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Humble Calvinism is both a helpful summary of what Calvinism is, and a helpful challenge to those who are convinced Calvinists. It calls us to hold Calvinism in our hearts, not just in our heads, so that we are humble and gracious as well as zealous for the truth, to the praise and glory of Christ and his church.
Author Jeff Medders admits that he is quick to defend Calvinism, but often slow to humbly love Christians who take a different view. His warm-hearted, challenging (and surprisingly witty) book takes readers through the the five points of Calvinism, revealing that a true understanding has a humbling effect on our hearts, fuelling a love of Christ and his people that builds others up, rather than tearing them down.
Author Jeff Medders admits that he is quick to defend Calvinism, but often slow to humbly love Christians who take a different view. His warm-hearted, challenging (and surprisingly witty) book takes readers through the the five points of Calvinism, revealing that a true understanding has a humbling effect on our hearts, fuelling a love of Christ and his people that builds others up, rather than tearing them down.
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J.A. Medders
8 books59 followersJ.A. Medders is the Lead Pastor of Redeemer Church in Tomball, TX. He and Natalie have two kids, Ivy and Oliver. Jeff digs snobby coffee, books, and he is an uncertified grillmaster.
He blogs at www.jamedders.com and tweets from @mrmedders. Jeff’s first book, Gospel-Formed: Living a Grace-Addicted, Truth-Filled, Jesus-Exalting Life, is set to release this November from Kregel.
He blogs at www.jamedders.com and tweets from @mrmedders. Jeff’s first book, Gospel-Formed: Living a Grace-Addicted, Truth-Filled, Jesus-Exalting Life, is set to release this November from Kregel.
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February 27, 2019
I tweeted recently that, in a year of some great theology titles coming out, there were three books coming out that all Reformed people need to read.
This is one of those books.
This book is beautiful in its intent, focus, simplicity, and application. Early on, Medders rightly states,
I don't normally single out other books in a book review, but there is a book called New Calvinism: New Reformation or Theological Fad? written by some prominent reformed authors. The book deals with the "issue" of the YRR being perceived as cool, hip, and trendy. It's a book that basically screams "It's about more than beer and beards guys. Get to church instead of listening to sermons at coffee houses." To be honest, I have never seen any of the Calvinists that book seems to be written for.
But this book? Humble Calvinism? THIS is the book that should have been written. I know plenty of people, including myself (full stop), that love doctrine but don't let it move us (1) to worship God daily/weekly and (2) move out of love for our fellow brothers/sisters in Christ. The most beautiful part of this book is its practical application of how we use TULIP to love and serve our brothers. These doctrines should lead directly to actions.
I have mentioned on my podcast that the book I give people interested in Calvinism is The Joy Project by Tony Reinke (which I was happy to see quoted in this book). That may change. If nothing else, Humble Calvinism has become the book I will be giving new Calvinists.
Were there any negatives for this book? Not really. Again, the author's purpose is to show how Calvinism should lead to humble worship and service. To do this simply and clearly, he focuses just on the doctrines of TULIP. As a Presbyterian, I want to fight against such a simple focus of Reformed doctrine, but I understand why he has to do it. Again, this is not meant to be an exhaustive study of Reformed doctrine, however it's still a solid study of it. I adore The Joy Project because it shows the emotion and joy of Calvinist theology. I love Humble Calvinism because it shows what the doctrine should produce: humility. It is also gospel-rich, constantly pointing to Christ, as seen in my favorite quote:
I also really enjoyed the quotes he uses for the book. All the quotes are from well-known Reformed books and people but Medders pull quotes from these resources that not often quoted.
Overall, this book is a treasure and a much needed reminder of the goal of Calvinism, as Medders writes:
This book is beautiful in its intent, focus, simplicity, and application. Early on, Medders rightly states,
"Many of us who love to love the “doctrines of grace” have not grown in showing grace. We have not become more gracious, kind, tender, and compassionate. And that can only mean one thing: we actually don’t know the doctrines of grace. Sure, we know the points and can rehearse the arguments ...But an arrogant and argumentative Calvinist is just a Pharisee with a fresh coat of paint."
I don't normally single out other books in a book review, but there is a book called New Calvinism: New Reformation or Theological Fad? written by some prominent reformed authors. The book deals with the "issue" of the YRR being perceived as cool, hip, and trendy. It's a book that basically screams "It's about more than beer and beards guys. Get to church instead of listening to sermons at coffee houses." To be honest, I have never seen any of the Calvinists that book seems to be written for.
