Sigo aquí

by Maggie O'Farrell

Un parto se complica más allá de lo razonable; a una niña le diagnostican una enfermedad incurable que la tiene encamada durante más de un año; una adolescente es agredida por un extraño mientras pasea por el campo; el avión en el que una joven viaja a Asia se precipita al vacío; una mujer se salva por los pelos de ser atropellada.

Estos son algunos de los episodios –sucedidos en distintos momentos de su vida y en diversos países– que Maggie O’Farrell recoge en este particularísimo libro autobiográfico. Diecisiete roces con la muerte, como los llama su autora, que pudieron terminar en desastre, diecisiete momentos clave de su vida que revelan una manera de ser y estar en el mundo. Sigo aquí es un libro sincero que huyendo de lo sentimental anima al lector a interrogarse sobre las cosas que verdaderamente cuentan, a reflexionar sobre la fragilidad de nuestra existencia y a celebrar la belleza y el milagro de la vida.

«Todo el mundo debería leerlo (…) Puedo contar con los dedos de una mano los libros que me han hecho llorar, Sigo aquí es uno de ellos.» Claire Kilroy (The Irish Times)

«Nunca había leído un libro sobre la muerte que me haya hecho sentirme tan viva. Una lectura adictiva que te para el corazón.» Tracy Chevalier

«Un recordatorio estremecedor y penetrante de cuán cerca estamos de lo que podría haber pasado pero no pasó.» Dani Shapiro (The New York Times)

Genres: Nonfiction, Memoir, Audiobook, Biography, Essays, Book Club, Biography Memoir

211 pages, Kindle Edition

First published August 2, 2017

About the author

Maggie O'Farrell (born 1972, Coleraine Northern Ireland) is a British author of contemporary fiction, who features in Waterstones' 25 Authors for the Future. It is possible to identify several common themes in her novels - the relationship between sisters is one, another is loss and the psychological impact of those losses on the lives of her characters.

Reviews

[Debbie · Rating 5 out of 5]

OMG OMG OMG! Pogo stick time!

Dear Maggie O’Farrell,

I’m bouncing high, zigzagging through your 17 brushes with death. Barefoot because my socks were knocked off. I can’t stop! Yep, I’m downright manic! What an amazing memoir you wrote! One of the best books I’ve read this year!

I am I am I am absolutely in love with your book. I can’t help it that I’m stuttering. It’s that or remain speechless, which isn’t my style.

My brain is on fire! Matchy-matchy: My head, your language. Oh, your tone! The way my brain is wired, your sentences are electricity: both jumpy sparks and smooth rivers of fire. I know, I know, I sound all dramatic, but it’s your fault I’m talking this way. I love all your commas, your flowy narrative lists of how and why; bullet points not required. Punctuation for maximum impact, without being overly dramatic.

I’m glad you stuck with brushes. I’m glad you called your events “brushes with death” because frankly, if you had called them “near-death experiences,” I wouldn’t have believed you. No one almost dies 17 times! Plus, I might not have picked up your book, because near-death experiences usually are woo-woo—you see god or angels or ghosts or white or light—and that’s not my thing. Calling them brushes with death is perfect.

Shiver shiver, I’m scared! You sure have some scary stories, missy. And such a variety! Your several scary hospital stories are super sad, and I feel for you because I know one of them will be with you forever. Your three scary water stories are harrowing (and really wet and cold) and they make me glad I don’t play in the water anymore. The three Scary Strange Men stories had my heart pumping fast; it doesn’t seem fair that you had more than one such encounter.

Tell me I don’t just like to watch train wrecks, please! I wondered why I was so jazzed to be watching your train wrecks: What kind of jerk am I? Am I just looking for drama? That’s not cool! And then it hit me—as I was reading, I knew that you would survive in the end. That soothing thought is so unlike what occurs when I read a novel, where I have no idea whether the good guy is going to make it. I love it that you don’t play the victim even though you are one. The times when you are reckless, you cop to it and try to understand it. Good stuff.

Thanks for having lunch with me. Well, that’s what it felt like, anyway—I might as well have been sitting across from you in a café gulping down your stories, which were so heartfelt and honest, vivid and human. It would have been a long lunch, for sure! Your writing conveys so much emotion, which is what makes great art.

Forgive me my gush:

-There isn’t one story that I didn’t like, not one.
-Your book reads like a novel yet feels so very personal.
-I love it that you don’t sensationalize events that would have easily allowed you to go overboard.
-I love your imagery.
-I love it that you’re so self-aware, and so insightful about the human condition.
-I love how you introduce each chapter with a classy and intricate drawing of the organ (or body part) that the event affected: very clever!
-I love it that there is even suspense—I was so wound up, wondering how in hell you would get out of scary jams.
-I love the pace: You sometimes give a hint of what happened, and then you talk about your past a while, before completing the story. I never felt like I needed to get back to the action.
-The idea of your book is so completely unique.
-I feel like the book concept gave me the best possible reading experience—I got to go to scary places but I knew you’d be okay.

Wow, you’re the queen of narrative lists! Remember how I mentioned your “narrative lists”? There’s one long sentence with a zillion commas that sums up your twenties—your words are so carefully chosen, your succinctness noted and appreciated.

Here’s a snippet of that sentence:

“...the dreary rental flats, the uncertain and mind-shrivelling jobs, the late-night urban wanderings, the last buses, the monthly travel passes, the skipped meals, the ill-judged boyfriends, the pressing calls made from phone-boxes…”

I’ll probably reread it several times over, it’s so good. Paragraphs like that one leave me in awe.

Where did your stories take me, missy? They took me down memory lane, where I plucked my close calls out for closer examination. Yes, I did have one Scary Strange Man story. Yes, I did have one scary hospital story. Yes, I did have scary motherhood stories. I still find myself searching my brain for other close calls. And like I thought as I was reading your stories, what if one or two factors had altered the close calls and had left me deformed, incapacitated, or dead? It made me think about luck, fate, fear, unfairness, randomness. About what-if’s, about bravery vs. stupidity. It made me think about how a mere second can make a difference between life and death.

Why did you let them give you two covers? I’m jealous--I know there are a bunch a people who got a cool cover with a heart on it. I, on the other hand, got a cover with a big ugly brown feather that, splat, blocked out part of the title. A nasty smudge—wipe it off, please! As an ex-editor who needs all letters and words to be strong and visible, I claim I got ripped off. I really really wanted the heart cover.

All I can say is, where have you been all my life? I will be running to your other books, no doubt about it, because—

This is what makes me obsessed with reading. This, right here.

