Dark Psychology Secrets & The Art Of Reading People 2 In 1: Signs A Toxic Person Is Manipulating You And How To Handle It

by Richard Martinez

Your colleague says that he agrees, but does he really or is it only a facade? Have you ever thought that you were going crazy, your self-esteems suffer or do you have a feeling that you are being used, manipulated or played?Do you sometimes feel uncomfortable around people and have a really hard time understanding their ‘real intentions’?If you answered yes to at least one of the questions above, you are absolutely not alone. Most people have real trouble recognizing false statements and differentiating fake from real emotions, even with the people close to them.

Sure, the small little lie about how awesome Grandma’s homemade pie tastes will not really hurt and might even be necessary for smooth human relationships. But lying can also have tremendous potential for harm, hurt feelings or catastrophic business decisions.

Diary studies of lying, conducted with both college students and adults from the community, have shown that lies are a fact of daily life (DePaulo, Kashy, Kirkendol, Wyer & Epstein,1996). Such studies suggest that people tell an average of at least one lie a day and describe their untruths as little lies of little consequence.

They perceive their lies as not very serious, they rarely plan their lies, and they do not worry much about the possibility of getting caught, even if the consequences to the people they lied to might be dramatic (DePaulo, Ansfield, Kirkendol & Boden, 2004).

Therefore, the skill to differentiate lies from the truth becomes critical and can be of tremendous value for anyone.

This book

Dark Psychology How To Stop Being ManipulatedThe Art Of Reading How To Analyze People Like The FBIIn “Dark Psychology Secrets & The Art Of Reading People 2 In 1” you’ll

The 6 little-known facts to INSTANTLY kickstart your understanding of why and how people manipulate (Even if you are a bit socially awkward or don’t seem to ‘get’ people’s true self easily!)The exact formula to recognize the different stimuli that make people tick and that are founded in reason and science, not a pure ‘gut feeling’How these 3 ways lead to becoming a manipulator’s victim – and how to stop any tries in the beginningsThe 3 little-known facts to INSTANTLY kickstart your analysis of people’s true feelings and intention (Even if you are a bit socially awkward or don’t seem to ‘get’ people’s true self easily!)Why it is not enough to only OBSERVE and how the right careful actions can bring your game on a whole other levelHow a recent study by renowned researchers show a way to identify the root cue of a lie and provides new insights into the human psycheWhy these VERBAL expressions carry way more weight than you have ever thought (and why it is so hard to oversee for untrained people)The absolute worst 3 things you might be misinterpreting currently that could cause you tremendous confusion and trouble (avoid these mistakes at all costs if you want to read people correctly!)…and much, much more!

By relying on the latest scientific research from international experts, this guide is able to identify the exact hints and cues that drive body

Genres: Psychology, Self Help, Audiobook, Dark, Nonfiction

219 pages, Kindle Edition

Published December 31, 2018

Reviews

[Ryan Shea]

Stay away from psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissists

[Sergiusz Golec · Rating 3 out of 5]

Millions of people are manipulated by toxic people every day.
Help is available. That Self-help book could be a starting point.

Note:
1) Not every manipulation is bad.
2) Inside you'll find a politically correct note(s). Shortly: It's only a set of tips & tricks, tools & recommendations. You can read it on your own risk.

The worst part of that book - too many points to remember. It's like 199 steps that you can take. After a week, at most, I'll remember a few.

Dark psychology is the use of psychological techniques to manipulate, control, or exploit others.
There are many different types of dark psychology techniques. Less and more subtle. Some of the most common include:
* Gaslighting: This is a technique where the manipulator denies or contradicts the victim's memories or experiences, making them doubt their own sanity.
* Love bombing: This is a technique where the manipulator showers the victim with affection and attention, only to later withdraw it and become critical and abusive.
* Projection: This is a technique where the manipulator blames their own flaws and shortcomings on the victim.
* Triangulation: This is a technique where the manipulator brings in a third party, such as a mutual friend or family member, to create conflict and confusion.

