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First published March 31, 2011
Over more than seven decades, participants were monitored, interviewed, and studied from every conceivable angle, including eating and drinking habits, exercise, mental and physical health, career changes, financial successes and setbacks, marital history, parenthood, grandparenthood, and old age. They were subjected to general aptitude tests and personality inventories, and were required to provide regular letters and documentation.
Many of the Grant study men achieved dramatic success. Some became captains of industry. One was a best-selling author. Four members ran for the U.S. Senate. One served in a presidential cabinet.
Over the past four decades, the lives of the Grant men were Vaillant's personal and professional obsession. In his book Adaptation to Life (Little, Brown, 1977), he writes, "Their lives were too human for science, too beautiful for numbers, too sad for diagnosis and too immortal for bound journals." Yet more than seventy years of data and analysis enabled Vaillant to reach some broad conclusions.
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He found seven major factors that predict healthy aging, both physically and psychologically: education, stable marriage, healthy weight, some exercise, not smoking, not abusing alcohol, and "employing mature adaptations." (Vaillant believes social skills and coping methods are crucial in determining overall life satisfaction.
Respect your elders.
Two ears, one mouth: Listen twice as much as you talk.
When you give your word, keep it. Always.
Look people in the eye when you talk to them.
Stand up for yourself.
Smile-it doesn't cost anything.
If you don't have the time to do it right, how will you find the time to do it over?
Spend less than what you earn. Save and invest the difference.
Always say "please" and "thank you," "yes sir," and "no ma'am."
Understand that the workplace is a hierarchy, not a democracy.
If you borrow something, return it in better condition than you got it.
Learn to think for yourself.
If you don't know something, look it up.
Cigarettes don't make you look cool. They make you look dumb.
Drugs deliver short-term highs and lifelong lows.
Sex is great, but unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases are not.
When you need help, ask for it. When others need help, give it.