Thank you for listening,
An avid new fan

[Angela M · Rating 4 out of 5]

I have read three of her novels and count Maggie O’Farrell as one of my favorite writers and I know I have to get to those that I haven’t read. This memoir is as beautifully written as her novels. O’Farrell shares with us some very personal experiences, memories of times in her life when she was in danger, close to death. As in her novels, she had me feeling and thinking about the complexities of life, sometimes the danger that lies near all of us. While she writes about things that happened to her, some of these are things that others can relate to - miscarriages, the heartbreaking emotional difficulty of acceptance and understanding, illness that impacts your life, a child’s illness, and some things that most of us have not likely experienced - being mugged at knifepoint, the impending danger of being stopped by a stranger in a deserted road. We see a vulnerability that we can recognize in ourselves as she reveals so much of her feelings and thought processes. All of this making me so very glad that she had this moment:

“And, one night, in the monsoon season, when the rain is a constant, lulling hum outside the windows, when our clothes, the windows, the pictures are growing mould in the humidity and it’s too hot to sleep, when I have been reading subversive versions of European folktales, I get the urge to put down some words. I get up, find a pencil, open an exercise book at the table and as Anton sleeps, I start to write.”

[Elyse Walters · Rating 3 out of 5]

Unless a ‘memoir’ literally shifts me -changes my thinking - transforms me in some major way -
I tend to retreat to my standard 3 star rating.

I didn’t equally ‘enjoy’ each story in this collection -
It’s a mix collection for me.
A few stories felt embellished.
In the middle of the book - I started to feel as if I had enough. A couple of the stories felt a little narcissistic—
....but then I felt sad for Maggie’s sick child - heck I felt awful for Maggie, too, when ‘she’ was a child in the hospital petrified!!!
but...
overall - I’m kinda 50/50 about this book.

However I believe ‘one’ story will stay with me forever. The first one!

The very ‘first’ story was frightening-absolutely chilling - a story hard to shake. Maggie was hiking when a man with binoculars came up to her. SHE KNEW INTUITIVELY ‘that man’ was dangerous and that her life was in danger. I learned from Maggie. The way she handle her situation was worth the ‘entire’ book for me. Wow - she was a pro and it saved her life!!!
I read ‘carefully’.... taking mental notes.
I do a lot of hikes ‘alone’ on quiet trails. I was nervous as hell reading Maggie’s hiking story.
MAGGIE SAVED HER OWN LIFE BY REMAINING CALM.

I only hope I’m never in that situation-but if I am - I hope I could handle it with the same success Maggie did.
It was still a chilling -creepy - awful story..but ‘whew’ as in THANK GOD, for Maggie!!!!

I liked the science/artistic symbolic body parts at the start of each chapter...
giving a clue into the body part most affected in the story about to be told.
......yet that same structure began to feel a little monotonous after awhile -especially when some of the stories were less interesting than others.

Overall 3.3 - 3.4 rating.

[karen · Rating 4 out of 5]

oooh, goodreads choice awards semifinalist for best memoir/autobiography 2018! what will happen?

At the time, I gaze up at the sky, the birds, the fast-moving clouds, and I am thinking about the dense forest behind us, about how I do not want to be dragged in there, not at all. I do not want to see the trees closing over my head, feel the scratch and pluck of bushes against my skin, my clothes, the cold damp of the ground in there. My thoughts are very simple. They pulse through my head: let me go, let me go, not the forest, not the ground, please.

conceptually, this is wholly original and a bit chilling - a memoir told through all of the author’s near-death experiences, with a total of seventeen chapters.

that’s too many, right? i became outraged at capital-d death on her behalf, for cat-and-mousing her around so much - go pick on someone your own size, etc etc.

but it’s not quite as dire as it appears - the final chapter is about her daughter, whose severe food allergies reminded me of another memoir - Don't Kill the Birthday Girl: Tales from an Allergic Life, so it’s really only SIXTEEN personal near-death experiences, which is much more reasonable; slightly more lives than a cat, considerably more than most humans.

and some of the situations in those sixteen chapters are nearer to death than others - going for an AIDS test after your partner has been unfaithful is a far cry from having a machete held to your neck. although, machete-to-neck should be weighted to count for at least two, especially if it is not the first time a killer has threatened your life via that slender stalk. and just some friendly advice - after three near-drownings, you need to take the hint and stop going into the water. it does not want you inside of it and is saying “no,” the only way it can.

it’s a very novelistic approach to writing memoir, both the novel-ty (HA!) of the approach, and the style of the writing, which is vivid and descriptive, expands and contracts in focus, wraps anecdotes around other anecdotes, and switches from first to third to even second-person from chapter to chapter.

although the premise seems designed for thrills, it’s a much more reflective than sensational approach. she’s very pragmatic about her experiences:

There is nothing unique or special in a near-death experience. They are not rare; everyone, I would venture, has had them, at one time or another, perhaps without even realising it. The brush of a van too close to your bicycle, the tired medic who realises that a dosage ought to be checked in final time, the driver who has drunk too much and is reluctantly persuaded to relinquish the car keys, the train missed after sleeping through an alarm, the aeroplane not caught, the virus never inhaled, the assailant never encountered, the path not taken. We are, all of us, wandering about in a state of oblivion, borrowing our time, seizing our days, escaping our fates, slipping through loopholes, unaware of when the axe may fall.

the chapters are titled after the part(s) of the body made vulnerable by or responsible for each close call, with a nice olde timey anatomical rendering of said parts.



i’ve chosen a pull-quote from each chapter to entice you with her writing chops or the shivery allure of the situation. there’s a lot packed into these stories, and i definitely recommend this one as an intriguing alternative approach to memoir.

NECK (1990)

I am careful to use strides that are confident, purposeful, but not frightened. I am not frightened: I say this to myself, over the oceanic roar of my pulse. Perhaps, I think, I am free, perhaps I have misread the situation. Perhaps it’s perfectly normal to lie in wait for young girls on remote paths and then let them go.

I am eighteen. Just. I know almost nothing.

(this story was really frightening, but it reminded me of an even more horrifying close call story, which you need to watch here: http://www.trutv.com/shows/the-chris-...)

LUNGS (1988)

At sixteen, you can be so restless, so frustrated, so disgusted by everything that surrounds you that you are willing to leap off what is probably a fifteen-metre drop, in the dark, into a turning tide.

SPINE, LEGS, PELVIS, ABDOMEN, HEAD (1977)

I remember that I kept going. I kept moving my feet, kept powering on through the mountain air, as if nothing could touch me, nothing bad might happen, if I could just keep going, keep running, keep moving.

WHOLE BODY (1993)

The air is filled with screaming, with curses, with prayer. A man with blood coursing out of both nostrils starts to yell in a language I don’t understand, gesticulating wildly. Drops of blood scatter from his face to mark the seats, the ceiling.

NECK (2002)

We had more money in our pockets and bags than we’d ever carried before, at any time in our travels. The man takes it all from us, pulling it out from the various places in which we’d stashed it. We hand it to him, in exchange for my neck, its arteries, its tendons, its muscles, its trachea, its oesophagus, for it all to remain in its current unbreached state.

ABDOMEN (2003)

The floor was awash with blood and people were running. It is never a good sign, I’ve found, when medics run.

BABY AND BLOODSTREAM (2005)

You will watch your body backtrack, go in reverse, unpicking its work: the sickness recedes, your breasts shrink back, your abdomen flattens, your appetite disappears.

