Lady: How To Meet And Keep A Good Man For Love And Marriage

by Roosh V.

Lady helps women find love, long-term relationships, and marriage in a modern environment where most men seem to only want casual sex. It shares the habits, values, and behaviors of a woman who is most likely to settle down with her ideal man while providing useful tips to reduce the anxiety and stress that are the root causes of wasting time with bad men, alcohol, and consumerism.

Lady is divided into three books:

-Book You helps you understand the true side of your female nature and why the feminist movement is making it difficult to connect with a man.

-Book Men explains what men really want and why most of your relationships seem to go nowhere. It shares advice on how to maximize your value, date successfully, and enter a monogamous relationship with a good man who wants to marry you, even if you're over 30.

-Book Relationships describes how to maintain and care for your relationship in a way that encourages a man to marry you.

Lady provides practical knowledge and advice for women to identify and attract a good man for a loving relationship without having to sleep around or be needlessly hurt. It will help a woman nurture her feminine side and experience love with a dedicated man who wants to protect and provide for her.

Genres: Relationships

172 pages, Paperback

Published February 14, 2019

About the author

Daryush Valizadeh, also known as Roosh V, Roosh Valizadeh, and Roosh Vorek, is an American pick-up artist of Iranian and Armenian descent, known for his writings on seduction and antifeminism. He writes on his personal blog and also owns the Return of Kings website where he publishes articles by others on related subjects. Additionally, Roosh has self-published multiple books, most of which offer advice to men on how to talk to, pick up, and ultimately sleep with women in general, as well as in specific countries.

Reviews

[Vanyana · Rating 1 out of 5]

Unfortunately, Roosh V has managed to achieve what only Freud achieved with his analysis - Freud basically regarded that 'If the patient agrees with me, it is because I'm right, and if the patient doesn't agree with me, it's because of their subconscious resistance to the truth (because I'm right).' The same way Roosh (and his fans) believes that if I agree with him, it is because he's right, and if I don't agree with him, it's because I'm a triggered feminist, there's just no in between. It is not uncommon for Roosh to portray realities as black and white.
In this book he has presented the women's 'angel and devil', meaning that either a woman is an obedient and faithful wife or she's on an unstoppable Fuck-rampage for all the guys out there. And this, of course, requires strict limitations for women - the solution - they must live with their parents until they get married... Because! Once married, the woman is required to also not speak to men online or offline. Because. But wait, there's more. If the man cheats on the woman - Roosh suggests it is not a reason enough to leave him and divorce and if he doesn't treat the family badly, she should forgive him. However, women cheating on men is absolutely inexcusable and men should not forgive such a behavior and should leave. Also women should not expect their men to have interest in .... their... own.... babies.... says Roosh... because men 'prefer to play with a clean baby who is not crying'. I know this may come as a shocker to some, but if you do a survey and ask women, you will find out that 100% women ALSO prefer to play with a clean baby who is not crying.
There are a few things in this book that are true and I agree with, and I believe I can gather them here in this one sentence: long hair, keep healthy/fit, develop relationship with God, don't use dating apps, don't have promiscuous sex, don't prioritize work over family, go out to different places to meet men. The rest of the book is pure manure.
From his wiki page I found out that he has a degree in microbiology, but from the book itself it is pretty clear he doesn't know much about microbiology. He continues quoting old debunked studies, very superficial studies, or straight up wrong information from the internet. He also says things like ' I have read a dubious study that...' and continues using it as the fact. No wonder he did not stay in the field of microbiology. Unfortunately for him, he's not a much better writer either. In the beginning of the book Roosh says ok, ok, you women really like fancy words, so I'll write in a more sophisticated and elegant manner, and then he continues to butcher the language at any given opportunity - just the phrase 'pumped and dumped' is mentioned enough times in the book to make one want to puke a little bit.
Non of this stops Roosh from giving ANY sort of 'professional' advice - from what your diet should look like, to your workout routine, your hairstyle maintenance, your living arrangement with your parents, your economics, your education or more like lack of any, because you are a woman and you don't need an education and 'men don't like women with student loans'. But hey, what do you expect from a guy who, get this, wrote a "blog post titled "How to Stop Rape" in which he proposed legalizing rape on private property. In the post, he wrote: "If rape becomes legal under my proposal, a girl will protect her body in the same manner that she protects her purse and smartphone. If rape becomes legal, a girl will not enter an impaired state of mind where she can't resist being dragged off to a bedroom with a man who she is unsure of—she'll scream, yell, or kick at his attempt while bystanders are still around. If rape becomes legal, she will never be unchaperoned with a man she doesn't want to sleep with." (from Wiki) I really hope the fathers who recommended the book to their daughters also read this and give it some thought!
And last but not least - the book shows a few tricks how to find a man, but it definitely teaches absolutely nothing on how to actually have a sustainable and happy long term relationship. How to select the right partner for You, how to meet his needs and how to have your needs met in a way that you grow together and make each other better people. But there is no way for him to know that...

