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She Ain't It: How to Expose Damaged, Desperate, And Deceitful Women & Attract Your Game Changer
Finally, a book for men that cuts through all that nice guy nonsense and tells you the truth about dating in the 21st century and how to sidestep manipulators, gold diggers, petty brats, and messy girls that live for drama and attention. Real Women still want real men! She Ain’t It, will go step by step to show you how to expose eye candy with Daddy Issue and insecurities and attain those ladies who have their sh*t together. How to meet them, how to date them, how to initiate sex, and how to test them throughout the journey so nothing slips by you. This book is the ultimate guide to dating and maintaining relationships. Any sucker can get girls these days, this is about finding a WOMAN! You can’t afford to keep wasting your time with damaged goods and desperate ring chasers, it’s time to upgrade to the Master Level of dating and find your Game Changer.
Ladies, don't feel left out. This could easily be called “He Ain’t It” because these same lessons apply to WOMEN looking to upgrade themselves and attract quality men. Any woman that’s willing to take a hard look at her own life, can easily use the secrets and strategies in this book to Spartan Up and turn their lives around as well. Award Winning author G.L. Lambert has proven methods that have already helped countless men and women hit reset and reclaim their lives-- Now it's your time!
She Ain't It - The Brand New Expanded Platinum Edition - Read. Learn. Apply. Conquer!
Ladies, don't feel left out. This could easily be called “He Ain’t It” because these same lessons apply to WOMEN looking to upgrade themselves and attract quality men. Any woman that’s willing to take a hard look at her own life, can easily use the secrets and strategies in this book to Spartan Up and turn their lives around as well. Award Winning author G.L. Lambert has proven methods that have already helped countless men and women hit reset and reclaim their lives-- Now it's your time!
She Ain't It - The Brand New Expanded Platinum Edition - Read. Learn. Apply. Conquer!
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Published October 2, 2017
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August 13, 2024
She Ain't It: How to Expose Damaged, Desperate, and Deceitful Women and Attract Your Game Changer**" by G. L. Lambert is an eye-opening and empowering guide for men navigating the complexities of modern dating. Lambert's no-nonsense approach and candid advice provide invaluable insights into recognizing and avoiding toxic relationships while empowering readers to attract healthier, more fulfilling connections.
One of the standout qualities of this book is Lambert's unapologetic honesty. He delves deep into the behaviors and traits of damaged, desperate, and deceitful women, offering readers practical tools to identify and steer clear of these destructive influences. Lambert's writing is engaging, peppered with humor and real-life examples, making the concepts easy to understand and apply.
Moreover, the book doesn't only focus on pointing out negative traits but also provides a roadmap for attracting positive, high-quality partners – the 'game changers.' Lambert encourages readers to work on themselves, set boundaries, and cultivate self-respect, ultimately leading to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
In a world where dating can be a minefield, "She Ain't It" is a beacon of light, guiding men towards authentic connections and away from relationships that drain their energy and self-worth. Whether you're a seasoned dater or new to the game, this book is a must-read that will empower you to make better choices in love and life.
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Quotes from "She Ain't It":
1. "You can't turn a bad woman good, but a good woman can turn a bad man good."
2. "Stop giving girlfriend benefits to women who are only giving you late-night booty calls."
3. "Know your worth so you can stop giving discounts."
4. "A woman who doesn't respect herself will never respect you."
5. "Real queens fix each other's crowns."
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Types of Women to Avoid:
1. **The Drama Queen**: Constantly creates unnecessary drama and turmoil in your life.
2. **The Gold Digger**: Seeks you out for financial gain rather than genuine connection.
3. **The Manipulator**: Uses emotional manipulation to control and influence your decisions.
4. **The Attention Seeker**: Craves constant validation and attention, often at the expense of your needs.
5. **The Commitment-Phobe**: Unable or unwilling to commit to a serious, long-term relationship.
6. **The Narcissist**: Self-centered and lacks empathy, making the relationship one-sided and draining.
