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The Cunnilinguist: How to Give and Receive Great Oral Sex: Top Tips from Both Ends of the Tongue
Going down. Eating out. Rug-munching. Speaking in tongues. No matter what you call cunnilingus, talking about it is sometimes uncomfortable and awkward—Until now. The Cunnilinguist is a refreshingly modern guide to oral sex with a sense of humor. Written by a woman with experience at both ends of the tongue, this guide will build your confidence in giving —or receiving— oral sex. Valentine's month launch heavily discounted during February 2019!!! Did you know that lesbians report more orgasms than straight women and receiving oral sex can double a woman's chance of orgasm? Those are two findings from a large research study into the differences in orgasm frequency among gay, lesbian, bisexual, and heterosexual men and women. However, fear not; The Cunnilinguist has you covered. You'll learn tested tips, tricks and techniques that any giver or receiver can try. The How To Give And Receive Great Oral Sex has insights and tips for readers from beginner to advanced, single to married, and regardless of gender or sexual orientation. And you'll learn what not to do! The Cunnilinguist includes the latest scientific research alongside firsthand advice from a woman with experience on both ends of the tongue. Selected excerpts What this book has turned out to be is even more exciting that I had ever hoped. Working closely with Alex to craft a guidebook that could be used by anyone who wants to learn to give or receive good cunnilingus, regardless of gender, has been an adventure. I especially loved that this book focuses on the experience of oral sex for both the giver and the receiver. I love that with The Cunnilinguist, Alex has chosen to open up the discussion to anyone who wants to give oral sex to someone with a vulva, and anyone with a vulva who wants to receive. There's such a need for writing about sex that recognizes trans, nonbinary, and intersex people, and I think this book does an elegant (and fun) job of broadening the conversation beyond cisgender bodies. The Cunnilinguist is the kind of book I wish I'd had available to my Sociology of Sexuality students. It manages to be both informative and well-researched while also being a fun, irreverent frolic. The description of the vaginal / vulvar / clitoral anatomy is worth the cover price alone, given how many people who possess these structures don't know what they're called or how they work. This refreshingly modern guide takes the business of giving and receiving pleasure seriously, but never takes itself too seriously. It's full of orgasm-inducing tips and techniques for both giver and receiver, presented with equal doses of good humor and practical, usable information. —Susan Harper PhD Could this be the ultimate gift for your partner? Regardless of gender, sexuality or relationship status, if you're someone who would like to improve your experience of giving or (and?!) receiving cunnilingus this "refreshingly modern guide" might just be the pleasure-inducing gift you're looking for! Read it, gift it and have fun using it! :) #TheCunnilinguist
266 pages, Kindle Edition
First published February 1, 2019
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July 4, 2026
Perfect for your first time or if you just want to explore
Disclaimer: I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
Highlights:
-While Straight friendly it is written by an LGBTQA+ author and so geared towards that perspective
-Keeps the reader comfortable and reassured
-Encourages the user to explore in consensual fun ways
-Clear explanations
-Gives examples
-Excellent book for beginners but there’s information for all levels of experience
This book is a light and breezy way to learn more about different topics revolving around sexual intercourse and orgasm for those with a vulva/vagina. The explanations are easy to understand, and the tone feels like a friend explaining (with some slightly spicy jokes) the things you need to know, rather than just giving dry information or a lecture. There’s also a nifty list of studies used for the chapter at the bottom of each ending summary.
The book itself is divided into a foreword and 6 chapters:
→FOREWORD
A short intro by Susan Harper, PhD., a condensed “Research & the heterosexual orgasm gap” section, a short introduction to the author’s reasoning for creating the book/thinking process, and an “LGBTQ+ glossary”
→CHAPTER 1 (Muff) Diving In
An exploration of anatomy and decent descriptions of each of the components, including diagrams.
→CHAPTER 2 Going Deeper
Explanations as to why someone may not be interested and ways to keep things cool and comfortable when it comes to sexual intimacy, foreplay, and getting in the mood
→CHAPTER 3 Down to Business
Explanation of expectations and consent, “tips and tricks” as well as the “do’s and don’ts” for oral sex(A lot of useful information, especially if it’s your first time)
→CHAPTER 4 Take a Stance
Different positions: how to do them and their benefits
→CHAPTER 5 Beyond Lip Service
Descriptions and how to explore other fun sexual acts: fingering, playing with the G-spot, penetrative intercourse, toys, BDSM, Roleplay, etc…
→CHAPTER 6: A Little Taster
Example scene from Branding Her, Book 4 (the short story Independence Day).