But this book? Humble Calvinism? THIS is the book that should have been written. I know plenty of people, including myself (full stop), that love doctrine but don't let it move us (1) to worship God daily/weekly and (2) move out of love for our fellow brothers/sisters in Christ. The most beautiful part of this book is its practical application of how we use TULIP to love and serve our brothers. These doctrines should lead directly to actions.
I have mentioned on my podcast that the book I give people interested in Calvinism is The Joy Project by Tony Reinke (which I was happy to see quoted in this book). That may change. If nothing else, Humble Calvinism has become the book I will be giving new Calvinists.
Were there any negatives for this book? Not really. Again, the author's purpose is to show how Calvinism should lead to humble worship and service. To do this simply and clearly, he focuses just on the doctrines of TULIP. As a Presbyterian, I want to fight against such a simple focus of Reformed doctrine, but I understand why he has to do it. Again, this is not meant to be an exhaustive study of Reformed doctrine, however it's still a solid study of it. I adore The Joy Project because it shows the emotion and joy of Calvinist theology. I love Humble Calvinism because it shows what the doctrine should produce: humility. It is also gospel-rich, constantly pointing to Christ, as seen in my favorite quote:
"The most important five-letter word in Calvinism isn’t TULIP. It’s Jesus."
I also really enjoyed the quotes he uses for the book. All the quotes are from well-known Reformed books and people but Medders pull quotes from these resources that not often quoted.
Overall, this book is a treasure and a much needed reminder of the goal of Calvinism, as Medders writes:
"What matters is not just knowing something, but knowing how to love someone."
August 29, 2023
Written by someone with a kind heart and a clear desire for other Calvinists to abandon any form of “cage stage” and to remember how they came to Christ.
August 16, 2020
This book is EXCELLENT!!! The writing style is so punchy and fresh and all of the amazing truths about God's lavish grace are so accessible. Don't be put off by the title, or who the book is written for, read this book if you love Calvinism, hate Calvinism, don't understand Calvinism, never heard of Calvinism. It will point you to the joys found in the gospel and increase your view of Jesus.
August 30, 2019
Chapter 4 on unconditional election (“The Prequel to Your Faith”) is particularly beautiful. Grateful for this colloquial, convicting little book that packs a punch and makes much of Christ.
September 12, 2022
Many people who become Calvinists tend to end up in what's called the cage stage - where they, in their eagerness to advocate for what they now believe is the truth about scripture...become utterly insufferable jerks (ironically completely contradicting the word of God they claim to believe in). It's not that other conversions don't have it as well (just check twitter) - it's more that the Calvinists tend to be more demonstrative about how they're right and everyone else is wrong (just check twitter...or the ton of blogs Team Calvinist tends to drop about literally anything they can add their two cents to).
I'd know - I had my time in the cage as well.
This book isn't long, but covers all of the bases as to why that is completely contradictory to scripture, and to the Calvinist in the cage...that they need to check themselves (You do realize that those Christians who disagree with you on soteriology are still your siblings in Christ, right? Well act like it then!).
I'll come back to this one from time to time - I found it to be a refreshing read.
I'd know - I had my time in the cage as well.
This book isn't long, but covers all of the bases as to why that is completely contradictory to scripture, and to the Calvinist in the cage...that they need to check themselves (You do realize that those Christians who disagree with you on soteriology are still your siblings in Christ, right? Well act like it then!).
I'll come back to this one from time to time - I found it to be a refreshing read.
July 21, 2024
Inconvenient verses I’ve found while reading my Bible that challenge my view of God and make me lean towards Calvinism even though I wasn't taught it growing up/ I don't fully understand it/ I don't find it easy to accept but that's okay because day by day I am learning that I will never fully understand God. I will however be trusting Him 100% every day even if I'm confused because what else am I supposed to do? I believe He is good. I believe He is just and who am I Maree Helen Brown a weird fleshy breath concoction subsisting on the power of God to live a single moment, to question my maker? Also, I am seeing more and more and more that justice carried out to its logical conclusion would mean we all end up in hell. NO EXCEPTIONS!!👹 so for anyone to be saved is radical unowed, unexpected, and undeserved mercy.
I come to this topic carefully because I am very aware of the potential destruction theological disagreements can cause. My parents were apart of a massive church split in my childhood church of 18 years over this issue. It crushed a bunch of people across the board and is still a tender spot to this day so I don't take this lightly at all.
I'm just a girl trying to read my bible and make sense of it.
(Please be gentle with me I'm a chronic people pleaser, I hate arguments and I'm nervous)
Isaiah 29:10-12
Romans 8:29-30
Romans 9. Specifically verses 10-23
John 6:63-65
Ephesians 1:4-5,11,2:2,2:8-10
Psalms 139:16
Matthew 22:14
2 Corinthians 4:3-4
"The greater God's grace in Jesus becomes to us, the more humble we become."
