Every one of us has tremendous power to either build others up or tear them down through the words we speak every day, and nowhere is this more evident than in our marriages. Are you being purposeful in how you use the power of your words to speak encouragement, strength, and love--breathing life into the heart of your spouse? Or are careless words having a negative impact on your marriage and on the heart of the one you love most?
Matt and Lisa Jacobson want you and your spouse to discover the powerful ways you can build one another up in love with the words that you choose to say every day--words that every husband and wife need to hear. These books offer you 100 Things to say to your husband or wife that deeply encourage, affirm, and inspire. Start speaking these words into each other's lives and watch your spouse--and your relationship--transform before your eyes.
Matt Jacobson was an executive in the publishing industry for 25 years and for the past 16 years, has been a teaching elder/pastor of Tumalo Bible Fellowship. Matt is also the founder of FaithfulMan.com, an online social media community focusing on the topics of marriage, parenting, and biblical teaching, with a cross-platform reach of over 1 million viewers/visitors per month. He is the author of 100 Ways to Love Your Wife and 100 Words of Affirmation Your Wife Needs to Hear. He lives with his wife, Lisa, in the Pacific Northwest where they have raised their eight children.
A short, rich book on supporting, appreciating and cherishing your wife - everything she's about & everything she does & everything she means to her husband. There were many affirmations I was delighted to use and meant every word. Also, all of the affirmations are enriched with explanations and biblical verses, for perspective. Some of my favorites are: -the bible tells men: love your wife like Christ loves the Church... I like my job! -the laundry never stops coming and you never quit. you're amazing, and i really appreciate it. -thank you for respecting me -i respect the woman you are. -i rely on your intuition. [an undervalued ability in women] -I can face anything with you by my side. -you're no pushover. i love your spine of steel. For men who could use a little bit of assistance in honoring their wives, for men who find it difficult to express their emotions to their wives, for men who look for opportunities to give their wives a bit of ear candy, for men with wives that can move mountains - I recommend this book!
A helpful book for husbands hoping to continue the work of nurture that a lifelong marriage requires. Matt Jacobson touches on a lot of different truths about marriage and the relationship a husband has with his wife, such as the God-given one-flesh mandate (Genesis 2:24) and the mixed signals that modern society flings at us that subvert our self-worth, self-confidence and self-image. Though God is the ultimate source of those things, it is all too easy for societal norms to drown out that truth, especially for women, a common target. In providing these words of affirmation as prompts, Jacobson highlights the role that husbands can play in building up their wives by simply saying affirming words that their wives never hear enough.
This book isn’t for everybody. Jacobson assumes a nuclear, biological family and a complementarian approach to gender roles (men as head of the household), and those in other types of families or marriages ought to keep that in mind when reading. Though the book need not get too heavy with heady theology, there were still missed opportunities to describe marriage as a reflection of Jesus’s love for the church, something more theologized than explicitly stated but still supported by Scripture (e.g. John 3:29; Revelation 21:2, 9-10); the comparison alone is beautiful. I think I counted on my fingers the total number of references to Scripture in the book, another missed opportunity. Finally, the book commits the common mistake of focusing on Ephesians 5:22-24 (“Wives, submit to your husbands...”) without reading on to or including the next verses, for context’s sake (“Husbands, love your wives...”). One of these days, we’ll get it right...
Still, as a husband myself, I found a lot of useful tidbits here, and certainly plan to nurture my own marriage with what I read in this book.
I received a free electronic copy of this book from NetGalley, in exchange for an honest review.
The absolute best book for any married couple to read, no matter if you have been married a year or fifty, it will remind you of the little things you can be thankful for in your spouse.
Inside each and every one of us, we have the ability to “Speak Life”, as TobyMac says or bring others down with our words. It is important to remember that the person we share our lives with should hear those words of life from us and often. How do you speak to your wife? Is it with love? How do your children hear you speak to their mother? These are all important questions that we need to ask ourselves as we go throughout our daily lives. She wants to know what you think, but she also wants to know what you think of her.
