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Beyond Betrayal
Responding Right When You've Been Wronged
We all know what it’s like to be lied to, cheated, tricked, or swindled. Whether you want revenge or to protect yourself from future harm, Phil Waldrep understands your pain.
Waldrep had no idea of the steep journey that lay ahead of him when two men walked into his office and revealed an unfolding story of a friend turned colleague who was living what amounted to a second life. For years following, Waldrep sought to heal the wounds of this broken relationship and confront the pain he felt in the aftermath of this betrayal. Along the way, he discovered God’s solutions to overcoming resentment.
In Beyond Betrayal , you’ll learn about the biblical principles and practical tools that can help you Whether you’ve been hurt by a family member, friend, colleague, or trusted leader, you are not alone. Even Jesus was betrayed. You don’t have to let past hurts limit your future relationships—you can move beyond betrayal.
We all know what it’s like to be lied to, cheated, tricked, or swindled. Whether you want revenge or to protect yourself from future harm, Phil Waldrep understands your pain.
Waldrep had no idea of the steep journey that lay ahead of him when two men walked into his office and revealed an unfolding story of a friend turned colleague who was living what amounted to a second life. For years following, Waldrep sought to heal the wounds of this broken relationship and confront the pain he felt in the aftermath of this betrayal. Along the way, he discovered God’s solutions to overcoming resentment.
In Beyond Betrayal , you’ll learn about the biblical principles and practical tools that can help you Whether you’ve been hurt by a family member, friend, colleague, or trusted leader, you are not alone. Even Jesus was betrayed. You don’t have to let past hurts limit your future relationships—you can move beyond betrayal.
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First published February 11, 2020
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July 28, 2020
"Forgiveness can be granted freely, but trust must be earned. We need to be smarter moving forward. We need to establish proper boundaries. "
This was an amazing read and probably my favorite nonfiction read so far this year. I loved it and recommend it!
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This was an amazing read and probably my favorite nonfiction read so far this year. I loved it and recommend it!
*Disclosure of Material Connection: I received one or more of the products or services mentioned above for free in the hope that I would mention/review it on my blog. I was not required to give a positive review, only my honest opinion - which I've done. All thoughts and opinions expressed are my own and I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.*
April 19, 2020
Overall an excellent, easy to read self-help book based on sound Biblical teachings. The only negative I found was in the editing. There were about 4 or 5 typos that were missed and one sentence that I found confusing. I will forgive the proofreader but I do think the publishing company might want to hire a couple of more proofreaders to proofread the proofreader.
"Trust but verify." - Ronald Reagan
"Trust but verify." - Ronald Reagan
February 1, 2020
Beyond Betrayal
Overcome Past Hurts and Begin to Trust Again
by Phil Waldrep
Harvest House Publishers
Christian , Religion & Spirituality
Pub Date 11 Feb 2020
I am reviewing a copy of Beyond Betrayal through Harvest House Publishers and Netgalley:
Have you ever been betrayed by someone you love, someone you trusted? Like most of us, I am sure you have, and it changes things between you and the person who betrayed you doesn’t it? It truly hurts.
There are other very painful events in life, but Betrayal is unique in the effect it has on us!
In Beyond Betrayal Phil Waldrep reminds us, his readers that “When you give someone your love and trust, you also give them the ability to wound and hurt you like no one else can.”
The author reminds us that anger is a normal human emotion, and that is in fact okay to get angry, anger in itself isn’t bad he reminds us. He goes on to tell us that Anger is a normal human reaction but allowing that anger to control you is not!
Author Philip Waldrep reminds us “We are called to forgive, but only God can forgive and forget. Too many people try to be super‑Christian and convince them‑ selves they can forgive and forget what happened.”. We can forgive, through God, but it is only God who can wipe the slate clean, the memory of the pain the betrayer caused you! He goes on to remind us that forgiving is not forgetting , but it is letting go of your right to pay your betrayer back for the pain they caused!