"A Calvinist should be the most sympathetic person an unbeliever or believer could ever meet. When we see the sinful struggles of our coworkers or family and friends, Total Depravity doesn't teach us to huff and puff in disgust—it warms our heart towards them. We know what it's like to be tripped up and trapped in transgressions. And we know we aren't any better."
Thank you for letting me borrow your cool books Brandon.
I come to this topic carefully because I am very aware of the potential destruction theological disagreements can cause. My parents were apart of a massive church split in my childhood church of 18 years over this issue. It crushed a bunch of people across the board and is still a tender spot to this day so I don't take this lightly at all.
I'm just a girl trying to read my bible and make sense of it.
(Please be gentle with me I'm a chronic people pleaser, I hate arguments and I'm nervous)
Isaiah 29:10-12
Romans 8:29-30
Romans 9. Specifically verses 10-23
John 6:63-65
Ephesians 1:4-5,11,2:2,2:8-10
Psalms 139:16
Matthew 22:14
2 Corinthians 4:3-4
"The greater God's grace in Jesus becomes to us, the more humble we become."
"A Calvinist should be the most sympathetic person an unbeliever or believer could ever meet. When we see the sinful struggles of our coworkers or family and friends, Total Depravity doesn't teach us to huff and puff in disgust—it warms our heart towards them. We know what it's like to be tripped up and trapped in transgressions. And we know we aren't any better."
Thank you for letting me borrow your cool books Brandon.
May 16, 2020
Humble Calvinism is a relatively short, very well constructed overview of the five points of Calvinism, with a distinct focus on how they should cause those of us who subscribe to them to live, act, and evangelise as believers.
Having come to Reformed theology around five years ago, one of the first books I read at that time was John Piper’s Five Points Towards a Deeper Experience of God’s Grace – a book I would highly recommend to this day. Jeff’s book Humble Calvinism reminds me of that volume in its pastoral approach to explaining and applying the five points to the life of the reader.
In his book, Jeff makes it clear what each of the five points of TULIP – an acronym used to summarise Calvinistic theology (Total Depravity, Unconditional Election, Limited Atonement, Irresistible Grace and Perseverance of the Saints) - mean, helping to clarify and alleviate some common misunderstandings.
A huge focus of the book is on humility, and rightly so given some of the more negative aspects of what is, largely, a very positive movement (the Reformed resurgence, characterised early on by the Young, Restless, Reformed crowd). Though I do not consider myself a cage-stage Calvinist by any means, I still found myself being helpfully reminded that true Calvinism is not primarily a ticket to winning theological arguments, rather it is a theological framework that drives us to a deep appreciation and gratitude for the grace of God at work in our lives, for it is God alone who saves sinners, with nothing contributed by us other than the sin (and resulting destruction) from which we are saved.
As Jeff says in the book, “Humble Calvinism is no oxymoron.” Rightly understood, Calvinism leads to humility, graciousness and thanksgiving. It motivates us to be missional, while trusting God at all times with the outcome and it focuses us on God, rather than ourselves.
On the back cover, Jeff writes that he thinks “Calvinism’s biggest problem is Calvinists like me.” and “If you’re Reformed and think you don’t need this book… you likely do.” I think, after reading, that the type of Calvinist Jeff is seeking to be and exhorting the reader to be is a very true and good type of Calvinist, and I agree – if you love the truths of the Reformed faith and think you’re beyond this book for some reason… please stop and read it! It’s well worth heeding the important reminders therein.
Approachable in its style (somewhat Jared Wilson-esque in style at times, to be honest) and important in its message, this is definitely a book to read if you are a Calvinist. If you’re an Arminian, I’d still encourage you to take a step over the theological fence and read this book too! Christians on both sides would do well to have a firm understanding of true Calvinism, which also happens to be ‘humble Calvinism’.
Having come to Reformed theology around five years ago, one of the first books I read at that time was John Piper’s Five Points Towards a Deeper Experience of God’s Grace – a book I would highly recommend to this day. Jeff’s book Humble Calvinism reminds me of that volume in its pastoral approach to explaining and applying the five points to the life of the reader.
In his book, Jeff makes it clear what each of the five points of TULIP – an acronym used to summarise Calvinistic theology (Total Depravity, Unconditional Election, Limited Atonement, Irresistible Grace and Perseverance of the Saints) - mean, helping to clarify and alleviate some common misunderstandings.