By being aware of these types and their associated behaviors, readers of "She Ain't It" can navigate the dating world more clearly and confidently, ultimately leading to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
One of the standout qualities of this book is Lambert's unapologetic honesty. He delves deep into the behaviors and traits of damaged, desperate, and deceitful women, offering readers practical tools to identify and steer clear of these destructive influences. Lambert's writing is engaging, peppered with humor and real-life examples, making the concepts easy to understand and apply.
Moreover, the book doesn't only focus on pointing out negative traits but also provides a roadmap for attracting positive, high-quality partners – the 'game changers.' Lambert encourages readers to work on themselves, set boundaries, and cultivate self-respect, ultimately leading to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
In a world where dating can be a minefield, "She Ain't It" is a beacon of light, guiding men towards authentic connections and away from relationships that drain their energy and self-worth. Whether you're a seasoned dater or new to the game, this book is a must-read that will empower you to make better choices in love and life.
---
Quotes from "She Ain't It":
1. "You can't turn a bad woman good, but a good woman can turn a bad man good."
2. "Stop giving girlfriend benefits to women who are only giving you late-night booty calls."
3. "Know your worth so you can stop giving discounts."
4. "A woman who doesn't respect herself will never respect you."
5. "Real queens fix each other's crowns."
---
Types of Women to Avoid:
1. **The Drama Queen**: Constantly creates unnecessary drama and turmoil in your life.
2. **The Gold Digger**: Seeks you out for financial gain rather than genuine connection.
3. **The Manipulator**: Uses emotional manipulation to control and influence your decisions.
4. **The Attention Seeker**: Craves constant validation and attention, often at the expense of your needs.
5. **The Commitment-Phobe**: Unable or unwilling to commit to a serious, long-term relationship.
6. **The Narcissist**: Self-centered and lacks empathy, making the relationship one-sided and draining.
By being aware of these types and their associated behaviors, readers of "She Ain't It" can navigate the dating world more clearly and confidently, ultimately leading to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
October 31, 2025
I was surprised I liked the book - quite raw in it’s language, yet it’s strong all around and especially I applaud the author for pushing a thorough multi-date vetting before sex - this isn’t for men chasing body counts, it’s for men seeking a good woman, and that lens is exactly right if you want a partner not a statistic.
CONFIDENCE AND SCREENING. Avoid women who bring up financial hardships or what they want to receive in the first one or two dates - that’s a preview of demands, not connection. Steer clear of women who center every conversation on their own problems - she doesn’t want a man, she wants an audience to be a victim. Be careful with women who try to speedrun the relationship and collect photos to show you off - that’s signaling to others what “they have”. Women who chat with many men online often show a bottomless need for attention - that’s a hazard sign.
MASCULINE FRAME. The trait of a true alpha man is to get back on the horse. Most men won’t admit they struggle with women because everyone pretends that “fu**ing bitches is easy,” but it’s not - women bring complications for everyone, and composure is the separator. To get a woman, spark desire, not favors - don’t be the chauffeur for her friends, be the man who turns her on. Approach with courage because most women will give their number to a polite, confident man - they often take what they can get, not what they truly want, and a man who recovers fast after a “no” will succeed even faster. Confidence is recovery speed - the man who gets back on the horse rides farther than the man who explains why he fell. Never ask a girl, tell her the plan - decisiveness melts indecision.
ATTENTION AND ARCHETYPES. The lowest pool of women buys attention and the higher tier buys dreams - pitch accordingly or step away. Cheap attention seekers dress for any gaze because attention from bums is still attention, while quality women don’t want those people staring - they want a man they can sell to, not a crowd to sell for. All women notice new men in their usual spots, so take the initiative and speak - she saw you, now use your change and approach her.
REGRET AND CONTROL. All women often feel the nerves of regret and overthink whether things went too fast or too slow the next day - the leverage sits with the man who holds his frame. They may think that fu**ing a stranger is nasty, but after a few days, sleeping with a dater feels nice - familiarity rewrites the story. Men should remember that the thick end of the rope is in their hand - lead and the dynamic follows. If you wouldn’t recommend a man like you to a young female relative, your ethics and value to women need work - be someone you’d endorse.
