Trove is the story of a woman whose life is up-ended when she begins an armchair treasure hunt―a search for $10,000 worth of gold coins buried in New York City, of all places―with a man who, as she points out, is not her husband. In this eloquent, hilarious, sharply realized memoir, Sandra A. Miller grapples with the regret and confusion that so often accompanies middle age, and the shame of craving something more when she has so much already.
In a very real way, Miller has spent her life hunting for buried treasure. As a child, she trained herself to find things: dropped hair clips, shiny bits of broken glass, discarded lighters. Looking to escape from her volatile parents and often-unhappy childhood, Miller found deeper meaning, and a good deal of hope, in each of these objects.
Now an adult and facing the loss of her last living parent―her mother who is at once cold, difficult, and wildly funny―Miller finds herself, as she so often did as a little girl, pressed against a wall of her own longing. Her search for gold, which soon becomes an obsession, forces her to dredge up painful pieces of her past, confront the true source of her sorrow, and finally discover what it is she has been looking for all these years.
Sandra A. Miller's debut novel, WEDNESDAYS AT ONE (Zibby Books, 2023) is a USA TODAY bestseller.
She is also the author of the award-winning memoir, TROVE: A Woman's Search for Truth and Buried Treasure.
Her essays and articles have appeared in over one-hundred publications, including The Christian Science Monitor, Spirituality & Health, Modern Bride, Yankee, Family Fun, and The Boston Globe Magazine, for which she is a regular correspondent.
One of her essays was turned into a short film called “Wait,” directed by Trudie Styler and starring Kerry Washington. Sandra appeared on The Today Show with Ms. Styler to promote the film which was part of a Glamour Magazine project.
She wrote award-winning scripts for 11 Central Ave., a radio comic strip that ran for three years in major public radio markets.
Sandra has lived and worked across the country and around the world, including New York, Los Angeles, Tokyo, and Luxembourg. She currently teaches English at the University of Massachusetts, Lowell and lives outside of Boston with her husband. They have two adult children.
When I started this book, I thought it was a book about finding a gold treasure, but along the way this book was more then that. It has a deeper story in it about a female who was trying to find herself. It was heartbreaking at times to read her sadness to be acknowledged in life by her own parents. The story was prickly and sweet at the same time. It gets 4 points.
This is a ARC from the publisher via Netgalley, which I got for a honest review.
I had the good fortune of reading an advance copy of TROVE and my only regret is that it is not being released until 9/19/19! When it is released, I would HIGHLY recommend reading it as soon as you can! Throughout the book I felt as if I too was on a treasure hunt, both physically with the author and emotionally as part of my own journey.
Physically you feel the excitement and hope of joining the author and her friend on a search for buried treasure. The sensible paths and frustrating missteps, the exhilarating signs and exasperating miscalculations all come together to make you feel like you too are interpreting clues and digging in dirt!
Emotionally you are allowed to dig deeper into aspects of your own life that perhaps you had unknowingly hidden or intentionally buried. The author's relationships with her parents, her global search for true love and the realization that she would be able to find her own way are remarkably inspirational.
TROVE is a tremendous memoir and leaves me with hope for more of this author's work!
Is transcendence possible? Hell, maybe, with enough fortitude and humor and persistence. I loved this hilarious, heart-breaking page-turner about one woman's relentless search for all the treasures life has to offer. I certainly related to all the struggling, sadness and moments of elation the author experienced in her quest for love and fulfillment in this insane world. Highly recommended read!
This book was kind of a downer for me. It's about a woman's complicated relationship with her cold and rather alienating parents, and sort of a middle age crisis in life, and trying to find her way through it. It's tied to treasure hunting, but very loosely. It was meaningful, but incredibly sad, so I didn't enjoy it all that much. I just couldn't handle the amount of misunderstandings between her and her parents, or even how badly her love interest treated her. It's all a valid story for sure, but it's just not for someone who is as prone to anxiety as I am. If you are too, then it's not for you. Otherwise, it could be a meaningful and poignant read.
