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The Cunnilinguist: How To Give And Receive Great Oral Sex: Top tips from both ends of the tongue
Going down. Eating out. Rug-munching. Speaking in tongues. No matter what you call cunnilingus, talking about it is sometimes uncomfortable and awkward-Until now.
The Cunnilinguist is a refreshingly modern guide to oral sex with a sense of humor. Written by a woman with experience at both ends of the tongue, this guide will build your confidence in giving-or receiving-oral sex.
How to Give and Receive Great Oral SexDid you know that lesbians report more orgasms than straight women and receiving oral sex can double a woman's chance of orgasm? Those are two findings from a large research study into the differences in orgasm frequency among gay, lesbian, bisexual, and heterosexual men and women. However, fear not; The Cunnilinguist has you covered.
In #TheCunnilinguist...You'll learn tested tips, tricks and techniques that any giver or receiver can try. The Cunnilinguist: How To Give And Receive Great Oral Sex has insights and tips for readers from beginner to advanced, single to married, and regardless of gender or sexual orientation.
You'll learn tips about how to:
Find and use pleasure points
Move from foreplay to oral sex
Overcome fears and insecurities
Make sex safe, hygienic and fun
You'll learn next-level tips on how to:
Change up your positions
Use fingers, vibrators and dildos
Incorporate roleplay or power play
Spark intimacy before, during and after oral sex
And you'll learn what not to do!
The Cunnilinguist includes the latest scientific research alongside firsthand advice from a woman with experience on both ends of the tongue.
Edited and Foreword by sexuality educator Susan Harper, PhDSelected excerpts below:
What this book has turned out to be is even more exciting that I had ever hoped. Working closely with Alex to craft a guidebook that could be used by anyone who wants to learn to give or receive good cunnilingus, regardless of gender, has been an adventure. I especially loved that this book focuses on the experience of oral sex for both the giver and the receiver.
I love that with The Cunnilinguist, Alex has chosen to open up the discussion to anyone who wants to give oral sex to someone with a vulva, and anyone with a vulva who wants to receive. There's such a need for writing about sex that recognizes trans, nonbinary, and intersex people, and I think this book does an elegant (and fun) job of broadening the conversation beyond cisgender bodies.
The Cunnilinguist is the kind of book I wish I'd had available to my Sociology of Sexuality students. It manages to be both informative and well-researched while also being a fun, irreverent frolic. The description of the vaginal / vulvar / clitoral anatomy is worth the cover price alone, given how many people who possess these structures don't know what they're called or how they work.
This refreshingly modern guide takes the business of giving and receiving pleasure seriously, but never takes itself too seriously. It's full of orgasm-inducing tips and techniques for both giver and receiver, presented with equal doses of good humor and practical, usable information.
-Susan Harper PhD
The Ultimate Gift for Your Lover?Could this be the ultimate gift? Christmas, birthday or any-day gift? Man, woman, transgender; bisexual, straight, fluid; single, dating, married; polyamorous or monogamous. Regardless of gender, sexuality, relationship status or anything else, if you're someone who would like to improve your experience of giving or (and?!) receiving cunnilingus this "refreshingly modern guide" on how to please, pleasure or be pleased might just be the gift you're looking for. Enjoy!: ) #TheCunnilinguist
The Cunnilinguist is a refreshingly modern guide to oral sex with a sense of humor. Written by a woman with experience at both ends of the tongue, this guide will build your confidence in giving-or receiving-oral sex.
How to Give and Receive Great Oral SexDid you know that lesbians report more orgasms than straight women and receiving oral sex can double a woman's chance of orgasm? Those are two findings from a large research study into the differences in orgasm frequency among gay, lesbian, bisexual, and heterosexual men and women. However, fear not; The Cunnilinguist has you covered.
In #TheCunnilinguist...You'll learn tested tips, tricks and techniques that any giver or receiver can try. The Cunnilinguist: How To Give And Receive Great Oral Sex has insights and tips for readers from beginner to advanced, single to married, and regardless of gender or sexual orientation.
