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Yay Youre Gay Now What
Yay! You're gay! Or maybe you're bi. Or maybe you just feel different… in time, that difference will become the greatest gift you could ask for. It will bring you love, a sense of identity, a new community, and eventually the freedom to be yourself. I promise!
In this personal, heartfelt go-to guide for young queer guys, YouTuber and presenter Riyadh Khalaf shares frank advice about everything from coming out to relationships, as well as interviews with inspirational queer role models, and encouragement for times when you're feeling low. There's a support section for family and friends written by Riyadh's parents and LOADS of hilarious, embarrassing, inspiring and moving stories from gay boys around the world.
Includes chapters on:
• Labels – what does it mean to be gay, bi, trans or queer?
• Coming out
• Your first crush
• Dealing with bullies
• Learning to love your body
• Sex ed for gay guys
• Coping with embarrassing moments
• Finding your tribe
In this personal, heartfelt go-to guide for young queer guys, YouTuber and presenter Riyadh Khalaf shares frank advice about everything from coming out to relationships, as well as interviews with inspirational queer role models, and encouragement for times when you're feeling low. There's a support section for family and friends written by Riyadh's parents and LOADS of hilarious, embarrassing, inspiring and moving stories from gay boys around the world.
Includes chapters on:
• Labels – what does it mean to be gay, bi, trans or queer?
• Coming out
• Your first crush
• Dealing with bullies
• Learning to love your body
• Sex ed for gay guys
• Coping with embarrassing moments
• Finding your tribe
224 pages, Paperback
Published April 18, 2019
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May 28, 2019
5★
“People were onto me, and I was becoming less capable of manipulating who I was to survive the war zone that was school, and for that matter, the world. Something had to give or I was going to crumble.”
Brand new, terrific book. Lightheartedly serious, seriously informative, factually funny. And above all, real.
“Feeling different. That’s where it normally begins for a queer person. You may ask yourself, ‘Am I broken? Sick? Weird?’ The answer is no. There is nothing wrong with you—there’s just something slightly different about you.
Throughout the book, some well-known gay men write advice to their younger selves.
Picture of Stephen Fry saying ‘Stephen, it’s going to be fine.’
Adults are familiar with Stephen Fry, but for kids who aren’t, the author reminds us he’s the voice of Harry Potter books. And once you’ve heard his voice, you’re not likely to forget it! Fry is probably a good example of the rest of Khalaf's comment about difference.
“In time, that difference will become the greatest gift you could ask for. It will bring you love, identity, community, and eventually the freedom to be yourself. I promise. Life is a wonderful mess of successes, mistakes, joy, heartbreak, and learning. It can be even more intense if you’re gay. In this book, I hope to give you some golden lessons I’ve learned along the way.”
Illustration of the page showing gayness is a gift
There is a long table of contents, with sections about coming out, finding love, body development, and sex. Written like that, it sounds pretty boring. Trust me, it’s not. The author throws in plenty of personal anecdotes about his embarrassing moments as well as including more from famous people. A lot of it is very entertaining.
First up, the abbreviations! He uses “LGBT Plus” to cover everybody. Makes sense.
“LGBTTQQIAAP+
What does that mess of letters and symbols mean?! I’m going to use the acronym LGBT+ (which stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, plus) in this book to stand for our big diverse queer community. This is a shortening of a much longer acronym that also includes queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, ally, pansexual … and this STILL leaves some people out!”
Illustration of being different
Later in the book, he describes finding your own tribe.
Illustration of being like others of your tribe
He has good advice on how to choose whom to come out to first and suggests starting slow. His choosing three girls he was close to and telling them together that he was bi, meant the entire school knew about it within hours. Saying he was bi wasn’t going to dampen the enthusiasm of the bullies – he knows bullies have their own problems. I quite liked this quote about not giving up from someone who has had to deal with bullies in the spotlight.
“Things will get easier, people’s minds will change, and you should be alive to see it.”—Ellen DeGeneres
There is a lot of information on what to do, who to turn to, and how to deal with cyberbullying and people who threaten you with “I know where you live”. There is also a section on how to deal with sexuality and faith. Kids brought up in religious families may feel extra pressure from religions that may excommunicate members or promote gay conversion therapy.
There’s a section for parents and families and how to support kids who’ve come out, plus there’s a section on the LGBT+ community, groups, marches and pride. There are also handy tips about being safe in public.
“But the sad fact is, there are people out there who don’t like us, so it’s important to balance being authentically yourself with being safe.”
Illustration of what some pr**k may do to your parade balloon
Khalaf really has covered the lot! Dating, apps, online presence, drugs, and relationships, including monogamish (occasional outside action) and throuples (three people - the old ménage à trois).
Illustration introducing the topic of sex
First dates, first kiss, heartbreak, hormones, pubes, boners, masturbation, you name it, I bet it’s here. HIV, STDs, condoms, lube, and whether or not people want penetrative sex or not (many don’t, just so you know), and what the physical results may be afterwards (possibly more than you expected to know).
One illustration of a few health issues to be aware of
I was particularly delighted to see Aussie Shane Jenek featured, as we in Australia have just been treated to Courtney Act on Dancing with the Stars. He appeared as both his original Shane-self in interviews and rehearsals but danced as the gorgeous Courtney, high heels and backwards, like Ginger Rogers.
Photos of Courtney/Shane and professional dancer (and good pal) Joshua Keefe from Australia's Dancing with the Stars 2019
One spectacular number brought the house down. Fully wigged and costumed, she dances and strips the glamour off to reveal him.
https://twitter.com/courtneyact/statu...
The best comment I’ve ever heard to describe Courtney’s performance was a man who said something like
“She is great! . . . um
He is great! . . . um
THEY are great!”
That’s also the best example of how and why to use THEY as a personal pronoun for non-binary people. He/She/They are wonderful! Shane/Courtney (although as far as I know, Shane identifies as male but performs as Courtney.)
Picture of the inimitable, unforgettable Shane Jenek/Courtney Act
But wait – there’s more! So much more. Good table of contents, excellent personal and medical advice, plus comprehensive information about services available in many countries and how to contact them.
All in all, a first-rate publication and resource for communities, schools, libraries, and families. Many thanks #NetGalley and Quarto Publishing for this upbeat, real handbook for kids and teens (to leave around for their parents to read, too)! LOVE IT!
“People were onto me, and I was becoming less capable of manipulating who I was to survive the war zone that was school, and for that matter, the world. Something had to give or I was going to crumble.”
Brand new, terrific book. Lightheartedly serious, seriously informative, factually funny. And above all, real.
