Dragoste şi respect

by Emerson Eggerichs

O Carte care iti Poate Schimba Radical Casnicia!

Un mesaj revolutionar
"Sunt casatorita de 35 de ani, dar nu am mai auzit de la nimeni o astfel de invatatura."
"Asta era ceea ce-mi lipsea!"
"Lectura acestei carti a fost pentru mine ca o iluminare."
"Toate s-au legat, dupa ce am citit Dragoste si Respect."
"Ca si consilier pe probleme de familie, nici un alt material pana la aceasta carte nu mi-a starnit mai mult admiratia."
"Ceva extraordinar vei afla, citind aceasta carte."

Un mesaj simplu
Dorinta cea mai mare a oricarei sotii este sa se simta iubita. Cand aceasta dorinta ii este indeplinita, ea este fericita. Dorinta cea mai mare a oricarui sot este sa se simta respectat. Cand aceasta dorinta ii este indeplinita, el este fericit.
Cand ori una ori alta dintre aceste dorinte nu este indeplinita, lucrurile incep sa mearga din rau in mai rau. "Dragoste si Respect" descopera cauzele pentru care sotii ajung sa reactioneze negativ unul fata de celalalt, aratandu-le si cum sa rezolve repede, fara dificultate si biblic conflictele care apar intre ei.

Un mesaj care da rezultate
Cu o experienta in consiliere de peste trei decenii, precum si cu o pregatire biblica si de specialitate adecvate, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs impreuna cu sotia lui, Sarah, au ajuns deja cu mesajul cartii "Dragoste si Respect" peste tot in America, schimband prin acesta modul in care partenerii de viata isi vorbesc, gandesc si se trateaza unul pe celalalt.
Ce-ti doresti pentru casnicia ta? Doresti sa va bucurati de buna intelegere? Doresti sa te simti aproape de partenerul de viata? Doresti sa te simti apreciat? Doresti sa cunosti viata de casnicie asa cum a conceput-o Dumnezeu? De ce sa nu incerci atunci putina "Dragoste si Respect"?

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs este presedintele Love and Respect Ministries, a primit Master of Divinity de la Dubuque Seminary si Ph.D. in asistenta copilului si familiei de la Michigan State University. A fost pastor senior al Trinity Church din East Lansing, inainte de a se dedica full-time zidirii de casnicii sanatoase prin lansarea in 1999 a seriei de conferinte "Dragoste si Respect". Emerson si sotia sa, Sarah, locuiesc in Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA, si au trei copii.

Genres: Marriage, Christian, Relationships, Christianity

312 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2004

About the author

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Reviews

[Penny Layne · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a great devotional book for husbands and wives looking for a Christian perspective on how to have a stronger marriage. This devotional uses the principles from Dr. Eggerichs book “Love & Respect” to do bite size devotions to help you live the principles out in your daily life. Each individual devotional ends with a prayer example so you can pray for guidance on the principle taught, as well as an action to help you apply what you have learned.

First of all, this book is not for you if you are just looking for backup to justify why your spouse should change. This book is for anyone who understands that marriage is a two-way street, and therefore requires work on your part as well. While it is not necessary to have the book “Love & Respect” to read this devotional, it is helpful as he references this book throughout. You should also be ready with a Bible handy as this book is definitely full of scripture.

I like that the sections are small, allowing for time to digest the information received throughout the week. The principles are things that can be worked on realistically, and the book gives real life perspectives throughout. I also like that this book is not just about what not to do in marriage, but about what to do instead. I love that the writer understands that love is an action not a feeling. The devotionals are easy to read and understand with the information from the devotionals building on the principles from the one before it. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who is struggling in their marriage, or who just wants to make a good marriage stronger.



Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

[Jessica Sarbu · Rating 5 out of 5]

It's a must read! It explains how the relation between a husband and a wife should be and how important it is to show respect and love everyday, even if the other person doesn't show it to us. Our true source of love is found in God. In Him we can truly show appreciation, be loving, serve and live selflessly. The core idea is to make Jesus the true source of your love, life and cultivate the relationship with Him. We are encouraged to live more like Jesus.

[Michelle L · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good for my soul, oxygen for our marriage!

We have enjoyed reading this devotional together & it has brought us even closer together. We're such huge fans to the point of this being our #1 go to wedding gift.

[Summer · Rating 2 out of 5]

This was good other than the fact that the devotionals often caused us to end up in an argument, completely defeating the point of reading this together.

[J. Tayler Smith · Rating 3 out of 5]

This couples devotional was okay. The book it is based off of is better.

[Jon Barr · Rating 4 out of 5]

Devotionals, based on the book "Love and Respect" and intended for married couples to do together. Fine as a stand-alone, but much improved by reading the book first.

[Anastasia Rozance · Rating 5 out of 5]

A devotional we can read over and over again. Love it!

[Sebeștean Timea · Rating 5 out of 5]

O carte ce trebuie neapărat citită de oricine dorește să se căsătorească, ori de cei care deja sunt căsătoriți! Fără excepții!

