I wanted to like this more, but ultimately I felt like it was too careful of white people's feelings and not enough focused on the urgent, critical, life-threatening need for repentance and change.
White racism is killing us, and white Christian racism is killing the church, the Bride of Christ, in America.
This is a good enough book, and for a group study (for a group that would stick it out) it is probably fine. But that group would need a strong, informed, and connected leader (or leaders), and ideally such a book discussion would have black leaders directing conversations and stopping white nonsense rabbit trails.
I'm giving it to my pastor to read, as we're attempting to re-orient our congregation to be racially and ethnically inclusive, and there are some good tips here, but I was hoping for something stronger and more direct.
I felt that I can close this book and go away thinking "there are some good thoughts in here." But I am not compelled by this book to work out my own salvation after hearing these things. I feel that it provides a "here's something to think about it" option.
The authors write well, and mostly are clear and direct. There are some times when the naivety and white ignorance still shines through, even with the author team comprising an older white man and a younger black woman, both in ministry in a church. They are honest and funny and sober, but what I think is missing here is a sense of passion or urgency or even frightening despair over the state of the American white Christians.
The thesis, that one can begin to break the bondage of white racism by finding and forming relationships with black people, is charming, although if I were black I'd begin to feel like I was the Magic Stone that healed people when they touched me, and I'm pretty sure no one wants to feel that way. Relationships by themselves do not fix racism--there are endless stories of white people having black employees, family, spouses, and children, and white people in those stories are stone-cold racists.
What is necessary in the relationship is an honest determination to be honest and clear and utterly brutal about thoughts, and in that honesty to accept stern rebuke and correction. Being a friend of black people doesn't fix racism. Directly identifying and attacking, and ripping out and repenting, does. This book alludes to this second part, but in my opinion it approaches this delicate subject with too much delicacy.
I'd recommend it as a useful tool in your tool box if you're trying to figure out this white racism thing, and I think it fits the general point of view many white Christians have about repentance, that it's a matter of sidling along to the truth, but I think there might be stronger books out there--or there should be.
4 out of 5 stars.