“Feeling different. That’s where it normally begins for a queer person. You may ask yourself, ‘Am I broken? Sick? Weird?’ The answer is no. There is nothing wrong with you—there’s just something slightly different about you.
Throughout the book, some well-known gay men write advice to their younger selves.
Picture of Stephen Fry saying ‘Stephen, it’s going to be fine.’
Adults are familiar with Stephen Fry, but for kids who aren’t, the author reminds us he’s the voice of Harry Potter books. And once you’ve heard his voice, you’re not likely to forget it! Fry is probably a good example of the rest of Khalaf's comment about difference.
“In time, that difference will become the greatest gift you could ask for. It will bring you love, identity, community, and eventually the freedom to be yourself. I promise. Life is a wonderful mess of successes, mistakes, joy, heartbreak, and learning. It can be even more intense if you’re gay. In this book, I hope to give you some golden lessons I’ve learned along the way.”
Illustration of the page showing gayness is a gift
There is a long table of contents, with sections about coming out, finding love, body development, and sex. Written like that, it sounds pretty boring. Trust me, it’s not. The author throws in plenty of personal anecdotes about his embarrassing moments as well as including more from famous people. A lot of it is very entertaining.
First up, the abbreviations! He uses “LGBT Plus” to cover everybody. Makes sense.
“LGBTTQQIAAP+
What does that mess of letters and symbols mean?! I’m going to use the acronym LGBT+ (which stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, plus) in this book to stand for our big diverse queer community. This is a shortening of a much longer acronym that also includes queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, ally, pansexual … and this STILL leaves some people out!”
Illustration of being different
Later in the book, he describes finding your own tribe.
Illustration of being like others of your tribe
He has good advice on how to choose whom to come out to first and suggests starting slow. His choosing three girls he was close to and telling them together that he was bi, meant the entire school knew about it within hours. Saying he was bi wasn’t going to dampen the enthusiasm of the bullies – he knows bullies have their own problems. I quite liked this quote about not giving up from someone who has had to deal with bullies in the spotlight.
“Things will get easier, people’s minds will change, and you should be alive to see it.”—Ellen DeGeneres
There is a lot of information on what to do, who to turn to, and how to deal with cyberbullying and people who threaten you with “I know where you live”. There is also a section on how to deal with sexuality and faith. Kids brought up in religious families may feel extra pressure from religions that may excommunicate members or promote gay conversion therapy.
There’s a section for parents and families and how to support kids who’ve come out, plus there’s a section on the LGBT+ community, groups, marches and pride. There are also handy tips about being safe in public.
“But the sad fact is, there are people out there who don’t like us, so it’s important to balance being authentically yourself with being safe.”
Illustration of what some pr**k may do to your parade balloon
Khalaf really has covered the lot! Dating, apps, online presence, drugs, and relationships, including monogamish (occasional outside action) and throuples (three people - the old ménage à trois).
Illustration introducing the topic of sex
First dates, first kiss, heartbreak, hormones, pubes, boners, masturbation, you name it, I bet it’s here. HIV, STDs, condoms, lube, and whether or not people want penetrative sex or not (many don’t, just so you know), and what the physical results may be afterwards (possibly more than you expected to know).
One illustration of a few health issues to be aware of
I was particularly delighted to see Aussie Shane Jenek featured, as we in Australia have just been treated to Courtney Act on Dancing with the Stars. He appeared as both his original Shane-self in interviews and rehearsals but danced as the gorgeous Courtney, high heels and backwards, like Ginger Rogers.
Photos of Courtney/Shane and professional dancer (and good pal) Joshua Keefe from Australia's Dancing with the Stars 2019
One spectacular number brought the house down. Fully wigged and costumed, she dances and strips the glamour off to reveal him.
https://twitter.com/courtneyact/statu...
The best comment I’ve ever heard to describe Courtney’s performance was a man who said something like
“She is great! . . . um
He is great! . . . um
THEY are great!”
That’s also the best example of how and why to use THEY as a personal pronoun for non-binary people. He/She/They are wonderful! Shane/Courtney (although as far as I know, Shane identifies as male but performs as Courtney.)
Picture of the inimitable, unforgettable Shane Jenek/Courtney Act
But wait – there’s more! So much more. Good table of contents, excellent personal and medical advice, plus comprehensive information about services available in many countries and how to contact them.
All in all, a first-rate publication and resource for communities, schools, libraries, and families. Many thanks #NetGalley and Quarto Publishing for this upbeat, real handbook for kids and teens (to leave around for their parents to read, too)! LOVE IT!
October 21, 2020
Had ik dit boek maar eerder durven lezen
October 14, 2019
Okay. I'm sorry about the three stars, really I am. I love Riyadh and the work that he does. And for the most part, I love this book too. It's incredibly pretty and artsy, it covers some really important topics, and I'm sure it's helped an awful lot of young gay kids.
BUT... there are some typos. Not a major issue but there were enough of them that it bothered me. Lots of missing words or extra words that don't belong there. Even one point where it stops halfway through a sentence at the end of one page and then... starts a new chapter on the next page. It feels like there should have been a small paragraph in between but it's just gone!
Then the use of the word "tribe" when he means "chosen family" is problematic af.
And finally, there are some elements that are incredibly trans exclusive. Although some effort is made during the sex ed chapters to mention "people with penises" and "people with vaginas" or "cis boys" (which I was hugely impressed and pleased by! Thank you for making that attempt!) this soon tailed off. For me, the part about how pre-cum can still get a partner pregnant "you need to know this in case you ever try it with the ladies" triggered a massive amount of dysphoria and was upsetting to see. Not just because it's equating gender to body parts but also because it's erasing the fact that gay trans men exist and cis gay men date them.
This could have been combatted if there was any mention of gay trans men elsewhere in the book but there was almost nothing - just the briefest of mentions that gender identity and sexuality are separate. It felt like ignoring a huge chunk of the gay community.
In conclusion, this is a good and important book. I hope it makes gay teens feel a little less alone and helps to combat how overwhelmingly straight sex ed in school can be. But there is still more work to be done!
BUT... there are some typos. Not a major issue but there were enough of them that it bothered me. Lots of missing words or extra words that don't belong there. Even one point where it stops halfway through a sentence at the end of one page and then... starts a new chapter on the next page. It feels like there should have been a small paragraph in between but it's just gone!
Then the use of the word "tribe" when he means "chosen family" is problematic af.