My wife and I have been married for over fifteen years and we work to grow our relationship every day. I read through this book and agreed with everything that it had, but I realized that I don’t actually say all of these things to her. I hope that she knows them, but maybe she needs to hear them too. We sat down and talked about several of the items and what importance they play emotionally. She goes above and beyond for our family, but I don’t’ always tell her. It’s the little things that can have the biggest impact.
I enjoyed the way Matt Jacobson used little examples from his life to help readers see that he isn’t trying to prove he is better than anyone else, he is showing us that we can all do better and be better for each other and our spouses. So much wisdom and truth in the pages, this is a book that will need to be read again and again to help us remember how much we have to be grateful for in who we married.
I received a complimentary copy of this title from the publisher. The views and opinions expressed with are my own.
I love what you build with our hands.(pg.65 Hers).
Amazing,touching and active books. There's no place like home. And every time you read these pages in between these books,you find truths,treasures and a way to bless your God -given Gift,God calls your spouse to you. You can find hope for the newlyweds, to the reconnection for the life-long married couple. These are fantastic gifts to share within your home,as gifts for all those who come to mind,and better yet,a starting point to bring blessing to your home.
A vision given,A hope that can,A plan that will make you both ,you and your spouse look again and again to see what's next. So easy to add to your everyday routine. WORDS OF LOVE ON THE GO. WORDS AT HEART TO STOP AND GIVE.
These books are blessings to those who hold them. Value to those who read them.And a must to those who seek for love to be rekindled,your thought life will be changed from the inside out. You find yourself the more you read them,the more yourself needs a change.
My life is in Your hands,Lord.
These books together are so powerful, that I know they will touch you and yours in a very special way.
Rekindle the fire that you once had for the love of your life. Start a fresh fire of love for your newly " beloved" spouse. And pass them on as gifts to all those you love and watch God take them places like none before.
So honored to be apart of these books,bless the Authors,who have and will touch many lives with these books. You must make it your priority to put these on your Christain bookshelves. Your adult children's bookshelves, your church Library's bookshelves. Trust me,they are meant to be.
This is a sweet book by Matt Jacobson about the words of affirmation wives need to hear. It's not a matter of playing to her pride, but a matter of treating her with the love, honor, and respect she needs for all she does daily. I do get where Matt is coming from here, and I agree that it's best to "refresh others so as to be refreshed" (Proverbs 11:25).
We all ought to submit to one another so that it honors and glorifies Christ Jesus the Head and ruler of His body, the Church. A wife is the crowning glory of her husband. In fact, we read "Her husband trusts her completely. With her, he as everything he needs. She does him good and not harm for as long as she lives" (Proverbs 31:11-12) I realize I digress off Matt Jacobson's book, but the point is that a husbands duty of a labor of love is to make sure his wife is respected and treated well at all times.
I received this book complimentary from Revell for an honest and fair review. The last thing I can say for sure is that even though I do not know the Jacobson's myself it seems this is a couple that is not only in love and respects each other, but want to give their best to all couples, husbands and wives. This is worth buying.
100 Words of Affirmation Your Wife Needs to Hear by Matt Jacobson will leave your wife with a smile on her face and a full heart. As a husband, I often find it easy to take my wife for granted and even be critical. This book reminded me of many of the awesome qualities my wife has that are often taken for overlooked or just expected. The book with its easy reading format and straight forward suggestions is a must-read for husbands. Matt lays out simple, biblical ways to affirm your wife that will pay huge dividends in your marriage.
From Amy: This book gets the wife’s seal of approval! As someone for whose primary love language is “Words of Affirmation,” this book is like a dream come true. It gives my husband (whose primary love language is “Acts of Service”) the words to say that speak love to me. It truly makes all the difference to know he sees and appreciates these attributes. And I’m 99.9999% sure all wives, not just those whose love language is “Words of Affirmation” will thrive off being affirmed in these ways.