I thank the publisher for the free ebook through NetGalley in exchange to my honest review. This has not affected my opinion.
As soon as I heard Sandra Miller being interviewed by Zibby Owens (I've said it before but it's worth repeating: if you don't listen to the podcast Moms Don't Have Time to Read Books, start now!!), I knew I had to read this book. During their inspiring conversation, Miller was full of insightful reflection, humorous stories, relatable advice, and most important to me, anecdotes about being a middle aged woman navigating the constantly changing landscape of life.
Trove is everything it promised to be. A deeply emotional, intelligently written memoir about Miller's complicated childhood, rocky coming-of-age years, and continued quest to find out what it is she has been searching for all these years. In her late 40s, while living what appears to be an ideal life in Boston with her husband and two children, the author embarks on a physical treasure hunt in New York that takes her away from her family for entire days. She partners with a divorced male friend who introduced her to this treasure hunt, where organizers physically hid a treasure chest filled with $10,000 worth of gold coins, providing online clues for people to decipher. Though the activity seems bizarre to her husband, it becomes an obsession for Sandy, for whom all types of treasure have always played a significant role. Starting at a young age, she collected objects wherever she went and bonded with them as a way to make sense of her often-scary life in a house with two mentally and physically abusive parents.
With chapters highlighting the actual hunt for treasure alternating with those recounting her early life and current family's active days, Miller takes the reader on a deeply personal search for answers. Her writing is poetic at times, but with a no-nonsense clarity that tells it like it is. Though the scenes including her distant mother, with whom she desperately tries to connect, are sad, they are also hilarious and her mother is one of the most well-drawn character in the book.
Trove is a moving story that forced me to contemplate my own relationships to the people and objects in my life. Though it is painful to read at times, it is also uplifting, motivating, and profoundly satisfying.
Thank you NetGalley for the ARC of this book. The emotional punch of this book caught me by surprise. On the surface it is a book about a woman caught up in an armchair treasure hunt. But the heart of this story is the author's search for emotional treasure.
Smart, funny, and affecting, this is a wonderful memoir of searching for buried treasure in Brooklyn and discovering where the true riches lie. Sandra Miller is an amazing storyteller. This is a great read, highly recommended as a book for the new year!
TROVE: A Woman's Search for Truth and Buried Treasure is the story of a woman on a journey. It also happens to be a true story, a memoir of sorts. Sandra Miller's narrative begins as she faces the loss of her last living parent. “Eight years ago a man, who was not my husband, invited me on an armchair treasure hunt—a search for $10,000 worth of gold coins buried in New York City, of all places” says Miller. “When I said I’d go, my world was upended.” Her decision to take part in this adventure was so clear and simple to Miller it seems reasonable to us as her audience, too. Miller's way of coping with her grief, her scavenger hunt, became her obsession. Miller was not a 20-something with no responsibilities going on a careless fling. She was married with a young family that needed her attention. The fact that she jumped in so wholeheartedly, losing all objectivity, wasn't as surprising as it was painful to those close to her. Miller had spent her life hunting for buried treasure. As a child, she trained herself to find things: dropped hair clips, shiny bits of broken glass, discarded lighters. As she grew older, her treasure hunts became a way of escaping from volatile parents and a not-too-happy childhood. Anticipation of this fresh new treasure hunt stirred Miller's heart into action. It became a distraction to help her work through her immediate pain but never let her completely evade the bigger emotional issues of her life. Gradually, Miller says, she was forced to dredge up painful pieces of her past, confront the true source of her sorrow and discover what it is she has been looking for all these years. “My biggest challenge was the confusion I felt about entering middle age and the shame of craving something more when I had so much already.” For women hesitant to confront middle age or looking back at their lives wondering what had happened, TROVE might be that essential book. It's about marriage, parenting, aging parents and the quest for some sort of personal fulfillment. Miller's story comes with sensible paths and frustrating missteps. Some of the choices Miller made were hard for me to accept. I could go from feeling like I was right there with her on this magical adventure, interpreting clues and digging in dirt, to yelling at her to grow up and take care of her family! Miller's writing style is spare and almost too full of shocking honesty. At the same time, her skills are so solid its impossible to ignore her urgency. I caught myself sharing the heartbreak she was experiencing and remembering all the opportunities I had passed up because I didn't have the guts she did. Eventually, Miller finds deeper meaning and a good deal of hope in all the treasures in her life. She just had to go on a hunt to be reminded that she already had the makings of what was important. Each reader is given the opportunity to read TROVE simply as Miller's search or to slow down and be open to a similar exploration of their own lives. I think TROVE is a book that will be most appreciated by women but it is also one that anyone can read and find themselves saying, “I've been there!”