And finally, there are some elements that are incredibly trans exclusive. Although some effort is made during the sex ed chapters to mention "people with penises" and "people with vaginas" or "cis boys" (which I was hugely impressed and pleased by! Thank you for making that attempt!) this soon tailed off. For me, the part about how pre-cum can still get a partner pregnant "you need to know this in case you ever try it with the ladies" triggered a massive amount of dysphoria and was upsetting to see. Not just because it's equating gender to body parts but also because it's erasing the fact that gay trans men exist and cis gay men date them.
This could have been combatted if there was any mention of gay trans men elsewhere in the book but there was almost nothing - just the briefest of mentions that gender identity and sexuality are separate. It felt like ignoring a huge chunk of the gay community.
In conclusion, this is a good and important book. I hope it makes gay teens feel a little less alone and helps to combat how overwhelmingly straight sex ed in school can be. But there is still more work to be done!
February 15, 2021
A fantastic book that I would highly recommend to all. I am not a gay boy, but I still very much read this with interest (OK, some parts were a bit awkward for me, haha). I loved the mix of personal stories and personal anecdotes with non-fiction facts and truths. Fun photographs with bright colours. I also loved seeing various gay celebrities!
There is also plenty of resources for help and people you can talk to. Love that this was added.
Thanks to my hubby for giving me this one for Christmas!
There is also plenty of resources for help and people you can talk to. Love that this was added.
Thanks to my hubby for giving me this one for Christmas!
June 10, 2019
Read bits and pieces here and there!! Each chapter is a topic in bite-size for quick reference.
Very uplifting book which has a lot of important information!! I’m trying to think of this would be appropriate to have in a library for 12 year olds. While important and very pertinent information for kids going through puberty (and especially a 12 year old LGBT+ identifying person), I find it hard to reconcile some of the chapters and being in a book marketed for this age-group. Now, in fairness, it’s very well worded and while there’s nothing absolutely ground-breaking in the writing style, easy reading, I wonder if it’s appropriate for 12 year olds. While I lean on yes, it would be up to the guardians to make this available and I can’t see a non-queer parent allowing their hold to read this!!
The information is SUPER important and I picked up some gems!! I also think having a book like this available for me when growing up would have made some things so much clearer. But I still have this problem as to when should I have read it if I was recommending this to a teen.
The design is BEAUTIFUL!! The graphic designer did an AMAZING job and the presentation from start to finish of this book is gorgeous!!!
On the whole, great book, gorgeous look, important and accessible material with a feel good vibe. Just again, having trouble reconciling what ages teen this would be most-appropriate for
Very uplifting book which has a lot of important information!! I’m trying to think of this would be appropriate to have in a library for 12 year olds. While important and very pertinent information for kids going through puberty (and especially a 12 year old LGBT+ identifying person), I find it hard to reconcile some of the chapters and being in a book marketed for this age-group. Now, in fairness, it’s very well worded and while there’s nothing absolutely ground-breaking in the writing style, easy reading, I wonder if it’s appropriate for 12 year olds. While I lean on yes, it would be up to the guardians to make this available and I can’t see a non-queer parent allowing their hold to read this!!
The information is SUPER important and I picked up some gems!! I also think having a book like this available for me when growing up would have made some things so much clearer. But I still have this problem as to when should I have read it if I was recommending this to a teen.
The design is BEAUTIFUL!! The graphic designer did an AMAZING job and the presentation from start to finish of this book is gorgeous!!!
On the whole, great book, gorgeous look, important and accessible material with a feel good vibe. Just again, having trouble reconciling what ages teen this would be most-appropriate for
April 12, 2019
Disclaimer: I received an e-ARC from the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
My "coming out" moment was not really a coming out moment. My parents sort of knew who and what I was at a very young age. Looking back, it would help me understand what I'm going through, how I should act, and how I should define myself if I have something like this book.
I haven't really heard of Riyadh Khalaf until my book wish for this book was approved by the publisher, but I was thankful they did! The book is a bible not only for gay boys, but also a manual for every single person who's confused of the LGBT+ community. I am part of this community, but I was still ignorant of how diverse this community was, and this book reconciled all of those confusions.
Direct, honest and fun. Yay! You're Gay! Now What?: A Gay Boy's Guide to Life is one for the books. I hope you get your hands on this book once it's released this month.
My "coming out" moment was not really a coming out moment. My parents sort of knew who and what I was at a very young age. Looking back, it would help me understand what I'm going through, how I should act, and how I should define myself if I have something like this book.
I haven't really heard of Riyadh Khalaf until my book wish for this book was approved by the publisher, but I was thankful they did! The book is a bible not only for gay boys, but also a manual for every single person who's confused of the LGBT+ community. I am part of this community, but I was still ignorant of how diverse this community was, and this book reconciled all of those confusions.
Direct, honest and fun. Yay! You're Gay! Now What?: A Gay Boy's Guide to Life is one for the books. I hope you get your hands on this book once it's released this month.
August 24, 2019
a gay boy's guide to life...I can highly recommend this awesome book to every gay guy, especially the younger ones, and to all members of our LGBTQ+ Community...Riyadh uses the right words and covers serious topics in an humurous way and his writing stil is so refreshing, real, down-to-earth and excellent! I read this book in two takes, cause it's simple phenominal. Me, as an 26 year old gay guy, helped this Guide to boost my self esteem and to accept myself a little more and to be confident in my skin! I could praise this book for hours. I am living for books like this and love that Riyadh shares his bright light with the world, he is such an inspiration! I hope I might be as confident like him one day and do good work and share as well my bright shining light and maybe even help others, like Riyadh for sure does!-🌈😘😊😉👍🙌 ...Books always cross your way when you need them the most!
April 4, 2019
In this book by popular LGBTQ+ activist and member, Riyadh, he takes us through everything to do with being gay or otherwise from coming out and how to manage any and every situation possible to find yourself in.
From coming out and all the reactions you could be faced with, bullying, first time sex and masturbation, dealing with anxiety and worries as well as having famous faces and their stories also featured in this handy little book he !makes sure to cover whatever topic could be effecting the person choosing to read his book.
As a supporter of the community and having friends who've come out over time, this book sums up everything a gay guy could need to know and handy information for others who are LGBTQ+ too as many issues can be relevant to others as well.
Many thanks to the publishers for allowing me to review this book for them!
From coming out and all the reactions you could be faced with, bullying, first time sex and masturbation, dealing with anxiety and worries as well as having famous faces and their stories also featured in this handy little book he !makes sure to cover whatever topic could be effecting the person choosing to read his book.
As a supporter of the community and having friends who've come out over time, this book sums up everything a gay guy could need to know and handy information for others who are LGBTQ+ too as many issues can be relevant to others as well.
Many thanks to the publishers for allowing me to review this book for them!
