AMAZING! INSIGHTFUL! HOPEFUL! AUTHENTIC! HONEST!
RELEASE DATE: August 20, 2019
So, this is my second attempt to praise this very noteworthy look into the emotional, physical and psychological issues surrounding mental illness. Though it is fictional, it is a very realistic and thorough appraisal of living this this illness. The story and captured the essence of the challenges that those who have a depressive, psychological condition and the controversy that results from a failure by society to understand or comprehend the impact it has on the person, who struggles with such conditions. It doesn't pick and choose which issues to consider, it looks at a number of aspects of mental health and also its very real impact it has on those who have a loved one or friend with this condition. I found it to be a fair and honest portrayal. The author's delivery is quite balanced in her approach.
Though a tale of fiction, this story really came across as very real. Wren is in her later 20's and finds her job as a support person to battered women and children overwhelming. She no longer feels that she is competent to truly be an ally and fears that her weakness would cause her to overlook a serious issue, causing further harm to her clients at a safe house. As she spirals downward, she is no longer able to work, we see her one day at work and the next moment she is an inpatient at the hospital. It is as though she wasn't the one checking herself in, such is the level of her being disconnected to reality! Dealing with other patients is a big challenge as well, they seem so "nuts", extreme to her but as she stabilizes upon reinstating her medication regime, she reassesses these others as being no different than herself. They are struggling too, traveling a similar journey. They only express their pain a bit differently.
After discharge, Wren begins to slowly rely on three key people, Hannah, Kit and Jamie. Hannah is her pastor, whom she meets in hospital, when she requests a visit from her church. Kit is her great aunt, whom she resides with after discharge having to give up career and apartment. Kit has also had major depressive episodes requiring hospitalization. And Wren's Mom, Jamie, who loves Wren deeply but has difficulty providing healthy support to her daughter. Each demonstrates behaviors that create a feeling of emotional and spiritual support. There are examples within the story of those who pull away from Wren causing her to feel rejected and less valued, she suffers initially feeling less worthwhile as a result. Even most painful is when her bestfriend, Casey returns to her life and becomes very manipulative and cruel. Wren wants to help Casey in his situation, however, to do is a detriment to her own well-being. Ultimately, her refusal to meet all his needs, results in emotional trauma for them both.
I love how Kit is Wren's foil. Kit has found hope and healing through a deeper pursuit in her spiritual walk. As Kit models peaceful acceptance to the pain she experiences, Wren begins to seek a means to incorporate peace and acceptance in her life. She does so by exploring Vincent Van Gogh's art work and his letters to others, particularly his beloved Brother Theo. The author, Ms. Garlough Brown intersperses these concepts so effortlessly into the story that I learned a great deal. Only hearing that Van Gogh had served ministry and that his depression led him to commit suicide (or is this even true!), I never considered there might be so much more to his life experience. The story challenges us to see his struggles in his paintings and self-awareness. I love how Wren used his examples to find expression for her own inner struggle. One passage in Van Gogh's writing really stood out to Wren and to me, calling others with similar affliction, "Companions in Suffering".
Garlough Brown also touches on those in society, who find mental illness merely an agent to garner attention and an escape from responsibility or even a means to cover laziness. Ouch! I have journeyed a similar path as Wren. I have had family, friends and church members (including pastors) express these "concerns" to me. Its impact caused such harm that I was plunged deeper into the dark morass, one particular incident had me seriously visit suicide as an option. Words are powerful and as Wren learns, we must not trust in man's evaluations of us but rather when we rely on how we are defined in Christ. Then applying these to see our true self.
The essence of falling in to what I call "the abyss" is captured better than I have seen in fiction, thus far. When I reflect on autobiographies, I have also seen myself. However, since none of us share the exact same experiences, we may only connect in part. Her holistic approach makes Wren more approachable and real. Ms. Garlough Brown's research and creation of a character composite may resonate more to some people, than a memoir, as it did me. She also explores anxiety that was very true of my own experiences. I identified with the racing thoughts, the bodily functions reacting intensely and extreme of thinking that death was approaching. I share this not to be dramatic but for those who have this "bonus" experience with their depression.
Likewise, there is a character that suffers with bi-polar disorder. Though the disorder is not plunged with any depth, it is handled sensitively and respectfully. As a person, who has listened to others in depression support groups/mental health forums, I have wept as those with bi-polar conditions have shared their challenges. A true example to me that though no one has the same experience, nor can anyone conclude that their hellish experience is the worst by far.
I admire and thank Sharon Garlough Brown! She has tackled a controversial topic that is still bound by half truths and no truths (very few suffering are psychotic killers, a popular genre among horror and mystery readers). Although, she addresses the more common experiences, all is handled with grace and mercy and very realistically. It resounds as authentic and I had wondered if the story was loosely based on her own experience or someone she loves. In her acknowledgments, she shares her extensive research with those who living with mental health conditions, and no doubt her years of being a pastor have added these insights. Regardless, it is a gem.
My hope is that those who do live with mental health issues will find solace as I did in reading this. This is a copy, I will surely read again, particularly the passages that I highlighted that demonstrated great insights. About to be released, this is a copy to share with a loved one that "doesn't get it" or may not have the tools to be the support they wish to be. This is a book to buy and cherish because of its uniqueness, its grace, and its mercy.
Though I could go on and on in my praise and appreciation, I will leave it to discover the treasure that lies between the covers.
I thank Sharon Garlough Brown, InterVarsity Press and Goodreads for providing me a copy of this book to read in exchange for my honest opinion. I am honored.