LUNGS (2000)

I straighten my swimwear, watch the water drawing the blood off my skin and whirling it away, as if it has need of it, as if it has some purpose in mind for it.

CIRCULATORY SYSTEM (1991)

Because why not? Why not let a man you’ve never met, a man you have no reason to trust, throw a fistful of knives at you?

HEAD (1975)

”There was that other time,” she says, “when you didn’t stay in the car. Do you remember?”

CRANIUM (1998)

She is aware of having dodged something, of having pulled her leg out of the trap, once again, at the last moment.

INTESTINES (1994)

What came out of me was streaked with blood, mucoid, meaty in texture.

BLOODSTREAM (1997)

Infidelity is as old as humanity: there is nothing about it you can think or say that hasn’t been thought or said before. You go back and back over the days, the conversations, the walks you took, wondering why on earth you hadn’t seen it, how you could have missed it, how you could not have known. The pain of it is interior, humiliating, infinitely wearying.

CAUSE UNKNOWN (2003)

Right now, my son is nine weeks old and I’m finding my way, blundering forward with this new job, this new life. Right now, I’m in France, for reasons that are no longer clear to me, trying to breastfeed in a hot car by the side of the road. Right now, Will has disappeared over the dunes to look at the sea and two men are rustling their way out of the maize field on the other side of the road.

LUNGS (2010)

He can’t swim, is what is going round and round in my head. He can’t swim and I’ve brought him out here because of what someone told me. He can’t swim and I’ve brought him out into deep sea on the advice of an idiot.

CEREBELLUM (1980)

I gather, from all the listening in, that I am to have what is called a CAT-scan. The name of it is a comfort to me, conveying as it does fur, paws, whiskers, a long and curled tail. It will, from what I can glean, take photographs of my brain and these will tell the doctors how to make me better. I like the sound of this CAT-scan: the photographs, some manner of feline involvement, the making-better.

DAUGHTER (the present day)

We never leave the house without her medication, her emergency kit. We know how to inject her, how to administer cardio-pulmonary resuscitation, how to recognize the signs of low blood pressure, respiratory distress, urticaria, the onset of cardiac failure.

I know I must nod calmly when people tell me they understand exactly how I feel because they have a gluten allergy, which makes them really bloated whenever they eat bread. I know to be patient and genial when I have to explain that, no, it’s not OK to bring that hummus into our house. No, it’s not a good idea to give her a little bit to get her used to it. No, please don’t open that near her. Yes, your lunch could kill my child.

and although, thankfully, this following quoted portion does not end in a near-death experience for the author (although i can certainly envision it going that way), i just wanted to include it because what it describes is what i imagine heaven to be; what i hope will be waiting for me after my axe falls.

My mother instructed us not to touch the kittens, not yet, and we nodded gravely. As soon as she had gone back to the kitchen, however, I told my younger sister to keep watch at the garage door. Obviously, I reasoned to her, there was no way I wasn’t going to touch these kittens. No way at all. The keen joy of plunging in your hands and lifting up all four kittens in a mewing, writhing mass and burying your face in their aliveness, their softness, their miniature faces, their never-walked on paws: how could I forgo this?



how could ANYONE?



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[Candi · Rating 5 out of 5]

"We are, all of us, wandering about in a state of oblivion, borrowing our time, seizing our days, escaping our fates, slipping through loopholes, unaware of when the axe may fall."

One day early in February, we had a rare day of sun and sixty degrees after having just endured subzero temperatures the week before… brrr! I could not get my sneakers on fast enough. I ran out the door without a jacket to get a little fresh air and exercise. Now, I very rarely listen to audiobooks. Don’t get me wrong, I think they are a fantastic option to take in even more reading than is otherwise possible with our busy lives. Unfortunately, I am not cut out for the experience most of the time. I can’t do two things at once. I cannot do laundry, prepare dinner, dust the furniture or drive a car while focusing on a story. My mind starts to wander if I’m not actually looking at the words myself. But I have on occasion tried to ‘train’ my mind to be a better audiobook listener, and so I downloaded this memoir by Maggie O’Farrell and got moving. I was instantly hooked! From the moment Ms. O’Farrell shared her encounter with a creepy stranger on a deserted footpath, I fell in love with her words. I was mesmerized by her stories of near-drowning experiences, a frightening childhood illness, a heartbreaking miscarriage, and the harrowing ordeal of taking care of a child with life-threatening allergies. Along with her brushes with death, we also learn a bit about her life and her love of reading and writing. She shares her joy of travel and the restlessness that drives her mad when in one place for too long – she longs to get out and see the world. "I am desperate for change, endlessly seeking novelty, where I can find it." I completely get that!

The structure of the memoir is non-linear in time, with each essay titled by a body part or system followed by a year. This was not at all confusing and I was wholly engaged throughout. I often found myself reflecting on the vulnerability of human life. Just how often do we have our own brushes with death? I imagine that sometimes we may not even be aware of all of them. I suspect it is best not to mull over this question of near-death too often, or one could become rather morbid! Fortunately, Ms. O’Farrell does not take us off in that direction either. If you fear this memoir may take on a ‘preachy’ tone – no need to worry as that’s just not her style. I have a strong hunch that she is just happy to be alive and wishes to live her life to the fullest extent possible.

Now for a quick note on the narration itself – it was fabulous! In fact, part of the appeal of the entire experience for me was the narrator’s voice. Sometimes I forgot that it was not the author speaking to me directly. Maggie O’Farrell is a brilliant storyteller. Her words feel genuine; her writing style is elegant yet not overembellished. You might assume, and understandably so given the title, that this book is somewhat depressing. Yet it is not! Yes, these stories recount moments of fear, confusion, and sadness. But at the same time they are uplifting and hopeful. Life is meant to be lived, despite the odds and the setbacks. This book bedazzled me and I highly recommend it if you are at all drawn towards memoirs. Actually, even if you don’t typically read this genre, I suggest you give this one a try. It certainly made a convert out of me! I plan to move up more of the memoirs on my list as well as some of O’Farrell’s fiction writing which I have yet to discover.

"I swam in dangerous waters, both metaphorically and literally. It was not so much that I didn't value my existence but more that I had an insatiable desire to push myself to embrace all that it could offer."

[Yun · Rating 2 out of 5]

I've been looking forward to reading I Am, I Am, I Am for so long because so many people have loved it. But I think this is a case where my expectations just didn't match what I got. I thought it would be a thrilling collection of essays about near death experiences. What I got was very little of that. Only a few of the experiences were even that interesting or nearing death while the rest were a stretch to fit that mold.

Probably the single thing I most disliked in this book was the author's writing style. It's over-embellished and florid, turning what could have been straightforward accounts into long-winded treatises. Most of the experiences were padded out with tangential ramblings, anecdotes, and various thoughts of her life and her philosophy. I can tell the author was trying to be insightful with her digressions, but it didn't come across that way to me. Instead, I was bored and often didn't see the point of what she was talking about.