All in all, this can be a valuable resource to people at all levels of experience but I think it’s an especially extremely helpful tool for people either just beginning to explore or that have been having a rough time trying to navigate their sexuality and how to make their partner(or partners) happy while having a comforting and non-judgemental place to learn. It never tries to say any path is absolute. It always reinforces that everyone's bodies are different, and so you have to find the right way for you.
Disclaimer: I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
Highlights:
-While Straight friendly it is written by an LGBTQA+ author and so geared towards that perspective
-Keeps the reader comfortable and reassured
-Encourages the user to explore in consensual fun ways
-Clear explanations
-Gives examples
-Excellent book for beginners but there’s information for all levels of experience
This book is a light and breezy way to learn more about different topics revolving around sexual intercourse and orgasm for those with a vulva/vagina. The explanations are easy to understand, and the tone feels like a friend explaining (with some slightly spicy jokes) the things you need to know, rather than just giving dry information or a lecture. There’s also a nifty list of studies used for the chapter at the bottom of each ending summary.
The book itself is divided into a foreword and 6 chapters:
→FOREWORD
A short intro by Susan Harper, PhD., a condensed “Research & the heterosexual orgasm gap” section, a short introduction to the author’s reasoning for creating the book/thinking process, and an “LGBTQ+ glossary”
→CHAPTER 1 (Muff) Diving In
An exploration of anatomy and decent descriptions of each of the components, including diagrams.
→CHAPTER 2 Going Deeper
Explanations as to why someone may not be interested and ways to keep things cool and comfortable when it comes to sexual intimacy, foreplay, and getting in the mood
→CHAPTER 3 Down to Business
Explanation of expectations and consent, “tips and tricks” as well as the “do’s and don’ts” for oral sex(A lot of useful information, especially if it’s your first time)
→CHAPTER 4 Take a Stance
Different positions: how to do them and their benefits
→CHAPTER 5 Beyond Lip Service
Descriptions and how to explore other fun sexual acts: fingering, playing with the G-spot, penetrative intercourse, toys, BDSM, Roleplay, etc…
→CHAPTER 6: A Little Taster
Example scene from Branding Her, Book 4 (the short story Independence Day).
All in all, this can be a valuable resource to people at all levels of experience but I think it’s an especially extremely helpful tool for people either just beginning to explore or that have been having a rough time trying to navigate their sexuality and how to make their partner(or partners) happy while having a comforting and non-judgemental place to learn. It never tries to say any path is absolute. It always reinforces that everyone's bodies are different, and so you have to find the right way for you.
June 17, 2026
The Cunnilinguist: A How-To Guide by Alex B. Porter is an informative, well-written, and surprisingly comprehensive guide to the art of oral pleasure for women.
Whether you're a complete beginner or someone with experience looking to improve your skills, this book offers practical advice, clear explanations, and plenty of useful insights. Porter covers everything from female anatomy and hygiene to technique, communication, and the importance of understanding the receiver's experience.
One of the book's strengths is that it doesn't focus solely on the giver. The author also provides valuable guidance for the receiver, helping them understand how to relax, communicate their preferences, and gain the maximum enjoyment from the experience.
The foreword, written by a medical expert, adds credibility and authority to the subject matter, reinforcing that sexual pleasure and sexual health deserve the same thoughtful discussion as any other aspect of human wellbeing.
Written in an accessible and engaging style, the book manages to be educational while remaining entertaining. It is suitable for straight men, lesbians, and anyone interested in better understanding female sexual pleasure and intimacy.
An excellent, sex-positive guide that combines practical knowledge with genuine insight. Highly recommended.
I received a complimentary copy of this book for review purposes. This did not affect my rating or the opinions expressed in this review.
Whether you're a complete beginner or someone with experience looking to improve your skills, this book offers practical advice, clear explanations, and plenty of useful insights. Porter covers everything from female anatomy and hygiene to technique, communication, and the importance of understanding the receiver's experience.
One of the book's strengths is that it doesn't focus solely on the giver. The author also provides valuable guidance for the receiver, helping them understand how to relax, communicate their preferences, and gain the maximum enjoyment from the experience.
The foreword, written by a medical expert, adds credibility and authority to the subject matter, reinforcing that sexual pleasure and sexual health deserve the same thoughtful discussion as any other aspect of human wellbeing.
Written in an accessible and engaging style, the book manages to be educational while remaining entertaining. It is suitable for straight men, lesbians, and anyone interested in better understanding female sexual pleasure and intimacy.
An excellent, sex-positive guide that combines practical knowledge with genuine insight. Highly recommended.
I received a complimentary copy of this book for review purposes. This did not affect my rating or the opinions expressed in this review.