If you’re going diving, bring along Sandra A. Miller. With a tank of oxygen, she’d probably find Atlantis. Or at the very least a piece of colored sea glass, or a heart shaped rock to add to her eye-popping collection that bejewel her windowsills. I’ve walked the same beaches but fail to see, let alone score, such tiny treasures. That’s because Sandra is always looking, and Trove is the culmination of that search. If you’ve read any of Sandra’s provocative newspaper and magazine articles on say, the polyamory scene, or how a prisoner once on death row survived ten years in solitary confinement by teaching himself to meditate; if you’ve devoured her hysterical essays about struggles with parenthood, or listened to some of the award-winning, wry scripts she wrote for 11 Central Ave., a radio comic strip that aired on public radio, you get what she’s after. Untethering the human from her condition. Wringing humor from abject despair. Probing the depths of one’s life to find meaning, and while she’s at it, in Trove at least, maybe a literal chest of gold. But the real booty in Miller’s memoir is the prose—crisp, ironic, sexy, funny, and insightful. And the stories—about her parents, lost in their own secret worlds, about that insatiable craving for love and family, about owning her identity as a woman, and ultimately about desire itself. This is a book to face out, take to bed, and treasure.
This debut memoir is a winner. Don't take my word for it - it's won the National Book Award and gets the big sticker on the cover. Sandy Miller, a middle aged happily married woman, with two pre-adolescent children finds herself obsessed with an on-line treasure hunt to find $10,000 worth of gold coins. All sorts of behaviors ensue while she is on the hunt. In many ways this desire to find treasure is not new as she has been a collector of things since childhood imbuing meaning into her finds which she stores in multitudes of shoe boxes. Sandy is an "everywoman" and is not truly exceptional in the way many memoirists present. But in her obsession she is able to recognize that she is searching for something that she feels is lacking in her life, likely owing to a largely diffident and unhappy childhood. She has a trying relationship with her elderly mother, and despite attempting not to - often displays the kind of anger that her mother was known for. Sandy too can lose it...just like any other human. But in this memoir she reveals her generosity, an innate sense of humor and the ability to stand outside of something and recognize what it is. She is also blessed with a spouse who demonstrates remarkable understanding. In the end, Sandy does find something but it isn't what she expected. What also makes this book stand out is fine writing, organization and editing which makes for a seamless read.
I was thoroughly impressed by Sandra A. Miller's ability to weave the threads of this memoir—which is about hunting for treasures literal and figurative, grieving the parents she had and the ones she wished for, and navigating a midlife ebb in a long marriage. Since childhood, she has picked up trinkets and looked for signs, at least in part as a reaction to her volatile, withholding parents. In young adulthood, she longs to retrace her father's WWII footsteps in Japan. In her late forties, the present moment of the memoir, she obsesses over a treasure buried somewhere in New York as a stunt by a local theater company (while her mom and her marriage malinger in their own ways). Miller ultimately believes in meaning-making more than she believes in treasure-finding (as do I), but her poetic style—a linguistic mosaic of small moments—shows how similar the two pursuits can look. Some questions about her family history go unanswered, but with clever turns and reveals, Miller doesn't deny readers their own quest for literary closure. This is a beautifully written story about life's big questions and tiny treasures.