[Петър Стойков · Rating 2 out of 5]

Опитът на Roosh да напише книга, която е предназначена за четене от жени, според мен е твърде неуспешен.

Не само, че първото правило на Боен клуб "Никога не говори за Бойния клуб" важи и за Red Pill, ми и езикът на автора и начинът му на изразяване, които той в началото се зарича да "омекоти" за да се понравят на женската аудитория, не се променя с нищо и прогнозирам, че книгата му няма да бъде прочетена от нито една жена точно по тази причина. Да, жените и мъжете възприемат информацията по различен начин, както той забелязва в предговора, само че просто не се справя да пише за жени.

Не, че ако бяха прочели книгата му, жените щяха да научат нещо особено полезно. Вече в края на кариерата си на "сваляч", с която се справяше отлично, докато не го налегнаха сериозни мисли за живота, вселената и всичко останало, Roosh нещо малко откачи и почна сериозно да залита по "традиционалисткия" възглед и начин на живот. Ама не по оптимистичния, мъжкарски начин, ами по-скоро по отчаяния, "ох колко хубаво беше преди, тия времена никога няма да се върнат" начин, който мислех би трябвало да е обмислил и преживял още преди години.

[Hannah · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great advice for the classic woman who is trapped in the modern world.

[Excelsior · Rating 3 out of 5]

