite experience (expect bliss, but find themselves in hell :D ). My (unsolicited!) advice is always "prepare for the worst and you will be pleasantly surprised!"
Anyways, back to the book ... I probably should have just read the blog, because reading a few anecdotes at a time is probably much more funny than reading a whole book of them at once. Especially because the book is not just funny anecdotes, it sounds like a 300+ page whine-fest. Of course parenting is hard and of course it's not all fun - but this author makes it sound depressing !! She makes in all sound extremely un-fun!!! It's 300 pages of things that are annoying and hard for a parent. I get it - that's what the book is about - parenting being tough - and it is! of course it is! we all know that! - but she makes it sound harder and tougher and waaaay more depressing than it is .
She is definitely spot on , on a few things... But a lot of the time I found that I didn't really agree with her. Of course - parenting is tough, but some of the stuff she is repeating over and over in the book I really don't view the same way. For example "boring daily struggles with kids being brats and throwing tantrums" > ummm, I kept thinking "maybe don't let them do that on a daily basis, if it bothers you so much!" Living life grumpy and unhappy is much worse than not doing something you want, because you think as a "good" mom you shouldn't! Figure what you would enjoy doing and do it , with your kids! Find a way to do it around them. Of course it's hard - but for me it's easier doing something and going somewhere, than sitting at home, unhappy that kids are making a mess and i'm stuck indoors listening to cartoon music!
Now - the author talks about going somewhere and wishing you never left the house because the kids are so awful. Ok sure, those days happen once in a while... But tantrums in the grocery store, to the extent that you have to turn around and go back home without having purchased anything? Excuse me? Ok, if this happened i'd be depressed , too . For some of these examples she gives, i literally want to yell - "You poor woman!! Teach those brats who is boss!!!" (i'm not judging, i'm feeling bad for you! But you are letting this happen!) Of course I understand that this is tough to go through, and that you feel judged and that you feel guilty - but if ALL of this is CONSTANTLY happening to you - maybe you SHOULD be doing something differently. Kids should NOT rule your life.
I was never one of those "perfect moms" - I hate to bake, don't really like crafts, etc... But, unlike the author of the book, I am not ashamed or feel guilty about this! I don't care that baking or glittery crafts aren't done at our house. I take my kids to the park instead. We play with blocks instead. We play with play-dough on a plastic covered counter, so that it doesn't get too messy, because I really can't keep scrubbing 5 times a day... If they make a mess i tell them to help me clean it up. If they want to do something too messy i tell them they can't , "because the house is clean now". This apparently is awful - i shouldn't set boundaries and say no, just because i don't want to clean the house again. Well - tough! The author of the book would probably feel guilty about this!
I have a playpen where i will let my one-year-old play , sometimes for 45 min at a time!, with her toys, while I make lunch/dinner. During this time, my 3.5 year-old draws at the kitchen table (with crayons , because paint is not allowed , because it's too messy, lol!!), or plays with his toys, or watches a cartoon! And i need them to do things by themselves for 30-45 min while i cook the food. Now, these all seem like things that would make the author of this book feel like she is a bad mom - why?? I don't understand... Why would you feel guilty?? Are they safe, happy, fed, clean, quiet? Yes? Then you've hit the jackpot! Nothing to feel BAD about!
As a side note
Our kids just want to spend time with us and feel loved! Whatever I do with them , as long as they are having fun, to me it's fair game! For example - my 3.5 yr old's favourite game is "playing coffee at Starbucks" - lol ! i have served this up as a game where we go for a walk just across the street, TO STARBUCKS, and we order me a coffee and my 3.5 year-old son orders a cup of water. We sit around drinking our "coffees" and the baby sits in her stroller with some toys and a snack. She would usually be calm for about 30 minutes, so i took full advantage of that! We did this daily while i was on maternity leave, and my son still thinks "Starbucks" is the greatest game ever!! Lol! Maybe i'm a selfish mom - don't care! He is having fun! I am having fun! Where is the harm in both of us enjoying it? Who says that everything should ONLY be about the children!??!? Starbucks was all about me - but packaged in such a way that my son was included! I never saw the need to feel guilty for still loving myself , while loving my kids ! :)
My point is - Writing an entire book to say "it's ok, don't feel guilty, kids are shit!" seems like a passive way to deal with the issue. It's basically saying: "There is nothing to be done, life with kids is crap - just swim in it and don't feel bad... "! If your kids are acting like shits - fix them... don't swim in crap and be unhappy about it... No guilt needed. It doesn't all have to be hard, all the time... Don't allow them to act like shits and make you feel depressed about it - everything you do in your life is fair game. (Everything short of abuse, of course!!)
