Never Again - Moving On from Narcissistic Abuse and Other Toxic Relationships

by Sarah Davies

Dr. Sarah Davies draws from her clinical expertise, largely gained from working with individuals at her Harley Street practice in London, as well as from her personal experiences with narcissistic abuse, to put together this practical guide to understanding and moving on from toxic relationships. If you have experienced narcissistic abuse and want to avoid a repeat experience, Never Again - moving on from narcissistic abuse and other toxic relationships can help you
Learn about Narcissism & identify Narcissistic Abuse
Develop tools and coping strategies including emotional regulation, mindfulness and grounding techniques
Learn a range of practical tips and tools to break the cycle of abuse. Learn a 4-step refocus tool helping you to move on more quickly Work on your self-esteem, values, self-compassion and forgiveness Address any unhelpful thinking or beliefs that may be holding you back
Learn about trauma and narcissistic abuse and how to manage emotional overwhelm or distress
Learn about healthy boundaries and how to hold them
Develop clearer, healthier communication
In this new book, Dr. Davies shows readers how to identify narcissistic abuse, but also the tools needed to move on and potentially end destructive relationship patterns once and for all.

257 pages, Kindle Edition

First published March 13, 2019

Reviews

[Erin · Rating 4 out of 5]

This self-help book about how to heal from narcissistic relationships has been hugely helpful to me. There was tons of valuable information (including educational descriptions of narcissistic traits as well as how these manifest), and I appreciated the addition of first-person accounts so that the information was based on real experiences. I also appreciated that the book included several chapters on how to move on from these toxic relationships. The sections on trauma and tips on mindfulness, grounding, and different types of therapy felt up-to-date and detailed enough to actually provide assistance (unlike some self-help books that offer advice that feels impossible to do). My only complaint with this book is that there did seem to be a lot of repetition - while that can be helpful to drive a point home, it often just felt like a lack of strong editing. Overall, this book came at just the right time for me, so I'm grateful to Davies for writing it.

[Cherlynn | cherreading · Rating 3 out of 5]

✨ "Remember intensity is not the same as intimacy."

I was hoping for something more memoir-like in which we get to read about real-life experiences (there are some scattered throughout the book), but this is actually a very technical self-help book. As such, I didn't find it that compelling. I also found the book quite repetitive but I know the intent is to drive home important points until it's ingrained in the reader.

Although a bit 'dry', this is an educational read filled with plenty of practical advice, tips and reflections. The book offers valuable insight into how to spot a narcissistic partner, the baiting methods and manipulation tactics that they use, setting healthy boundaries, shifting focus onto ourselves and more.

I was surprised at how well the author seems to be able to read my mind: e.g. "During the reading of this book so far, have you wondered or worried that you might be a narcissist at all?"

Yes! 😂 (According to the author, the fact that I'm a questioning myself is a good sign that I'm not one.)

Definitely a book that many people will find useful!

I received an e-ARC of this book via Netgalley.

[Lindsey Domokur · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was eye opening and heavy. It helped me come to a LOT of revelations. I thought I knew the signs, but there were so many more that I missed. I didn’t know how bad I needed this book in my life.

[Pretty Little Bibliophile · Rating 4 out of 5]

I really like the systematic nature, which the author has undertaken to talk about this issue. As a reader I think it really helps in the healing process – apart from being a self-help book, it is also a practical guide as it takes the reader by the hand and help him or her to recover. In this, it has proved a very practical and useful tool.
Bringing in the abuse factor little by little and then relating it to a relationship (in the surprisingly quite a few cases that it appears in), makes it a smooth transition for the reader to understand. The author has kept the psychological well-being of the reader in mid, for she does not spring facts suddenly at the reader thus shocking him/her, but by slowly transitioning in a slow manner.
Acceptance is a significant phase in this situation and the author has done it in a good manner. She then leads the way to understanding and realizing if one’s partner is a narcissist, and then moving ahead. Her research is very fact based and as such, increases the dependability of the text. Lastly, she also talks about recovery, which is perhaps the most important post stage. The author also guides the reader in developing a new mindset – one that is supportive of the person’s own being and how compassion and forgiveness goes a long way. Apart from the ‘victims’, the author also addresses the friends and family, for which she scores one more amazing point!
On a personal front, I think the book has been useful. It made me realize that in the end, we really need to take care of our own selves.

I quite enjoyed the book except where I felt that it was a bit too repetitive for my taste. Overall, helpful read. I rate it 4/5!

[Luciana Pandino · Rating 5 out of 5]

Esse livro foi um divisor de águas para mim. Precisava me libertar de tentar entender a mente de uma pessoa que não consegue se conectar com outro ser humano. Não podemos cobrar algo que esse alguém não pode dar. Deixar esse sentimento de raiva ir. Não deixar que isso te consuma. A melhor coisa é vc se curar sozinha - com a ajuda de Deus - e isso leva tempo. Tenha paciência com você mesmo, autocompaixão e tudo vai ficar bem. O pior com certeza já passou. Agora estou livre física e mentalmente. ❤️‍🩹

[Luisa Castilla · Rating 4 out of 5]

Excelente libro , no se enfoca tanto en el trastorno del narcisismos , se enfoca más en la “ víctima” y todas las herramientas de recuperación ❤️‍🩹
Como dice la autora , el abuso narcisista es algo que solo puedes entender de verdad una vez lo has vivido en carne propia “

✨ Con el paso del tiempo puedes recuperarte y sanar , verás esta experiencia con gratitud, porque te ayudará tanto a conocerte que renacerás mucho más fuerte y con cimientos más estables.

[Maria · Rating 3 out of 5]

There was lots of valuable information in this book on Narcissistic personality disorder. I personally found the content rather repetitive, however I did discover helpful tips for dealing with the people with such disorder

[Naomi · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is aimed at those who are experiencing or have experienced a narcissistic relationship in their life. What I really like is that at the very start of the book it is made clear that whilst narcissism is the topic, the focus is NOT on the narcissistic but rather on the person reading on the book who is seeking to recover from said relationships.
This book is utterly fantastic. It really focuses on self-care, self-compassionate activities and creating a positive, healthy relationship with ourselves as part of the recovery journey. The author is clearly incredibly knowledgeable on the topic both through personal experience but also through professional work so the reader is in safe hands throughout the whole book.
I would recommend this book to anyone who has experienced, or is currently experiencing, a narcissistic relationship in their life as well as recommending this book to anyone who is friends with someone with aforementioned experiences or who works with someone with aforementioned experiences.

[Tiffany Rose · Rating 5 out of 5]

For anyone whose been in an abusive relationship with a narcissist this book is for you. It doesn't focus on the abuser it focuses on you and your healing. It is a beautiful book that shows you how to care for yourself and not repeat the pattern. I would highly recommend this book to those who are recovering from such abuse.

I would like to thank Netgalley and the publisher for providing me with a copy of this book free of charge. This is my honest and unbiased opinion of it.

[Cristie Underwood · Rating 5 out of 5]

The author wrote a gem of a book that will help those in toxic relationships, as it is written in a factual and non-judgmental manner.

[Heather Bennett · Rating 4 out of 5]

Never Again is a insightful book on toxic relationships and narcissistic people. We all deal with narcissistic people and this book has great information on how to deal with them.