I really wanted to give that book more stars but the truth is that a half star is just a gift and not even well deserved. Although there are some things which can be useful for a single woman looking for love and marriage there are many more which in my opinion are total crap. Regardless of how many women Roosh V has slept with in his life he doesn't seem to know much about what it takes for a long-term relationship... Because of course he has a ton of experience with shallow sexual flings but not with serious relationships...His extreme over generalizations are completely out of place.
Personally, if I as a woman had read his book before meeting my husband it would have never worked out between us because I broke several of the rules Roosh has for single women over 30 years old and back then I was 31.
First of all, I asked my husband out because he was too scared to do it himself and not because he didn't think I was hot. I also thought that my husband was cute and good looking and I was attracted to him... I did not leave him out although he was obviously a promiscuous foreigner just passing through the country and having fun...He wasn't looking for a wife at all. I also wanted to date him even though we were the same age, unlike Roosh's advice that the guy should be at least 5 years older than me, 10 at best. I let my husband kiss me on the first date and I also agreed to being intimate with him much earlier then what the book suggests...Overall, had I listened to Roosh's advice I would probably still be single and my husband would probably still be trying to sleep around with skanks who could not offer a man anything else but their vaginas. So, in our case, I'm really happy for treating the situation in the opposite direction because now I'm happily married and have the love and commitment of a great man, who used to follow Roosh very closely before and considered himself a "pickup artist". But maybe I was just lucky, who knows...
It's important for a woman to be physically attracted to a man, or she might not devote herself to the relationship, no matter how old she is. If she's not attracted she might cheat with someone she finds cute. Unfortunately, guys are not the only ones who care about looks and aesthetics and no, even if a girl is desperate for love she won't settle for someone she's not sexually attracted to...it must be at least his vibe, she must be able to imagine herself in bed with him which cannot happen if she's not into him in terms of sex...So yes, looks matter to women too and we cannot ignore that a man does not appeal to us even if he seems like a provider with a good job, sorry.
Also one thing that I didn't like about the book was that I did not encounter the word "compromise" anywhere and it's one of the main foundations of a healthy relationship, not to mention marriage. If there's no compromise the relationship will go downhill pretty fast. After reading the anecdotes presented in the book I think I caught a glimpse of why Roosh's relationships have failed so far... He hasn't been able to compromise with some things that annoyed his ex girlfriends, but he wanted them to let him lead their lives... He teaches women to be submissive and obedient because that's their "traditional" role. NO. There must be compromise from both parties! I'm not submissive to my man but I do some things that I don't particularly enjoy just because I know there are things he does for me which he doesn't feel like doing either but he knows I want him to. That's compromise and it's a two-way street!
If a woman cheats it's staunchly unforgivable but if a man cheats his wife should give him a second chance because he only did it for a cheap thrill? Oh, really?! Man, come down to Earth, it's equally disgusting and unforgivable!...
Not to mention that the book advises mothers to not be disappointed if "the father does not want to interact much with the baby until it starts walking and speaking" or if "the father prefers to play with a clean baby who's not crying" as if she made that baby using her finger and he got it as a birthday gift one day... Seriously? LOL For Roosh's information a father's duty is not only to provide money for his kids, he must be an actual part of raising them as well along with the mom! Changing diapers, feeding the baby, soothing them etc. Get it?
At one point Roosh sounds like it was his girlfriend's job to feed and nurture him and he was complaining that it was the other way around. Nnnnno... it's not her job at all. A woman would do that if she wanted to, if you earned it, and you wouldn't grow a second nose if you did that for her instead! Actually if you did she might very well do something much more significant in return! Let's say, do you think it's only my job to give my husband massages? Of course not! He gives me one right back! He's not my master, I'm not his maid...we are a team.
I probably sound like a total feminist but I'm not. My husband is way too much against feminism and he wouldn't marry me if that was the case. He agrees with me on this review.
Despite the downsides of the book I found some reasonable advice too hence the 3 stars. It was pretty entertaining, Roosh has a good sense of humor. I agree with him that a woman should keep herself skinny and has long hair, because that's feminine and beautiful. That a woman needs to give a man some space, that she must avoid assholes who only want to get in her pants. I also like the angel/devil metaphors.
There are some interesting things in the book but most women even here in Eastern Europe would not act on the advice in it because a huge part of it sounds absurd. If a woman wants to cheat she will and no force known will be able to stop her, even if a man screens her phone/computer all the time. Same goes for guys, even if they're super busy. Just look at Jeff Bezos...he doesn't look like a guy who watches TV or plays video games all day long, right? And he still managed to cheat on his wife and get a 50-year old girlfriend who was also cheating on her husband. So if there's desire there is a way. No need to be over controlling and obsessive, ok? Jeez...
Anyway, to sum it all up he tried but I think he has a long way to go until he starts understanding women better. And hey! Believe it or not, but some 30 year old chicks look sexier than some 20 year old ones! 😉

[Jamie E · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read this book to see if it has something to offer my 20 year old daughter who recently just ended a difficult relationship. It devastated her. I wanted to give commentary as she is now recovering but feared my own bias would seep into my advice. So, I bought and read this book to see if it has anything to offer to a misled generation taught to hate what is wholesome and love what is destructive. This book ended up educating me. There is practical advice for her and it looks deeper into what woman can do to help foster a beautiful relationship, which I found very useful. I hope she finds this neutral opinion helpful in her relationships to come. As her father I want the best for her and if she takes some of the useful guidance in this book, I think it will be a step in the right direction.

[Misty DelMar · Rating 5 out of 5]

I think the book captures some harsh realities of our finite time, the human psyche and the undeniable differences between masculinity and femininity. It is obvious that this book was written in the beginning of the authors spiritual walk, nevertheless, there are some honest observations that can be useful if you put aside your feministic and modern day cultural beliefs.