BOUNDARIES AND FILTERS. When a woman is insecure and relitigates old wounds, pre-frame the conversation and ask her not to interrupt - once she cuts you off, she stops listening anyway. Tell her clearly that her insecurities come from her ex and her past and that you only triggered the old wounds - they are not about you, they are about history. If she keeps answering in the same old script and refuses to step into a fresh, dynamic conversation, she’s not ready for a relationship or problem-solving and you need to walk away. Own your mistakes and apologize, but if you’ve already apologized and she keeps dragging the old stuff back, you can’t apologize forever - you can leave, you don’t have to settle for sadness.
CALL GAME BASICS. Do a first phone call with every woman to feel chemistry so you don’t sit in silence on the date - over 20 minutes loosens people up to share, but keep it under an hour so you don’t get boring. The ideal is a woman with whom a call lets you be fully yourself without acting, the vibe is light and fun, and the banter needs no “that was just a joke” clarifier because she gets it. You should also laugh at her jokes so she feels good too - if it’s one-sided, it’s a performance, not a connection. Keep her talking by leaving your phone in your pocket on the date - attention is oxygen, starve the screen and feed the moment.
DATE ETIQUETTE. Be honest about your budget - women respect transparent limits more than fuzzy promises. Pull out her chair at the restaurant and open doors alone - small rituals melt defenses because they signal presence, not pedestal. Dress well even if there’s no dress code - you bring the standard with you and everyone feels it. Always ask follow-ups like “then what happened?” and “how did that make you feel?” - depth is where attraction grows. “A queen doesn’t have to give you her title, it’s obvious” - read the reality, not the label. Initiate light, varied touch in different places gently - calibrated contact builds familiarity without tripping alarms.
CONFIDENCE WITHOUT BRAGGING. Don’t flex about apartments you bought - just say real estate is your passion and you like growing in that arena, obvious success without saying it out loud is stronger. First date should end with a passionate kiss, not a peck - if she’s not into you, the weirdness in that kiss will tell you instantly. Morning texts are fine, but let her miss you - feelings grow in a bit of empty space. Skip early video calls - mystery dies on camera. Any smart man dates at least two girls at a time - you’re less needy and you get comparison so you’re not blind. If you’re seeing multiple girls and one asks if you’re dating others, tell the truth: yes, but say it with the voice of a fan whose favorite basketball team just lost, and add that you’re tired of the dating treadmill and want the right long-term partner.
INTENT AND QUESTIONS. You need to clarify what she wants from a relationship by asking about past relationships and what feelings they left - why things failed and whether she finds any fault in herself. When asking personal stuff, frame it like “friends and I were talking about X and they thought Y, what’s your take?” - keeps it normal, not nosy. A killer question is what she was doing the weeks before meeting you - she can’t invent lies fast and you’ll see if her life was dull or interesting and whether she was meeting others, and you can admit your own too.
HOME TEST AND GRACE. On the third or fourth date, suggest your place - not for sex but for a game or cooking, to see if she’s interested in you without money dates. If you try a move, say touching the chest, and she’s not interested, pull back lightly with humor, act like nothing’s wrong, end it smooth, be a gentleman.
STABILITY CHECKS. Test how she reacts when attention dips or you’re gone for a day without replies - does she behave normally or spiral. If you’re anxious undressing on a date, relax knowing women are usually more nervous - she’s worrying more than you are. After sex, the next date tells you the truth about your feelings - your “balls don’t lie”, only continue if you still feel real passion and it’s getting better. The rule is she should reach out after sex to show interest or at least raise her communication - that signals she liked what she got.
RED FLAGS AFTER SEX. If, after sex but before being official, she starts demanding info about other women or pushes you to post her, that’s a preview of how she’ll control the relationship later. On one hand, don’t fear calling a girl your girlfriend - the title isn’t eternal and you can end it any time - but don’t rush wife territory because it takes at least a year to actually know her, and that first year should be different places, new contexts, and pattern-spotting.
HARD LINES. Don’t negotiate with emotional terrorists - the first threats mean you leave at any cost. Someone who acts like hell at home but an angel in public is a fake person, believe the home version.
LOGISTICS AND LEADERSHIP. Within 24 hours move her off the app to a real number - boss up and make it happen. Before proposing a date time, ask about her week so the fixed time you suggest actually fits. A good man doesn’t try to be other men’s rival - he simply shines brighter.