I think another reason I didn't connect with this book is that the author and I have really different outlooks on life. She's ruled by emotions, doing whatever she feels like at the moment without accounting for danger. She often takes unnecessary risks with her life (like, how many times does one need to near-drown before being more careful in open water?), and it was frustrating to read this over and over. She also travels to far out, unsafe locations, usually with a young child, and it was exasperating to read about her putting not only her own life in danger, but also her children's.

In the end, this book just isn't for me. While there were a few interesting passages, I found most of it to be boring and irritating, and I'm glad I am done with it.

[Diane S ☔ · Rating 4 out of 5]

Love her fiction so wanting to read her memoir was a no brainier. A different take for sure as she recounts the near death experiences she has encountered in her life. Reading this made me think of all the mishaps I have had, that could have turned fatal. Something I think we all share to various degrees.

Honest and open are the two words I thought of while reading this. The things she shares, private moments, secrets she had held close, but now share. Yet, it her experiences with motherhood that impressed me the most. The sadness of miscarriages, joy of holding a newborn, the terrible concern and the ever preparedness she has at all times with her daughter. The frustration and yes, so much love. Hoping others see beyond the surface to the wonder her daughter is, so poignantly told.

As always when next I read her fiction, after reading these details of her life, it will be with new eyes.
Hope she has a new book in the works, and I thank her for sharing this very personal collection of essays with us, her readers.

[Dem · Rating 4 out of 5]

I am a fan of Maggie O' Farrell Novels and love her descriptive writing. Her story telling is unique and fresh. Her latest book is totally different as it's a memoir that is quirky, interesting, honest, revealing and vivid.

Told through 17 near death experiences that the author experienced throughout her life, you find yourself reading with bated breath as O Farrell draws you in with words and descriptions that make the reading experience very real and poignant.

At O’Farrell’s near-catastrophic childbirth, a mysterious man in beige steps in with an unexpected kindness. She writes, “When he took my hand he taught me something about the value of touch, the communicative power of the human hand." . A simple gesture and yet this has simple act had such an effect on the author and on me as a reader it simply brought tears to my eyes.

It's a book that makes you question your own life experiences and you find you dig deep in your own past of near misses that you may never have thought about until you read this book. I found her experiences with hospitals, consultants and doctors very interesting and frank. I was a little worried to begin with that this book would be morbid and difficult reading but O' Farrell manages to keep it upbeat and while there were times my heart strings were tugged and I felt tears prickling, there were other times I smiled and felt uplifted and this is due to the author's exquisite prose.
I am, I am, I am is not narrated chronologically but by the organ or body part primarily affected, which may seem odd to begin with but make sense as you read the book.

The first story in the book is called NECK and sent shivers down my spine, chilling but so well recounted that you feel you are there with O' Farrell in this terrible moment and each and every story had pretty much the same effect on me.

I listened to this one on audible and the narrator was excellent.

[JanB · Rating 4 out of 5]

The author has certainly led an interesting and adventurous life! This book is a series of essays, all related to her near brushes with death and uniquely titled according to the body part that nearly did her in: cranium, lungs, circulatory system, etc. She is either extraordinarily unlucky or her admittedly risky lifestyle makes her more vulnerable than most. Or maybe it’s a little of both.

As with any essay collection, some of the stories resonated with me more than others but they are all beautifully written. The author never sensationalized the stories or made them overly dramatic. Instead, they are reflective and heartfelt. I appreciated that she doesn’t preach to her readers or tell us what to take away from the stories, but leaves it up to us.

With this type of book, I like to dip into a story or two now and then instead of reading straight through. The stories that bookend this collection were particularly moving. In the first, she encounters a potential killer while out hiking. It was riveting, and I admired her clear thinking in the face of such danger. The last story where she recounts the life-threatening allergies that cause no fewer than 15-17 anaphylactic shock reactions in her daughter, is heartbreaking.

This is certainly a unique memoir, unlike any I have read before. Few of us like to dwell on our mortality, but I didn't walk away depressed, instead, I was feeling pretty lucky! The tone is hopeful, and invites us instead to focus on the joy and adventure of this life we have been given.

The writing is where this collection shines. Highly recommended!

[Esil · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have never read any of Maggie O’Farrell’s fiction. It is not for lack of good intentions. I have certainly heard good things about her writing, which is what made me jump at chance to read an advance copy of this brief memoir.

At first blush, the way O’Farrell has chosen to organize her memoir is odd. Each chapter is focused on a near death experience. The chapters are out of chronological order. And while each chapter deals with a particular experience, it meanders to many other parts of O’Farrell’s life, gracefully connecting everything together.

Is O’Farrell more unlucky - or lucky, depending on how you look at it - than most people? In some ways she is unlucky - most notably she had a very serious childhood neurological disease and her daughter has severe life threatening allergies - in other ways we could probably all pull together a string of similar experiences to most of those that she recounts that may have turned out deadly if things had worked out differently.

But I absolutely loved reading I Am, I Am, I Am. O’Farrell’s writing is straightforward but intricate and engaging. There is no self pity or pretension - as in so many memoirs. Somehow, while taking the reader through many unnerving and sad experiences, O’Farrell emerges as someone with a genuine appreciation for life.

Don’t be deterred by the organizing theme in I Am, I Am, I Am. Also don’t read it looking for thrills in near death experiences. Read it because it’s beautifully written and recognizably ordinary.

I also just noticed that it’s the second book with flowers growing out of a heart I’ve read this year — and it’s only the middle of January. This one was much better than the last one, and the cover is a great illustration for the feel of the book.

Thanks to Edelweiss and the publisher for an opportunity to read an advance copy.

[Lucy · Rating 4 out of 5]

4****

"We are, all of us, wandering about in a state of oblivion, borrowing our time, seizing our days, escaping our fates, slipping through loopholes, unaware of when the axe may fall.”

This is the memoir of Maggie O'Farrel documenting the near bushes of death that have been riddled through out her life. Each chapter introduces a different time and age of the author and her experiences grazing near to death. We are witness to the encounters with death that the author has endured, for example; near drownings, childhood illness that left her bedridden and with little chance of survival, an encounter with a man on a remote forest path, a mugger with a machete pressed to the author's throat. She, more importantly, documents her daughters daily brushes with death, with a severe allergy that means constant hospitalisation and constant vigilance in spotting anything in the vicinity that can cause her daughter's flare up, and possible death.

This was moving and deeply compelling, it was a hard book to put down. I made sure to set my paces to fully capture the author's feelings and thoughts. The writing in some chapters was flowing smoothly, despite the author describing herself panicking and drowning for example. Some of the language really chilled you to the bone and was similar to reading a thriller, for example, specifically when writing about the encounters with the man on the path or the man with a machete. This book really sent my heart-racing on several occasions and I just read on, curious to find out more and how the event unfolded.

