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The Femdom Handbook: A practical guide to female domination.
A primer for couples where the lady is in charge.
229 pages, ebook
Published February 20, 2019
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September 19, 2019
I was given this book by the author in exchange for a fair review.
Ms. Brighton starts her book with definitions and an understanding of the desires in a female-led relationship, as well as a femdom one. She offers a letter by one husband to his wife that any man can copy and modify to suit his own desires. She offers anecdotes from women.
Next, Ms. Brighton offers a set of behaviors that place the woman in a position of superiority on the home front, tasks relegated to the male, behaviors he is required to follow. A daily rotation of chores is listed, starting with tea or coffee served in bed. Saturday is chore day, Sunday is Punishment Day.
The weekly routines and punishment are designed to be easy, non-threatening and systems that are followed easily while more of the book is read and considered.
Next we get into the more elaborate, with costuming. But Ms. Brighton offers a very sensible warning: “I have always suggested to my lady friends that they have a rule such as this; however much money is spent on sex toys and sexy costumes for either partner, an equal amount is given to her to buy ordinary outfits and makeup for her own pleasure...” it is also advisable to never go beyond one’s budget buying fetish items.
Next, there are specific fetishes addressed, along with a weekly schedule that is realistic. Ms. Brighton’s schedule is not a 24/7 one, as it deals in reality, yet offers enough intensity in short bursts to please. Safety is covered thoroughly. Ms. Brighton deals with the hang ups that many have that prevent acceptance of their partner’s desires.
Part Four is about taking things to a new level. Ms. Brighton discussed increasing punishment time by increasing strokes and increasing rituals. Methods of immobilization, as well as implements for discipline are discussed. Ms. Brighton discusses the tawse at length, suggesting this is a favorite disciplinary tool. Canes are also covered in some depth, as well as a reprint from her website article, entitled “How to give a proper caning, by Lady Pamela.”
Ms. Brighton next suggests furniture, then moves on to non-corporal punishment. She provides an example. She then sets up complete rituals for corporal punishment.
In Part Six, Ms. Brighton reviews enforced male chastity. I imagine she has not participated in this aspect of female dominance, as her discussion is based on the experience of others who live in London and southeast England. She, then goes into the use of the strapon and the preparation with the plug.
In Part 9, Ms. Brighton covers the wide ranging area of fetish, from body modification, foot fetishism, role play scenarios (usually a mainstay of the professional dominatrix), the use of technology, torture (she does not recommend the use of candles) and exposure to other people of public shaming,
She, then covers meeting up with other like-minded kinksters. First, she covers single men, then single women. Then, in more depth, she covers couples. She recommends attending public clubs, area “munches” which, in the UK, means an evening down at a local pub. She is very careful to recommend that any meet-ups should start in a public place.
Ms. Brighton then covers fetish wear, noting that most clubs have a strict dress code. Next, Pony Play, then throwing a private party, online play, “slavery,” collaring and cuckolding. She then discusses “the consent paradox,” forcing consent. She regards this as an impossibility.
She, then, publishes messages from her website contact form. And offers information for the unaware to find many of the resources she uses and recommends. She includes various documents, templates to be used in a new relationship, submissive agreement and contract, a punishment request, a thank you speech after punishment.
As you progress in the book, you progress in the severity of punishments, as well as the completeness of control. This book is certainly written with the dominant female in mind, perhaps after a request from her submissive that she read this book and the two begin a series of open conversations about his desires, along with what she might participate in.
All in all, Ms. Brighton assumes that the woman will be at least, somewhat, open to the idea of dominating her partner within the context of a committed relationship. She is clear with her particular limitations: She has never functioned as a professional dominatrix, she respects the pros and those who engage them and there are indications in this book that suggest that she learned a lot from them as she adopted this lifestyle.
For those in a committed relationship who wish to take their desires out of the closet and learn this lifestyle, this book is highly recommended.
Ms. Brighton starts her book with definitions and an understanding of the desires in a female-led relationship, as well as a femdom one. She offers a letter by one husband to his wife that any man can copy and modify to suit his own desires. She offers anecdotes from women.
Next, Ms. Brighton offers a set of behaviors that place the woman in a position of superiority on the home front, tasks relegated to the male, behaviors he is required to follow. A daily rotation of chores is listed, starting with tea or coffee served in bed. Saturday is chore day, Sunday is Punishment Day.
The weekly routines and punishment are designed to be easy, non-threatening and systems that are followed easily while more of the book is read and considered.
Next we get into the more elaborate, with costuming. But Ms. Brighton offers a very sensible warning: “I have always suggested to my lady friends that they have a rule such as this; however much money is spent on sex toys and sexy costumes for either partner, an equal amount is given to her to buy ordinary outfits and makeup for her own pleasure...” it is also advisable to never go beyond one’s budget buying fetish items.
Next, there are specific fetishes addressed, along with a weekly schedule that is realistic. Ms. Brighton’s schedule is not a 24/7 one, as it deals in reality, yet offers enough intensity in short bursts to please. Safety is covered thoroughly. Ms. Brighton deals with the hang ups that many have that prevent acceptance of their partner’s desires.
Part Four is about taking things to a new level. Ms. Brighton discussed increasing punishment time by increasing strokes and increasing rituals. Methods of immobilization, as well as implements for discipline are discussed. Ms. Brighton discusses the tawse at length, suggesting this is a favorite disciplinary tool. Canes are also covered in some depth, as well as a reprint from her website article, entitled “How to give a proper caning, by Lady Pamela.”
Ms. Brighton next suggests furniture, then moves on to non-corporal punishment. She provides an example. She then sets up complete rituals for corporal punishment.
In Part Six, Ms. Brighton reviews enforced male chastity. I imagine she has not participated in this aspect of female dominance, as her discussion is based on the experience of others who live in London and southeast England. She, then goes into the use of the strapon and the preparation with the plug.
In Part 9, Ms. Brighton covers the wide ranging area of fetish, from body modification, foot fetishism, role play scenarios (usually a mainstay of the professional dominatrix), the use of technology, torture (she does not recommend the use of candles) and exposure to other people of public shaming,
She, then covers meeting up with other like-minded kinksters. First, she covers single men, then single women. Then, in more depth, she covers couples. She recommends attending public clubs, area “munches” which, in the UK, means an evening down at a local pub. She is very careful to recommend that any meet-ups should start in a public place.
Ms. Brighton then covers fetish wear, noting that most clubs have a strict dress code. Next, Pony Play, then throwing a private party, online play, “slavery,” collaring and cuckolding. She then discusses “the consent paradox,” forcing consent. She regards this as an impossibility.
She, then, publishes messages from her website contact form. And offers information for the unaware to find many of the resources she uses and recommends. She includes various documents, templates to be used in a new relationship, submissive agreement and contract, a punishment request, a thank you speech after punishment.
As you progress in the book, you progress in the severity of punishments, as well as the completeness of control. This book is certainly written with the dominant female in mind, perhaps after a request from her submissive that she read this book and the two begin a series of open conversations about his desires, along with what she might participate in.
All in all, Ms. Brighton assumes that the woman will be at least, somewhat, open to the idea of dominating her partner within the context of a committed relationship. She is clear with her particular limitations: She has never functioned as a professional dominatrix, she respects the pros and those who engage them and there are indications in this book that suggest that she learned a lot from them as she adopted this lifestyle.
For those in a committed relationship who wish to take their desires out of the closet and learn this lifestyle, this book is highly recommended.
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