Bottom line - parenting is 30% shit, 70% great BUT this book makes it sound like it's 99% crap all the time - which is just NOT TRUE. New moms might be really freaked out by the negativity in this book....
(Citala na srpskom: Ok je... na momente jako smesno... ali brzo dosadi! Nonstop se zali i kuka, umesto da uradi nesto da promeni rutinu i malo uljudi razmazenu decu...)
My friend gave me this book and said "you must read this - her kids are your age, this chick talks just like you, likes her adult time, and she doesn't like doing a lot of the mommy stuff, just like you don't." While this is all true - there is a huge difference between me and the author. I don't like doing a bunch of this stuff - so i don't do it! I find alternative ways that work for me. The author feels bad about stuff that she really shouldn't. She focuses on stuff that is not important. She seems to have gone into motherhood with rosy sunglasses that soon got shattered. My story was different - i got into motherhood thinking "ewww, poopy diapers and sleepless nights! that's all that awaits me!", and i was literally prepared for the worst!!! But then was positively surprised to find out that it's not so bad, after all! I expected hell (based on people's stories and "well-meaning advice"), but found that parenthood is actually quite nicer and a lot better than what people warned me about! A lot of people have the opposite experience (expect bliss, but find themselves in hell :D ). My (unsolicited!) advice is always "prepare for the worst and you will be pleasantly surprised!"
Anyways, back to the book ... I probably should have just read the blog, because reading a few anecdotes at a time is probably much more funny than reading a whole book of them at once. Especially because the book is not just funny anecdotes, it sounds like a 300+ page whine-fest. Of course parenting is hard and of course it's not all fun - but this author makes it sound depressing !! She makes in all sound extremely un-fun!!! It's 300 pages of things that are annoying and hard for a parent. I get it - that's what the book is about - parenting being tough - and it is! of course it is! we all know that! - but she makes it sound harder and tougher and waaaay more depressing than it is .
She is definitely spot on , on a few things... But a lot of the time I found that I didn't really agree with her. Of course - parenting is tough, but some of the stuff she is repeating over and over in the book I really don't view the same way. For example "boring daily struggles with kids being brats and throwing tantrums" > ummm, I kept thinking "maybe don't let them do that on a daily basis, if it bothers you so much!" Living life grumpy and unhappy is much worse than not doing something you want, because you think as a "good" mom you shouldn't! Figure what you would enjoy doing and do it , with your kids! Find a way to do it around them. Of course it's hard - but for me it's easier doing something and going somewhere, than sitting at home, unhappy that kids are making a mess and i'm stuck indoors listening to cartoon music!
Now - the author talks about going somewhere and wishing you never left the house because the kids are so awful. Ok sure, those days happen once in a while... But tantrums in the grocery store, to the extent that you have to turn around and go back home without having purchased anything? Excuse me? Ok, if this happened i'd be depressed , too . For some of these examples she gives, i literally want to yell - "You poor woman!! Teach those brats who is boss!!!" (i'm not judging, i'm feeling bad for you! But you are letting this happen!) Of course I understand that this is tough to go through, and that you feel judged and that you feel guilty - but if ALL of this is CONSTANTLY happening to you - maybe you SHOULD be doing something differently. Kids should NOT rule your life.
I was never one of those "perfect moms" - I hate to bake, don't really like crafts, etc... But, unlike the author of the book, I am not ashamed or feel guilty about this! I don't care that baking or glittery crafts aren't done at our house. I take my kids to the park instead. We play with blocks instead. We play with play-dough on a plastic covered counter, so that it doesn't get too messy, because I really can't keep scrubbing 5 times a day... If they make a mess i tell them to help me clean it up. If they want to do something too messy i tell them they can't , "because the house is clean now". This apparently is awful - i shouldn't set boundaries and say no, just because i don't want to clean the house again. Well - tough! The author of the book would probably feel guilty about this!