CONFIDENCE AND SCREENING. Avoid women who bring up financial hardships or what they want to receive in the first one or two dates - that’s a preview of demands, not connection. Steer clear of women who center every conversation on their own problems - she doesn’t want a man, she wants an audience to be a victim. Be careful with women who try to speedrun the relationship and collect photos to show you off - that’s signaling to others what “they have”. Women who chat with many men online often show a bottomless need for attention - that’s a hazard sign.
MASCULINE FRAME. The trait of a true alpha man is to get back on the horse. Most men won’t admit they struggle with women because everyone pretends that “fu**ing bitches is easy,” but it’s not - women bring complications for everyone, and composure is the separator. To get a woman, spark desire, not favors - don’t be the chauffeur for her friends, be the man who turns her on. Approach with courage because most women will give their number to a polite, confident man - they often take what they can get, not what they truly want, and a man who recovers fast after a “no” will succeed even faster. Confidence is recovery speed - the man who gets back on the horse rides farther than the man who explains why he fell. Never ask a girl, tell her the plan - decisiveness melts indecision.
ATTENTION AND ARCHETYPES. The lowest pool of women buys attention and the higher tier buys dreams - pitch accordingly or step away. Cheap attention seekers dress for any gaze because attention from bums is still attention, while quality women don’t want those people staring - they want a man they can sell to, not a crowd to sell for. All women notice new men in their usual spots, so take the initiative and speak - she saw you, now use your change and approach her.
REGRET AND CONTROL. All women often feel the nerves of regret and overthink whether things went too fast or too slow the next day - the leverage sits with the man who holds his frame. They may think that fu**ing a stranger is nasty, but after a few days, sleeping with a dater feels nice - familiarity rewrites the story. Men should remember that the thick end of the rope is in their hand - lead and the dynamic follows. If you wouldn’t recommend a man like you to a young female relative, your ethics and value to women need work - be someone you’d endorse.
BOUNDARIES AND FILTERS. When a woman is insecure and relitigates old wounds, pre-frame the conversation and ask her not to interrupt - once she cuts you off, she stops listening anyway. Tell her clearly that her insecurities come from her ex and her past and that you only triggered the old wounds - they are not about you, they are about history. If she keeps answering in the same old script and refuses to step into a fresh, dynamic conversation, she’s not ready for a relationship or problem-solving and you need to walk away. Own your mistakes and apologize, but if you’ve already apologized and she keeps dragging the old stuff back, you can’t apologize forever - you can leave, you don’t have to settle for sadness.
CALL GAME BASICS. Do a first phone call with every woman to feel chemistry so you don’t sit in silence on the date - over 20 minutes loosens people up to share, but keep it under an hour so you don’t get boring. The ideal is a woman with whom a call lets you be fully yourself without acting, the vibe is light and fun, and the banter needs no “that was just a joke” clarifier because she gets it. You should also laugh at her jokes so she feels good too - if it’s one-sided, it’s a performance, not a connection. Keep her talking by leaving your phone in your pocket on the date - attention is oxygen, starve the screen and feed the moment.
DATE ETIQUETTE. Be honest about your budget - women respect transparent limits more than fuzzy promises. Pull out her chair at the restaurant and open doors alone - small rituals melt defenses because they signal presence, not pedestal. Dress well even if there’s no dress code - you bring the standard with you and everyone feels it. Always ask follow-ups like “then what happened?” and “how did that make you feel?” - depth is where attraction grows. “A queen doesn’t have to give you her title, it’s obvious” - read the reality, not the label. Initiate light, varied touch in different places gently - calibrated contact builds familiarity without tripping alarms.
CONFIDENCE WITHOUT BRAGGING. Don’t flex about apartments you bought - just say real estate is your passion and you like growing in that arena, obvious success without saying it out loud is stronger. First date should end with a passionate kiss, not a peck - if she’s not into you, the weirdness in that kiss will tell you instantly. Morning texts are fine, but let her miss you - feelings grow in a bit of empty space. Skip early video calls - mystery dies on camera. Any smart man dates at least two girls at a time - you’re less needy and you get comparison so you’re not blind. If you’re seeing multiple girls and one asks if you’re dating others, tell the truth: yes, but say it with the voice of a fan whose favorite basketball team just lost, and add that you’re tired of the dating treadmill and want the right long-term partner.
