We never consider ourselves in the bottom half even though that is statistically impossible.
If a trait or skill you're being asked about is ambiguous, you interpret the question to suit your strengths. If you're hopeless in that area of life, you diminish the importance of the skill.
Retroactive pessimism: Tell yourself in retrospect the odds were against you & failure was inevitable.
Self-handicapping: Have a nonthreatening excuse for failure: Your poor performance on an int test was from lack of effort. Win-win for ego: also enhances success.
Drug use, medical symptoms, anxiety can be used to shield ego from failure.
A student is the youngest child of a Catholic family whose mother stayed home rearing her and her ten older siblings, and she longs to be a doctor. Then she reads about a successful doctor who is Catholic, the oldest child, and whose mother went out to work. The student will then decide that a Catholic upbringing brings success but that the other two factors are relatively unimportant. But if they are told that the same person was unsuccessful then their Catholicism would seem less relevant (‘what could religion possibly have to do with being a doctor?’), but factors she differs on - birth order and mother's employment - would suddenly become crucial.
Motivated skepticism - people read an article setting out the medical dangers for women (but not men) of drinking too much coffee. Men and women who drank little or no coffee found it convincing. Men who drank a lot of coffee found it convincing. Guess who found it unconvincing?
Everyone thinks their own teams will triumph & when asked why will deny that wishing for their own team’s success affected their prediction. Yet what could be biasing our judgment other than the hope of being on the winning side? Hope springs eternally from hope, it seems.
Schoolchildren doing badly in reading or math: encouraged to blame their difficulties on lack of effort rather than ability: showed remarkable gains in persistence and accomplishment.
First-year undergraduates worried about their poor grades: primed by researchers into thinking that grades improve after the first semester: In a self-fulfilling prophecy, the students went on to get better grades (a week and even a year later) & were less likely to drop out compared w similar concerned students not primed to be optimistic.
Volunteers select cards over & over from any of four decks in front of them. Told some decks worked out better than others, & when they turned over a card won or lost points. Two decks yielded high point gains but every so often very severe point losses. These packs were best avoided in the long run; the other 2 offered less dazzling wins but less devastating point losses.
While they played, researchers monitored their emotional responses: measured skin conductance response - sweating.
The win/loss pattern was too complicated for the volunteers to calculate which decks were best. Yet by the end of the experiment nearly all were choosing from the winning packs. They developed hunches. & the volunteers sweaty fingers worked out which decks to avoid before they themselves did: pre-hunch stage, still choosing cards haphazardly, their skin conductance response shot up just before they chose a card from a losing deck. Only after they started showing these warning emotional jolts did they develop gut feeling what decks to avoid.
Give this gambling game to patient EVR, who has damage to his prefrontal cortex. Former businessman and husband and father - lost the ability to make decisions.
Yet intellect was apparently unaffected by the injury: Could come up with plenty of sensible solutions - but would cheerfully admit he wouldn't have a clue what to decide if he was in the situation himself.
The patients w prefron damage made poor decisions in the gambling game.
Why couldn't they solve the gambling task?
Maybe somatic markers - emotional tags - guide our decision making. W/o these, no amount of knowledge can help “You/I” pick a bottle of shampoo. We are disabled w/o emotional input available for weighing options. Yet using emotions as information brings the peril of mistaking the cause of those emotions. Our judgments & decisions are often based on misattributions & mistaken origins.
The problem is that our body seems to produce a one-size-fits-all emotional response. For a long time psychologists had trouble accepting the idea that our hearts thump in pretty much the same way regardless of whether we're taking an exam, have just won the lottery, or are running to catch a bus.