I have a playpen where i will let my one-year-old play , sometimes for 45 min at a time!, with her toys, while I make lunch/dinner. During this time, my 3.5 year-old draws at the kitchen table (with crayons , because paint is not allowed , because it's too messy, lol!!), or plays with his toys, or watches a cartoon! And i need them to do things by themselves for 30-45 min while i cook the food. Now, these all seem like things that would make the author of this book feel like she is a bad mom - why?? I don't understand... Why would you feel guilty?? Are they safe, happy, fed, clean, quiet? Yes? Then you've hit the jackpot! Nothing to feel BAD about!
As a side note
Our kids just want to spend time with us and feel loved! Whatever I do with them , as long as they are having fun, to me it's fair game! For example - my 3.5 yr old's favourite game is "playing coffee at Starbucks" - lol ! i have served this up as a game where we go for a walk just across the street, TO STARBUCKS, and we order me a coffee and my 3.5 year-old son orders a cup of water. We sit around drinking our "coffees" and the baby sits in her stroller with some toys and a snack. She would usually be calm for about 30 minutes, so i took full advantage of that! We did this daily while i was on maternity leave, and my son still thinks "Starbucks" is the greatest game ever!! Lol! Maybe i'm a selfish mom - don't care! He is having fun! I am having fun! Where is the harm in both of us enjoying it? Who says that everything should ONLY be about the children!??!? Starbucks was all about me - but packaged in such a way that my son was included! I never saw the need to feel guilty for still loving myself , while loving my kids ! :)
My point is - Writing an entire book to say "it's ok, don't feel guilty, kids are shit!" seems like a passive way to deal with the issue. It's basically saying: "There is nothing to be done, life with kids is crap - just swim in it and don't feel bad... "! If your kids are acting like shits - fix them... don't swim in crap and be unhappy about it... No guilt needed. It doesn't all have to be hard, all the time... Don't allow them to act like shits and make you feel depressed about it - everything you do in your life is fair game. (Everything short of abuse, of course!!)
Bottom line - parenting is 30% shit, 70% great BUT this book makes it sound like it's 99% crap all the time - which is just NOT TRUE. New moms might be really freaked out by the negativity in this book....
December 31, 2023
Motinystė - tokia saldi ir kartu rūgšti patirtis. Turbūt kiekviena mama gali palinguoti galvą, kad šis teiginys turi tiesos. Ši knyga apie tai ir pasakoja, apie motinystės kilimus ir smukimus. Nors labiau apie pastaruosius, joje daug pasakojimų apie smukimus. Dėl to labiausiai ir kliuvo man. Pradėjus atrodė, kad bus wow, nes viskas taip juokingai aprašyta, mesteltas vienas kitas keiksmažodis. Bet kuo tolyn tuo labiau panašėjo į kažkokių skundų kratinį, gaunasi kad motinystė yra vienas nesibaigiantis vargas. Autorė tik į knygos galą dedikuoja kelis puslapius papasakot, kad yra ir gražių momentų. Dar ir įmeta kažkokį priešankstinį paaiškinimą, kad ne vien skųstis bando, bet kad knygą perskaičius susidaro kaip tik toks įspūdis. Iš dalies čia vienos mamos motinystės kelionė jos akimis, kaip jos dienoraštis, tad savaime suprantama kad tai ir atsispindės eilutėse. Bet... Kai skaitant raukais, nes ne tik kad nejuokinga, bet ir atrodo gaila visų šios istorijos dalyvių, tai nelabai gali ir sakyt kad patiko. Nemanau, kad galėčiau dėt ant rekomenduojų knygų lentyos.
November 1, 2020
Uopšte nisam oduševljena ovom knjigom. Ne znam ni sama šta sam očekivala, savjete nisam, ali barem da se malo nasmijem. Međutim, ne mogu reći da je knjiga smiješna, barem meni nije bila. I sama sam majka i imam zanimljivih zgoda s djecom, možda je to razlog zbog nedostatka oduševljenosti, ne znam zaista. Čak me i namučila čitajući je. Kad sam je počela čitati mislila sam da će biti gotova za dan najviše, a razvukla se na dane čitanja.