June 25, 2026
When done well, oral sex can be more pleasurable and satisfying than penetrative sex. In The Cunnilinguist Alex Porter shows you both why and how.
I found this book to be well written with a nice touch of humor mixed in. While approaching sex from the perspective of a lesbian woman, Porter was still respectful of those coming from the heteronormative position.
I appreciate that Porter made the book about more than just the mechanics and techniques of oral sex. For many, oral sex feels more intimate than PIV sex and as such requires even more communication and negotiation for a mutually positive experience. Setting realistic expectations can be the key to having a great experience.
I found the actual DOs, DON’Ts, positions and techniques to be practical and informative. As many people see oral sex as the gateway to penetrative sex, Porter does cover penetration in later chapters. Here again, communication with your partner is key to finding out what works best for them.
The fictional piece at the end of the book, while not necessary to the overall value of the book, was a nice example of “putting the lessons to use” and was appreciated.
As was stated in the book’s intro this is not the be-all, end-all book on oral sex, but it’s a really good start and a good reference to come back to for refreshers. As such I think it serves its purpose well. Recommended.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
I found this book to be well written with a nice touch of humor mixed in. While approaching sex from the perspective of a lesbian woman, Porter was still respectful of those coming from the heteronormative position.
I appreciate that Porter made the book about more than just the mechanics and techniques of oral sex. For many, oral sex feels more intimate than PIV sex and as such requires even more communication and negotiation for a mutually positive experience. Setting realistic expectations can be the key to having a great experience.
I found the actual DOs, DON’Ts, positions and techniques to be practical and informative. As many people see oral sex as the gateway to penetrative sex, Porter does cover penetration in later chapters. Here again, communication with your partner is key to finding out what works best for them.
The fictional piece at the end of the book, while not necessary to the overall value of the book, was a nice example of “putting the lessons to use” and was appreciated.
As was stated in the book’s intro this is not the be-all, end-all book on oral sex, but it’s a really good start and a good reference to come back to for refreshers. As such I think it serves its purpose well. Recommended.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
February 11, 2019
First of all a good advice: If you are a shy person don't start reading it.
The Cunnilinguist is a book that describes the "how to" of oral sex, but since the book's title sounds very juicy it is not all about sex. I really loved the detailed information about hygiene and safety, I think it is almost as important as the intercourse itself.
In the second half of book as the author is "going deeper" we could read all of the important aspects of "the business". No, the sex is only a small part of it, kissing, dirty talk and the whole foreplay is essentially part of the play. The end experience higly depends on these small steps. Finally, we can read about positions, situations and the whole experience without taboos.
Overall, I really loved the effortless style of the author, it made the whole book so enjoyable.
The Cunnilinguist is a book that describes the "how to" of oral sex, but since the book's title sounds very juicy it is not all about sex. I really loved the detailed information about hygiene and safety, I think it is almost as important as the intercourse itself.
In the second half of book as the author is "going deeper" we could read all of the important aspects of "the business". No, the sex is only a small part of it, kissing, dirty talk and the whole foreplay is essentially part of the play. The end experience higly depends on these small steps. Finally, we can read about positions, situations and the whole experience without taboos.
Overall, I really loved the effortless style of the author, it made the whole book so enjoyable.
June 24, 2026
Facts! Studies! Diagrams! The Ultimate Guide to Female Oral Pleasure!
The Cunnilinguist: How To Give And Receive Great Oral Sex: Top tips from both ends of the tongue by Alex B. Porter is the ultimate guide to giving and receiving female oral pleasure. It is far more detailed, rigorous, and scientific than I expected. There are facts. There are studies. There are diagrams. There is also humor and an illustrative excerpt from Alex B. Porter's Sapphic romance series Branding Her.
Porter jokes, tongue in cheek (or elsewhere, most likely), “The Ultimate Gift for Your Lover? A hardback copy!” Do your girlfriend, wife, or female lover an even bigger favor. Get a copy for yourself, keep it a secret, read it, study it, make a plan, and blow your partner’s mind.
Enjoy!.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
The Cunnilinguist: How To Give And Receive Great Oral Sex: Top tips from both ends of the tongue by Alex B. Porter is the ultimate guide to giving and receiving female oral pleasure. It is far more detailed, rigorous, and scientific than I expected. There are facts. There are studies. There are diagrams. There is also humor and an illustrative excerpt from Alex B. Porter's Sapphic romance series Branding Her.
Porter jokes, tongue in cheek (or elsewhere, most likely), “The Ultimate Gift for Your Lover? A hardback copy!” Do your girlfriend, wife, or female lover an even bigger favor. Get a copy for yourself, keep it a secret, read it, study it, make a plan, and blow your partner’s mind.
