You Care Too Much: Free Yourself From Social Anxiety

by Carl Vernon

The insecurity, worry, self-doubt and social anxiety that come with caring too much about what people think can be overwhelming. Does this mean you should go and live a solitary life in the hills, away from people and the BS that comes with them? No. There is a better way. From bestselling author Carl Vernon, You Care Too Much is a no-holds-barred wake-up call about what social anxiety really is, how it affects you, and what you can do about it. It will teach you to bring out your new ‘can’t care’ mentality, turning your anxiety and self-doubt into confidence and self-control. • Discover why you care too much – and why it’s doing you no good. • Ditch your insecurity and self-consciousness and be yourself. • Control your need for approval from others. • Cut out the anxiety, worry and self-doubt others cause you. • Learn how to spot and deal with toxic people – so you can stop them from walking all over you. It’s time to find freedom by getting the tools and answers you need to care a lot less about what people think.

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Audiobook, Personal Growth, Personal Development

228 pages, Paperback

Published January 8, 2019

About the author

Carl Vernon is a renowned coach and bestselling author, with books including the Amazon #1 bestseller, Anxiety Rebalance and You Care Too Much. His unique insights into anxiety and stress help people rediscover their lives.

Find more at www.carlvernon.com

Reviews

[Marco Morales · Rating 3 out of 5]

I saw this book standing in the background of a video I was watching and it caught my attention. It was rather cheap on the Kindle store so I bought it keen to find anything interesting and worthwhile to add to my abilities. Needless to say, I didn't find anything particularly new that I haven't read in other books about certain philosophies of life and death. Perspective, nobody cares, etc., it has all been said and done, but I understand how useful this book would be if the individual reading this hasn't read any philosophy before. It was an okay book, would recommend.

[Kate Henderson · Rating 4 out of 5]

**listened via audible**

Bloody love Carl Vernon. Listened to this in one sitting.
Some great points. So many! I can’t believe how much content is in this short 5 hr audio. Will have to listen to this again so that everything definitely goes in.
Vernon writes plainly and simply but there’s just so much content!
I definitely would recommend this book if you’re looking for some inspiration.

[Jessica MacDonald · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a wonderful book on the subject of shyness and social anxiety.. really glad I picked it up. Not all of it applied to me but he touches on a wide swath of the issues many of us face, at least some advice should touch you.

I loved how he touched on swinging to far in the opposite direction of extreme shyness (being a jerk) something I myself have been liable to do while mired in my self pity induced defensiveness.

Like I mentioned some stuff didn't apply to me at all. His struggle with self confidence seemed to be more tied into social media and he mentioned it a bit more than I would have liked, but the advice is still sound.

All in all great read.

[Bells · Rating 1 out of 5]

Full review later , but this man has NO BUSINESS writing this book. One of the worst things I’ve ever read

[Emma · Rating 3 out of 5]

audio book

I really like listening to this. i think the author uses “tough” love and realistic perspective to help people conquer social anxiety. i think it is mainly a mindset shift so the author provides a lot of different examples to show people how their life is not satisfying them and how they can improve. it’s hard to change something if one isn’t aware of it. i’ll say that a lot of the information is pretty straight forward and obvious but i think what makes this book effective is that all the info is in one place and how it is presented.

[Maya Gil · Rating 1 out of 5]

One cliche after another. Hate read it all the way through.

[Cat · Rating 2 out of 5]

The advice in this book can be summed up in two points:

1. No one cares about you or how you look etc because humans are essentially selfish. Therefore, you need to adopt a "can't care" rather than "don't care" mindset.
2. Improve your self confidence and independence and everything else will follow.

It's... Fine. There's a lot of padding. There's probably better books on this subject but it'd be fine as a gateway book. Some of this thoughts and views seemed quite cynical to me and he started to go off on some tangents I had no time for (e.g. ditch booze, sugar, TV, phones, find religion etc. - heard this all before and I can do without it).

[Alex Moreno]

I read similar book I enjoyed a lot: How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. But this one, half way through and decided to put it down, the writing style is not for me.

[Jill Martindale Farrar · Rating 2 out of 5]

Basically a sound message, but not nearly as helpful as other reading I've done on the subject of social anxiety. I listened to him reading it as an audiobook and he has a punchy delivery, but I felt he was talking down to his audience. I wouldn't recommend it, but it might be just what someone else needs to hear. I note his earlier book was the 'best seller' maybe that's the one to read.

[G A WALLIS · Rating 1 out of 5]

Nothing new here....

Seems a compilation of the usual stuff. Ignore what people think of you, act confident, stop trying to please other people etc. Might be worth a gloss over for 99 pence but the £5.99 i paid is not good value.

[Anna Maria · Rating 2 out of 5]

This was said to be different from other books about the same subject. Personally I could not see any difference to many other book re same subject. Many phrases were used again, and again. Quite boring in my opinion. Could not recommend

[Crimmas · Rating 3 out of 5]

A 3.5 would be more appropriate. It’s not perfect, and it’s not for everyone, but it is for some of us. Some of us just need a stern pep talk in order to see how much of ourselves we’re giving up for everyone else, and how easily we’re taken advantage of.

[Mrs Susan Farrington · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great

A really helpful book if you are very shy. I can thoroughly recommend it. Has changed the way I feel in many different social situations.

[David · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some good actionable points , bit overfluffed though

[Paul Gannon · Rating 5 out of 5]

Carl makes such a good listen. He makes some great points and gives some great advice.