It is crucial for our healing that we allow the Lord to heal our hurt and heartbreak, so that he can turn our pain into something good. Journaling can help too.
Waldrep reminds us too that Betrayal is an act of selfishness.
When we are fresh from Betrayal it is hard to even think about forgiveness our pain is so fresh and new, but if we give it to God he will help us through that difficult time, and give us the strength we need to forgive!
One quotation from Beyond Betrayal sums it up well: “Being betrayed hurts. And just because a BandAid is good to stop the bleeding, that doesn’t mean the pain will go away when you put it on. Healing will take some time.”
We are reminded too, something that at times seems obvious which Is that Pain Changes People, but at times I think we tend to overlook that fact, and see the change in that person!
If you are dealing with Betrayal, and want to know helpful ways to work through it, ways based on Biblical Principles, then I would highly recommend Phillip Waldrep’s Beyond Betrayal.
I give this book five out of five stars!
Happy Reading!
Overcome Past Hurts and Begin to Trust Again
by Phil Waldrep
Harvest House Publishers
Christian , Religion & Spirituality
Pub Date 11 Feb 2020
I am reviewing a copy of Beyond Betrayal through Harvest House Publishers and Netgalley:
Have you ever been betrayed by someone you love, someone you trusted? Like most of us, I am sure you have, and it changes things between you and the person who betrayed you doesn’t it? It truly hurts.
There are other very painful events in life, but Betrayal is unique in the effect it has on us!
In Beyond Betrayal Phil Waldrep reminds us, his readers that “When you give someone your love and trust, you also give them the ability to wound and hurt you like no one else can.”
The author reminds us that anger is a normal human emotion, and that is in fact okay to get angry, anger in itself isn’t bad he reminds us. He goes on to tell us that Anger is a normal human reaction but allowing that anger to control you is not!
Author Philip Waldrep reminds us “We are called to forgive, but only God can forgive and forget. Too many people try to be super‑Christian and convince them‑ selves they can forgive and forget what happened.”. We can forgive, through God, but it is only God who can wipe the slate clean, the memory of the pain the betrayer caused you! He goes on to remind us that forgiving is not forgetting , but it is letting go of your right to pay your betrayer back for the pain they caused!
It is crucial for our healing that we allow the Lord to heal our hurt and heartbreak, so that he can turn our pain into something good. Journaling can help too.
Waldrep reminds us too that Betrayal is an act of selfishness.
When we are fresh from Betrayal it is hard to even think about forgiveness our pain is so fresh and new, but if we give it to God he will help us through that difficult time, and give us the strength we need to forgive!
One quotation from Beyond Betrayal sums it up well: “Being betrayed hurts. And just because a BandAid is good to stop the bleeding, that doesn’t mean the pain will go away when you put it on. Healing will take some time.”
We are reminded too, something that at times seems obvious which Is that Pain Changes People, but at times I think we tend to overlook that fact, and see the change in that person!
If you are dealing with Betrayal, and want to know helpful ways to work through it, ways based on Biblical Principles, then I would highly recommend Phillip Waldrep’s Beyond Betrayal.
I give this book five out of five stars!
Happy Reading!
February 11, 2020
Every single person has been betrayed or knows someone who has been betrayed. In his new book, Phil Waldrep, does an incredible job at not only encouraging us to trust again but giving strategies to help us along in the process of overcoming that betrayal because of a personal betrayal he experienced.
It is easy to ignore the pain caused by betrayal, but by ignoring it bitterness grows within our hearts. Each chapter within this book gives steps to take as well as journal topics to help move your heart towards forgiveness to the one who betrayed you.
Overall, I highly recommend this book because it is a resource that the author wrote based on what he has been through and how the Lord worked through his own bitterness and led him to learn to trust people again.
It is easy to ignore the pain caused by betrayal, but by ignoring it bitterness grows within our hearts. Each chapter within this book gives steps to take as well as journal topics to help move your heart towards forgiveness to the one who betrayed you.
Overall, I highly recommend this book because it is a resource that the author wrote based on what he has been through and how the Lord worked through his own bitterness and led him to learn to trust people again.