I like to read memoirs/biographies because I truly believe that truth is more fascinating than fiction. I REALLY liked this book. I downloaded my copy in the afternoon of one day and read until I went to bed. I then started reading the next morning and didn't stop until I read the last page. I don't usually get hooked on a book like this, but I had to find out where that darn treasure was buried!!!
The story is much deeper than just hunting for a chest of buried treasure. The author is a superb writer and weaves her entire life story into this modern-day treasure hunt. She describes the difficult relationships with her parents, her husband, and her children. She deals with inner pain, insecurities, and fears that she has held inside for far too long.
The real treasure at the end of the story is the author finding peace, satisfaction, gratitude and her purpose in life.
You will have to read the book to find out what happened to the buried treasure chest in New York City. Yep...truth is stranger than fiction.
A lot of Sandra Miller's memoir made me uncomfortable, and I couldn't place my finger on why. I cringed a little at some of the raw exchanges between her and her husband and her and her parents, the problematic decisions made. The book felt, at times, like poking at the raw skin under a blister after it has burst. But it felt oddly close to home, too: the restless searching for who knows what, the messy relationships, inadequate communication.
I think her deeply personal story taps into something more universal: a struggling towards closer communion with ourselves and those we love, and maybe even our true source of being.
The ending felt a little too quick for me, but the catharsis is undeniable.
As an added Easter egg, it was fun to discover the author grew up in New Britain, CT where, coincidentally, I had a couple semesters at the local University.
Many thanks to NetGalley for the free ARC! Sandra Miller is an author I want to read more of.
I had the pleasure of reading an advance copy of this lovely and page-turning memoir, and stayed up half the night doing so. I couldn't put it down. Sandra Miller's writing is colloquial--you feel like you're having an intimate conversation with your best friend--and also lyrical and eloquent and witty and so smart. You'll find yourself lost in the narrative in the best way, along for the ride as Miller searches for that elusive thing she longs for (and whatever it is, we've all had that feeling, that yearning, which she captures so poignantly). This memoir is courageously honest and heartfelt and affecting. I have a feeling it's going to resonate with many readers. This book goes on my shelf with my all-time favorite memoirs. Highly recommend.
Maybe I just wasn't in the mood for the horrors of an emotionally neglected childhood and an adult focus on found items as a life history and comfort. A dreary and difficult read about an angry father and emotionally absent mother. Her father may have had PTSD; no explanation for the mother's vacuity. Thank heaven the author had an emotionally healthy sibling. Healthy enough to move far away; but somehow the author stayed close and desperately kept trying to get her parents to see her. I was so relieved when they died. I started skimming halfway through, read the last chapter and went back to try to pick up the thread, but even the rare moments of connection were small, trivial and forced. It's a very sad story.
A memoir consists of 42 chapters. One of tge things I love tge most is tge short length of tge chapters. Each chapter is about a certain concept/situation in tge authors life
I felt bored a bit and disconnected at tge start but with chapters going forward I started to get engaged and ha get whike more situations attached me to tge book Very nice and pretty writing style. I believe it contributed significantly on my loving of the book. I lost sense of tines couple tines because of flashbacks and I needed to register to reorient myself to the right tine and was disengaged in few situations because of a little too much details but it gets didbt affect tge whoke experience negatively.
A worms reading well written entertaining journey with several inspiring concepts and situations
I read this for book club and am not one to choose non-fiction on my own, but I'm glad I read this lovely work of self-reflection. The author is a woman in the midst of a mid-life crisis searching for buried treasure. As the story unfolds, it becomes clear that she is searching for something less tangible than gold, and has been searching her whole life because of her emotionally bankrupt parents. What could be a thoroughly depressing tale is made lighter by the author's wit and some spot-on Eureka moments that I was able to identify with. The quote that hit home for me was
Things of value appear all around us, if only people would take notice.
