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The Second Mountain: The Quest for a Moral Life
NO.1 BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF THE SOCIAL ANIMALAre you on your first or second mountain? Is life about you - or others? About success - or something deeper? The world tells us that we should pursue our career wins, high status, nice things. These are the goals of our first mountain. But at some point in our lives we might find that we're not interested in what other people tell us to want. We want the things that are truly worth wanting.This is the second mountain. What does it mean to look beyond yourself and find a moral cause? To forget about independence and discover dependence - to be utterly enmeshed in a web of warm relationships? What does it mean to value intimacy, devotion, responsibility and commitment above individual freedom? In The Second Mountain David Brooks explores the meaning and possibilities that scaling a second mountain offer us and the four commitments that most commonly move us family, vocation, philosophy and community. Inspiring, personal and full of joy, this book will help you discover why you were really put on this earth.
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First published April 16, 2019
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David Brooks
23 books2,449 followersDavid Brooks is one of the nation’s leading writers and commentators. He is an op-ed columnist for The New York Times, a writer for The Atlantic, and appears regularly on PBS Newshour. He is the bestselling author of The Second Mountain, The Road to Character, The Social Animal, Bobos in Paradise, and On Paradise Drive.
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April 20, 2019
You know what? Nobody can get under my skin like David Brooks. I read all his columns and some of them are just absolutely ridiculous and out of touch. But unlike people like Bret Stephens or other conservatives, I keep coming back to Brooks because once in a while, he can hit it out of the park. This book is the best of Brooks--it's wise and humble and thoughtful. It's sort of a self-help/memoir. I thought some of the parts were weird and I don't agree with him on some things, but I really enjoyed the read. And I'm going to try to keep the warm feeling until the next time he writes some idiotic column.
March 11, 2019
THE SECOND MOUNTAIN by David Brooks is a complex book that is part philosophy, part personal disclosure, and part research. It serves as an excellent source to challenge the reader’s thinking about a variety of subjects including religion, marriage, social responsibility and personal growth. It is a book that requires a great deal of thought to absorb what is being said and to time for introspection to ascertain personal reactions. For this reason, I found it easiest to read a section and then put it aside for a few hours or a day to think about what I had read.
The writing is erudite in many spots, and as such is not something one can easily skim, nor would you want to. There are many ideas put forth in terms of what David Brooks himself believes to be true. Whether or not you believe everything that is discussed in the book, it will give you an opportunity to pause and think about some important issues in society today.
Of particular interest to me was the section on becoming a servant leader, one who takes as their focus the improvement of the world around them instead of simply trying to focus on improving their own situation in life. The portions of the book that deal with the hyper-individualism we as a society have gravitated toward over the past sixty or so years. He sites the erosion of old-fashioned neighborhoods as one of the more easily seen examples of this process. He also talks about the perils inherent in becoming more isolated, more divided into groups of like individuals and his argument has a ring of truth to it as society seems to be becoming more intractable in its ability to listen to points of view other than our own.
At times I found myself wondering who was the target audience for the book as it wanders across a vast array of topics. Equal space is given to such disparate subjects as joy, social responsibility, religion, and a host of others. The quotes given in the book provide the reader with a wide range of philosophies on an equally wide range of subjects, almost compelling the reader to pause and think. Is it something with which they agree? Where do they fall philosophically on a variety of topics. Because of this, the reader may find this a longer than average read for them to complete.
While I would recommend this book as something to read for stimulating thought and defining personal philosophies, I would not recommend it as something the reader would pick up for light reading. In places it reads more like a textbook, and there were times when my brain simply would not absorb what was being said. For that reason, I chose not to read this as my “late evening” read when winding down for the night, but saved it for times when I had a fresher brain and enough time to carve out a section to complete before being called to do something else.
This book may be helpful for people who are seeking to define their own values or learn about how others have moved through that process. It is a book that also offers hope for finding “joy” to put in your life in addition to fun and purpose. There is also caution regarding where society is heading if it continues on its current isolationist path. Perhaps the best thing that can be said for this book is that it will encourage you to think, and possibly to act, in ways that may be new to you.
The writing is erudite in many spots, and as such is not something one can easily skim, nor would you want to. There are many ideas put forth in terms of what David Brooks himself believes to be true. Whether or not you believe everything that is discussed in the book, it will give you an opportunity to pause and think about some important issues in society today.
Of particular interest to me was the section on becoming a servant leader, one who takes as their focus the improvement of the world around them instead of simply trying to focus on improving their own situation in life. The portions of the book that deal with the hyper-individualism we as a society have gravitated toward over the past sixty or so years. He sites the erosion of old-fashioned neighborhoods as one of the more easily seen examples of this process. He also talks about the perils inherent in becoming more isolated, more divided into groups of like individuals and his argument has a ring of truth to it as society seems to be becoming more intractable in its ability to listen to points of view other than our own.