You'll learn tips about how to:
Find and use pleasure points
Move from foreplay to oral sex
Overcome fears and insecurities
Make sex safe, hygienic and fun
You'll learn next-level tips on how to:
Change up your positions
Use fingers, vibrators and dildos
Incorporate roleplay or power play
Spark intimacy before, during and after oral sex
And you'll learn what not to do!
The Cunnilinguist includes the latest scientific research alongside firsthand advice from a woman with experience on both ends of the tongue.
Edited and Foreword by sexuality educator Susan Harper, PhDSelected excerpts below:
What this book has turned out to be is even more exciting that I had ever hoped. Working closely with Alex to craft a guidebook that could be used by anyone who wants to learn to give or receive good cunnilingus, regardless of gender, has been an adventure. I especially loved that this book focuses on the experience of oral sex for both the giver and the receiver.
I love that with The Cunnilinguist, Alex has chosen to open up the discussion to anyone who wants to give oral sex to someone with a vulva, and anyone with a vulva who wants to receive. There's such a need for writing about sex that recognizes trans, nonbinary, and intersex people, and I think this book does an elegant (and fun) job of broadening the conversation beyond cisgender bodies.
The Cunnilinguist is the kind of book I wish I'd had available to my Sociology of Sexuality students. It manages to be both informative and well-researched while also being a fun, irreverent frolic. The description of the vaginal / vulvar / clitoral anatomy is worth the cover price alone, given how many people who possess these structures don't know what they're called or how they work.
This refreshingly modern guide takes the business of giving and receiving pleasure seriously, but never takes itself too seriously. It's full of orgasm-inducing tips and techniques for both giver and receiver, presented with equal doses of good humor and practical, usable information.
-Susan Harper PhD
The Ultimate Gift for Your Lover?Could this be the ultimate gift? Christmas, birthday or any-day gift? Man, woman, transgender; bisexual, straight, fluid; single, dating, married; polyamorous or monogamous. Regardless of gender, sexuality, relationship status or anything else, if you're someone who would like to improve your experience of giving or (and?!) receiving cunnilingus this "refreshingly modern guide" on how to please, pleasure or be pleased might just be the gift you're looking for. Enjoy!: ) #TheCunnilinguist
273 pages, Paperback
First published February 1, 2019
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February 11, 2019
First of all a good advice: If you are a shy person don't start reading it.
The Cunnilinguist is a book that describes the "how to" of oral sex, but since the book's title sounds very juicy it is not all about sex. I really loved the detailed information about hygiene and safety, I think it is almost as important as the intercourse itself.
In the second half of book as the author is "going deeper" we could read all of the important aspects of "the business". No, the sex is only a small part of it, kissing, dirty talk and the whole foreplay is essentially part of the play. The end experience higly depends on these small steps. Finally, we can read about positions, situations and the whole experience without taboos.
Overall, I really loved the effortless style of the author, it made the whole book so enjoyable.
The Cunnilinguist is a book that describes the "how to" of oral sex, but since the book's title sounds very juicy it is not all about sex. I really loved the detailed information about hygiene and safety, I think it is almost as important as the intercourse itself.
In the second half of book as the author is "going deeper" we could read all of the important aspects of "the business". No, the sex is only a small part of it, kissing, dirty talk and the whole foreplay is essentially part of the play. The end experience higly depends on these small steps. Finally, we can read about positions, situations and the whole experience without taboos.
Overall, I really loved the effortless style of the author, it made the whole book so enjoyable.
May 1, 2019
I confess, what first got me to read/listen to this book was curiosity. The subject being one that it's usually only talked about in whispers or jokes.
I have to say that this book felt like it was written mostly for lesbians or female couples. With a reference for males here and there. I'm neither gay or male, but it was still interesting.
This book is a collection of facts, biology and personal experience. The authors intersects facts with her own anecdotes and creates a feel of balance and intimate conversation.