April 26, 2019
This is a wonderful book and a great guide and I think should be read by everyone regardless of sexual orientation. Light hearted and honest insights from a very genuine young gay man. This would be helpful to not only young men who may be questioning their sexuality or have come out, but also for family and friends. I believe the more we discuss and are open then it can only ever be for the better. This should be available in schools and libraries for teenagers. A wonderful read.
Thanks to netgalley and the publisher for a free copy for an honest opinion
Thanks to netgalley and the publisher for a free copy for an honest opinion
April 28, 2019
Yay! You're Gay! Now What? A Gay Boy's Guide to Life by Riyadh Khalaf is a book I requested from NetGalley and the review is voluntary. I am not in the target range for this book but I still wanted to read this. I am so glad this book is out there to help those that are in the right demographic range. This book deals with a lot of personal issues that the author himself has faced and he passes on advice. He also has advice from other celebrities. Bullying, coming out, dating, and more are all addressed in here. The book is very open. It doesn't sugar coat anything but it does encourage people to be you! There is a lot of support in this book!
I think any one that is not in the LGBTQ community could benefit from reading this. Understanding goes a long way!
If someone feels they could benefit from this book because they might be a target audience, then don't hesitate to pick it up! You will be glad you did!
I think any one that is not in the LGBTQ community could benefit from reading this. Understanding goes a long way!
If someone feels they could benefit from this book because they might be a target audience, then don't hesitate to pick it up! You will be glad you did!
May 1, 2019
I received a free e-book over NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
This book is an extremely informative while also relatable and personal guide to everything gay and LGBT+ and I would recommend it especially to every young person out there, questioning or not. I loved reading a bout all these experiences, there were loads of helpful tips and insights in here and it's a quick fun read.
This book also deals with mental health and bullying and even the basic changes of puberty. It really has everything and while I think it is definitely most interesting for gay teen boys, I still think it can help extend everyone's world view.
This book is an extremely informative while also relatable and personal guide to everything gay and LGBT+ and I would recommend it especially to every young person out there, questioning or not. I loved reading a bout all these experiences, there were loads of helpful tips and insights in here and it's a quick fun read.
This book also deals with mental health and bullying and even the basic changes of puberty. It really has everything and while I think it is definitely most interesting for gay teen boys, I still think it can help extend everyone's world view.
June 7, 2019
A really informative book for any baby gays!!!
October 31, 2019
Awesome!! Oh how I wish I had a book like this when I was 15. Riyadh, you’re a legend!!
July 31, 2019
(Disclaimer: this book was sent to me free of charge for review purposes. All opinions are genuine and my own!)
When I first saw this book pop up in the list of books I could choose from to review, my interest was immediately piqued. While I am not a 12-17 year old gay boy, I am a 24 year old queer, non-binary person, and I was curious to see what potential this book held for non-binary or trans boys.
Diving into the intro/first chapter, I was pretty pleased with what I saw right away. The cover of the book is bubblegum pink and adorable. The paper craft illustrations throughout, done by Melissa McFeeters add a really unique flair. The pages themselves are thick and smooth like card stock, and because the book was on the smaller side, it fit really comfortably in my hands! As far as aesthetics and “hand feel” goes, I give this one a 10/10.
As far as the actual innards of the book, I was pleasantly surprised. I’m not familiar with Riyadh or his YouTube channel, so I was glad to see him make the effort to be inclusive to all folks who may fall under the LGBTQIA umbrella and not just gay, cisgender men and boys. After a brief introduction chapter, the book rolls right into the glossary, which I think is important for baby gays and their allies to be familiar with! The book also includes sections on gender identity, bullying, sexuality and faith, coming out, finding gay community, bodies and body image aaaaand last, but of course not least, a hefty, well written chunk about sex. The book also includes snippets from various gay men in media, which I thought could definitely be heartening for young men looking for role models.
As the chapter itself states, “Let’s Talk About Sex!” -
I think Riyadh did a great job of speaking honestly and frankly to youth about safe sex, from sexual health down to sexual pleasure. He didn’t beat around the bush or sugarcoat, nor did he stigmatize folks with STDs and STIs.
Though I mostly enjoyed the book, there were a few oversights that I felt were worth noting. First off, and most bothersome to me, the inclusive, non-gendered language Riyadh introduces in the first chapter isn’t consistent throughout the book. There are many instances of binary language such as “men and women” and also multiple instances of language that inherently ties vaginas to women, which could definitetl be hurtful to any young, trans gay boys who may want to give this book a go. That being said, I do appreciate that Riyadh acknowledges early on that he is speaking as a cis, gay man and can’t claim to adequately speak for other identities.
Another small issue I had was present in chapter seven, “I’m Coming Out”, in which Riyadh states that you most likely won’t have to worry about negative repercussions when coming out. He makes sure to leave resources and ideas for if it does go negatively, but I don’t think it’s a good idea to blatantly say something of that nature when you’re trying to reach a wide audience of gay boys from all different demographics. He also says on page 56 that, “almost every relationship is salvageable” which could potentially encourage a youth to try and cling to a toxic relationship with a homophobic family member or friend. I know those were not his intentions, but this book’s demographic is very vulnerable youth so I think it’s important to be aware of! (I could have also done without the numerous Ru Paul references, as he is a known transphobe, but I’m sure that’s an unpopular opinion).
All in all, I think this book would be a great resource for gay, cis boys for sure, but is probably too gendered and binary for your trans or non-binary youth. It was a good paced, easy read, lovely to look at, did it’s best to be inclusive, and if your son just came out to you, I would encourage you to pick this one up for him - but make sure to talk about the importance of not inherently gendering bodies! 😉🌈
When I first saw this book pop up in the list of books I could choose from to review, my interest was immediately piqued. While I am not a 12-17 year old gay boy, I am a 24 year old queer, non-binary person, and I was curious to see what potential this book held for non-binary or trans boys.
Diving into the intro/first chapter, I was pretty pleased with what I saw right away. The cover of the book is bubblegum pink and adorable. The paper craft illustrations throughout, done by Melissa McFeeters add a really unique flair. The pages themselves are thick and smooth like card stock, and because the book was on the smaller side, it fit really comfortably in my hands! As far as aesthetics and “hand feel” goes, I give this one a 10/10.
As far as the actual innards of the book, I was pleasantly surprised. I’m not familiar with Riyadh or his YouTube channel, so I was glad to see him make the effort to be inclusive to all folks who may fall under the LGBTQIA umbrella and not just gay, cisgender men and boys. After a brief introduction chapter, the book rolls right into the glossary, which I think is important for baby gays and their allies to be familiar with! The book also includes sections on gender identity, bullying, sexuality and faith, coming out, finding gay community, bodies and body image aaaaand last, but of course not least, a hefty, well written chunk about sex. The book also includes snippets from various gay men in media, which I thought could definitely be heartening for young men looking for role models.