A huge focus of the book is on humility, and rightly so given some of the more negative aspects of what is, largely, a very positive movement (the Reformed resurgence, characterised early on by the Young, Restless, Reformed crowd). Though I do not consider myself a cage-stage Calvinist by any means, I still found myself being helpfully reminded that true Calvinism is not primarily a ticket to winning theological arguments, rather it is a theological framework that drives us to a deep appreciation and gratitude for the grace of God at work in our lives, for it is God alone who saves sinners, with nothing contributed by us other than the sin (and resulting destruction) from which we are saved.
As Jeff says in the book, “Humble Calvinism is no oxymoron.” Rightly understood, Calvinism leads to humility, graciousness and thanksgiving. It motivates us to be missional, while trusting God at all times with the outcome and it focuses us on God, rather than ourselves.
On the back cover, Jeff writes that he thinks “Calvinism’s biggest problem is Calvinists like me.” and “If you’re Reformed and think you don’t need this book… you likely do.” I think, after reading, that the type of Calvinist Jeff is seeking to be and exhorting the reader to be is a very true and good type of Calvinist, and I agree – if you love the truths of the Reformed faith and think you’re beyond this book for some reason… please stop and read it! It’s well worth heeding the important reminders therein.
Approachable in its style (somewhat Jared Wilson-esque in style at times, to be honest) and important in its message, this is definitely a book to read if you are a Calvinist. If you’re an Arminian, I’d still encourage you to take a step over the theological fence and read this book too! Christians on both sides would do well to have a firm understanding of true Calvinism, which also happens to be ‘humble Calvinism’.
February 13, 2024
I wouldn't label myself a Calvinist (yet), but I agree with at least 4 of the 5 points of TULIP and see them in the Bible. I was drawn to this book not only to learn more about Calvinism, but also for its focus on humility. This book is broken into two major ideas: defining Calvinism and the importance of switching the focus from doctrinal conflict to truly living out the message of the gospel.
I want to get myself a physical copy of this book to reread and take notes (and foresee bumping my rating up to five stars) because I so enjoyed the succinct description of TULIP throughout the chapters. (TULIP=total depravity, unconditional election, limited atonement, irresistible grace, and perseverance of the saints)
I appreciated the honesty of the author in regard to his past attitudes and lack of grace, as well as in his own struggle with sin. Since a major aim of this book is to address the stereotypical unreasonable arrogant and righteousness of Calvinists, I thought it was valuable for the author to call out those behaviors in his own past behaviors and actions. I respected his humility in questioning whether he was worshipping the theology he ascribed to over God Himself- I think we could all be inspired to ask ourselves this question at some point in our lives.
"Don't believe in something because it makes sense. You should believe it if you see it in the Scriptures"
Format: Audiobook via Hoopla
Rating: 4 stars
Book 27 of 2024
January 31, 2024
“We persevere as saints, and with the saints. And we do so confidently and humbly, for from womb to tomb - from the lambs book of life to the marriage supper of the lamb - we are in God’s hands. And he never lets go.”
September 24, 2024
Great book. My one’s cover looks so cool so if we are judging on cover alone, my rating stands.
I’ve battled with the ideas presented by Calvinists and Arminians for the last decade or so (on and mostly off). I loved a good argument when i was younger but often felt pretty negatively towards Calvinism because of that style of “discussion.” It came across as cold and negative for all the usual reasons.
I also have a bit of beef with the term “Calvinist” or “Arminian” cause I just think if we are all Christian, isn’t that all the labels we need? (Roast me if that is dumb).
However, this is an excellent book which not only sums up but presents the ideas of John Calvin so clearly, and of course, so humbly. Big fan.
There are approximately 59 quotes I would love to include here, but I’ll settle for one;
“The most important five-letter word in Calvinism isn't TULIP. It's Jesus. He has first place in everything (Colossians 1 v 18). The whole Bible is about him (John 5 v 39). The apostle Paul tells us again and again that our swagger must go and we are to boast only in the Lord. "So let the one who boasts, boast in the Lord" (2 Corinthians 10 v 17). If we are going to toot a horn, there's one note we have: "But as for me, I will never boast about anything except the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ" (Galatians 6 v 14). Christ is our confidence. Christ is our cause. Christ is our song.”
This was a Jolene Jones recommendation. Thanks big dawg🦵🏾
I’ve battled with the ideas presented by Calvinists and Arminians for the last decade or so (on and mostly off). I loved a good argument when i was younger but often felt pretty negatively towards Calvinism because of that style of “discussion.” It came across as cold and negative for all the usual reasons.
I also have a bit of beef with the term “Calvinist” or “Arminian” cause I just think if we are all Christian, isn’t that all the labels we need? (Roast me if that is dumb).
