FIGHT Contre l'autosabotage, gagnez le combat !

by Hazel Gale

Phobies, addictions, procrastination, sentiment de ne pas être à la hauteur, dépendance au regard des autres… Nombreux sont les obstacles qui nous aliènent, nous empêchent d’être vraiment nous-mêmes et, trop souvent, nous poussent à l’autosabotage.
C’est pour venir à bout d’une fatigue chronique et de ses propres blocages que la boxeuse anglaise Hazel Gale s’est tournée vers l’hypnothérapie cognitive, une thérapie en forme d’autoanalyse inspirée des neurosciences et de la psychologie positive.

Elle en a tiré une méthode ultra-efficace et originale, mêlant anecdotes personnelles, théorie et exercices pratiques. Une belle leçon d’empowerment pour sortir vainqueurs de nos luttes, quelles qu’elles soient.

Étonnant, stimulant, un livre pour gagner le combat et partir à la conquête de soi !

Genres: Nonfiction, Personal Development, Psychology, Self Help, Mental Health

464 pages, Paperback

First published April 15, 2021

About the author

Hazel Gale is a master practitioner of cognitive hypnotherapy, a former world kickboxing champion and a multiple national and open European ABA boxing-title winner.

Following a physical and psychological burnout during her first few years of competitive fighting, cognitive hypnotherapy helped Hazel to rebuild her physical strength and achieve a balanced, healthy emotional state.

Empowered by the changes she made for herself, Hazel trained as a therapist so that she could devote her time to helping others win their own emotional battles. She currently practises in London and specialises in performance-related issues and the pursuit of creative and professional goals.

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Reviews

[Enviedelecture · Rating 5 out of 5]

J’ai eu un énorme coup de coeur pour ce livre. En fait, fight est bien plus qu’un livre, c’est un livre-outil, un coach personnel, une source d’inspiration riche de témoignage à commencer par l’histoire personnelle de l’auteure. Hazel Gale nous invite à réfléchir sur nos problèmes. J’ai été conquise par sa façon originale d’aborder notre développement personnel. J’ai lu plus d’une vingtaine de livres dans cette catégorie et vraiment je trouve qu’il sort du lot ! En ce sens je pense qu’il pourrait réconcilier de nombreuses personnes avec le développement personnel. Avec Fight contre l’autosabotage, gagnez le combat ! Hazel Gale nous livre un guide pratique pour nous aider à nous libérer et vivre une vie plus heureuse. Le livre est basé sur la thérapie que l’auteur propose à ses patients, ainsi Hazel Gale nous coach durant notre lecture. J’ai beaucoup apprécié les petits défis qu’elle nous lance pour nous challenger en plus des exercices et des techniques de relaxations qu’elles nous partage.
La chronique complète est sur mon blog: https://enviedelecture.fr/fight-contr...

[Rosamund · Rating 5 out of 5]

Changed my life!

[Rob Thompson · Rating 4 out of 5]

Every day we all go into natural hypnotic trances. Driving to work without even remembering it. Being in a meeting where your mind has wandered. It is this state of mind that is used in cognitive hypnotherapy. It blends hypnosis with cognitive behavioural therapy. It also uses tools from positive psychology, cognitive theory and neuro-linguistic programming.

Hazel uses a blend of theory and exercises in this book. She makes it accessible and engaging. Using her own experiences to show how the suggested exercises helped her.

Highly recommended.

[Seymour · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a book of strategies to deal with the roots of self-sabotage and burnout. It packs more value per square inch of page than anything else I have read on the topic. Of course, our reception of a book is also a matter of timing in life, but I have to say this one really spoke to me and finally nailed some nasty old habits. Its 'modality' is basically NLP/cognitive hypnotherapy, but the first thing I learned is that the hypnotherapy bit has almost nothing to do with 'hypnosis' techniques and everything to do with interrupting the 'trance' states in which we tend to carry out self-destructive behaviours. It takes application, but it is encouraging and doable! It's comprehensive, and there are lots of angles. The author basically throws the kitchen sink and a couple of grand pianos at the issue.

I don't know anybody who is not in some degree struggling with self-sabotage, but for me, recovering from burnout, terrified of going back to the way I was and treading the same old paths, it was crunch time. I am now recommending The Mind Monster Solution to everyone and referring to it frequently in training the team of support workers I supervise - for themselves and the people we work with.

What was good? All of it. Hazel writes well, and it's got to be the next best thing to having a series of 1-1 sessions. The book is aimed at empowering the reader with the tools to be their own therapist. I think it saved me a lot of money. There are practical exercises to apply every chapter, and it's worth doing them. The parts that had me on the edge of my seat were the telling of her own emotional battles as a competitive fighter. I'm not an athlete, but these were tantalizingly relatable to my own experiences of psychological shutdown and gave me huge hope.

The only thing that didn't quite work, which didn't matter in any case, is how the reader at the beginning is invited to skip or skim bits to home in on which of the many strategies appeal to them. I don't think it's easy to do this because the chapters do build on previous ones and, even though the material is cross-referenced, you'll end up needing to refer back, so it's best to read and apply from beginning to end - in my opinion.

I am profoundly grateful that Hazel had the skill, compassion and generosity to write this book. It's worth ten of the others.

[Ruth Furtek · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have been really impressed by this book..so much so that I have purchased two additional copies for family and have recommended to friends. No one has been offended (so far!) as we all have stuff to work through at times- this book allows you to do that privately and in your own time.

It is based on sound scientific research and clearly explains the theory behind the self help concepts yet still making the process fully accessible and engaging. It has a straightforward layout and language. There is no " fluffiness" which so often annoys me in self help books.