February 27, 2024
A very good, biblically based book on moving past a betrayal or hurt. This book can refer to large or small hurts, personal or more public like in a work situation. Each human being will experience betrayal in some way in their lifetime, and being able to move through that with Gods help, is a wonderful thing. He addresses the stages of a betrayal from finding out, to healing and being completely free of that betrayal taking up more emotional space than it deserves. I would recommend this book.
May 13, 2020
Too religious
November 26, 2019
In Beyond Betrayal, Phil Waldrep openly and honestly shares his own experience of betrayal, sharing both the mistakes and the things he has done well in the healing process. His goal in writing is to help readers find a more healthy path through the pain of betrayal and to prevent them from getting stuck.
I appreciated the fact that Waldrep doens't offer empty platitudes or quick fixes. At the same time, he does help readers see that there is hope for getting through the pain of betrayal to the other side. He assures readers that while life will look different after betrayal, it is possible to move forward. I also appreciated Waldrep's transparency and willingness to share out of his own experiences. His honesty and his commitment to biblical truth help readers chart a path "beyond betrayal."
If you've been betrayed, you'll find helpful steps for moving forward in Waldrep's book, Beyond Betrayal. Or, if you're walking with someone else who has experienced betrayal, Waldrep's candid manner will help you better understand their journey and how you can be there for your friend or family member along the way.
Note: I received a copy of the book from the publisher in exchange for this honest review. The opinions expressed are my own.
I appreciated the fact that Waldrep doens't offer empty platitudes or quick fixes. At the same time, he does help readers see that there is hope for getting through the pain of betrayal to the other side. He assures readers that while life will look different after betrayal, it is possible to move forward. I also appreciated Waldrep's transparency and willingness to share out of his own experiences. His honesty and his commitment to biblical truth help readers chart a path "beyond betrayal."
If you've been betrayed, you'll find helpful steps for moving forward in Waldrep's book, Beyond Betrayal. Or, if you're walking with someone else who has experienced betrayal, Waldrep's candid manner will help you better understand their journey and how you can be there for your friend or family member along the way.
Note: I received a copy of the book from the publisher in exchange for this honest review. The opinions expressed are my own.
May 12, 2023
Biblical, practical, and extremely helpful as I continue my own healing journey from betrayal.
EDIT: It is now 2023 and over the last few months my betrayer's sins have come to light and compounded, affording me the ability to work through my betrayal in a more open and vulnerable way. This book which was helpful last fall, has become even more helpful and practical as I wrestle through newly raw emotions in an attempt to heal, re-heal, and help others through the grieving process of betrayal.
EDIT: It is now 2023 and over the last few months my betrayer's sins have come to light and compounded, affording me the ability to work through my betrayal in a more open and vulnerable way. This book which was helpful last fall, has become even more helpful and practical as I wrestle through newly raw emotions in an attempt to heal, re-heal, and help others through the grieving process of betrayal.
February 15, 2020
This book is one that almost anyone will be drawn to and will find helpful. We all face hurt and betrayal and need to move past it. This book gives Phil space to share his story and to use that for good.
His story his helpful and his trips are practical. This is a good tool for anyone working on their own story.
The publisher add this book available through NetGalley. This review is my honest opinion.
His story his helpful and his trips are practical. This is a good tool for anyone working on their own story.
The publisher add this book available through NetGalley. This review is my honest opinion.
November 26, 2021
I'm pretty wary of any book that purports a spiritual backbone without overtly implementing it in practice. Waldrep gives practical advice and anecdotal stories for how to deal with betrayal and working towards forgiveness. Most everyone has experienced betrayal, some at a more severe degree than others. The most helpful aspect of this work for myself was the idea that many struggle with after being betrayed, that nobody can relate or understand the pain you are going through.