April 30, 2023
Labai patiko!
August 12, 2024
This deserves a 5 star rating purely based on her full honesty about being a mum, despite the criticism of others and the fact, a lot of it I have felt and been through too!
December 27, 2018
Klinci.
Mali anđeli, nisu li? Sa svojim sićušnim ručicama i nožicama i slatkim osmjesima i gugutanjem. Volite ih najviše na svijetu. Svaki trenutak s njima je poseban i niti jedan ne biste mijenjali ni za što. Biti majka najbolja je stvar na svijetu, nije li?
Pa, ponekad.
Jer, iako su ponekad najslađa bića u svemiru i topite se od samog pogleda na njih, klinci ponekad znaju biti i prava mala čudovišta. A majčinstvo nisu samo oni hešteg blessed trenuci. Ponekad padaš s nogu od umora, ponekad vapiš za samo jednim trenutkom samo za sebe, ponekad ti je svega dosta, ponekad si jednostavno iscrpljena i na izmaku snaga.
Ali, kao što ćeš u ovoj knjizi doznati od Sarah Turner, sve je to ok.
Sarah Turner majka je dvojice dječaka, koji joj svakim danom život čine ljepšim, ali se ponekad ponašaju i kao pravi mali govnari. (Njene riječi, ne moje.) Sita knjiga o majčinstvu koje govore samo o tome kako trebaš biti zahvalna na svakom trenutku provedenom sa svojom djecom i kako u svakom tom trenutku moraš 100% uživati, Sarah je odlučila pokrenuti blog na kojem će pričati i o onoj drugoj strani majčinstva, onoj u kojoj mame ne uživaju baš 100% u baš svakom vražjem trenutku. Pogotovo kad su ti trenuci ispunjeti povraćanjem, kakicama i luđačkim ispadima malih dvogodišnjaka.
Sarin blog - 'The unmumsy mum' - bavi se svim tim nesavršenostima majčinstva. U vrlo kratkom vremenu prepoznale su ga i druge mame širom svijeta i rado ga čitaju: jer je iskren, zabavan i jer im govori da nisu same. Sve mame su ponekad umorne, lude, iscrpljene i lišene volje za životom. Sve mame ponekad griješe. Ne postoji savršena mama i savršenstvo kakvo opisuju priručnici sa savjetima za novopečene mame nemoguće je doseći. Ali sve je to dio zabave bivanja majkom.
Ova knjiga zbirka je tekstova sa Sarinog bloga i ona na vrlo duhovit i zabavan način govori o svakodnevnim problemima s kojima se svaka mama mora nositi. Iako nemam klince i o majčinstvu nemam blage veze, tekstovi sadržani u ovoj knjizi baš su me nasmijali. Sarah možda koristi i ne tako blag rječnik i brutalno je iskrena u opisivanju svih poteškoća majčinstva, ali ona to čini na tako simpatičan i prijateljski način da mislim kako će se svaka mama osjećati kao da se obraća baš njoj, poput dobre prijateljice koja te tješi i zna kako te nasmijati do suza kad ti je teško.
Sarah je knjigu posvetila svojim sinovima, i u načinu na koji piše može se lako iščitati kako se cijelo vrijeme njima obraća, što nam daje malo intimniji uvid u njen majčinski svijet. Kako i sama priznaje, neke stvari koje u ovoj knjizi iznosi bilo joj je pomalo neugodno napisati i možda će jednoga dana željeti da to nije bila učinila, ali ipak joj je drago što jest, jer, nakon gomile povratnih poruka i komentara koje je dobila na svoje tekstove, zna da se i druge mame negdje osjećaju isto kao i ona i da su njeni tekstovi bili baš ono što im je trebalo da znaju da nisu same i da ne rade sve potpuno krivo. A ponekad je, kad se osjećaš kao najgora mama neznalica na svijetu, znanje da postoji još netko tko dijeli tvoje probleme upravo ono što te spasi da ne skočiš s ruba očajanja i potoneš u depresiju jer nisi savršena.
