I Know Who You Are but What Am I?: A Partner's Perspective on Transgender Love

by Ali Sands

What does it mean for a partner if the person they love changes their sex?With a refreshing voice of raw honesty and vulnerability, Ali Sands journaled her search for identity as her partner physically transitioned from female to male. Beginning with the awareness that her partner is transgender, through hormone therapy and multiple surgeries, Ali and her partner experienced many physical and emotional changes.In this courageous and gripping memoir, Ali shares her experiences as she navigates her partner’s transition. Holding strong to her love for her partner and her belief in her own truths, Ali persevered through family rejection and found that chosen family supported her journey. She also grew an enduring love and power found in committing to an ever- changing relationship.A poignant and searching account of a brave woman who almost lost her own identity even as she helped the love of her life establish his. -Ira Wood, The Lowdown, WOMR-FMSands’ story is…[an] unflinching view into the rollercoaster of a rapidly changing relationship. Sands spares no detail, from weekly testosterone injections to reconstructive surgeries to her own emotional challenges as [her partner] begins to navigate the world as a man. -Sofia Starmack, Journalist, Provincetown BannerHers is a lesson for all of us who are lucky enough to look back at love and its evolution with our partners. A skilled storyteller, Ali has the ability to tell an intimate personal tale in a way that has global relevance. -Ian Edwards, Producer, TEDx Provincetown

260 pages, Paperback

Published March 7, 2019

Reviews

[Bryce · Rating 5 out of 5]

Raw emotion runs through this book.

[Lindsey Daniels · Rating 4 out of 5]

Read as my aunt wrote this. I found it very informative and it taught me a lot about who she is and what she has been through.