[Sheri · Rating 5 out of 5]

Attention, all married couples and “about to be married” couples. This book is for you.

The book is called A Husband-Friendly Devotional that Wives Truly Love. Yep, I would say that is very true.

Bound in imitation leather, for a nice gift giving book, it has 52 devotionals, one for each week of the year. The devotionals are short, each averaging about 3-4 pages (2 pages front & back). I don’t know about you, but when you try to have personal devotions, then read with the kids, you barely have time for each other. This book takes the guilt of everyday devotions with your spouse out. Of course, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have devotions with your spouse every day of the week. For us though, it hasn’t been possible.

A couple of years ago, my hubby and I went through Eggerichs’ book, Love and Respect. We both loved it and it fast became a marriage book that we recommended to all married couples. (That one and The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman). These books have helped us more through our marriage relationship than any others. So, when I saw this one come available, I immediately jumped on it.

Now to talk about the content of this book. This devotional covers everything from differing viewpoints, to in-laws, out-law, money, sex and family. There are also chapters on forgiveness and your relationship with God and battling selfishness. Each chapter ends with a prayer and an action step.

Why Love and Respect?

It is taken from these verses in Ephesians:

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence (respect) her husband.

Ephesians 5:25-33

Notice that it never says for wives to love their husbands, only to respect them. And notice that it never says for Husbands to respect their wives, only to love them. It because God has designed us to feel love and respect each according to his/her gender.

Without going into too much detail, because I really would like you as a married couple to go through this yourself, I’ll pull a small excerpt from the book:

C-O-U-P-L-E: Six ways to spell love to your wife

C: Closeness

O: Openness

U: Understanding

P: Peacemaking

L: Loyalty

E: Esteem

C-H-A-I-R-S: Six ways to spell respect for your husband

C: Conquest

H: Hierarchy

A: Authority

I: Insight

R: Relationship

S: Sexuality

All I gave you here were the words. You’ll have to read the book to find out what each word means. :)

Many thanks to the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com for my free copy of this book. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

[Tori · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a husband-friendly devotional that wives truly love. As a wife myself I can attest to that fact. I greatly enjoyed this book! Me and my husband both have read it cover to cover and now we are working on the devotionals together.
Most devotionals are more from a feminine perspective and this often will make a husband shy away from it and be uninterested. This book focuses on both and is so equal! Not to mention my husband pointed out that the majority of the male population are not interested in reading something long and tedious if they can’t get into it. After all it isn’t a sports page or something as he said. Ha ha. But with this book each chapter is very short and to the point. Everything meshes well, and while there is discussion points it isn’t long discussions that lead to heated arguments and misunderstandings. It just flows very well and is very comforting for both partners. After the first couple of devotionals my husband was glued and he looks forward to going over it more together again.
One of the things this book points out is marriage is never perfect. As man and woman joining as one we are still different in every way from each other. This makes it hard to understand one another. We hear things differently, we see things differently, and we feel things differently. This novel puts it in such easy terms for anyone to understand and refers to this as “Pink” and “Blue“.
This book is based on the principle that if wives show their husbands respect he will show her love, and if a husband shows love to his wife, she will show him respect.
There are acronyms making it easy to follow along for husbands and wives that we can each work on to show one another the love and respect we need and deserve. At the end of each chapter is a prayer a place to take action. There is also a discussion for each chapter in the back of the book which is most helpful.
The three cycles it goes through: The Crazy Cycle, The Energizing Cycle, and the Rewarded Cycle are very insightful and it clearly breaks things down.
I recommend this book to any married couple! The best thing about it is that it not only helps husbands and wives connect and understand each other, but it puts God in the mix as he IS the biggest part of our marriage and lives. There are so many biblical passages throughout this book that pertain to the material, and it is very refreshing. Nothing was hard to understand and for me and my husband I have noticed that things have been so much better. We have never had a bad marriage, but we haven’t always understood each other and we have had our disagreements. Some things that don’t seem as important to him are important to me, and visa versa. This book is not a cure all for marriage nor does it claim to be, but in my personal opinion and from the experience of reading this book with my husband it will help understand and appreciate one another more.
Not to mention this book is just wonderfully put together. It reads comfortably, and it even feels comfortably. It has a leather texture and feels almost like a heavy blanket in your hand.
Highly recommendable and I know that me and my husband plan on going over this book together at least once a year and keeping the principles in mind and in practice.



DISCLAIMER: I was provided this book for free through Thomas Nelson Publishers in exchange for my unbiased review. Opinions expressed are mine alone.

[Shannon · Rating 5 out of 5]

The first thing I have to talk about is the books presentation. The leather softcover is really beautiful; it is simple and elegent. Usually I don't take much time to talk about the cover of a book because the inside is what really matters. In this case I think the cover is really important. How many husbands want to be seen carrying around a book that looks like a self help book for ladies? I don't think any of them do. I actually think that is just one of the reasons why many husbands are disinclined to take the time to do a devotional with their wives. They take one look at the cover and decide that they don't want to been seen carrying it around nor do they want any part of what's inside.