As the chapter itself states, “Let’s Talk About Sex!” -
I think Riyadh did a great job of speaking honestly and frankly to youth about safe sex, from sexual health down to sexual pleasure. He didn’t beat around the bush or sugarcoat, nor did he stigmatize folks with STDs and STIs.
Though I mostly enjoyed the book, there were a few oversights that I felt were worth noting. First off, and most bothersome to me, the inclusive, non-gendered language Riyadh introduces in the first chapter isn’t consistent throughout the book. There are many instances of binary language such as “men and women” and also multiple instances of language that inherently ties vaginas to women, which could definitetl be hurtful to any young, trans gay boys who may want to give this book a go. That being said, I do appreciate that Riyadh acknowledges early on that he is speaking as a cis, gay man and can’t claim to adequately speak for other identities.
Another small issue I had was present in chapter seven, “I’m Coming Out”, in which Riyadh states that you most likely won’t have to worry about negative repercussions when coming out. He makes sure to leave resources and ideas for if it does go negatively, but I don’t think it’s a good idea to blatantly say something of that nature when you’re trying to reach a wide audience of gay boys from all different demographics. He also says on page 56 that, “almost every relationship is salvageable” which could potentially encourage a youth to try and cling to a toxic relationship with a homophobic family member or friend. I know those were not his intentions, but this book’s demographic is very vulnerable youth so I think it’s important to be aware of! (I could have also done without the numerous Ru Paul references, as he is a known transphobe, but I’m sure that’s an unpopular opinion).
All in all, I think this book would be a great resource for gay, cis boys for sure, but is probably too gendered and binary for your trans or non-binary youth. It was a good paced, easy read, lovely to look at, did it’s best to be inclusive, and if your son just came out to you, I would encourage you to pick this one up for him - but make sure to talk about the importance of not inherently gendering bodies! 😉🌈
March 29, 2019
Received an EArc from Netgalley!!
“Live without fear” this book was actually so good!! I loved this so much. It goes from coming out to doing the deed. I believe that this book will be a big hit and that more people will decide to “come out” and be themselves. Me being gay and thought that being different was a really bad thing, no it’s not I totally connected with this book on a whole new personal level and I actually loved the way it was set up. This is for sure one of my top books of the year and I’m so excited for more people to read it and enjoy it as much as I fucking did thanks for the opportunity to read this beauty❤️❤️
“Live without fear” this book was actually so good!! I loved this so much. It goes from coming out to doing the deed. I believe that this book will be a big hit and that more people will decide to “come out” and be themselves. Me being gay and thought that being different was a really bad thing, no it’s not I totally connected with this book on a whole new personal level and I actually loved the way it was set up. This is for sure one of my top books of the year and I’m so excited for more people to read it and enjoy it as much as I fucking did thanks for the opportunity to read this beauty❤️❤️
April 2, 2019
*I received an e-arc from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
I think this is so helpful for young gay men, I can only imagine how nice it is to read all this from someone's own perspective and experience. I enjoyed it, the way it's written is very light hearted even if it touches difficult subjects. While it might not be targeted to me as a lesbian I still liked to read someone else's experiences with the community.
I personally have an issue when people call the lgbt+ community the "q*eer community" because it's still a slur for so many people so we can't call a community a slur, but other then that, this book will help and comfort a lot of people.
I think this is so helpful for young gay men, I can only imagine how nice it is to read all this from someone's own perspective and experience. I enjoyed it, the way it's written is very light hearted even if it touches difficult subjects. While it might not be targeted to me as a lesbian I still liked to read someone else's experiences with the community.
I personally have an issue when people call the lgbt+ community the "q*eer community" because it's still a slur for so many people so we can't call a community a slur, but other then that, this book will help and comfort a lot of people.
August 28, 2020
This was ok, I’d say it’s probably quite a low 3 for me. I recognise that not being a cis gay boy, I’m not the target audience, but I was reading mainly for work to be able to signpost young people to it. I do think there are young people who would really benefit from reading this and I’m glad I read it so that I have it in my back pocket for them, but it’s not one I’m going to need to keep on my personal shelf.
The writing style on the whole wasn’t really my cup of tea. It felt a bit disjointed at times - idk if it’s just my own bias but I often seem to find this with these kind of part-self-help-part-memoir-part-essay books written by YouTubers, and I think it’s kind of that it comes across that they’re more used to writing blogs and they’ve written the book in that same way, so there’s no real flow to it. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, some people love that style (including me when I was younger!) and I think it particularly speaks to non-readers and can be great as a book-gateway-drug, but for me now it’s just a thing that often pulls me out of the enjoyment a bit.
It also felt like they just stopped bothering with copy editing half way through, as there were a fair few errors. I usually let a few slide but it got to the point where it did annoy me a bit with this cos there were a lot, and it just felt lazy. I think when you’re already feeling that ‘you’re not used to writing books are you’ thing, it reallllly doesn’t help when the grammar isn’t spot on, so it just had this kind of amateur feeling overall. (Which I feel really mean saying and was a real disappointment, but it’s honestly just the way I felt reading it.) (Also yes I see the irony, my grammar is nonexistent. The difference is this is an informal book review, it’s not a published thing with an editor where people pay for the finished product.)
In terms of the content itself, it was mostly pretty positive, but I found some of it slightly questionable in the language and whatnot. I physically flinched at ‘reduce your time online. It’s not the real world.’ because that’s such a shortsighted, adult way of saying that and didn’t feel like it was coming from a place of understanding young people. There were a few moments like that where I just thought it could’ve been written a little more sensitively, but I also recognise that getting language ‘right’ is impossible and the author was doing his best to be inclusive and empathetic so I won’t criticise too harshly.
Also content-wise, I do understand that it’s not trying to cover all aspects of LGBT+ identities, and it explains why and I totally get that, but it still just feels a bit odd to read something that’s so specifically for one small part of the umbrella, particularly when it’s arguably the least marginalised part. And even though it continued to highlight intersectionality and privilege and such throughout, and claim that all different kinds of expression are valid, it’s kind of like that was a really conscious thought for him to include that every time he remembered, but the general tone still felt quite blinkered and as if it was only *really* catering to cis white gay boys who are the stereotypical drag-race-watching fabulous ones. Nothing wrong with that cos those boys need books too, and he was writing honestly from his own perspective so of course we couldn’t expect it to be all things to all people, but I guess what I mean is it didn’t feel as transferable as some others. I kind of wish he’d committed to just writing something autobiographical and let himself run loose with whatever he wanted to say about his own experiences (which I would’ve been very interested in) and then people could either relate to it and take lessons from it or not, rather than following the trend of putting out something in the self-help/advice bracket, because as it is that didn’t really work for me, and I think there are better books out there within that market which would be my first port of call as a recommendation.