Disclosure: I received a complimentary copy of this book to review from the publisher. However, all views expressed in this review are ours from our own reading and perusing of this book.
I read this book from the wife's point of view and let me tell you, it was eye-opening for me.
Reading this as the wife in the relationship, I will admit, if my husband said some of these things to me, I just might giggle. But, whether I find something out of character for my husband to say, is not the point. It's the fact that he's saying them. Period. My guy is pretty good at telling me I'm a good mom, thanking me for small things I do for our family, and I love him for that. I do work hard. I put everything I have in to taking care of my family. Despite that, I always feel that I could have done better - that I've somehow let my family down.
This book gives husbands some really simple ways to make sure their wives know where they stand with them, that her husband will always have her back, and that she's the ONLY one for him. Believe me guys, we need to hear it. A lot.
This book is wonderful. It should be on the bookshelf of every married couple and should be read often. Husbands, never lose sight of the fact that she chose you. That means a whole lot and that commitment should be continuously nurtured and reinforced.
This is the companion to the 100 Words of Affirmation Your Husband Needs to Hear. I requested this book to read some on my own but to also give to my husband to read.
I think reading it myself was actually eye-opening. I didn't even know that some of these things were things I wanted and needed to hear.
Having been married for almost 16 years and having 11 kids you'd think we had this all figured out. We don't. This book is great to help heal parts of your marriage you didn't even know were broken.
I highly recommend gifting all couples a copy of this book and the companion book. Couples should read them together and put the elements into practice. As you do so keep a journal to see what changes in your marriage.
You're not going to want to go back to the before marriage once you've experienced the after sections!
I have voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book which I received from NetGalley. All views expressed are only my honest opinion. I was not required to write a positive review nor was I compensated in any other way. All opinions expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the FTC regulations.
Newlyweds usually find it easy to praise their husband or wife. But sometimes after years of daily grind, sick kids, job stress, unending homework sessions, caring for parents, to-do lists that never are finished, piles and piles of laundry, and mounting bills, it's sometimes difficult to think of positive things to say. You're tired and stressed. So is your wife. So speak life into your beloved. Can't think of what to say? Take a page from this book.
Not all affirmations will apply to all marriages. But a good many of them will. As a wife, these words would go a long way to soothe my aching soul. I read both the husband and wife versions of these books, and they are both very good.
I have voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book which I received through Netgalley. All views expressed are only my honest opinion. I was not required to write a positive review, nor was I compensated in any other way. All opinions expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the FTC regulations.
Well, I went through this book myself as a wife, but I also asked my husband to give it a look through to make sure everything was feasible for a man to be able to read and say. Both of us approve! This book, as with its’ counterpart, 100 Words of Affirmation Your Husband Needs to Hear, both give excellent tips in a way we can help build up each other and speak life into each other on a daily basis. Some of the things given to think about and say are things we often hear, but some of them are things that really make you think. The amount of 100 things also makes it where, if you were to use one each day, you would not say anything more than 4 times, so it won’t be over done. This would make a wonderful stocking stuffer if you were to both be working on your marriage together! I received this book free from the publisher, Revell. I was not required to give a review, and all opinions expressed are my own.
I asked my husband, Luke, to read it and give me some feedback on this book as well as it is for men. Although I have to admit, I did pick it up and flip through it. Curiosity overcame me, what can I say?
Here is what Luke had to say about this book: This book is a great way to learn how to affirm your wife. I knew I could do a better job of speaking words of affirmation and this book has helped me recognize opportunities to genuinely and sincerely affirm my wife. Each entry is fairly short (one to two pages) and makes for quick and easy reading (similar to the companion book 100 Ways to Love Your Wife). If you don’t have a lot of time in your life for reading, I suggest reading just one a day.