Signs that you are being manipulated by a toxic person, when you feel:
* constantly on the edge or afraid
* like you have to walk on eggshells
* like you can't do anything right

* isolated from your friends and family
* like you're losing your sense of self
* trapped or abused (repeatedly)

How to handle a toxic person who is manipulating you:
* Set ground rules. Set boundaries.
Be clear about what you are and are not willing to tolerate.
For example: Stop simping. Stop waiting for a person if it's more than 15 min.
Context matters: It can be funny (and tragic) when you are waiting for the 'love of your life', when the flight was delayed. More than 15 min? Hm.

* Don't engage with the toxic people. And/or have fun with a new perspective.
If they try to argue with you or bait you into a reaction, simply walk away.
I'm sure that 'toxic people' are highly under-valued.

1) You may address them to the people, projects or companies that you hate.
My mother can troll (me) like a pro. She is our family's official image of the 'drama queen'. One day, I asked her to speak with the specific toxic seller. Oh, it was the show I remember until today. It was fun.

2) You can find the Fun.
° One day, in a conference, the expert from the audience did Not mention "it's bull-sh*t". He just started asking more questions about the subject.
"Oh really, so if ... then ... is that correct?"
Shortly, it became obvious to the audience.
Even if the speaker pretended Not to understand that "it's bull-sh*t" ...to the audience, the speaker revealed his (toxic point of view of) stupidity & lost the trust.

° On a trip, one couple demanded attention to them at every single point, pretending to be the biggest experts in the world (at every single point). Once, they were telling us how they traveled around the world. I just started asking more and more detailed questions. With a serious poker-face, just looking for the interesting answers. I asked questions where I strongly suspected that the 'know it all experts' would be troubled to find any answer.
With a poker-face, and a little smile from time-to-time, I listened to the "bull-sh*t" answers.
With a poker-face, I keep on asking.
At some point, people around started having as much fun as I did, and joined the questioning. The interrogation. The 'know it all experts' tried to end the conversation as soon as possible. Now, we tried to keep them in the conversation as long as possible.
The next day, the 'know it all experts' tried to avoid attention as much as possible.

* Seek support from others. Reach out to support-network, to someone you trust and get the support you need. Talk to your friends and family about what you're going through.

* If necessary, get professional help. A therapist can teach you how to cope with the toxic person in your life and protect yourself from their manipulation.

P.S.
1) 100% agree with Huié Hólos review line about the book: "It's more likely to trigger paranoia than to enlighten you on the matter."
2) Ryan Shea's review could be the one-liner summary of that book: "Stay away from psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissists".

[Jorge Venegas · Rating 2 out of 5]

The first half of this book gets quite interesting in breaking down the psychological traits of a manipulative person. It's also provides some interesting tactics in reading people and stepping in their shoes for a moment. This does, however, come off as a Self-Help book rather than an informative book on psychology which is not exactly what I was looking for in this book. The second half of the book includes a portion of one of Richard Martinez's other books which comes to me more as a work in progress rather than a completed, well-thought out book. This second book expands on the idea of EI or EQ which points out the basics of these. This half generalizes the idea of emotional intelligence and is only applicable to those who don't have much emotional intelligence in the first place. I feel that this half of the book could have expanded more on specifics of certain situations in which those who come forth as having emotional intelligence tend to end up not really having much at all. I feel this could have definitely been a good thing to bring up since these situations tend to lead to bad consequences for just about everyone. This other book over generalizes people by calling those who overreact in certain situations as "having low EI or EQ" rather than considering the mental health or condition of the person. There is a common theme of generalization in this book. It fails to bring up those who have high Emotional intelligence by living healthy in the past but suddenly change the way they act while trying to deal with certain heavy life situations. However, the first half of this book somewhat hits the mark of its purpose. Barely.

[Huié Hólos · Rating 2 out of 5]

If you suspect you're being manipulated and are looking for a book full of confirmation biases. There you go.

It's more likely to trigger paranoia than to enlighten you on the matter.

As another person has said; this book is too anxiety driven.--

This kind of subject should ideally be presented in an impartial manner, especially if it uses scientific information to back up its contents.

[A.R. O'Brien · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very informational when I needed some answers about a toxic relationship.

[Cassie · Rating 1 out of 5]

Terribly written, full of grammatical errors. Appears to have been written by a high school student who is failing English.