The recent movie Disobedience made me interested to learn more about the traditional Jewish Chassidic community. This interest probably ties right into my fascination with cults and such, not to equate the two. And, since our library refuses to get Disobedience the book in ebook, and I found this one on Netgalley..learn I did, so many thanks to the improbably named Goldie Goldbloom. This is a story of a Chassidic community in Wiliamsburg, Brooklyn where a very traditional matriarch of a very traditional family finds herself (to her own and everyone’s great surprise) pregnant at 57. Surie Eckstein is a mother of ten, grandmother of 32 and soon to become a great grandmother. She is tired, heavily overweight and obviously isn’t thrilled about her predicament. And yet she proceeds with the pregnancy (for religious reasons alone she must), but does so in secret. Her weight helps conceal the physical effects and the unlikeliness of it all, takes care of the rest. And yet, because her pregnancy is considered high risk, she can’t do a traditional birth in her apartment and must venture into the real world i.e. Manhattan, but really anywhere outside of Division street is an adventure. It is these adventures and general exposure to the life outside of her small insular community that bring on a sort of late in life reawakening for Surie as she reexamines certain aspects of her life, especially the much contentious treatment of her gay son. It’s a fascinating personal journey of discovery, although in the end it isn’t certain where it goes. But then again my goal was to learn more about the Chassidic way of life and…well, it’s complex and, like most orthodoxy, incredibly restricting. The author did a great job of providing a balance perspective on this way of life…through Surie she explains the significance of a life led in service of one’s community, to have a strong community and familial support and structure, etc. Surie herself is in a four decade long loving marriage, she is close to her children and their children and her in laws even. But the privation their lifestyle requires is brutal. No technology, almost no phones, no music, no art, no movies, no deodorants, no bikes for kids (although toy guns, oddly enough, are permitted) and more. And, of course, as with most such things, it’s all ever so much worst for women, who are essentially treated as breeding machines (and the reproductions rates in the community are quite something), who can’t get an education, hold jobs or at least outside jobs, who must wear wigs and scarves over them. It’s absolutely brutal and primitive. And yet Surie doesn’t come across as oppressed, she simply follows a set of rules, she finds joys within her family. It is a life of value and meaning, just dramatically circumscribed. You will be loved and respected in your family and community if you are exactly like them and follow every rule. The very definition of conditional love. Narrow, potentially deadly set of limits as one of Surie’s children finds out. The communal insularity is claustrophobic, the lack of worldliness is downright alarming. And unlike say the Amish, this is a community right in the middle of a large city, making it even more bizarre. I do understand that for a people who have been treated as terribly throughout times as the Jews, insularity might seem like an appealing way of life. What is more difficult to understand is why a nation that’s been historically ghettoized, would choose to ghettoized themselves, because that’s what life on Division seems to be like, self imposed walls. But at any rate, it was fascinating to learn about and has certainly given much food for thought. Plus it’s a very well written book with a very engaging woman of a certain age protagonist taking the much deserved center stage. Such a good read, thoroughly compelling, essentially done in one sitting, interrupted only by lunch. Recommended. Thanks Netgalley.