It is the thoughts that go alongside your emotional arousal that enable you to distinguish between one emotion and another…
Emotion = Arousal + Emotional Thoughts
Because the arousal is the same whatever the emotion (it only varies in intensity), your brain has the job of matching the arousal with the right thoughts…
...emotions enjoy the dangerous ability to affect *what* we experience, not just how we interpret it…
[Experiment with volunteers watching two movies of the face of an actor]…The world may not really be smiling with you when you smile; it might just look that way thanks to the distortions of the emotional brain. Our visual experiences are so compelling, so real, and seemingly objective that it is hard to acknowledge the furtive role played by the brain in creating what we see. Could it really be that the unpleasant look that you saw, plain as day, pass over your spouse's face has more to do with your own frazzled mood than that fleeting arrangement of his facial features?
Fading affect bias: the brain tampers with our memory of events we have experienced. History is rewritten such that the distressing emotions we experienced when things went wrong are looked back on as having been less and less intense, as time goes by. In contrast, the brain's biographer does its best to lovingly nurture and sustain the vigor of memories of our past joys. This differential treatment of the past leaves us susceptible to believing that our past was happier than it truly was.
Our emotional brain seems to generate our sense of self, existence, being.
In nerve-wracking experiences you feel detached & emotionless. Your brain deprives itself of the self in order to better execute information your mental workshop already possesses. Depersonalization seems to be the emotional brain's emergency response to stress and anxiety.
Depersonalized patients should be unemotional about everything. When showed nasty pictures, they don't show the normal skin conductance response /were not emotionally aroused by the pics the way people usually are.
Not a good state to be in for extended periods. Self-injury & -mutilation are common.
”Music usually moves me, but now it might as well be someone mincing potatoes. . . I seem to be walking about in a world I recognize but don't feel. . It's the terrible isolation from the rest of the world that frightens me. It's having no contact with people or my husband. I talk to them and see them, but I don't feel they are really here.”
“I would rather be dead than continue living like this. It is like the living dead.”
��It is as if the real me is taken out and put on a shelf or stored somewhere inside of me. Whatever makes me me is not there. I feel as though I'm not alive - as though my body is an empty, lifeless shell.”
Depersonalization - feel as if dead. Cotard delusion - believe is dead.
Too much emotion you may wind up bawling over nothing, in a mental hospital, or paralyzed with terror. Yet if you remove the ability to use emotions as information, the simplest decision becomes irredeemably perplexing. Dampen down emotions too much and you lose sense of self.
When our ego gets the balance right, the result is still mild delusions about past, present & future.
We are more able to overcome the distortions of emotional states when we know we know ahead of time we will be held accountable to explain our behavior. Normally we don't bother keeping mood out of moral equations.
Moral judgment is also polluted by many people's deep-rooted belief in karma, virtue/rewad, afterlife.
We use blame as a coping strategy to deny that life is merciless, think bad things happen to bad people.
...Remarkably - and horribly - the less monetary compensation the observers think that the victim will receive for her suffering (in other words, the less just the experiment), the more they dislike her. Disparaged even more is the woman whom people think will go on to suffer more with a further bout of electric shocks. And what of the martyr, who selflessly sacrificed herself to benefit others? She, I'm afraid to say, is the most despised of all.
We call upon personalities to explain slip-ups but make excuses for our own behavior when it falls below par. Our appraisal of others also doesn't take the same generous account of good intentions we allow ourselves.
Volunteers hold arm on bucket of icy water for charity. 50c for every min submerged. Ask to rate their own altruism. Measured virtue was based less on how much they actually earned than on how much they would've liked to help; judged themselves by what they wanted to do rather than what they did.
Ask another group of volunteers to watch the first group suffer, they aren't interested in motives: they judged purely by results.
I am holier than thou.
Milgram obedience studies repeated results: two-thirds of ordinary men and women will obediently electrocute a fellow human (up to a highly dangerous 450 volts) because a scientist in a lab coat tells them to. 90% administered at least one more shock after hearing the stooge pound on the wall.
If they were to learn anything from [Milgram’s] work, it was that it is not so much the kind of person you are as the pressures of the situation in which you find yourself that will determine how you behave.
…people's moral stamina is but a lead blown hither and thither by the winds of circumstance.