INTENT AND QUESTIONS. You need to clarify what she wants from a relationship by asking about past relationships and what feelings they left - why things failed and whether she finds any fault in herself. When asking personal stuff, frame it like “friends and I were talking about X and they thought Y, what’s your take?” - keeps it normal, not nosy. A killer question is what she was doing the weeks before meeting you - she can’t invent lies fast and you’ll see if her life was dull or interesting and whether she was meeting others, and you can admit your own too.
HOME TEST AND GRACE. On the third or fourth date, suggest your place - not for sex but for a game or cooking, to see if she’s interested in you without money dates. If you try a move, say touching the chest, and she’s not interested, pull back lightly with humor, act like nothing’s wrong, end it smooth, be a gentleman.
STABILITY CHECKS. Test how she reacts when attention dips or you’re gone for a day without replies - does she behave normally or spiral. If you’re anxious undressing on a date, relax knowing women are usually more nervous - she’s worrying more than you are. After sex, the next date tells you the truth about your feelings - your “balls don’t lie”, only continue if you still feel real passion and it’s getting better. The rule is she should reach out after sex to show interest or at least raise her communication - that signals she liked what she got.
RED FLAGS AFTER SEX. If, after sex but before being official, she starts demanding info about other women or pushes you to post her, that’s a preview of how she’ll control the relationship later. On one hand, don’t fear calling a girl your girlfriend - the title isn’t eternal and you can end it any time - but don’t rush wife territory because it takes at least a year to actually know her, and that first year should be different places, new contexts, and pattern-spotting.
HARD LINES. Don’t negotiate with emotional terrorists - the first threats mean you leave at any cost. Someone who acts like hell at home but an angel in public is a fake person, believe the home version.
LOGISTICS AND LEADERSHIP. Within 24 hours move her off the app to a real number - boss up and make it happen. Before proposing a date time, ask about her week so the fixed time you suggest actually fits. A good man doesn’t try to be other men’s rival - he simply shines brighter.
June 10, 2021
I read this book to understand dating from men's perspectives, how to better advise men in their love lives, and learning tricks of the trade from the "inside-out" so to speak ;)
G.L. Lambert is probably not everyone's cup of tea due to what can be described as kind of an abrasive and crass writing style, but on the other hand, he keeps it real and relevant for what dating is like today. His "pools of dating" describing women made a lot of sense for me which is many women are hooked to the attention and validation in dating instead of the substance of a relationship. I like how in this book, he asks men to respectfully think and evaluate themselves and what they can offer to relationships.
I've read also "Men Don't Love Women Like you" and it was a great and mind-blowing read for me. It was really impactful and has deeply influenced the way that I look at dating now. But in particular, for this book, this is probably a useful book to help men avoid dating women that are genuinely crazy and find a long-lasting and solid relationship instead.
G.L. Lambert is probably not everyone's cup of tea due to what can be described as kind of an abrasive and crass writing style, but on the other hand, he keeps it real and relevant for what dating is like today. His "pools of dating" describing women made a lot of sense for me which is many women are hooked to the attention and validation in dating instead of the substance of a relationship. I like how in this book, he asks men to respectfully think and evaluate themselves and what they can offer to relationships.
I've read also "Men Don't Love Women Like you" and it was a great and mind-blowing read for me. It was really impactful and has deeply influenced the way that I look at dating now. But in particular, for this book, this is probably a useful book to help men avoid dating women that are genuinely crazy and find a long-lasting and solid relationship instead.
June 12, 2020
I highly recommend this book for single men and women. This is a game-changer!
March 29, 2021
I think it is a great read.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
May 1, 2021
Wish I knew this before
The author describes how to identify damaged women and how to avoid being trapped in a destructive relationship with them. A must-read in this era of toxic feminism.
The author describes how to identify damaged women and how to avoid being trapped in a destructive relationship with them. A must-read in this era of toxic feminism.
August 24, 2019
This book was pretty good. Although it’s meant for the fellas it is good for women to read.
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