This is a brilliant memoir of capturing human vulnerability, near-death experiences and making every heartbeat count. It also makes the reader step-back and analyse any brushes of death they may have personally encountered. The book also gives rise to a new empathy and understanding to motherhood (as well as the realistic rates and taboo subjects of miscarriages and still births that is still frequent today), and those mothers whose children may have a life threatening condition and the love that they hold to protect their children in any way.

To accompany this electric book there were detailed illustrations of body parts (nothing graphic) at the start of each chapter. These were so intricate and just added to the memoir making it more relatable and intimate.

[Brandice · Rating 4 out of 5]

I Am, I Am, I Am: Seventeen Brushes with Death is a memoir by Maggie O’Farrell, recounting her near death experiences over the course of her life. She is in her mid-forties at the time of publication and the memoir includes instances from childhood, adult life, and parenthood.

Some of the occurrences detailed in the book felt like a stretch to classify as “near death” (to me, anyway) yet as with any memoir, I understand experiences are deeply personal. In particular, I found the chapters about O’Farrell’s infertility issues and her daughter’s health to be the most impactful.

This is the first book I’ve read by O’Farrell though I have another (This Must Be the Place) waiting to be read. I would rate I Am, I Am, I Am as a 3.5 star read, rounded up to 4 for the quality of the writing. I enjoyed O’Farrell’s writing style and look forward to reading more from her.

[Dave Schaafsma · Rating 4 out of 5]

“I took a deep breath and listened to the old brag of the heart. I am, I am, I am”--Sylvia Plath

“We are, all of us, wandering about in a state of oblivion, borrowing our time, seizing our days, escaping our fates, slipping through loopholes, unaware of when the axe may fall”--Maggie O'Farrell

So, writers always talk about hooks that “catch” readers; we have Captain Ahab sailing the High Seas for the White Whale in Moby Dick; Wisconsin Death Trip looks at all these bizarre and horrific murders there and becomes a bestseller. I love love love the hook (and the attractive cover, that helps sell books, too) in this book and can’t imagine that most readers don’t begin thinking of times they have had brushes with death. My quick list is below, and yeah, if she had a blog or website for readers to post their own brushes with death, I would elaborate and post mine, which I began to list even before I opened the book.

This collection of essays by the author tells of times she has almost died, or has had “brushes” with death, though she ends the book with the story of keeping her daughter--who had/has some vicious version of anaphylaxis--alive. Oh, and the childbirth and miscarriage ones! So it’s not necessarily about death, always; it’s not about grief, but near-death. Not all of them are equally compelling, but she’s such a good writer, and the telling helps her appreciate life more, instead of her getting paranoid that she is going to die at any moment. Oh, she knows she is going to die, but she knows more acutely as a result that she is alive.

“I swam in dangerous waters, both metaphorically and literally. It was not so much that I didn't value my existence but more that I had an insatiable desire to push myself to embrace all that it could offer.”

“That the things in life which don't go to plan are usually more important, more formative, in the long run, than the things that do.”

The best ones include the first one about being stalked by a disturbed guy (who turns out to be a killer) while hiking, two stories related to her survival and permanent damage from childhood encephalitis. This isn’t a perfect book, but it makes one think and feel.

Mine:
1) Burst appendix during surgery when I was seven

2) Bike accident last year where I swerved to miss the rear end of a truck and flew over the handlebars of my bike to face-plant on the sidewalk (I really just got beaten up and lost a front tooth, but as they say, it coulda been worse)


3) Chased by a brown bear in Yosemite at the base camp for climbing up Half Dome (not the face, just up behind it, something many tourists do), in the seventies. Nearly caught me, as I zipped into a porta-potty, trapped there for an hour.

4) A few years ago tripped over a short garden fence and my chest was the first things that met the sidewalk, breaking a few ribs.

5) In the nineties I had over seventeen tests for a bizarre fast-spiking fever that kept me out of work for three months; Doc, at the end, said: “The good news is that you are alive; the bad news is that we don’t know what you had.”

6) This is not one most people would mention, but it comes up in nightmares still; I was pulling out in traffic from a steep downhill Seattle side-street and a semi was barreling down that busy main street and I got distracted, took my foot off the wheel and inched forward and just barely managed to stop in time before hitting him and killing the whole family. VERY close, trust me, inches. That’s how close, in a car, many people have been, I know, but that is my strongest memory of a driving scare. Familiar moment? But it comes back in nightmares periodically.

7) Was beaten up badly in middle school by a gang whose leader I turned in to the principal for his having taken my new bike and smashed it on the pavement. His revenge was to beat me up; my revenge on him was that he accidentally killed himself with his father’s shotgun the following summer. I published a poem about this in the English Journal, “Bully.”

8) Maybe fifteen years ago the doctor said I was a heart attack waiting to happen; the usual: Overweight, high bp, high resting heart rate, high cholesterol, all that. I became a runner and changed all that. Now in my seventies, staying active as jogger/walker/birder.

9) I was on a visit to be considered by a university for a teaching position. They flew me in to O’Hare. But I recall a terrifying free-fall dive in the plane during a storm, with the roughest landing ever, people thrown around the cabin and screaming (as also happens to O'Farrell). Then, on the way back to the airport the engine of the cab I was riding in burst into flames and as he quickly pulled over I dove out of the car (No, didn’t explode, but neither did I get that job; bad karma?)

10) I was at Boy Scout camp in Michigan--Camp Shawondasee near Duck Lake, trying to finish my Rowing Merit Badge. The last thing I needed to do was be fully clothed, swamp the boat and still manage to get it to shore, but I got separated from the boat, it was windy, it floated away, I couldn’t make it to shore with the heavy, wet clothes, and had to wave my hand to the lifeguard and be rescued. I was more embarrassed than scared I was going to die. But it still counts, I could not have swum in by myself.

11) I’m embarrassed about this one, too, and really so, but on that trip where I almost crashed into a semi, above, I also lost my front brakes (yeah, one of my front brakes) on the pass from Grand Lake, Rocky Mountains down to Boulder. Weekend, no gas station anywhere near, family in car. I elected to use my parking brakes (and the three other brakes, I still had them!) to ease my way down the mountain at very, very slow speed, screeching all the way. Stupid, I know. I would delete this because it makes me look like such a jerk to have taken that chance, but O’Farrell is honest, so I will be, too.

12) Survived serious melanoma surgery, very lareg scar, but the cancer (so far) went wide, not deep. Luck?

13) Gall bladder removal, though the latter only sounds life-threatening. But oh, that pain and another reminder to eat even better than I had been.

More brushes still to come.

[Zoeytron · Rating 3 out of 5]

Memoirs are not my thing, but I was unable to ignore a couple of my GR friends' fine reviews for this book.  It's good to amble over to a different genre from time to time.  This one will have you looking back at the times of your life for near misses, and how your decisions may have changed your direction, if only slightly.  

I am not a lover of memoirs in general, but

I am glad to have read this one.

I am returning to the dark side now. 