When we ignore the power of circumstance to overwhelm personality, we wind up misguidedly looking at a person's character to explain their failure to uphold an ideally high standard of conduct. [correspondence bias]
People asked if they're happy rather than unhappy about [social life] believe themselves more blessed on the front.
Never ask someone you want to stay with Don't you love me anymore?
Crucial decisions may become consequences of something as trivial as the way a question is phrased.
“Which parent should have custody of the child?” or “Which parent should be denied custody of the child?” Leads to very different results if participants choose parent A or B.
3 week study skill program experiment - Despite the course being ineffective, the students managed to persuade themselves by exaggerating how poor their study skills were before the program: they remembered giving themselves worse ratings than they actually had. In other words, by memory's sleight of hand they gave themselves a little extra room for improvement.
Jars of beads experiment - People generally ask for between 3 & 4 beads before they feel confident to say the beads are drawn from jar B.
Statistically this is pathetic: the probability of the bead being from B after the first black bead is 85%; after the second black bead 97%.
People suffering from delusions only request about 2 beads before making their decision.
They are better “scientists” than we are.
Reasoning study - ”Repetition, asseveration, self-contradiction, outright denial of the fact, and ritualistic behavior…” “Pathology of Reasoning”
Delusional patients do just as well (rather, just as badly) on reasoning tests
”The seeds of madness can be planted in anyone's backyard.” (Zimbardo)
Schizophrenia - often delusions of control. Believe their thought and actions are being controlled by external force like an alien.
Problem may lie in patient's inability to keep tabs on intentions, meaning no longer able to tell difference between actions he has willed and actions done to him. No longer able to match an action to intention, it feels externally caused. Struggling to explain the experience? external agent is in command.
“Alien hand” experiment - creates discrepancy between motor command & perceptual experience.
Mental health professionals are not much concerned by the devout Christian who has been fortunate enough to experience the presence of Jesus. But if the identity of that presence happens to be Elvis rather than the son of God then eyebrows begin to be raised. And while Catholics can safely divulge to psychiatrists their belief that God lends them the strength to pursue the Catholic way of life, Mormons should think twice before revealing their conviction that they will be transformed into a god after they die. It is fine to be assisted by a supernatural entity, but not to aspire to BE one.
People hold beliefs even more strongly when confronted with counter evidence. We twist information & self-censor arguments to keep us self-assured.
Good clinical trials of drugs are now run double-blind.
Flattery dulls intellectual opponents far more effectively than logical arguments.
Social sensitivity test - tell ppl pperformance was inferior or superior. Explained the feedback was fabricated. Volunteers continued believing in their superior or inferior social sensitivity even after learning it was fake.
Math test - helpful video vs confusing video: lack of confidence persisted even after showing them the helpful video & explaining they got bad instructions. Even 3 weeks later students shown the baffling video showed less interest in math.
We find it easy to believe but difficult to doubt.
We believe things to be true as a matter of course. You can't not believe everything you read. Only with mental effort can we decide what is untrue. Our default position and natural urge is to believe.
In general people speak the truth more often than not, so it's more efficient to assume things are true unless we have reason to think otherwise. But this causes problems. If your brain is distracted or under pressure you are more likely to believe statements you would normally find dubious.
Susceptible to innuendo: “Is Bob Talbert Associated with Fraudulent Charity?” is just as damaging as “Bob Talbert Associated with Fraudulent Charity.” Negative campaigning works.
Publicity is very bad for defendants. Media reports of crime encourage pro-prosecution stance in jurors.
With hindsight, what has happened seems inevitable and foreseeable, so you convince yourself you saw it coming.
We don't consider counterevidence because we are convinced we are already doing so.
The unconscious automatically makes you go the extra mile when schema are primed.
Schemas make up the filing system of the mind. Example: schema for dogs, schema for Asian, schema for mother, etc. Think about dogs having four legs, other aspects of dogs filed in the schema are primed, like dogs bark. Priming a schema means shaking the whole bed.