This is true as far as it goes, but an OBGYN doesn't need to feel the pain a woman in labor may feel to understand how to help her and to relieve some of the pain and stress in the process. If you're like me, you tend to grin and bear it when experiencing pain and betrayal, working through it on your own. This can be dangerous on many levels, but one is ignoring the immediate help that is given to you by Christ through the means of Christian brothers and sisters. This family dynamic was built to weep and mourn with those who weep and mourn. They were built to build one another up and encourage them. There are various means of grace that Christ has given to His children to help navigate this sinful world.
This thought was helpful for me to ponder as a result of what Waldrep mentioned about a non-isolated pain. Beyond this, it was very difficult to follow his stories and ideas. Forgiveness is difficult already, why muddy it up even more. The Puritans were particularly helpful in this area of practical approaches to forgiveness and dealing with pain. I would encourage any potential reader to begin there before looking towards works like this.
This is true as far as it goes, but an OBGYN doesn't need to feel the pain a woman in labor may feel to understand how to help her and to relieve some of the pain and stress in the process. If you're like me, you tend to grin and bear it when experiencing pain and betrayal, working through it on your own. This can be dangerous on many levels, but one is ignoring the immediate help that is given to you by Christ through the means of Christian brothers and sisters. This family dynamic was built to weep and mourn with those who weep and mourn. They were built to build one another up and encourage them. There are various means of grace that Christ has given to His children to help navigate this sinful world.
This thought was helpful for me to ponder as a result of what Waldrep mentioned about a non-isolated pain. Beyond this, it was very difficult to follow his stories and ideas. Forgiveness is difficult already, why muddy it up even more. The Puritans were particularly helpful in this area of practical approaches to forgiveness and dealing with pain. I would encourage any potential reader to begin there before looking towards works like this.
February 14, 2020
Have you been betrayed?
Almost everyone, at some point or another, has experienced some form of betrayal. Maybe it was something as simple as being lied to or as complicated as being cheated on or defrauded.
When we are betrayed, the human tendency is to brush it off and pretend we're okay. But if not dealt with, those lingering feelings of betrayal can taint every relationship from that moment on.
Phil Waldrep takes you through nine steps from betrayal to healing. He employs biblical principles to help you to appreciate that there is life after betrayal--and it can be a good one.
Know God--having a firm foundation in God's Word helps you to lean on Him when you are betrayed. People may prove themselves untrustworthy, but God remains faithful.
Know yourself--as you process your betrayal, a knowledge of self is important as it will allow you to identify areas where you're lying to yourself. Knowing your personality traits helps you to address concerns that will prevent you from getting beyond your betrayal.
Run your race--everyone's betrayal is different and so will their journey to healing. Allow yourself--and others--to walk through the steps they need to so they can find healing at the end of the journey.
Beyond Betrayal offers a pathway for anyone who has suffered from the pain of betrayal. I received a complimentary copy courtesy of the publishers and NetGalley; a positive review was not required.
Almost everyone, at some point or another, has experienced some form of betrayal. Maybe it was something as simple as being lied to or as complicated as being cheated on or defrauded.
When we are betrayed, the human tendency is to brush it off and pretend we're okay. But if not dealt with, those lingering feelings of betrayal can taint every relationship from that moment on.
Phil Waldrep takes you through nine steps from betrayal to healing. He employs biblical principles to help you to appreciate that there is life after betrayal--and it can be a good one.
Know God--having a firm foundation in God's Word helps you to lean on Him when you are betrayed. People may prove themselves untrustworthy, but God remains faithful.
Know yourself--as you process your betrayal, a knowledge of self is important as it will allow you to identify areas where you're lying to yourself. Knowing your personality traits helps you to address concerns that will prevent you from getting beyond your betrayal.
Run your race--everyone's betrayal is different and so will their journey to healing. Allow yourself--and others--to walk through the steps they need to so they can find healing at the end of the journey.
Beyond Betrayal offers a pathway for anyone who has suffered from the pain of betrayal. I received a complimentary copy courtesy of the publishers and NetGalley; a positive review was not required.
April 26, 2020
I received an ARC from Harvest House Publishers, via NetGalley. This review is my personal opinion.