[Pemberley · Rating 4 out of 5]

Interesting. Feel like I learned a lot of things from a man's perspective. Things I hadn't realised before. A lot of food for thought and information there for me to think about. I liked it. It's very short but it says all it needs to say.

[Radek · Rating 5 out of 5]

Honest and direct. I am always amazed at Roosh's ability to elicit the essence in relationships.

[Shefi · Rating 3 out of 5]

Pretty extreme Christian views on dating and marriage. If you're not Christian, you still might find some nuggets here.

[Cynthia · Rating 5 out of 5]

A very fascinating read and one I’d like to recommend to men as well as women. For background, the author, Roosh, was one of the top leaders of the Red Pill and manosphere communities and one of the leading Pick Up Artists (PUAs) in the world. He spent the better part of 15 years perfecting his approach to female psychology so that he could profit from their promiscuity while demonizing them for being promiscuous. In 2019 Roosh stopped defending the actions of PUAs and, among other things, wrote this book. While the bulk of it focuses on instructing women how to catch a husband, peppered throughout are tidbits of Roosh’s own experiences and current struggles.

When his sister died, she took with her the only meaningful relationship with a woman Roosh ever had, and the thought of being alone for the rest of his life scared the daylights out of him. Roosh is now struggling to find a wife and a mother to the children he desperately wants. His PUA skills allow him to get a date with these high-value women (18-26, beautiful, low "bodycount," wanting to focus on building a family), but as soon as they find out about his promiscuous history and hypocrisy towards women, those ideal wives and mothers go running. One thing that stood out to me was when he talks about some of the lessons he’s learned in his recent actual relationships with women—like how to resist the temptation of other women. Lessons that, frankly, I’d expect a man to learn with his highschool sweetheart, but Roosh is now in his 40s and is struggling with the concept of having to either drastically lower his standards (which he recommends women do in this book) or join a monastery and make peace with being alone for the rest of his life.

He spent his youth believing in a double standard that, turns out, might not exist, and now one of the world’s experts in women’s sexual psychology is starting to realize that all he has is theories and no actual skills in how to have a long-term relationship. The high-value women he always assumed would be there when he was ready to settle down are rejecting him for spending his life not being the sort of man who valued settling down. All he can do is seduce women that he doesn’t want, and the hollowness of the life he’s built for himself has lead him into an existential crisis. As a wise man once said to me, “he wanted to eat his cake and have it too, but then the cake went and had to audacity to not be there anymore.”

[naveen · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is simple yet very elegant. Roosh breaks it down and simplifies things. The book is divided into 3 part, the first focuses on you, the lady. He lays down two simple rules and explains why they are important. The 2nd is about seducing and keeping a man. The third is about long term relationships. This is through the eyes of a man who has slept with many women, but has had many mini relationships.

[Andy · Rating 3 out of 5]

In a weird way, I feel better about my own gender (female) after having read this book. I feel better about myself. Obviously I am a normal person with normal exposure to media. I know how cringe the book would sound to other millennials.
But it made sense to me, and I feel better about being a woman. I don’t feel inferior anymore. This is something I’ve never gotten from mainstream media.

[Mary Davis · Rating 3 out of 5]

A book for reformed hussies.
Mainly serves as a way for Roosh to brag about his womanizing, but does have some silver nuggets in it and if I were a floozy it might be more useful. Still even if you’re not it has some advice worth heeding.
This isn’t a very long book, but I found a lot of it to be redundant, it could have been 30 pages and wouldn’t have suffered.

[Boo · Rating 4 out of 5]

Here goes Roosh all over again making me aware that I am, in fact, retarded when it comes to men.
I read the whole thing in one go - a light and easy read showing the subconscious man's point of view. Humorous start with Roosh blaming capitalism for people's problems.
I didn't actually read the full title before reading the book (oops) and halfway through I thought huh why is it teaching me about marriage but then I suppose that's what the book was about.
Either way, I waited a long time for this to be published so I was incredibly happy that I finally got to read it. It was slightly short and could be more in depth but a great book nonetheless.