The one thing I have to say that’s 100% positive though, is that it’s physically beautiful. The graphic design is excellent and it’s an aesthetic joy so if nothing else I’m glad I experienced it for that. Hopefully you’ll love more about it than I did though!
The writing style on the whole wasn’t really my cup of tea. It felt a bit disjointed at times - idk if it’s just my own bias but I often seem to find this with these kind of part-self-help-part-memoir-part-essay books written by YouTubers, and I think it’s kind of that it comes across that they’re more used to writing blogs and they’ve written the book in that same way, so there’s no real flow to it. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, some people love that style (including me when I was younger!) and I think it particularly speaks to non-readers and can be great as a book-gateway-drug, but for me now it’s just a thing that often pulls me out of the enjoyment a bit.
It also felt like they just stopped bothering with copy editing half way through, as there were a fair few errors. I usually let a few slide but it got to the point where it did annoy me a bit with this cos there were a lot, and it just felt lazy. I think when you’re already feeling that ‘you’re not used to writing books are you’ thing, it reallllly doesn’t help when the grammar isn’t spot on, so it just had this kind of amateur feeling overall. (Which I feel really mean saying and was a real disappointment, but it’s honestly just the way I felt reading it.) (Also yes I see the irony, my grammar is nonexistent. The difference is this is an informal book review, it’s not a published thing with an editor where people pay for the finished product.)
In terms of the content itself, it was mostly pretty positive, but I found some of it slightly questionable in the language and whatnot. I physically flinched at ‘reduce your time online. It’s not the real world.’ because that’s such a shortsighted, adult way of saying that and didn’t feel like it was coming from a place of understanding young people. There were a few moments like that where I just thought it could’ve been written a little more sensitively, but I also recognise that getting language ‘right’ is impossible and the author was doing his best to be inclusive and empathetic so I won’t criticise too harshly.
Also content-wise, I do understand that it’s not trying to cover all aspects of LGBT+ identities, and it explains why and I totally get that, but it still just feels a bit odd to read something that’s so specifically for one small part of the umbrella, particularly when it’s arguably the least marginalised part. And even though it continued to highlight intersectionality and privilege and such throughout, and claim that all different kinds of expression are valid, it’s kind of like that was a really conscious thought for him to include that every time he remembered, but the general tone still felt quite blinkered and as if it was only *really* catering to cis white gay boys who are the stereotypical drag-race-watching fabulous ones. Nothing wrong with that cos those boys need books too, and he was writing honestly from his own perspective so of course we couldn’t expect it to be all things to all people, but I guess what I mean is it didn’t feel as transferable as some others. I kind of wish he’d committed to just writing something autobiographical and let himself run loose with whatever he wanted to say about his own experiences (which I would’ve been very interested in) and then people could either relate to it and take lessons from it or not, rather than following the trend of putting out something in the self-help/advice bracket, because as it is that didn’t really work for me, and I think there are better books out there within that market which would be my first port of call as a recommendation.
The one thing I have to say that’s 100% positive though, is that it’s physically beautiful. The graphic design is excellent and it’s an aesthetic joy so if nothing else I’m glad I experienced it for that. Hopefully you’ll love more about it than I did though!
November 12, 2019
Given the title of the book is Yay! You're Gay! Now What? It is probable not a surprise that Khalaf's book is aimed at teenage or young gay men.
Though that is the case Khalaf does often point out that his advice it to the whole LGBT+ community. The book deals with a lot for it's 224 pages. Khalaf manages to cover the whole spectrum of a boys life. From sexual feelings to erectile dysfunction. All with honesty, self sacrifices and dab of humor.
From his first inklings to his first time Khalaf does not leave the reader in any doubt, they are most certainly not alone.
Even with the seriousness of some of the topics, such as safety, the author manages to keep the subject light and even humorous. Lesser books would have the reader out buying weapons. The chapters feel balanced and do not leave the reader catastrophizing.
Again unsurprisingly I was drawn to this book because of its cover, the art inside the book and also the light hearted blurb. I could tell it would be a fun read and I may learn something about the LGBT+ community that I didn't already know.
What might surprise you, because it surprised me, is how much this book spoke to me. After all I am a 33 year old, Cis, het woman with a disability.
Perhaps the reason I am an Ally is because I know what it is like to be in a minority, not because I am gay but a minority none the less and so I know how it feels to suffer prejudices, injustice, and to face adversity.
Growing up as a girl in "Catholic Ireland" during the 80's and 90's meant there was no such thing as sexuality,
That is why I think this book is so brilliant. I think had the title been Yay! You Are You! Now What? I would not have even drawn myself outside of the intended readership.
I think all teenagers should read this book regardless of their orientation, particularly, I feel the chapter on consent. I'd even go so far as to say it should be reading material for P.D./Sex Ed classes.
I for one know that if I had read this in Secondary School I would not have so many body or sex hang ups now in adult life.
Have a strong feeling this is a book I will keep coming back to, for building my self esteem and working on my Anxiety.
Though that is the case Khalaf does often point out that his advice it to the whole LGBT+ community. The book deals with a lot for it's 224 pages. Khalaf manages to cover the whole spectrum of a boys life. From sexual feelings to erectile dysfunction. All with honesty, self sacrifices and dab of humor.
From his first inklings to his first time Khalaf does not leave the reader in any doubt, they are most certainly not alone.
Even with the seriousness of some of the topics, such as safety, the author manages to keep the subject light and even humorous. Lesser books would have the reader out buying weapons. The chapters feel balanced and do not leave the reader catastrophizing.
Again unsurprisingly I was drawn to this book because of its cover, the art inside the book and also the light hearted blurb. I could tell it would be a fun read and I may learn something about the LGBT+ community that I didn't already know.
What might surprise you, because it surprised me, is how much this book spoke to me. After all I am a 33 year old, Cis, het woman with a disability.
Perhaps the reason I am an Ally is because I know what it is like to be in a minority, not because I am gay but a minority none the less and so I know how it feels to suffer prejudices, injustice, and to face adversity.
Growing up as a girl in "Catholic Ireland" during the 80's and 90's meant there was no such thing as sexuality,
That is why I think this book is so brilliant. I think had the title been Yay! You Are You! Now What? I would not have even drawn myself outside of the intended readership.