This is not a how to guide, it's more of a journey thru relationship, than a "touch this, lick that" manual. Although that is also in the book, but it is mingled with all the rest.
(received this book as a gift and review is honest and unbiased)
I have to say that this book felt like it was written mostly for lesbians or female couples. With a reference for males here and there. I'm neither gay or male, but it was still interesting.
This book is a collection of facts, biology and personal experience. The authors intersects facts with her own anecdotes and creates a feel of balance and intimate conversation.
This is not a how to guide, it's more of a journey thru relationship, than a "touch this, lick that" manual. Although that is also in the book, but it is mingled with all the rest.
(received this book as a gift and review is honest and unbiased)
February 8, 2019
Authors who write about sexuality still has a hard time today. Our world is still not as open as we suspect, but every time I found a book like The Cunnilinguist the hope arises. Yes, we need to talk about sex, maybe not in front of everyone but in front of each other.
I really enjoyed reading this book, it is well structured, every chapter has its own subject and easy to follow.
It's not my first book in sexuality and not my last one. Every topic from foreplay to roleplay has well written, sometimes I would have expected more tips and tricks.
Summary: Easy to read and academic at the same time, if you are open-minded it is a good book to read, but only for adults!
I really enjoyed reading this book, it is well structured, every chapter has its own subject and easy to follow.
It's not my first book in sexuality and not my last one. Every topic from foreplay to roleplay has well written, sometimes I would have expected more tips and tricks.
Summary: Easy to read and academic at the same time, if you are open-minded it is a good book to read, but only for adults!
November 4, 2022
I received this title for free in exchange for an unbiased review
My background:
Straight male. Enjoys cunnilingus, but have more enthusiasm than technique.
Description
This book will take you from the basic "what is this" of the vulva and then guide you slowly through increasingly advanced and/or stimulating ways of pleasing your partner.
It mainly addresses the giver, but is a fantastic read together as a couple.
Concerns
This book is not for everyone. It is very LGBT friendly and especially in the beginning It feels (to me) like too much emphasis is put on the fact that the author is a lesbian. This is much less ubiquitous in the middle and last part though, where it feels more naturally brought up in concrete examples of her own experiences with techniques.
The book is also biased towards pleasing the receiver and expects the giver to give completely selflessly which felt one-sided to me.
Strengths
It describes many techniques in detail, while keeping you focused on exploring what works for your partner. It never feels like a manual.
It is a good source of inspiration for new things to try and different kinds of foreplay to explore.
Conclusion
If you like me, would like to be a better giver. This is a great book to help you learn.
Or if you are a couple who would like some inspiration for how to build on your routine and improve your foreplay. This book will give you that as well.
My background:
Straight male. Enjoys cunnilingus, but have more enthusiasm than technique.
Description
This book will take you from the basic "what is this" of the vulva and then guide you slowly through increasingly advanced and/or stimulating ways of pleasing your partner.
It mainly addresses the giver, but is a fantastic read together as a couple.
Concerns
This book is not for everyone. It is very LGBT friendly and especially in the beginning It feels (to me) like too much emphasis is put on the fact that the author is a lesbian. This is much less ubiquitous in the middle and last part though, where it feels more naturally brought up in concrete examples of her own experiences with techniques.
The book is also biased towards pleasing the receiver and expects the giver to give completely selflessly which felt one-sided to me.
Strengths
It describes many techniques in detail, while keeping you focused on exploring what works for your partner. It never feels like a manual.
It is a good source of inspiration for new things to try and different kinds of foreplay to explore.
Conclusion
If you like me, would like to be a better giver. This is a great book to help you learn.
Or if you are a couple who would like some inspiration for how to build on your routine and improve your foreplay. This book will give you that as well.
September 6, 2024
I will admit that when I started to read the book I thought there was nothing I could learn but ohh was i wrong!!! As a giver and a receiver I was overjoyed to read step by step instructions from both points of view. The author adding in so many tips on PIV sex, fisting, rimming, BDSM etc. I recommend it to anyone from beginners to the advanced lover.
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