[Helene Jeppesen · Rating 3 out of 5]

I can’t. I can’t. I can’t. Properly explain my feelings about this book :)

[Olive Fellows (abookolive) · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a memoir about seventeen near death experiences that novelist Maggie O'Farrell has lived through or, in the case of the last essay, observed. The essays are mostly short and medical in nature, though some longer ordeals are given longer essays, and a frightening few involve the dangers of other people.

O'Farrell writes beautifully about these might-have-beens, the situations that almost took her life. I think we all have at least one in our memory banks, yet it's not a topic I've seen discussed before, so it provided interesting food for thought. What it also provided was truckloads of anxiety. I'm not an overly anxious person, rather someone who has spells of anxiety with a source I can normally point to. Picture my finger, pointing at this book. For the past week, that's been the source.

I needed breaks from this book because it kept stirring within me that nagging feeling that something bad was going to happen. I would catch myself getting that feeling, then I'd start worrying. Then I'd remember that I was reading this book. Then I'd start dreading needing to finish it. Then I'd guilt myself into finishing it so I'd stop getting the feeling of impending doom. Repeat.

I enjoyed it, but thank god it's over.

Click here to hear more of my thoughts on this book over on my Booktube channel, abookolive.

[Beverly · Rating 5 out of 5]

An amazing memoir, I Am, I Am, I Am: Seventeen Brushes With Death, is exactly what the title says, the author's near fatal experiences in her extraordinary life. Read the first chapter and you will be hooked; her meeting with a rapist and murderer as a teenager will send chills down your spine.
She is a brilliant writer and goes inside her near death experiences to snatch from them and learn from them, whether it be accidents, illness, depraved strangers, or ill luck, she emerges triumphant. How these horrific things keep happening to her is explained partially by her extreme sickness when she was a child. It seems that her almost mortal illness made her more willing, not less, to experience life.

[Betsy Robinson · Rating 5 out of 5]

4/12/23 Updates
This book inspired me to write an essay, essentially stealing O'Farrell's form and condensing it into short essay chapters. It is in the spring 2023 Prairie Fire, a gorgeous Canadian magazine, on the theme of "The Peace We Make." (Prairie Fire, Spring 2023, Volume 44, No. 1. Unfortunately the essay is not online, but there is a preview at the bottom of their page.


And O'Farrell's magnificently constructed memoir also makes an appearance in my April 2023 writing craft piece about editing in The Artisanal Writer: https://artisanalwriter.com/2023/04/0...

Thank you, Ms. Maggie O'Farrell, for all your inspiration.

August 20, 2018 Review
I Am, I Am, I AM is an emotionally astounding book that ends in one of the most gut-wrenchingly powerful assertions of life I’ve ever read.

But I Am, I Am, I Am isn’t a great book because Maggie O’Farrell has had such a dramatic life (although she has) and has so many harrowing stories to tell. It is a great book because O’Farrell is a wonderful storyteller, which means that she sees the connections between events in her life and has a journalist’s gift for weaving them together through exquisite literary writing.

This book is a primer on how to write a personal essay, and for writers who learn best by osmosis, this is one of the best collections of examples I can imagine. Almost from the first sentence, I found myself osmosing as a writer: toting up craft techniques (the kind of events and information that can pad out a fairly meagre or at least quick current story—“moments,” per O’Farrell’s description of the book’s plot), watching for transitions, letting out ahas at the vocabulary and scintillating description of background events that connected through time to the present moment (the first two essays’ main events are written in present tense which gives them urgency—a great way to open a book), and how she seamlessly jumps time and tenses (present to past tense and back again) to a conclusion in the future. And none of this interfered with my regular reader enjoyment. In fact it enhanced it.

Suffice it to say that with masterful craft, O’Farrell conveys her own heart through words that make the reader’s pound in resonance. This writing is delicious. If it were food, I would eat it until I was made of it.

[PattyMacDotComma · Rating 5 out of 5]

4.5★
“I still cannot bear anyone to touch my neck: not my husband, not my children, not a kindly doctor, who once wanted to check my tonsils. I flinch away before I even register why.”

This is from the first chapter, “Neck – 1990”, which is when she was 18 or so. There are 17 chapters, each titled with a part of the body and a year, ranging from 1975, when she was three, to today.

She introduces the book with this quotation from Sylvia Plath:

I took a deep breath and listened to the old
brag of my heart. I am, I am, I am.
- - - - - - - - - - - -Silvia Plath, The Bell Jar

She certainly IS. She is here, alive and kicking in spite of her brushes with death, although only a few were ‘brushes’. Death tried to hit her with a sledgehammer more than once, and I’m surprised she survived. We’ve all had near misses, but I doubt many readers have faced this:

“He is holding the machete in one hand, my hair in the other;. . . ”

See what I mean? (Incidentally, this is NOT the 'neck' chapter, but a different 'brush'.) She was an adventurous young woman, but before that she had medical problems that could have grounded her forever.

“They thought I would die; I didn’t. They thought I wouldn’t walk or swim or hold a pencil again; I did. They thought I would need a wheelchair for the rest of my life. . .”

The chapters are not in chronological order, but I liked the order they were in. I’m not sure exactly how she decided to move around the body with the various incidents, but it seemed to make sense as I read them. Some incidents are the stuff of every parent’s nightmare, and it’s easy to see why.

“As a child, I was an escapologist, a bolter. I ran, scarpered, dashed off, legged it whenever I had the chance. . . . I wanted nothing more than to be on the move, air rushing around me, . . . I wanted to know, wanted to see, what was around the next corner, beyond the bend. I still do. . . ”

She loved the story of the childless couple who found a baby that turned to be a selkie, a sea creature who could not stay with them.

“There was something about the duality of the selkie, a shape-shifter with two existences, a child who hankers for a different form – found in both Irish and Scottish mythology – that caught my imagination. I would, whenever I could, leap into the sea, duck my head into the water and wait for the metamorphosis, for my limbs to shrink, for my hair to disappear, for my sealskin to cover me. I would resurface crestfallen, disappointed, still in my stubbornly human form.”

It's been my experience that most young people seem to go through a stage of wanting to be anywhere but their (boring, dull, nothing-to-do-here) hometown. With O’Farrell’s history of escape and her fervent wish to become a selkie, it’s no wonder that she wandered and got into tricky situations. She never makes excuses for that but admits freely that she thumbed her nose at death.

“A teacher at school gave us John Donne’s Sonnet X to study, and the poet’s depiction of Death as an arrogant, ineffectual, conceited despot made me smile in recognition:

Death, be not proud, though some have called thee Mighty and dreadful, for thou art not so . . . nor canst thou kill me.

This insouciance stopped the minute I had children, when suddenly I worried that my two-fingered taunts to Death might come back to bite me. What if Donne’s proud, vengeful personification of Death decided to return and seek recompense for my insolence? What if it took me, took my baby?”

I’ve not been as adventurous nor had a machete held to my throat (nor wanted to be a selkie, for that matter), but I certainly felt a lot more bulletproof as a kid than as a parent. I had countless falls off horses – no helmets in those days – but once I had children, things that were exciting before felt too scary. Not because Death might take my children but that Death might leave them motherless.