It's not that we're necessarily unaware of the stimulus itself. However, we are oblivious to the effect that it is having on us.
Lacking enlightenment, we have to perform the cumbersome task of placing ourselves on the psychiatrist’s couch whenever we want to know why we did what we've done. And, as we would with anyone else whose inner tickings we wished to probe, we infer motives from anything around us.
School children experiment - Bring pens, tell some children if they busied themselves drawing they'd be rewarded w a gold star & ribbon. Other children were given the selection of pens to play with but no incentive. Few days later: this time pens lying around for them to play with as they pleased. The unrewarded children play w the pens more.
Reasoning (self-perception theory): “How do I like drawing with the pens?” Unrewarded children: “I spent all that time drawing the pens last week, so I must enjoy it.” Rewarded group: “Not pens again, I played with them last week just to get the star and ribbon.”
When we reflect on major issues in our lives - why we prefer this car or that house, why we are in this particular career, or with that particular person - the answers that we come up with are just best guesses. They may have little to do with the truth.
Benjamin Libet experiment - Half a second before someone's finger moves there's a little flurry of brain activity called the readiness potential. Didn't have anything to do with implementing the actual finger movement: wasn't the instructions to get the finger up - this comes later, right before movement, in the motor control area of the brain.
This was the readiness potential - the command “Move finger” itself. Volunteers didn't consciously experience the will to move finger until more than a third of a sec after the readiness potential.
The brain can prepare for intentions you haven't had yet.
Are our lives nothing more than the “dull rattling off of a chain that was forged innumerable ages ago.”? (William James)
Never forget that your unconscious is smarter than you, faster than you, and more powerful than you. It may even control you. You will never know all of its secrets.
Making decisions, getting things going, developing plans, fixing your attention on the task at hand - in short, anything that requires concentrated thought - all deplete the same pool of mental resources.
We can exert self-control when we are feeling bad, we just usually choose not to because it's more important for us to feel good than to be good.
Being told you are unlikeable makes you not want to direct attention inward, fear of deficiencies and flaws. But ignoring the inner self leaves you unable to make usual comparisons between What I am doing & What I SHOULD be doing, which is essential for keeping self in line.
Psychology hack: MIRROR. Mirrors can reverse the effect of social exclusion. They literally make people self-reflect.
Stress & distraction both have very untoward effects on the conscious mind's ability to stay focused and in control of itself. It is strange but true that, the harder we try to relax and forget our anxieties, the more determined we are to cheer up and forget our troubles, or the more urgently we try to wind down & sleep, the more persistently thoughts of stress, sadness, or sleeplessness can drum at consciousness.
When your unconscious searches mental baggage for unwanted thoughts it primes the very thoughts.
Use moral muscles sparingly, ensuring precious brainpower isn't wasted on less important matters.
Resolution: Give up smoking, Exercise regime, Soup for breakfast, lunch, dinner
You’ll fail. Not enough willpower. Pick the most important thing and focus.
We do this naturally when reminded of our mortality
How to diet: put a skull in the fridge
If you are disciplined about resisting a particular temptation when it appears your unconscious will eventually take over.
Sad and unloved: Remember the problem isn't that we can't control ourselves but that we are less inclined to: Low-spirited people are just as likely to resist temptation if told it won't improve their mood.
Don't avoid potentially bruising self-reflection. Whip out a mirror.
Keeping life simple, calm, and sensibly paced may be a necessity rather than an indulgence if we are to keep thoughts under control.
When our lives are far from tranquility, it's better to give up & allow thoughts to flow free. Better a trickle than torrent.
Insomniacs ordered to stop themselves from falling asleep get to sleep quicker. The sleep-starved person calls off the inevitably unsuccessful attempts to keep wakeful thoughts suppressed.
Habits: plan out exactly how and when. People who strengthen resolve w simple but determined plan are far more likely to develop self-control.
Also makes you more likely to use restraint in other areas.