However, this is an excellent book which not only sums up but presents the ideas of John Calvin so clearly, and of course, so humbly. Big fan.
There are approximately 59 quotes I would love to include here, but I’ll settle for one;
“The most important five-letter word in Calvinism isn't TULIP. It's Jesus. He has first place in everything (Colossians 1 v 18). The whole Bible is about him (John 5 v 39). The apostle Paul tells us again and again that our swagger must go and we are to boast only in the Lord. "So let the one who boasts, boast in the Lord" (2 Corinthians 10 v 17). If we are going to toot a horn, there's one note we have: "But as for me, I will never boast about anything except the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ" (Galatians 6 v 14). Christ is our confidence. Christ is our cause. Christ is our song.”
This was a Jolene Jones recommendation. Thanks big dawg🦵🏾
February 19, 2019
Humble Calvinism is a call for all Calvinist to bow down to humility. As believers of the doctrine of grace, we have the tendency to puff ourselves in front of Arminians and sadly to unbelievers. Rather that have that attitude and because we have the biblical truth, we must clothe ourselves with utmost humility that the God of the doctrine of grace may magnified through a holy attitude. Medder’s didn’t have to take the readers any where else to see humility. He points them to the 5 points of Calvinism itself as the basis of such attitude. The 5 points screams meekness for the believers and Medders gladly discusses it in every chapter. You can feel that every points or TULIP acrostics pounds you back to earth and makes you gaze up to look upon God’s goodness.
In the introduction and initial chapter are fast paced as it sets up the case of humility for the Calvinist. Medders shows his witty writings. However, it slows down a bit as Medders unpacks the 5 points. Medders is on serious mode in the following chapters but not that heavy or dark. Just light seriousness not a thundering one. Very different from the other books he authored.
Nevertheless, J. A. Medders is such a wordsmith that he nails every points at the same time ignites your mind of the readers. The opening chapter already grabs our attention. He is an effective communicator that you should not let him escape from your radar. In Humble Calvinism, he really did a fine job getting those words that sometimes are hard for us to come up with. His reservoir of words spills out from these pages and makes you wait to flood to the next book he’ll be writing. In Humble Calvinism, you can pick up lots of one liners in the book that you can post on your social media that will strike your friends. Those one liners are gems found in a treasure chest of a book like this.
This book reminds me of Killing Calvinism by Greg Dutcher and Graciousness by John Crotts. I would like to add in the mix Joshua Harris, Humble Orthodoxy. All books are faithful reminder that we should lay down our arrogance and handle the doctrine with care. Each books have their own way and time on conveying the cage stage problem.
Isn’t a coincidence that this book will be released this year as we celebrate the 400th year of the Synod of Dort and 10th year of the “Young, Restless and Reformed” movement? Let it be a constant reminder that in any time in history, Christian should be reminded of the grace of God that saved us sinners. Humble Calvinism is an antidote for the cage stage and a refreshing water to the dreary Christians who are tired of seeing Calvinism as a dry, lifeless slab of stone but a living, active energy that is contagious.
Pre-order the book on Amazon or add it to your wish list by clicking this link:
https://amzn.to/2LfH2CV
Also check out some awesome quotes from the book by following this link:
https://delightinggrace.wordpress.com...
My verdict:
4.5 out of 5
In the introduction and initial chapter are fast paced as it sets up the case of humility for the Calvinist. Medders shows his witty writings. However, it slows down a bit as Medders unpacks the 5 points. Medders is on serious mode in the following chapters but not that heavy or dark. Just light seriousness not a thundering one. Very different from the other books he authored.
Nevertheless, J. A. Medders is such a wordsmith that he nails every points at the same time ignites your mind of the readers. The opening chapter already grabs our attention. He is an effective communicator that you should not let him escape from your radar. In Humble Calvinism, he really did a fine job getting those words that sometimes are hard for us to come up with. His reservoir of words spills out from these pages and makes you wait to flood to the next book he’ll be writing. In Humble Calvinism, you can pick up lots of one liners in the book that you can post on your social media that will strike your friends. Those one liners are gems found in a treasure chest of a book like this.
This book reminds me of Killing Calvinism by Greg Dutcher and Graciousness by John Crotts. I would like to add in the mix Joshua Harris, Humble Orthodoxy. All books are faithful reminder that we should lay down our arrogance and handle the doctrine with care. Each books have their own way and time on conveying the cage stage problem.