I think all teenagers should read this book regardless of their orientation, particularly, I feel the chapter on consent. I'd even go so far as to say it should be reading material for P.D./Sex Ed classes.
I for one know that if I had read this in Secondary School I would not have so many body or sex hang ups now in adult life.
Have a strong feeling this is a book I will keep coming back to, for building my self esteem and working on my Anxiety.
January 4, 2020
This was such a fun and inspirational read. There is such a need for books like this and I think LGBT+ teens and adolescents everywhere are going to find it comforting and useful.
The book covers all aspects of queer life from figuring out your sexuality, to coming out and even to sex - and while the broad range of topics covered is excellent, it did make me question the age bracket that this book is marketed at because many of the early chapters are appropriate for very young people say around 12/13 years old, but then by the end of the book when we approach chapters on sex and STI’s it feels less appropriate for that age group. Of course all of the chapters are relevant and important, I just have visions of young kids buying this book to help on their path to gay-self-discovery and then being slightly shocked by the details of anal sex. Perhaps being split into two books might’ve helped?
The format and design is quirky and fun and I found it really pleasant to read, and it was a nice touch having quotes and advice from famous queer people.
Although the book is written by a gay man and aimed at young gay boys, it is still generally queer friendly and relative to other LGBT+ people. It touches on bisexuality and pansexuality, as well as being transgender and asexual. It doesn’t go into much detail on these however - which is to be expected as the author is using his own experiences to drive the narrative and obviously doesn’t have experience of being transgender etc - that being said, I think it would’ve been nice if the book had included some references to other books or bloggers/YouTubers that other LGBT+ people could refer to if they wanted similar information and guidance to what this book provides for young gay boys.
I’m so glad that people are out there putting themselves on the line to share their personal experiences in this way, and that it is being published and marketed so that it’s easily accessible for young people because there are so many confused and scared kids who will find such comfort and validation in books like this.
The book covers all aspects of queer life from figuring out your sexuality, to coming out and even to sex - and while the broad range of topics covered is excellent, it did make me question the age bracket that this book is marketed at because many of the early chapters are appropriate for very young people say around 12/13 years old, but then by the end of the book when we approach chapters on sex and STI’s it feels less appropriate for that age group. Of course all of the chapters are relevant and important, I just have visions of young kids buying this book to help on their path to gay-self-discovery and then being slightly shocked by the details of anal sex. Perhaps being split into two books might’ve helped?
The format and design is quirky and fun and I found it really pleasant to read, and it was a nice touch having quotes and advice from famous queer people.
Although the book is written by a gay man and aimed at young gay boys, it is still generally queer friendly and relative to other LGBT+ people. It touches on bisexuality and pansexuality, as well as being transgender and asexual. It doesn’t go into much detail on these however - which is to be expected as the author is using his own experiences to drive the narrative and obviously doesn’t have experience of being transgender etc - that being said, I think it would’ve been nice if the book had included some references to other books or bloggers/YouTubers that other LGBT+ people could refer to if they wanted similar information and guidance to what this book provides for young gay boys.
I’m so glad that people are out there putting themselves on the line to share their personal experiences in this way, and that it is being published and marketed so that it’s easily accessible for young people because there are so many confused and scared kids who will find such comfort and validation in books like this.
July 7, 2023
A very good teen sexual health book, focused on LGBTQ+ teens, and particularly gay cis boys. Khalaf includes many of his own personal experiences - notably his father's difficulty coming to terms with having a gay son - and interspersed throughout the book there are comments from prominent LGBTQ+ figures on what they wish they could say to their younger selves. Most of those figures are British/European since Khalaf is himself Irish, so they may be less effective for American teens, but they are still candid, funny, and moving in their own ways. For a concise book that features a lot of compelling graphical elements (the papercut illustrations are fun and cool!), I am impressed with how comprehensive this is. Things it included that surprised me: encouragement that loved ones who initially react negatively are likely to come around in time; a discussion of bullying with a LOT of empathy; safety when communicating online with friends or romantic interests; the intersection of sexuality and faith; and body image. While not surprising, there was of course a strong focus on the importance of consent and safe sex in the final chapters that cover sexual intimacy. Would recommend this to high school and college-aged gay boys, and their friends and family members who want to learn more about what it might be like to be a queer teen in order to support them.
April 14, 2019
It’s about time someone wrote a book like Yay! You’re Gay! Now What? A Gay Boy’s Guide to Life. Riyadh Khalaf writes skillfully, knowledgably, truthfully, compassionately and humorously, leaving no stone unturned in bringing information to people who are trying to come to terms with their sexual identity.
Whatever your gender, sexual identity or sexual orientation, you will learn something from this book. Khalaf covers a wide range of topics under 5 sections:
• So you think you might be gay…
• Coming out
• Finding friends, finding love
• All about bodies
• Let’s talk about sex
I admire Khalaf’s honesty and humor, his willingness to lay open his personal experiences to help others, the way he presents information respectful of all cultures, and remains true to his messages: “There’s nothing wrong with you”, “It’s okay to be who you are”, “You are not alone”, “Be proud of who you are”.
This book will help a lot of people find the answers to questions they were afraid to ask, and the reassurance they need to become their true self. What could be better?
Many thanks to NetGalley and Frances Lincoln Books for allowing me to read an ARC in exchange for an unbiased review.
Whatever your gender, sexual identity or sexual orientation, you will learn something from this book. Khalaf covers a wide range of topics under 5 sections:
• So you think you might be gay…
• Coming out
• Finding friends, finding love
• All about bodies
• Let’s talk about sex
I admire Khalaf’s honesty and humor, his willingness to lay open his personal experiences to help others, the way he presents information respectful of all cultures, and remains true to his messages: “There’s nothing wrong with you”, “It’s okay to be who you are”, “You are not alone”, “Be proud of who you are”.
This book will help a lot of people find the answers to questions they were afraid to ask, and the reassurance they need to become their true self. What could be better?
Many thanks to NetGalley and Frances Lincoln Books for allowing me to read an ARC in exchange for an unbiased review.
March 31, 2024
This was a nice light hearted read but it effectively covered some pretty serious topics. I read this because I remember watching Riyadh’s videos years ago when I was starting to explore the LGBTQ+ community without actively recognising that was me. I wasn’t expecting to actually get anything out of this now I’ve been out for a while but a few sections of this were surprisingly impactful. It kind of makes you stop and look back at your own experiences which it turns out is pretty helpful with processing and accepting yourself. I had a hard time accepting my sexuality after I transitioned because I could even think about being with a man before I was entirely comfortable with me being a man. I didn’t realise how much I still had left to process until this forced me to slow down and think a little bit. This book is an excellent resource for members of the LGBTQ+ community of any age and for other people to get more of an insight into some of the things that affect us. The only thing I would’ve added to this book would be a few more in depth stories and examples from Riyadh’s life to help any audience really connect with the book.