The second thing I love about the book is the way it is organized inside. There are a couple of different options for how to use the book so you can choose what works best for you. The chapters are concise and to the point so that the lesson does not come off as a lot of preaching and too daunting to read. Each chapter ends with a prayer and an action to reinforce and put into practice what was discussed within the lesson. There is an appendix that contains discussion questions that can be used in a variety of ways.

Ok, so we have a pretty cover and well organized layout; what about the content? If you have read anything by Dr. Eggerichs before you know that he has an easy to understand way of expressing his message and this book is no exception. I read a chapter and feel inspired, not beaten down; my husband feels the same. There is usually a short story at the beginning of the lesson that is easy to relate to. I really love that you can take what you learn from day one and put that into practice in your marriage immediately.

As we approach Valentines Day, I don't think there is any better gift you can give your spouse than devotion to your marriage. If you have a good marriage already this book can only serve to make it stronger. If you are struggling, I think this is a great way to try to find some common ground and understand each other better. I am not suggesting foregoing flowers and candy in favor of the book because that might get you in trouble, but you can get the book too!

BOTTOM LINE: The Love and Respect Experience is a great blessing for your marriage.

[Gregory Rothbard · Rating 3 out of 5]

We envisioned a marriage that danced beautifully and was a beacon of hope in a pessimistic age. We thought we were doing fine, just fine, with our steps. But sometimes, our feet became tangled up, and as we bent over to untangle the mess, the knot of frustration only got tighter. We asked: How did we get here in this knot of frustration? What can we do to untangle the knot? We did not want to get divorced, we thought, as this would mean that we were disobeying God! Were we to suffer and live in a silent house until we died? These thoughts did cross my mind in the first five years of marriage, however now our marriage is growing brighter with good friendly council and good books like Emerson Eggerichs Love and Respect Experience: A Husband Friendly Devotional.
Gentlemen, we often work more on our occupation than we do on our households. Why? We stay at work, because it is often easier or at least more understandable. As time goes by, our marriages end up in a heap of dusty debris. The devotional walks besides you like a friend. The meditations are great and can be read in less than ten minutes. Eggerichs guides you in a prayer after the meditation that helps through-out the week. Then the weekly action steps will help you put the meditations into a workable plan. The follow up questions can be used to learn from each other and discuss frustrations and joys.
My wife and I feel this book is great for any married couple, no matter how long they have been married.

[Molly · Rating 4 out of 5]

Devotionals are a dime a dozen. Among the dime-a-dozen pile, The Love & Respect Experience stands out as one I would give married couples.

Its beautiful leather binding and creamy paper is so giftable. Content-wise, it hits the comfortable light-but-substantial sweet spot, where authors try to pack a nutritional punch into easily digestible baby food, and on top of that make spoon air plane motions with the spoon so you'll open your mouth.

This devotional builds on Emerson Eggerichs' bestselling Love & Respect book, so there's a good chance that readers unfamiliar with it will grapple for a bit. Fear not, a helpful appendix explains the basics (and trust me, a couple of pages are all you really need; don't bother with the book).

What I like about Eggerichs is he hits the nail on the head when it comes to gender differences: he jokes about it (and he is funny!) but he doesn't treat it simplistically and neither does he offend. If only for the enlightenment he throws on the whole gender thing, this devotional is worth it.

[Jason Green · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a book that my wife and I will likely continue to read for years to come. There are 52 devotionals, one for each week of the year. If you are familiar with Dr. Eggerich's Love & Respect approach to marriage, then you have a good idea of what to expect. But don't let that stop you from reading it.

If you are not familiar with Dr. Eggrich's approach, it goes something like this. Wives want love while husbands want respect. When the wife does not show respect, the husband tends to by unloving, which causes the wife to show less respect. And, as Dr. Eggrich puts it, the Crazy Cycle begins. But it doesn't just start with the wives, husbands can, and I would guess often do, get the Crazy Cycle started by not showing the love their wives desire.

So how do you stop this cycle? By giving unconditional love and respect to one another. Easier said than done. But Dr. Eggrich has done a wonderful job of putting things into perspective and backing up his Love & Respect theory with biblical principles.

[Karie Hall · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is based on the principle that if wives show their husbands respect he will show her love, and if a husband shows love to his wife, she will show him respect.





There are acronyms making it easy to follow along for husbands and wives that we can each work on to show one another the love and respect we need and deserve.


At the end of each chapter is a prayer a place to take action. There is also a discussion for each chapter in the back of the book which is most helpful.


This is a book that can appeal to both married couples and non married couples.

[James Bailey · Rating 5 out of 5]

If your married you need to read this book.

[Karen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Thought provoking

[Akhet · Rating 3 out of 5]

Enjoyed listening to this book on commute. Found some helpful tools to help me honor my loved ones more and hopefully be slower to speak and better at listening.