Isn’t a coincidence that this book will be released this year as we celebrate the 400th year of the Synod of Dort and 10th year of the “Young, Restless and Reformed” movement? Let it be a constant reminder that in any time in history, Christian should be reminded of the grace of God that saved us sinners. Humble Calvinism is an antidote for the cage stage and a refreshing water to the dreary Christians who are tired of seeing Calvinism as a dry, lifeless slab of stone but a living, active energy that is contagious.
Pre-order the book on Amazon or add it to your wish list by clicking this link:
https://amzn.to/2LfH2CV
Also check out some awesome quotes from the book by following this link:
https://delightinggrace.wordpress.com...
My verdict:
4.5 out of 5
May 20, 2021
I’m still processing this one, so I’m not sure how best to review it. On the one hand, I find myself wondering what I’m seeing in other reviews: it’s unclear who the audience is. I don’t think it will convince any non-Calvinists of the doctrines of grace, especially those who have been burned by arrogant Calvinists. It seems more likely to provide them with more ammunition. (“Yes! This is why I’m not a Calvinist, because they’re all so condescending!”) And for the Calvinists, I think Medders deals somewhat in caricatures. We can all think of the Calvinist Internet trolls, but then again, the Internet turns a lot of people into trolls. As I started the book, I thought, “Most—if not all—of the Calvinists I know don’t fit into these stereotypes.”
An example: Medders likens arrogant Calvinists to the praying Pharisee, saying loudly, “God, I thank you that I am not like this [Arminian] man!” But I don’t know, it’s been my experience that Calvinists tend to ride the hyper-tax-collector train. The Calvinists I know actually take pride in how well they can beat their breasts and call themselves sinners.
But, the book still rings true in my life, as just the other day, I had an opportunity to be a humble Calvinist and I chose to be condescending. I responded to someone I care about (who is decidedly not a Calvinist) in a way that certainly communicated my disapproval of Christians who believe we can “pray the rain away.” I could have lovingly chosen to explain why the Bible teaches that we cannot control the weather with our prayers, but I chose instead to dismiss any opinion other than mine. I had to ask for that person’s forgiveness.
So, all that to say, this one gets four stars because it’s true, haha.
Also, I thoroughly enjoyed his chapter on Limited Atonement. Solidly theological and a great explanation of how practical the doctrine should be in our lives.
An example: Medders likens arrogant Calvinists to the praying Pharisee, saying loudly, “God, I thank you that I am not like this [Arminian] man!” But I don’t know, it’s been my experience that Calvinists tend to ride the hyper-tax-collector train. The Calvinists I know actually take pride in how well they can beat their breasts and call themselves sinners.
But, the book still rings true in my life, as just the other day, I had an opportunity to be a humble Calvinist and I chose to be condescending. I responded to someone I care about (who is decidedly not a Calvinist) in a way that certainly communicated my disapproval of Christians who believe we can “pray the rain away.” I could have lovingly chosen to explain why the Bible teaches that we cannot control the weather with our prayers, but I chose instead to dismiss any opinion other than mine. I had to ask for that person’s forgiveness.
So, all that to say, this one gets four stars because it’s true, haha.
Also, I thoroughly enjoyed his chapter on Limited Atonement. Solidly theological and a great explanation of how practical the doctrine should be in our lives.
March 20, 2023
This book rocks. Medders places his thumb on a problem that ~seems~ to have arisen in the 21st century popular resurgence of reformed theology (but has realistically existed for generations) and he presses. Not so much to hurt or wound, but enough to make it felt and hopefully prod towards more humility, more unity, and the living out of our theology. Some favorite quotes:
“Glorious theology, conveyed through an immature personality, ends up seeming inglorious and even distasteful.”
“As far as I can tell, God didn’t elect us to go punch holes in the theology of our brothers and sisters.”
“Those whose hearts have been broadened by the doctrines of grace should no longer be cranky and cynical. No, we should be some of the largest-smiling, most-welcoming, joy-spreading people anyone could ever meet.”
“Glorious theology, conveyed through an immature personality, ends up seeming inglorious and even distasteful.”
“As far as I can tell, God didn’t elect us to go punch holes in the theology of our brothers and sisters.”
“Those whose hearts have been broadened by the doctrines of grace should no longer be cranky and cynical. No, we should be some of the largest-smiling, most-welcoming, joy-spreading people anyone could ever meet.”
December 6, 2025
This is a great book. Medder's point is that Calvinism should be leading us into humble, Christ-exalting, God-worshipping lives of service and laying our lives down for others, and if it isn't, we haven't really grasped the theological realities of it. As a Calvinist for over a decade, I wholeheartedly agree with everything in this book. I've seen a lot of proud Calvinists, and I've been one, and I agree with the diagnosis that proud Calvinists haven't understood Calvinism. Proud Calvinism drives people away in disgust, while humble Calvinism encourages people to draw near to hear the Gospel.