I cried and laughed throughout this well-written, poignant memoir. Miller has such a succinct way with words, and never wasted any to communicate her heartfelt story of longing, love and loss. Very rarely does a story grab me from the beginning and keep me hooked all the way through. I was on the hunt with her, cheering at her victories, crying with her at the defeats and laughing out loud with her well-timed moments of comic relief.
This is a PERFECT book club read. Readers will easily discover bits of themselves along the way!
A great read for anyone searching for ... well, anything. Sandra Miller's search for buried treasure (really!) is an entertaining story, but what makes her memoir more than that is how she weaves the rest of her life into that narrative: her relationships with her kids, parents, spouse, and treasure-hunting partner foremost among them. Her searches -- for love, understanding, adventure and more -- are universal, and any reader will be able to connect to the pieces of her journey that mirror their own. Highly recommended.
I loved this raw and personal story about real life. I love how the Author kept piece of the story hidden like rare treasure until the perfect delivery at the end. The Author's reveal of this detail satisfied the trapped teenage girl inside me that is always waiting for the world to be right in the right kinds of ways. This story of emotional triumph can remind us all that no matter how far away from our own personal treasures we feel we are, we can always go hunting inside ourselves for the truth. Beautiful story!
I was expecting the advertised humorous memoir that included ample doses of treasure hunting. Instead, this is an overly heavy and dark account of emotionally detached (and horrible) parents, adultery or thoughts of adultery, and passing on detached relationships into marriage and parenting. I wanted to shout at Miller, "Get out of the house already and look for treasure." Because I just didn't care enough to suffer through her whining and interactions with her mother, despite quality writing.
I've read and loved Sandra Miller's work for years. She's funny. She's smart. She's blessed with fathomless insight, and can open up the simplest moment into worlds. When Sandra goes deep, as she does in Trove, get your heart ready for a killshot. Trove is what it's like to live a human life, to yearn, to hope, and to fight like crazy to find that place where your soul feels at home. This book comes out on September 19. Make a date with yourself. The treasure is waiting.
Sandra Miller's memoir, Trove: A Woman's Search for Truth and Buried Treasure, relates the kind of search that most of us, most of us women, that is, experience in one form or another without even knowing it. On the surface, we might be seeking money, professional success, a life partner, the "right" house, but deep down we are yearning for something greater. Sandra Miller, in Trove, shows us what one woman looked for and what she found.
So, I was excited to read about a real life treasure hunt, but it was loosely based around a treasure hunt and it wasn't really the main focus. The real treasure hunt was the author's search for herself. This was a very emotional book, but it was well worth the read.
I would like to thank Netgalley and the publisher for providing me with a copy free of charge. This is my honest and unbiased opinion of it.
I read this whole book in 36 hours. Sandra Miller's memoir is captivating, hilarious, and deep. Who among us has not sought signs and wonders in the everyday, yearning for a felt sense of knowing we are exactly where we need to be? I know I have, and Sandra's story affirmed my own seeking AND my finding. Especially recommended for moms in midlife, though this book will speak to all who seek meaning.
One of the best memoirs I’ve ever read. Sandra’s writing is sharp, funny, and inspiring. She knows about the dark places—where you think about your life and wonder what would have been had you chosen an alternate door. You feel like you are holding hands with her when she comes out the other side. I highly recommend this treasure.
I got to read an advance copy of this book. It's delightful as well as meaningful. It goes back and forth between being a fun story about a woman's middle-age adventure, and a deep search for meaning and resolution of painful or unresolved experiences from her past. I look forward to re-reading when it comes out.
I was lucky enough to read an advance copy of TROVE and I loved it. It is a memoir that stays with you - full of feeling, funny, and deeply honest. TROVE is a joy to read - so beautifully written that I was deeply, effortlessly absorbed every step of the way. I'm looking forward to re-reading it very soon.
This is a beautifully written account of one woman's armchair search for treasure that ultimately leads to her finding the one treasure she wasn't looking for: emotional fulfillment, which all of the money in the world cannot buy. The raw writing about the relationships she had with her parents made her journey that much more emotional for the reader.