This is the second book I’ve read lately by Matt Jacobson and I’m even more pleased with this one than the last. His conversational writing style is easy to follow and 100 Words of Affirmation Your Wife Needs to Hear is straightforward and purposeful.
Husbands hold a remarkable power to encourage and support their wives, and this book shows practical and potent ways to do so. Each page represents a way to show your wife how you value her and how she enriches your life. Saying these things, genuinely and even briefly, will no doubt pay your happiness back ten-fold.
Source: I received a complimentary copy of from the publisher with no obligation to post a positive review.
I found this book, 100 Words of Affirmation that Your Wife Needs to Hear, a bit funny. One verse said to say something to a wife about her boobs. The way it was said was clean but funny. It went on to show a Biblical verse on that topic. Women need to hear things from their husbands daily. A woman could worry about what she's doing and how she's holding up as a woman and as a wife to her husband. Words have a powerful effect. This book provides the blueprint for husbands everywhere. I recommend Matt Jacobson's book to all married men. His words of wisdom were truly inspiring and uplifting on every page!
I received this book from the publisher. This is my voluntary review.
Well, I had my husband read through this last night with me and I have to say that each affirmation is on point. A lot of them he already says and some of them, I was like, "Yessss, please say that more to me."
Marriage takes a lot of work and I believe this book will help men with their marriages and making their marriages better, and helping their wives feel noticed, validated....affirmed.
I will totally be suggesting this book to my married friends and those getting engaged. Thank you for writing this and letting me read it!
Based upon biblical studies, this series of books succinctly reminds us of the importance of cultivating a successful, loving marriage through communication. Practical words that need to spoken.
The hardcover copy would make a wonderful daily devotional. I plan to purchase all of the books in the series. Thank you!
Thank you to NetGalley, Revell, and Matt Jacobson for an ARC of '100 Words of Affirmation Your Wife Needs to Hear' in exchange for an honest and voluntary review.
Reading this as a wife, I really connect with the affirmations. I was curious how much of these would resonate with me especially as a woman whose life language is words of affirmation. I think 90% of these are ones I either resonate currently or have in the past few years. Simple and easy book for husbands to use as a resource!
This book was not lying when the author said that you might think these words all the time but do not say them. It is true and crazy that I think all these things about my wife but could never find the right words to describe how I was feeling. It was like this book was written for me. It is perfect and I highly recommend it.
This book is written for husbands, to help them find the words to show love and encouragement to their wives. These affirmations are like a loving hug wrapped around your wife's shoulders and the book encourages this for husband's to learn. Such a great book!
We all need help in this area or a reminder of how important it is to make sure your wife always feels valued and loved by her husband and these are a good way to start.
I had my husband read this book before I did, and he read through the entire book in one sitting. While a lot of the affirmations mentioned in the book are things that he already tells me, he did find some that made him say "I never thought of that!"
One of the things I like about this book is that the affirmations are written in a way that sounds like the average husband could say them, or close enough that they could just be altered slightly. They aren't long, flowery speeches that might put some men off, they are short, simple truths.
This book would make an excellent gift for any husband, whether a newlywed or celebrating fifty years of marriage.
I didn't like these very much, some were even somewhat offensive and selfish. Some of the better examples from this book:
2. You are beautiful. 9. I like spending time with you. 11. What a fantastic meal! 13. Thanks for your diligence in running this house. 14. Our kids are so fortunate to have you as their mother. 17. You are a fantastic person. 35. I'm glad our kids have such an excellent role model. 39. I don't know what I would do without you. 55. I can face anything with you by my side. 58. I want to grow old with you. 59. Thank you for being so good to me. 71. You are one talented woman! 89. You are a beautiful person, inside and out. 90. You are so much fun.
My husband and I have both enjoyed this book. This book helps you with ideas of different ways to bless your wife. The ideas are great because you can do them. Sometimes after being married for awhile you forget to say and do special things that will help your marriage. If you are newly married this book would be great also because you can start right away and learn more about each other.