Betrayal, we all have experienced it. From chapter one Pastor Phil Waldrep is honest about how he is talking from his own experience and how God and with the help of others he was able to move on beyond. All do they are different forms of betrayal, it gives use us a guideline on how we can forgive and be healed. Pastor Phil mention in this book, how important is to say the name of each emotion, to be really honest; first with God and then with ourselves. I like what he mentions about forgiveness “ Forgiving is not forgetting. Is releasing your right to get revenge”.
This book also makes me realize that is important to address with the help of God the root of our pain from the past to let go and be healed. As he mentions, is a journey and so we need to be patient, take day by day and trust God at all time Step by step we go to through emotion we experience, how to handle it, recommendations like a small assignment to work in the journey of healing.
I recommend this book because all do know none wants to be betrayal, the question is how do we deal with all the shock and pain. I believe Pastor Phil Waldrep has good and biblical advice on how to navigate these unknown waters and keep living a full life after the hurt and sorrow.
Betrayal, we all have experienced it. From chapter one Pastor Phil Waldrep is honest about how he is talking from his own experience and how God and with the help of others he was able to move on beyond. All do they are different forms of betrayal, it gives use us a guideline on how we can forgive and be healed. Pastor Phil mention in this book, how important is to say the name of each emotion, to be really honest; first with God and then with ourselves. I like what he mentions about forgiveness “ Forgiving is not forgetting. Is releasing your right to get revenge”.
This book also makes me realize that is important to address with the help of God the root of our pain from the past to let go and be healed. As he mentions, is a journey and so we need to be patient, take day by day and trust God at all time Step by step we go to through emotion we experience, how to handle it, recommendations like a small assignment to work in the journey of healing.
I recommend this book because all do know none wants to be betrayal, the question is how do we deal with all the shock and pain. I believe Pastor Phil Waldrep has good and biblical advice on how to navigate these unknown waters and keep living a full life after the hurt and sorrow.
July 7, 2023
In his book Beyond Betrayal, author Phil Waldrep teaches his audience a biblical perspective on handling and processing betrayal. Sharing his own experience of being betrayed by a friend and employee, Waldrep reveals how real and devastating the pain of a betrayal can be, as well as the unfortunate consequences if we choose to suppress our emotions from betrayal and refuse to deal with them. He reveals what can be learned about the nature of betrayal by one of the most famous betrayals of all time – Judas. He walks us through many of the emotions that come at the different stages of processing and healing from betrayal, including shock, anger, isolation, forgiveness, and more. Each chapter concludes with practical advice for implementing the concepts discussed. Through it all, you will find hope for healing and evidence through the author’s story of how God can redeem any pain or hurt we experience for His glory. This book speaks with incredible wisdom and insight into a topic that is not discussed often enough. This is a book I highly recommend to anyone who has ever experienced a betrayal.
June 11, 2024
Why does betrayal hurt so bad and takes so long to get over? First we need to properly look at what betrayal is? This helps us understand why it such situations are so painful. Looking at God's Word there is helpful lessons we learn about betrayal and finding healing and growth. Very helpful and impactful book. It discusses (from a Biblical perspective) how to look at such a matter as well as some of the wrong philosophies that are shared (even among churches) to Christians (ex: we are called to forgive, forget, and allow reconciliation). the Bible does call for forgiveness but it does not call for us to forget it nor does it call for us to bring others back in our lives and allow them to be trusted. Very helpful and encouraging.
February 4, 2020
Several times while reading Beyond Betrayal, I found myself nodding my head and thinking "Yes, that's it exactly." If you've experienced a betrayal in the context of a close relationship, you'll likely resonate with much of what Phil Waldrep says in this title. While his personal story is mostly confined to one chapter, Waldrep shares several stories of others throughout the book. This helped to pain a wider, more diverse and colorful picture of the many shades of betrayal. I can see this being a title that those who have recently experienced a betrayal work through very slowly, while also serving as a good refresher and "check" for those already on the path toward healing.