December 16, 2023
This will go down as one of my favorite non fiction books of all time. A must read.
“We all lose our grip from time to time. But our Father's grip is greater than ours. If you are in Christ, you will always be in Christ. No sin can separate you from Christ. Jesus already paid for it. Humble Calvinism rests and rejoices in the hands of God. No anxious panic. No arrogant pride.
No complacency, either. We persevere as saints, and with the saints. And we do so confidently and humbly, for from womb to tomb- -from the Lamb's book of life to the marriage supper of the Lamb--we are in God's hands.
And he never lets go.”
“We all lose our grip from time to time. But our Father's grip is greater than ours. If you are in Christ, you will always be in Christ. No sin can separate you from Christ. Jesus already paid for it. Humble Calvinism rests and rejoices in the hands of God. No anxious panic. No arrogant pride.
No complacency, either. We persevere as saints, and with the saints. And we do so confidently and humbly, for from womb to tomb- -from the Lamb's book of life to the marriage supper of the Lamb--we are in God's hands.
And he never lets go.”
July 2, 2019
Excellent
June 23, 2025
Helpful little book on how the doctrines of grace should create humility. I found some of his illustrations worth reading the book.
November 11, 2019
A well-written and Christ-exalting plea to not be a theologically-grounded jerk. I needed to hear this book's message and I need the Lord's help to change me in a couple of areas.
(PS: Medders can write--he should host a podcast on writing or something!)
(PS: Medders can write--he should host a podcast on writing or something!)
November 25, 2021
fellow cage-stagers will benefit
July 5, 2025
This was a goodie! Personally, I am pretty calvinistic and at times struggle with pride. Though the two are less intertwined nowadays, I certainly had my seasons of theological haughtiness, so this book was refining and convicting of both present and past behaviors and tendencies.
The book itself consisted of an introduction and conclusion on either side of 5 chapters focusing on each of the 5 points of Calvinism, and how each ought to lead to humility and charity on the part of the Calvinist.
Overall it was really well articulated. I couldn’t agree more with the book’s broad assertion that we must not idolize a theological framework at the expense of worshiping the one whom it is meant to describe. I’ve swam in some weird waters where more people could build a biblical defense for limited atonement than could tell you the order of Saul, David, and Solomon, so the author’s case seems valid.
Minus one star because this was a short book and still contained some fluff. Maybe that makes it more readable for some, but to me, I felt like it couldve just been a long essay.
The book itself consisted of an introduction and conclusion on either side of 5 chapters focusing on each of the 5 points of Calvinism, and how each ought to lead to humility and charity on the part of the Calvinist.
Overall it was really well articulated. I couldn’t agree more with the book’s broad assertion that we must not idolize a theological framework at the expense of worshiping the one whom it is meant to describe. I’ve swam in some weird waters where more people could build a biblical defense for limited atonement than could tell you the order of Saul, David, and Solomon, so the author’s case seems valid.
Minus one star because this was a short book and still contained some fluff. Maybe that makes it more readable for some, but to me, I felt like it couldve just been a long essay.
April 29, 2025
This book has been one of the most influential books to my faith that I’ve ever read. I read a good majority of the book a few years ago, and the content of it was very convicting. This book helped guide me from a calvinist to a christian. I decided to go back and read all of it, and it did not disappoint. This book lays out a good framework of how we are to live as christians, and helps break the gap between only arrogantly loving God in our mind vs joyfully loving God in our hearts.
This book is supposed to be written for all people, but I believe that it is better suited calvinist or more mature christians. As someone who subscribes to the beliefs of calvinism this book was very beneficial to me. If you have never heard of calvinism or studied reformed theology, this book could be confusing and difficult to fully understand. Although the book has sections that introduce and explain calvinism, I think there are better resources to be used to get the best understanding.
This book is supposed to be written for all people, but I believe that it is better suited calvinist or more mature christians. As someone who subscribes to the beliefs of calvinism this book was very beneficial to me. If you have never heard of calvinism or studied reformed theology, this book could be confusing and difficult to fully understand. Although the book has sections that introduce and explain calvinism, I think there are better resources to be used to get the best understanding.
August 1, 2023
This book addresses the 5 points of Calvinism and their connection to humility well. The author makes a couple claims that I believe to be false, though they are smaller statements. The framing chapters before the five points is a bit overdone on the “Geez, Calvinists are the worst.” The poor beginning is redeemed in part by the main content on the five points.