In her last brush in the book, she’s trying desperately to prevent a death. As a wild-and-free child, she terrified her parents. Today, she is the terrified parent. I’m just so pleased she’s shared with us these run-ins with Death (“brush” is far too gentle a term) and hope that she continues tho thrive - and write.

If you read this book and like it, have a look for Any Ordinary Day by journalist Leigh Sales, about how the lives of ordinary people are turned upside down by extreme events on a seemingly ordinary day. I reviewed that one here: https://www.goodreads.com/review/show...

[Cheri · Rating 5 out of 5]

”And you want to travel with her, and you want to travel blind
And you know that you can trust her
For she's touched your perfect body with her mind”
-- Suzanne, Leonard Cohen, Songwriters: Leonard Cohen


When I saw that this book was one of the choices in the Best Book of the Year awards for goodreads, I wanted to squeeze this one in today, and I’m so glad that I did. A brilliant memoir that doesn’t really read like a memoir, the writing is her standard beautiful, brutally honest, somewhat bare-bones approach she has with her fiction. While she doesn’t mince words, she surely knows how to choose exactly the right ones to get your attention. Or mine, anyway.

Broken down in seventeen ‘chapters' that range from 1975 to the present day, not in chronological order, I am even more in awe of her talent as a writer, and her ability to share her gift in such a personal way.

”We are, all of us, wandering about in a state of oblivion, borrowing our time, seizing our days, escaping our fates, slipping through loopholes, unaware of when the axe may fall.”

”If you are aware of these moments, they will alter you. You can try to forget them, to turn away from them, to shrug them off, but they will have infiltrated you, whether you like it or not. They will take up residence inside you and become part of who you are, like a heart stent or a pin that holds together a broken bone.”

This is the fourth book of O’Farrell’s that I’ve read in slightly more than a month. They’ve all given me things to consider, but this has really captured so clearly how vulnerable we all may be, even when others may see us as safely tucked away in our little indestructible lives.

Undoubtedly, reading this will have anyone reflecting on their own life, and hopefully to have more empathy for others whose paths in life haven’t been easy. Remember: "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle...”


Brilliant.

Highly Recommended

[Kelli · Rating 5 out of 5]

Breathtaking, beautiful, heartbreaking, human. This unique memoir is a chronicle of self-awareness, of gratitude, of grace, of luck, of strength, of pain, of living. It is list after fascinating list of figurative places you, too have been and feelings you, too have felt. And for those with which you have had no experience, you come away pulsating with understanding at a confounding level. Her essay “Baby and Bloodstream” is the most affecting and honest look at pregnancy loss I’ve ever read, having not experienced this myself. The final essay, “Daughter,” should be posted in every primary school in the world.

It is, it is, it is, in my most humble opinion, a literary experience akin to a masterpiece. Read it, or listen to it (as I did). It is less about brushes with death than it is about collisions with life. 5 stars

*I was amazed by the many exotic places she mentioned visiting in this memoir. I was blown away by her capacity to keep many of these stories entirely to herself until the writing of this book.

[Hannah · Rating 4 out of 5]

I might have been too excited about this. I have been looking forward to this memoir ever since I first saw this stunning cover. I finally caved in and bought myself a copy and started it the moment it arrived. And I enjoyed this. But it wasn’t quite the revelation I was maybe expecting.

I love the framing of this memoir: Maggie O’Farrell tells her story as a series of essays, each concentrating on a near death experience. I do like memoirs that play with format and I enjoyed the unchronological way this book is structured a whole lot. Especially the four essays bookending this memoir were absolutely incredible. The first essay sets the tone and shows the danger of being a woman on her own, while the last two essays change the way I understood this work and this woman. I love that in books.

The structure, while one of the biggest advantages of this, also works against the reading flow in parts. While I was fine with the last essays changing a lot of what came before, in parts the essays don’t feel quite complete without the recontextualization the ending offers.

This is very readable, easy to dip in and out. It just is not the best memoir I have read this year (and I thought it would be a contender). I do read an awful lot of memoirs though, so your milage might vary.

Also, one final comment: I love, love, love the cover. The whole book is just ridiculously stunning.

First sentence: “On the path ahead, stepping out fom behind a boulder, a man appears.”

You can find this review and other thoughts my blog.

[Mehrsa · Rating 2 out of 5]

As an unapologetic stoic by nature, I hate hearing people complain about their health. This book was one annoying complaint after another with literally NO wisdom gleaned from each event. It was unbelievably self-indulgent and a bore to read through. I read to the end because it was a book club book but was rolling my eyes after the 4th near death experience. By 17, I just didn't believe her anymore. A good memoir is one where you know the author is making stuff up or stretching the truth a bit, but you don't care because you like her and you're rooting for her. This one, I thought she was a whiner by the end. And probably exaggerating a bit too much.

[JimZ · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was an outstanding book.

It was excellent on many levels. One was the relative uniqueness of the memoir — we learned about interesting aspects of Maggie O’Farrell’s life via 17 near-death experiences. I remember when first coming across a GR review of this book the reviewer listed a number of near-death experiences of his. And I immediately thought of near-death experiences in my own personal life. I would think most people have had close encounters with death or if not death a catastrophe. I can remember these experiences dating back to my adolescence…they won’t leave me I guess until I am dead. I can’t recall another memoir like this: built around near-death experiences. So clever, so interesting, and I would think something most living beings can relate to.

Another level of excellence is just the vignettes Maggie O’ Farrell relays to us. They are not in chronological order which did not detract and perhaps enhanced the telling of the episodes. There are so many of the 17 that stuck with me. I think the two that hit me the hardest was 1) her battle with encephalitis and how long it waylaid her (and in fact it permanently affected her neurological functioning), and 2) her middle child’s susceptibility to anaphylaxis and her chronic eczema. It was heartbreaking, both maladies of the daughter. The way Maggie O’Farrell laid out the near-death experience of anaphylaxis, nested and related to the eczema, was taut. After reading the final two sentences of that chapter I sobbed uncontrollably. It was a visceral reaction — it was beyond my control.

I can’t say enough good things about this memoir.

[Jenna ❤ ❀ ❤ · Rating 3 out of 5]

I Am, I Am, I Am: Seventeen Brushes with Death is a beautifully written memoir about life and death, about the fragility and preciousness of life when death lurks just around the corner.

At first I was really annoyed with this book as I thought that it was about the author having almost died 17 times. It is not. Most of the instances she writes about are normal and frequent occurrences -- she "could" have been hit by a car as a child, she "could" have died in childbirth if she was living in a time before modern medicine (um... but you're not!) and not had an emergency C section, she "could" have been attacked and then who knows what else a couple times. She had a miscarriage. She volunteered to be the person knives are thrown at in a show. OK, these are definitely not near death experiences and I felt so annoyed, seeing all of these instances as making her life so much more interesting and dangerous than other people's. I felt she was just a narcissist, so wrapped up in herself that every day events made her stand out above others.