Enjoy!.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
May 1, 2019
I confess, what first got me to read/listen to this book was curiosity. The subject being one that it's usually only talked about in whispers or jokes.
I have to say that this book felt like it was written mostly for lesbians or female couples. With a reference for males here and there. I'm neither gay or male, but it was still interesting.
This book is a collection of facts, biology and personal experience. The authors intersects facts with her own anecdotes and creates a feel of balance and intimate conversation.
This is not a how to guide, it's more of a journey thru relationship, than a "touch this, lick that" manual. Although that is also in the book, but it is mingled with all the rest.
(received this book as a gift and review is honest and unbiased)
I have to say that this book felt like it was written mostly for lesbians or female couples. With a reference for males here and there. I'm neither gay or male, but it was still interesting.
This book is a collection of facts, biology and personal experience. The authors intersects facts with her own anecdotes and creates a feel of balance and intimate conversation.
This is not a how to guide, it's more of a journey thru relationship, than a "touch this, lick that" manual. Although that is also in the book, but it is mingled with all the rest.
(received this book as a gift and review is honest and unbiased)
February 8, 2019
Authors who write about sexuality still has a hard time today. Our world is still not as open as we suspect, but every time I found a book like The Cunnilinguist the hope arises. Yes, we need to talk about sex, maybe not in front of everyone but in front of each other.
I really enjoyed reading this book, it is well structured, every chapter has its own subject and easy to follow.
It's not my first book in sexuality and not my last one. Every topic from foreplay to roleplay has well written, sometimes I would have expected more tips and tricks.
Summary: Easy to read and academic at the same time, if you are open-minded it is a good book to read, but only for adults!
I really enjoyed reading this book, it is well structured, every chapter has its own subject and easy to follow.
It's not my first book in sexuality and not my last one. Every topic from foreplay to roleplay has well written, sometimes I would have expected more tips and tricks.
Summary: Easy to read and academic at the same time, if you are open-minded it is a good book to read, but only for adults!
June 30, 2026
It's a fun and educational book that doesn't take itself too seriously and doesn't expect anything from you.
I received a free copy of this book and am voluntarily leaving a review.
I received a free copy of this book and am voluntarily leaving a review.
November 4, 2022
I received this title for free in exchange for an unbiased review
My background:
Straight male. Enjoys cunnilingus, but have more enthusiasm than technique.
Description
This book will take you from the basic "what is this" of the vulva and then guide you slowly through increasingly advanced and/or stimulating ways of pleasing your partner.
It mainly addresses the giver, but is a fantastic read together as a couple.
Concerns
This book is not for everyone. It is very LGBT friendly and especially in the beginning It feels (to me) like too much emphasis is put on the fact that the author is a lesbian. This is much less ubiquitous in the middle and last part though, where it feels more naturally brought up in concrete examples of her own experiences with techniques.
The book is also biased towards pleasing the receiver and expects the giver to give completely selflessly which felt one-sided to me.
Strengths
It describes many techniques in detail, while keeping you focused on exploring what works for your partner. It never feels like a manual.
It is a good source of inspiration for new things to try and different kinds of foreplay to explore.
Conclusion
If you like me, would like to be a better giver. This is a great book to help you learn.
Or if you are a couple who would like some inspiration for how to build on your routine and improve your foreplay. This book will give you that as well.
My background:
Straight male. Enjoys cunnilingus, but have more enthusiasm than technique.
Description
This book will take you from the basic "what is this" of the vulva and then guide you slowly through increasingly advanced and/or stimulating ways of pleasing your partner.
It mainly addresses the giver, but is a fantastic read together as a couple.
Concerns
This book is not for everyone. It is very LGBT friendly and especially in the beginning It feels (to me) like too much emphasis is put on the fact that the author is a lesbian. This is much less ubiquitous in the middle and last part though, where it feels more naturally brought up in concrete examples of her own experiences with techniques.
The book is also biased towards pleasing the receiver and expects the giver to give completely selflessly which felt one-sided to me.
Strengths
It describes many techniques in detail, while keeping you focused on exploring what works for your partner. It never feels like a manual.
It is a good source of inspiration for new things to try and different kinds of foreplay to explore.
Conclusion
If you like me, would like to be a better giver. This is a great book to help you learn.
Or if you are a couple who would like some inspiration for how to build on your routine and improve your foreplay. This book will give you that as well.
September 6, 2024
I will admit that when I started to read the book I thought there was nothing I could learn but ohh was i wrong!!! As a giver and a receiver I was overjoyed to read step by step instructions from both points of view. The author adding in so many tips on PIV sex, fisting, rimming, BDSM etc. I recommend it to anyone from beginners to the advanced lover.
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