Overarching note on the book is that I strongly dislike many of the areas where he talks about being a good Calvinist or that this idea is why a Calvinist is to be joyful. I’ve come recently to find the “I’m a Calvinist” claim to smack too much of the I’m of Paul or I’m of Apollos in 1 Corinthians 3. So that kept grating on me throughout the book.
Overarching note on the book is that I strongly dislike many of the areas where he talks about being a good Calvinist or that this idea is why a Calvinist is to be joyful. I’ve come recently to find the “I’m a Calvinist” claim to smack too much of the I’m of Paul or I’m of Apollos in 1 Corinthians 3. So that kept grating on me throughout the book.
May 26, 2023
After years of wrestling with Calvinism I read this book looking for clarity on this doctrine. The author writes using simple language and is engaging. You almost feel you are sitting at coffee having a conversation with him. I am still not a TULIP believer but I like this guy. The title of this book appealed to me because my experience has been with anything but humble Calvinists. More like Calvinists who have left heartache and confusion in their wake. I like how the author ends this book…a quote from John Calvin himself and words of his own. “ “Outside Christ there is nothing worth knowing.” Rejoice in the Lord always. Jesus over doctrine. Jesus because of doctrine. Jesus always. Christ is the center and cause of our knowing, living and rejoicing.”
May 3, 2021
I flew through this book. Honestly, the writing style was a little elementary and I think this is a disadvantage. It feels more directed toward teenage Calvinists rather than the seasoned saint who happens to also be a huge ass. (No offense, but can’t really think of a better word to describe this reality.)
A cage stager can be an older adult and as we well known those who find themselves under a Calvinist umbrella probably already have a propensity to haughty prideful nasty behavior. The language in this book is so elementary and one too many dad jokes that I fear many would toss it aside because they’d view it as childlike.
That does not mean I disliked the book. I needed this book ten years ago, trust me, I really needed it.
I’ve been sanctified a great deal throughout my “Calvinist years” and no longer get my feathers ruffled by differing opinions. Frankly, it doesn’t bother me at all. But, I needed a dose of this book (still do, but in different ways)
I do think all calvinists should read this book, will they? That’s another question and ultimately where I believed the book failed with targeting its intended audience.
A cage stager can be an older adult and as we well known those who find themselves under a Calvinist umbrella probably already have a propensity to haughty prideful nasty behavior. The language in this book is so elementary and one too many dad jokes that I fear many would toss it aside because they’d view it as childlike.
That does not mean I disliked the book. I needed this book ten years ago, trust me, I really needed it.
I’ve been sanctified a great deal throughout my “Calvinist years” and no longer get my feathers ruffled by differing opinions. Frankly, it doesn’t bother me at all. But, I needed a dose of this book (still do, but in different ways)
I do think all calvinists should read this book, will they? That’s another question and ultimately where I believed the book failed with targeting its intended audience.
May 27, 2023
While I do not agree with how he got to his conclusions I agreed with his conclusions. Medders spends this book breaking down the five points of Calvinism and showing what they mean when they are truly applied to one's heart. Powerful book showing that while Christians may have some theological differences as long as they are trying to seek after Jesus and follow Him there is no reason to break fellowship. We Christians have one common goal and the same Lord and we need to be united with each other not be divided over our differences.
February 7, 2020
I quite enjoyed this. It unpacks the five key Calvinist convictions (TULIP) and demonstrates that they should rightly lead to humility and love, not pride and arrogance. I'm totally with this - but I'm unsure as to whether the book will communicate that to those who need it most. It's a little thin doctrinally and therefore won't persuade those who need persuading. And those who are less familiar with Calvinism might wonder what the fuss is all about.
June 3, 2025
This book was very helpful to me. As someone who grew up with Arminian theology and has since embraced Reformed beliefs, I often find myself struggling in Reformed circles due to the disconnect between theological concepts and their practical application in everyday life. This book addresses the pride that can be prevalent in Calvinistic environments and has helped me clarify my thoughts on how to express my concerns without dismissing the entire theological framework.
October 20, 2022
I listened to the audiobook of this one. I really loved how he took the five points of Calvinism and contrasted head knowledge and heart knowledge of each point. It was convicting, and I see how far I have to go.
January 5, 2024
This book is great! Very scriptural and well written. It’s a much needed reminder to Calvinists not to be prideful or hypocritical because their doctrine is actually a humbling and grace filled doctrine.
May 6, 2024
This was a wonderful book, I loved how simple it was without taking away from the bigness of the topic. Medders did a wonderful job in explaining every petal of TULIP in a way that anyone can understand and see. Highly recommend this book to anyone wanting to better understand Calvinism or even just to get a refresher.
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