Biti mama nije savršeno. Ponekad ćeš griješiti, ponekad će ti biti dosta svega, a ponekad ćeš naprosto uživati u vremenu provedenom s klincima. Sve je to dio majčinstva: i one dobre i one ne tako dobre stvari. A ako ikad padneš u krizu, Sarin blog tu je da ti pokaže kako ima još mama koje se osjećaju isto kao i ti. A usput će te i dobro zabaviti i nasmijati. Možda i rasplakati. U svakom slučaju, ova će ti knjiga biti dobar prijatelj i podsjetnik da nisi jedina kojoj majčinstvo ponekad teško pada i da to nikako ne znači da ne voliš svoju djecu. Čak i kad se pretvore u mala čudovišta. :)
Mali anđeli, nisu li? Sa svojim sićušnim ručicama i nožicama i slatkim osmjesima i gugutanjem. Volite ih najviše na svijetu. Svaki trenutak s njima je poseban i niti jedan ne biste mijenjali ni za što. Biti majka najbolja je stvar na svijetu, nije li?
Pa, ponekad.
Jer, iako su ponekad najslađa bića u svemiru i topite se od samog pogleda na njih, klinci ponekad znaju biti i prava mala čudovišta. A majčinstvo nisu samo oni hešteg blessed trenuci. Ponekad padaš s nogu od umora, ponekad vapiš za samo jednim trenutkom samo za sebe, ponekad ti je svega dosta, ponekad si jednostavno iscrpljena i na izmaku snaga.
Ali, kao što ćeš u ovoj knjizi doznati od Sarah Turner, sve je to ok.
Sarah Turner majka je dvojice dječaka, koji joj svakim danom život čine ljepšim, ali se ponekad ponašaju i kao pravi mali govnari. (Njene riječi, ne moje.) Sita knjiga o majčinstvu koje govore samo o tome kako trebaš biti zahvalna na svakom trenutku provedenom sa svojom djecom i kako u svakom tom trenutku moraš 100% uživati, Sarah je odlučila pokrenuti blog na kojem će pričati i o onoj drugoj strani majčinstva, onoj u kojoj mame ne uživaju baš 100% u baš svakom vražjem trenutku. Pogotovo kad su ti trenuci ispunjeti povraćanjem, kakicama i luđačkim ispadima malih dvogodišnjaka.
Sarin blog - 'The unmumsy mum' - bavi se svim tim nesavršenostima majčinstva. U vrlo kratkom vremenu prepoznale su ga i druge mame širom svijeta i rado ga čitaju: jer je iskren, zabavan i jer im govori da nisu same. Sve mame su ponekad umorne, lude, iscrpljene i lišene volje za životom. Sve mame ponekad griješe. Ne postoji savršena mama i savršenstvo kakvo opisuju priručnici sa savjetima za novopečene mame nemoguće je doseći. Ali sve je to dio zabave bivanja majkom.
Ova knjiga zbirka je tekstova sa Sarinog bloga i ona na vrlo duhovit i zabavan način govori o svakodnevnim problemima s kojima se svaka mama mora nositi. Iako nemam klince i o majčinstvu nemam blage veze, tekstovi sadržani u ovoj knjizi baš su me nasmijali. Sarah možda koristi i ne tako blag rječnik i brutalno je iskrena u opisivanju svih poteškoća majčinstva, ali ona to čini na tako simpatičan i prijateljski način da mislim kako će se svaka mama osjećati kao da se obraća baš njoj, poput dobre prijateljice koja te tješi i zna kako te nasmijati do suza kad ti je teško.
Sarah je knjigu posvetila svojim sinovima, i u načinu na koji piše može se lako iščitati kako se cijelo vrijeme njima obraća, što nam daje malo intimniji uvid u njen majčinski svijet. Kako i sama priznaje, neke stvari koje u ovoj knjizi iznosi bilo joj je pomalo neugodno napisati i možda će jednoga dana željeti da to nije bila učinila, ali ipak joj je drago što jest, jer, nakon gomile povratnih poruka i komentara koje je dobila na svoje tekstove, zna da se i druge mame negdje osjećaju isto kao i ona i da su njeni tekstovi bili baš ono što im je trebalo da znaju da nisu same i da ne rade sve potpuno krivo. A ponekad je, kad se osjećaš kao najgora mama neznalica na svijetu, znanje da postoji još netko tko dijeli tvoje probleme upravo ono što te spasi da ne skočiš s ruba očajanja i potoneš u depresiju jer nisi savršena.