March 21, 2020
The author gives you advice while telling you his own story of having been betrayed by a friend along with the stories of several others. While it didn’t apply to any current situations in my life, it caused me to pause and reflect on things that have happened to me in the past. It also just had some great insights on how to handle life in general. While it relied on religious references, it was not overbearing in that regard.
All in all a great book that I found well worth the time and useful. That is a great recommendation since the title “Beyond Betrayal” has me thinking I was something else entirely when I took it from my pile!
All in all a great book that I found well worth the time and useful. That is a great recommendation since the title “Beyond Betrayal” has me thinking I was something else entirely when I took it from my pile!
October 16, 2021
There’s a lot of Christian books that deal with forgiveness, but I don’t think I’ve ever seen one that dealt with betrayal before this book. This book was unique in how it described her fears, doubts, and emotional roller coaster of being betrayed. It also gave practical advice for overcoming those fears and doubts, and whether or not to pursue reconciliation with the betrayer. However, a lot of the examples that the author gave were difficult to relate to their scope and depth of betrayal. Ultimately, it was a great book to read but it does have a specific audience in mind: those who have experienced deep betrayal or know someone who has.
April 21, 2020
Some good take always about forgiveness from this book but I didn't have a current betrayal that I was struggling with so a lot of the tips and wisdom didn't necessarily pertain or help me...but it may in the future. I think the best take away for me personally was that we don't have to forget in order to forgive and that forgiveness is an attitude of not wanting revenge or payback for the wrong doing.
March 21, 2020
A wonderful book. I never give five out of five stars. I wish this book had come to me when I was younger and had so much hate and anger towards those who I felt had hurt me. A most practical guide to overcoming betrayal and the side effects it produces.
March 25, 2020
I received this spiritual, faith-filled read as a Goodreads giveaway. Through Biblical references and relaying his personal story, the author illustrates the power of forgiveness and provides important steps to follow in order to reach healing and embrace God's grace.
September 8, 2023
This book is a must read for the broken and sinful world we live in. It reminds us of the empathy, tenderness, forgiveness, and live Christ showed mankind. This book will provide insight to restoration.
March 21, 2020
This is a great self help type of book. I get betrayal and having my own trust issues and such and this book gives alot of insight on how to deal with those things and move on
May 9, 2020
I don't usually read this type of book, but this one was well written.
October 23, 2021
Helpful for anyone who has been badly let down by others. Based on Phil Waldrep's own experience but illustrated with many other stories. Felt quite repetitive.
May 12, 2023
It was good with good sound advice. A little too biblical for a non practicing Christian but the messages were relatable and easy to follow. Overall it was solid and helpful.
October 20, 2023
Highly recommended! Helping me sort through betrayal issues. Tips and truth immersed within the book.
December 22, 2023
Worth reading any time in your life. Dealing with past hurts or helping others through their hurts.
October 8, 2022
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting what the other person did to you. It is giving up the right to revenge.
May 2, 2020
I received this paperback, signed by the author, through a Goodreads Giveaway.
I was unfamiliar with the author, Phil Waldrep but a huge fan of Ann Voskamp who wrote the forward.
This is a wonderful book that I rated 5 stars. I think it's very helpful for processing pain and learning to trust again. I was amazed at how my reading of various books throughout Lent led into this book. I would recommend this book for everyone, who among us doesn't carry hurts and struggle with forgiveness?
I was unfamiliar with the author, Phil Waldrep but a huge fan of Ann Voskamp who wrote the forward.
This is a wonderful book that I rated 5 stars. I think it's very helpful for processing pain and learning to trust again. I was amazed at how my reading of various books throughout Lent led into this book. I would recommend this book for everyone, who among us doesn't carry hurts and struggle with forgiveness?
February 2, 2021
I began this book while reading 2 other novels and simply had to put the others away so that I could focus on this one. The story line and plot instantly draw you in and the character development is so clear and perfect that I feel like I know these people. I am constantly looking for spare moments to read another page.
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