As a therapist I am familiar with many of the concepts and techniques and some issues (as Hazel mentions herself) may be too overwhelming to work through alone and may need the support of a therapist-that being said this book, I am sure could be of great help to many people and I can't recommend it highly enough. I don't feel it is a "one read only" book- it has varied approaches and techniques that can be applied to differing aspects of self that you would like to explore.
This is the best book of this genre I have read.

[Ana · Rating 3 out of 5]

I normally loathe self-help books. This one was genuinely good. It uses proper science and genuine knowledge that one can apply to one's life, without ever falling into the "Eat, Pray, Love" paradigm. I'd say as far as self-help books go, this is a worthy one to read.

[Anna · Rating 5 out of 5]

A great tool for anybody, and especially those who can’t find or afford a therapist.
While reading I was tempted to send a copy of the book to many of people I know.

[Rita · Rating 5 out of 5]

Self-sabotage is probably the meanest form of sabotage, because the saboteur has taken root in the deepest layers of the mind and where one stands or walks: it is 24 hours on the spot. In a perpetual feeling of "not enough", the self-sabotage causes stress and unhappiness. This self-assessment is deeply embedded in our unconscious layers and often we are unknowingly confronted with it. It accompanies our development like a basso continuo, we are used to it - we often even flirt with it. At times, it is disguised as a support – at least as a protector. As a matter of fact, it was a protection - the reason for its emergence tough is outdated - now it is just a monster as Hazel Gale calls it.

Hazel Gale has written a very remarkable book. On closer examination, it turns out that this book is a friendly and highly competent coach and friend who is always there.
The book consists of four parts: Perception, Power, Play and Purpose. In all parts, the psychological processes and procedures as well as highly effective psychological tools are clearly presented. Just as one has become a self-saboteur, so one becomes now a self-therapist. In the end, you can self-evaluate this complete process.

With all in-depth analysis and honest encounter with your monsters, this book breathes a deep love. Instead of shifting control over your life to the outside, the inner monsters are gradually evolving into true supporters. That makes you free and independent.
Very helpful are the guided meditations that are offered per part, they are very rich and are brought forward with Hazel Gale's beautiful voice.
I can warmly recommend to engage in both the book and the meditations, they should be translated in all languages.
Hazel Gale's book has what it takes to make the world a better place.

[Ellen Price · Rating 5 out of 5]

Unlike other 'self help' books this is far from patronising. It's founded in science and shared through the lens of Hazel's personal story. Written with humility and humour, you not only connect to Hazel's story but can draw parallels from it to your own situation, whatever that may be.

We are all 'fighting' to overcome the barriers we impose on ourselves - whether that is to achieve something specific or to just be happier in general. You don't have to be boxing fan or a sportsperson to connect to the material, it's helpful in all kinds of situations, from corporate, to personal relationships.

A really enjoyable, thought provoking and genuinely helpful read.

[Victoria Ward · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is fantastic. I get fed up with these hyped up personal development books that are pages and pages of fluff to bulk up the content around one concept or idea. This book is PACKED with detail, research, techniques and stories. It's like a manual that you can turn to for understanding why you're sabotaging yourself. The concept - splitting the part of you that self-sabotages from the rest of you and learning from it to transform it - is laid out really well. I love the way this is written.

[Marta · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of the most impactful books I've read by far.
It's gathering a lot of already known methods of therapy in one position. It guides you through the process and gives you the tools, not only theory.
It's a little bit too long in my opinion, due to numerous repetitions of some methods, but I'm sure the author aim was to educate and remember most of the things.
It took me some time to go through it but it's hard to mark it as "read" as this book will acompany me for some time and I will come back to it with my fallbacks.

[Rich · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is so well researched. I learned something useful in every chapter. Just brilliant.

[Tessifer · Rating 5 out of 5]

Awesome. Can change your life

[Debashri · Rating 5 out of 5]

The book is full of information, techniques, and also has a lot of groundwork before you can start applying actual techniques. I did find that tedious at first, especially when some of it seemed irrelevant to me. But I am glad I pushed on.
I found the chapters and information on metaphorical thinking to be incredibly valuable. For those of us who can't just rationally argue away the compulsions of the sabotaging self - here's a more visual and metaphorical approach that may just work when you can't manage to just stop or just think away your sabotaging behaviours.
All in all, it's well researched to the point where you might be sick of it. But I thought it was worth going through since I totally grew from the later chapters.

[Amanda · Rating 4 out of 5]

De vraies bonnes astuces pour combattre l'autosabotage. Des exercices utiles ,bien détaillés, faciles à effectuer sur du court et moyen terme, entre le début et la fin de la lecture.

Beaucoup de références à l'enfance, comme sources de quelques "blocages ou autres" mais tout a priori ne vient pas de là et si on pense réveiller des choses difficiles, il vaut mieux en parallèle, avoir un suivi psy avec un pro

[Tracey Sinclair · Rating 3 out of 5]

Interesting book with some really good ideas in it, although I found quite a few hard to figure out how to implement. I think this might be an excellent book to work through with someone such as a coach, though.

[Janet Reygan · Rating 3 out of 5]

I enjoyed the first part of this book but the more I read the less I felt it was talking to me.

[Denim · Rating 3 out of 5]

this book and the one on emotionally immature parents i read after it both talk about the Drama Triangle, which was useful for me to process some stuff.

[Yanko Yankov · Rating 5 out of 5]

it was an enjoyable read . Note that this book is made in a way as a self help book .