As I read, I came to understand that Ms. O'Farrell's obsession with her own mortality and seeing death as coming for her everywhere is a result of her having had encephalitis as a child. She was confined to a wheelchair for over a year and believed she would died. Indeed, the doctors seemed to believe that as well. She so exquisitely describes what that was like, what she thought and felt that I just wanted to scoop up the child she was and comfort her.

I also found the chapter about her daughter's life-threatening illness to be profoundly moving and heart-rending. I can't imagine what that is like, to be the parent of a child so close to death's door. It really does make you think about the preciousness of life, the fleetingness of it all.

The writing is 5 star all the way. However, as I found myself rolling my eyes through much of the book, it isn't a 5 star book for me. The blurb of the book is untrue, though the subtitle and the image of the feather on the cover are more appropriate. Most of these stories of "near death" are but a slight breath of air from the movement of a feather, just the slightest hint of the shadow of Death. I also felt she was embellishing a lot of the stories. I found myself wondering not a few times if she had a deadline for a book and then couldn't think of a novel-length story, thus this memoir came to be. Perhaps it is a good thing that Ms. O'Farrell is so focused on the ways she "could" die because it keeps her appreciating the value of life and causes her to more fully live it. This is a good lesson for all of us: To try to enjoy life as much as possible, to not take for granted our time, to live life to the fullest extent that we can.

[Lotte · Rating 4 out of 5]

4.5/5. There were three things that made this book stand out to me:
- The nonlinear narrative structure – the seventeen chapters, the eponymous "seventeen brushes with death", are told non-chronologically, all covering a certain point in Maggie O'Farrell's life spanning from early childhood until now. It was never confusing to read, but made for an interesting and wholly original account of a life.
- The writing style, which I fell in love with from page one. It's absolutely beautiful written with very vivid descriptions and amazing imagery. It reads a lot like a novel, while still feeling honest and true to life, and I never felt like O’Farrell was sensationalizing her own experiences in any way.
- It was incredibly moving, especially the last two chapters really pack a punch and had me close to tears. This book makes you aware of the fragility of life, while ultimately being life-affirming, but never in a preachy or over-the-top manner. Maggie O’Farrell is undoubtedly a remarkable woman and her resilience is quite inspiring.
(- Plus, an extra point for that amazing cover and the cool chapter headings.)
I've read some very forgettable memoirs before, but this is definitely one that will stick with me for a while!

[Carol · Rating 3 out of 5]

I AM, I AM, I AM is a uniquely written compilation of near death experiences....close calls....illustrated chapter by chapter with the body part connected to the incident.

Some stories will break your heart, some will make you question her choices, and a couple others will absolutely give you the creeps....like OMG, the man on the path in the woods. Maggie used her head and saved her own bacon in this one!

An escapologist as a child, a risk taker and traveler as an adult, I am, I am, I am, tells how Maggie O'Farrell overcame some scary medical issues and disastrous times that ultimately shaped her life.

Overall, I had my ups and downs with this memoir. For me, a chronological order of events would have proven more beneficial to the narration. That being said, I have heard good things about this author's work and hope to get to five of her novels currently on my to-read list.

[Linda · Rating 4 out of 5]

"If you are aware of these moments, they will alter you. You can try to forget them, to turn away from them, to shrug them off, but they will have infiltrated you, whether you like it or not. They will take up residence inside you and become part of who you are, like a heart stent or a pin that holds together a broken bone."

I don't know exactly what clear-eyed aim Maggie O'Farrell took while writing her memoir I Am, I Am, I Am. Was it set purposefully to resurrect the most fearful and the most quaking heart of her past? Did she taste bitterness in the brew as she passed the cup for all of us to partake in? Or was there a far broader scope in her thinking to invite the rest of us to peruse into our own past?

I Am, I Am, I Am takes us into a journey revisited by Maggie O'Farrell. The composite of stories within contain heart-stopping experiences throughout her life. She paints a physicality of where such experiences touched upon her anatomy at one time or another through title heading chapters. The tellings are not in chronological order from adulthood to childhood to adulthood again.

O'Farrell grabs her readers with an afternoon hike. She's young and in her teens....the time of sporatic behavior and wayward thinking. But what she encounters wrapped in a sunny day on a quiet path will hold your attention solid. It's my favorite tied to that of her young daughter's health condition in Italy and the desperation of a mother's heart. Each story carries its own weight in the grip of the human experience.

I still believe that O'Farrell beckons us to revisit those times in our own lives that caught on us on the edge or swept us away in the nick of time. We are living, breathing, knotted threads dangling by the flip of our DNA or anxiously awaiting as the palm-up receivers at the hands of others' decision-making, sadly or triumphantly. Perhaps our lives are not as quietly mundane as we once believed. Perhaps it's never too late to build upon those interactions or ponder the reasons why they were laid upon us to begin with. A bit to chew on......

[Veronica ⭐️ · Rating 4 out of 5]

I am Iam Iam is moving extracts from a life less ordinary; a life lived to the full.

”Is this your life?” She asks.
“It’s not......it’s just......snatches of a life. A string of moments. Some chapters will be long. Others might be really short.”

The chapters are at times terrifying and at other times heart breaking. These short snippets of a life give an insight into the personal life of Maggie O’Farrell and really show the reader who she is.

O’Farrell shows us that real people, just like you and I, have unexpected brushes with death throughout our life. These moments are around us all!

The stories pull you in and each one is told with so much depth and feeling that they make this book very hard to put down.

Highly recommended even for those, like me, that don’t generally read nonfiction.

[Skyler Autumn · Rating 4 out of 5]

4 Stars

Maggie O'Farrell cleverly uses her near death experiences as a sort of bench marker for her life and as a catalyst to veer into other aspects ranging from her family, to her childhood, to her romantic relationships in order to paint a much larger picture of her life as a whole.

This book is really captivating and descriptively written as every near death experience leaves you with a range of emotions. I found the first chapter (about meeting a deadly stranger in the middle of desolate country hike) and the last chapter (about her daughter suffering from a rare autoimmune disease) to effect me the most, but in starkly contrasting ways as one brought me to haunting chills and the other to near tears.

I found the use of near misses to be an interesting way for the author to describe her life story as she certainly has had a stroke of bad luck, or as the author would prefer to put it unbelievably good luck since clearly she survived all these possible attempts on her life. Either way you framework it the author has lived a resilient life.

So why the 4 Star review instead of 5 stars? Well to be honest I think you run the gamut of loosing steam when your overall premise is about near death experiences. Having the first chapter be so terrifyingly horrific sets you up for failure as the following chapters fell short of such an impressive opening. Now suddenly equally well written chapters feel a bit lack luster because they don't have the same impact on me as the first. Although the author finished off strong with the final chapter there was quite a few times I found my mind wandering and one chapter involving cats that I actually had to re-read three times because I kept drifting off a bit.

Overall, I did enjoy this read and will probably be quoting the first chapter of this book all year because damn that has to be the best opening chapter to a book I have read in a long time.