Biti mama nije savršeno. Ponekad ćeš griješiti, ponekad će ti biti dosta svega, a ponekad ćeš naprosto uživati u vremenu provedenom s klincima. Sve je to dio majčinstva: i one dobre i one ne tako dobre stvari. A ako ikad padneš u krizu, Sarin blog tu je da ti pokaže kako ima još mama koje se osjećaju isto kao i ti. A usput će te i dobro zabaviti i nasmijati. Možda i rasplakati. U svakom slučaju, ova će ti knjiga biti dobar prijatelj i podsjetnik da nisi jedina kojoj majčinstvo ponekad teško pada i da to nikako ne znači da ne voliš svoju djecu. Čak i kad se pretvore u mala čudovišta. :)
December 30, 2016
I like the Unmumsy Mum blog - it's where I go when I feel a little bit shit. There's always something there that pulls me back and says - you're trying your best, you're doing all you can do, we're all in this together! I'm NOT the only one who laughs when Anna says "I want you to take me up the North Mountain". I'm NOT the only one who should probably extend an invitation to Justin Fletcher when we hold family get-togethers. I'm NOT the only one who relies on a steady flow of bribery biscuits (I'm also not the only one who has encountered the shit of another small child on a slide in a soft play area, and THAT, my friends, was a terrifying realization).
The pressure to be the perfect Mum can be unbearable if you let it get to you. The secret? Just do what works for your family. That's it. I had actually written a whole paragraph about our family and what works for us but then I thought - that's nobody's business, is it?
And that's why I've given this book three stars. I felt like it got a little too personal at times, particularly when mentioning her husband. I think that one day the author's children will get a really good laugh from this book (maybe if they have children of their own) but to me it felt a little like a personal family memoir and I felt like a voyeur. Enjoyable, all the same, but I felt like I shouldn't be reading it.
The pressure to be the perfect Mum can be unbearable if you let it get to you. The secret? Just do what works for your family. That's it. I had actually written a whole paragraph about our family and what works for us but then I thought - that's nobody's business, is it?
And that's why I've given this book three stars. I felt like it got a little too personal at times, particularly when mentioning her husband. I think that one day the author's children will get a really good laugh from this book (maybe if they have children of their own) but to me it felt a little like a personal family memoir and I felt like a voyeur. Enjoyable, all the same, but I felt like I shouldn't be reading it.
January 25, 2018
I picked this book up from someone who was rehoming it because I thought it would be full of funny, honest stories. It sat on my bookshelf for a little while, than I started it earlier this month, looking for some light reading and a change from fiction.
While the book does have some amusing anecdotes from Sarah's life as a mother, and some short funny things that some of her blog readers have written to her about, the book is much more like an honest look at all aspects of being a mother to very young children. She writes about the miserable side to being pregnant, giving birth, and not getting enough sleep. She talks about deciding to have a second child, and the adjustment needed to cope with having two children rather than one.
It's an incredibly informative book, and I think it would be a very reassuring read for mothers of young children. However, although I might have kids sometime in the next few years, I'm not at that point yet. While it was very educational to read as it went into aspects of parenthood that I didn't know anything about before, or had never even considered, I didn't find it as engaging to read as I think I will in a few years time when I'm expecting a child. I'll definitely be keeping this on the shelf until then, though, because I do think it will be very reassuring and useful when I reach that stage in my life. 7/10.
While the book does have some amusing anecdotes from Sarah's life as a mother, and some short funny things that some of her blog readers have written to her about, the book is much more like an honest look at all aspects of being a mother to very young children. She writes about the miserable side to being pregnant, giving birth, and not getting enough sleep. She talks about deciding to have a second child, and the adjustment needed to cope with having two children rather than one.
It's an incredibly informative book, and I think it would be a very reassuring read for mothers of young children. However, although I might have kids sometime in the next few years, I'm not at that point yet. While it was very educational to read as it went into aspects of parenthood that I didn't know anything about before, or had never even considered, I didn't find it as engaging to read as I think I will in a few years time when I'm expecting a child. I'll definitely be keeping this on the shelf until then, though, because I do think it will be very reassuring and useful when I reach that stage in my life. 7/10.
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