December 17, 2019
As an almost 30 year old reading this, there were some moments when I wondered if it was really for me, but that had nothing to do with the book and more my own brain being rubbish.
"Yay! You're Gay! Now What?" is the is exact book I wish I'd had when I was a long gay boy. It took me ages to come to terms with it, and even longer to be ready to tell my family. Sitting here, now happily married, I wish I could have had this beacon of hope to show me that it's ok, that I didn't need to have all the answers, and that there were other people like me out there.
Riyadh speaks in a very friendly, knowledgeable way, but at no point does it come across as patronising or condescending. Instead, its like a big brother is talking you through stuff that he thinks you'll need to know, but leaves it up to you what to do with that information. Since reading it, I've been flinging it (sometimes literally) at the young queer kids who come into my department looking for advice and positive resources.
"Yay! You're Gay! Now What?" is the is exact book I wish I'd had when I was a long gay boy. It took me ages to come to terms with it, and even longer to be ready to tell my family. Sitting here, now happily married, I wish I could have had this beacon of hope to show me that it's ok, that I didn't need to have all the answers, and that there were other people like me out there.
Riyadh speaks in a very friendly, knowledgeable way, but at no point does it come across as patronising or condescending. Instead, its like a big brother is talking you through stuff that he thinks you'll need to know, but leaves it up to you what to do with that information. Since reading it, I've been flinging it (sometimes literally) at the young queer kids who come into my department looking for advice and positive resources.
June 29, 2021
Honest, slightly irreverent, written for teens and young adults in a way that makes those early doubts and questions about sexuality and gender feel less daunting. It's readable and applicable to most LGBTQ+ people though written from the perspective of a cis man who is attracted to and dates cis men. Khalaf says this right from page one, but the sex education and information regarding intimacy, consent and STIs/STDs is great and applicable to everyone, no matter their body or attraction. This is a book I wish I'd had when I was discovering my identity, for sure. It would have answered a lot.
My issues: the inclusive language isn't consistent through the book. There's lots of "vagina = womanhood" in the book which, as a non-binary person, is a little off-putting. Also RuPaul references? Really Khalaf? If there was a little less trans dude erasure, and a little less possible transphobia (and we're talking microaggression level, as well, which is what's most annoying) it would have got 5 stars.
My issues: the inclusive language isn't consistent through the book. There's lots of "vagina = womanhood" in the book which, as a non-binary person, is a little off-putting. Also RuPaul references? Really Khalaf? If there was a little less trans dude erasure, and a little less possible transphobia (and we're talking microaggression level, as well, which is what's most annoying) it would have got 5 stars.
April 7, 2019
I voluntarily read and reviewed and advanced copy of this book, received through NetGalley in exchange for my honest review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
This book is a great resource for young people, especially because it was written by someone who has been through it. Although I did not know Riyadh before reading this book, after watching his Youtube channel I have come to the conclusion that his book is a reflection of himself: straight-forward and honest. He is not afraid of delving into personal matters, there is a chapter on every doubt a teenager might have in the book and more that not only LGTBI people might find useful.
While it is mainly focused on Ireland and the UK, I feel like this book might be helpful for people anywhere.
This book is a great resource for young people, especially because it was written by someone who has been through it. Although I did not know Riyadh before reading this book, after watching his Youtube channel I have come to the conclusion that his book is a reflection of himself: straight-forward and honest. He is not afraid of delving into personal matters, there is a chapter on every doubt a teenager might have in the book and more that not only LGTBI people might find useful.
While it is mainly focused on Ireland and the UK, I feel like this book might be helpful for people anywhere.
June 4, 2019
*Thank you to Netgalley and the publishers for supplying me with an ARC of this book*
Yay! You're Gay! Now what? is quite self explanatory on what the content of the book is about. I found that the book is very easy to read, with tips and stories for anyone who is coming out or has just come out and needs advice but no one to turn to.
Although the target audience for this book wasn't me, I found it insightful as it helped me see what someone who is LGBTQ could be going through/has probably already gone through.
All the different sections of the book were very helpful, as well as the list of useful contacts available at the back of the book. I think that this would be a perfect read for someone who is in need of advice due to their sexuality.
Yay! You're Gay! Now what? is quite self explanatory on what the content of the book is about. I found that the book is very easy to read, with tips and stories for anyone who is coming out or has just come out and needs advice but no one to turn to.
Although the target audience for this book wasn't me, I found it insightful as it helped me see what someone who is LGBTQ could be going through/has probably already gone through.
All the different sections of the book were very helpful, as well as the list of useful contacts available at the back of the book. I think that this would be a perfect read for someone who is in need of advice due to their sexuality.
September 10, 2019
Khalaf manages to write a wonderful and funny book on what it's like to be gay. It's a very non-binary friendly approach, and his story is intertwined with famous LGBTQ+-people giving advice to their younger selves. It is mostly oriented towards teen gays, but this 27 year-old bisexual man had a lot of fun as well and sometimes made me smile as I thought back to when I was that age. I rather enjoyed his personal story as well, and in this, Khalaf doesn't hold back and gives you the whole story.
The result is a fabulous book that I recommend all young gay people read, whether you're from Ireland or from somewhere else. Full stars!
(Side note, how did I not have an LGBT-shelf yet, here on Goodreads?! Shame on me. It is here now)
The result is a fabulous book that I recommend all young gay people read, whether you're from Ireland or from somewhere else. Full stars!
(Side note, how did I not have an LGBT-shelf yet, here on Goodreads?! Shame on me. It is here now)
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April 22, 2019As a 16 year old gay boy , not being true to himself , constantly worrying about what others may think . Riyadh’s book has challenged that , I can be me ! I can be myself . He covers a variety of topics in great detail, and has humour mixed in too !
I loved his series Queer Britain on BBC and knew I should read his book , he’s so good at raising awareness on our community.
I loved his series Queer Britain on BBC and knew I should read his book , he’s so good at raising awareness on our community.
May 26, 2019
It made me laugh so much I can barely believe it! Riyadh has an great sense of humor but also teaches everything a young gay boy should know to come into terms with his sexuality. Great job. I would recommend this to straight peoole as well to get to see hos it is to be a minority in a world that sees them as a danger and as unnatural.
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