Today I Rise: How To Overcome The Gut-Wrenching Pain Of Your Breakup Or Divorce & Reclaim Your Life

by Traver Boehm

Heartbreak is an exquisitely seering pain with its never ending nausea, obsessive thinking, and crushing depression. Quite literally a personal prescription for living in hell. Trust me, I know it well and wouldn’t wish it upon my worst enemy.The pain of a broken heart is universally understood and experienced, but what is not universal however, is what is done with it. For most people it’s an emotional death sentence but can be quite the opposite.The pain can break you down, or break you open. It can keep you bitter, or finally remove all of your heart's armor? Could heartbreak actually be the greatest opportunity ever handed to any of us?I believe it be just that - the greatest of opportunites - yet it's the one no one wants to use. My philosophy is quite this horrendous pain isn't going anywhere, at all, so why not turn it into the catalyst for every change we've ever wanted in our lives. Why not use it instead of letting it destroy us. I know because I did just that.After using the two and half year odyssey of my own divorce to very publicly change every aspect of my life, something interesting began to happen - people started reaching out to me and asking how they could do the same. People just like you who wanted to lose weight, quit smoking, get sober, or rebuild their entire identity.When a close friend had her husband walk out, I made the commitment to speak with her for 90 straight days, telling her exactly what I wished someone had told me the moment my own wife walked out.Every morning I'd send her an email with a story from my own hellacious experience, giving her something inspirational to focus on and an action step to get her from heartbroken back to thriving - as fast as possible.These letters were compiled into an email series with thousands of readers already using them to navigate the darkest chapter of their lives. My goal was simple - to get her just a little bit stronger each and every day and it worked. And worked. And worked.This book is the compliation of those exact letters, with no punches pulled. The raw truth of my experience, the truth of you're facing with no punches pulled, and the best ways to get through it all. To survive, revive, and then thrive.Here's to you. Getting past today and on to tomorrow. One day at a time - one day stronger.

273 pages, Paperback

Published November 12, 2017

Reviews

[Taylor Ellwood · Rating 5 out of 5]

I wish I had read this book after my second divorce or that it had been available after my first divorce. I wish I had read it after my most recent breakup…But better later than never. While I am in a relationship now I went ahead and read this book and found it to be full of really good advice that has helped me have some conversations with myself and my current partner as well as helping me fully move on from past relationships. If you’re going through a divorce or breakup this book can be a valuable companion to help you on your journey.

[Chelsea Smart · Rating 2 out of 5]

Some good advice, but an annoying cross-fit-trainer voice (literally) brought me down to 3 stars.

The 2 is for the rampant sexism.

Chapters "just for men" and other hyper-gendered takes on reality didn't stick.

[Eric · Rating 5 out of 5]

I can't speak highly enough about this book. It's not formally written or technical. It's just the feeling of a man who is going through many of the same things I am. Thank you.

[Dianna Jarman · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing, thank you.

I simply came across this book while looking for something to place my energy after my ex girlfriend blindsided me on afternoon with the break up. For me, from a man's perspective was helpful and somehow resonated with me more than some books written by women. I'm not sure if it has to do with who I am inside or being lesbian or what BUT what I DO know, is it's easy to read, understand and apply to life. Give this a try, man or woman, old or young, gay or straight or somewhere in between. Itll be worth it.