At times I found myself wondering who was the target audience for the book as it wanders across a vast array of topics. Equal space is given to such disparate subjects as joy, social responsibility, religion, and a host of others. The quotes given in the book provide the reader with a wide range of philosophies on an equally wide range of subjects, almost compelling the reader to pause and think. Is it something with which they agree? Where do they fall philosophically on a variety of topics. Because of this, the reader may find this a longer than average read for them to complete.
While I would recommend this book as something to read for stimulating thought and defining personal philosophies, I would not recommend it as something the reader would pick up for light reading. In places it reads more like a textbook, and there were times when my brain simply would not absorb what was being said. For that reason, I chose not to read this as my “late evening” read when winding down for the night, but saved it for times when I had a fresher brain and enough time to carve out a section to complete before being called to do something else.
This book may be helpful for people who are seeking to define their own values or learn about how others have moved through that process. It is a book that also offers hope for finding “joy” to put in your life in addition to fun and purpose. There is also caution regarding where society is heading if it continues on its current isolationist path. Perhaps the best thing that can be said for this book is that it will encourage you to think, and possibly to act, in ways that may be new to you.
September 12, 2025
Part memoir, part manifesto, and part literature review—this book provides a multifaceted exploration of ways toward achieving a life with purpose and meaning. According to this book the current emphasis in our culture to be hyper-individualistic—focused on the self, achievement, reputation and personal goals—is destructive to the human spirit. Brooks perceives a need to become more “relationalist … where relation, commitment, and the desires of the heart and soul” bring meaning and purpose.
Brooks, the author, provides the metaphor of "first mountain" and "second mountain" to describe his own life experience of midlife identity crisis—which included a divorce from his first wife—after which he moved on to his life's "second mountain" with changed priorities. He goes on to suggest that the metaphor of "first mountain" and "second mountain" can also be applied to society as a whole. This can be seen in the shift from focus on individualism that began with the counter-cultural movement of the 1960 toward more community oriented priorities.
Numerous quotations from other authors are scattered throughout the book. The frequency of these quotes made me imagine that he and his staff must have scoured hundreds of books for useable quotations, categorized them into differing subjects, and then wrote a narrative around them to fit as required. Brooks is a journalist, so I guess this style of writing is to be expected. The writing is all skillfully done, I'm not complaining. (Some of the names quoted — C.S. Lewis, Alain de Botton, Viktor Frankl, David Foster Wallace, Carl Jung, E.O. Wilson, William James, Abraham Lincoln, Oswald Chambers, Karl Barth, Matthew Arnold, Richard Rohr, the Beatles, Iris Murdoch, Parker Palmer, Elly Hillesum)
The book contains a chapter on marriage filled with much good advice. At first I wondered whether an author who had experienced divorce and remarriage could be the source of advice on what makes a good marriage. A friend of mine retired from a career of mental health work told me recently that all marriage counselors he's known were no longer married to their first spouse. It's perhaps counter intuitive that the best marriage counselors are those who have personally struggled with it in their own life.
It's worth noting that Brooks had the option to seek a better "second mountain" because he had been very successful in his working career that constituted his "first mountain" phase of life. It needs to be acknowledged that being able to make midlife changes is a privilege for those possessing the necessary abilities and resources. Many who live near the ragged edge of survival may not have the option of a "second mountain." The second mountain for some people may be accepting their lot in life and proceeding as cheerfully as possible.
The following link is to a collection of excerpts from this book. They are notes and highlights selected by Otis Chandler, a Goodreads.com reader I follow:
https://www.goodreads.com/notes/41023...
Brooks, the author, provides the metaphor of "first mountain" and "second mountain" to describe his own life experience of midlife identity crisis—which included a divorce from his first wife—after which he moved on to his life's "second mountain" with changed priorities. He goes on to suggest that the metaphor of "first mountain" and "second mountain" can also be applied to society as a whole. This can be seen in the shift from focus on individualism that began with the counter-cultural movement of the 1960 toward more community oriented priorities.
Numerous quotations from other authors are scattered throughout the book. The frequency of these quotes made me imagine that he and his staff must have scoured hundreds of books for useable quotations, categorized them into differing subjects, and then wrote a narrative around them to fit as required. Brooks is a journalist, so I guess this style of writing is to be expected. The writing is all skillfully done, I'm not complaining. (Some of the names quoted — C.S. Lewis, Alain de Botton, Viktor Frankl, David Foster Wallace, Carl Jung, E.O. Wilson, William James, Abraham Lincoln, Oswald Chambers, Karl Barth, Matthew Arnold, Richard Rohr, the Beatles, Iris Murdoch, Parker Palmer, Elly Hillesum)
The book contains a chapter on marriage filled with much good advice. At first I wondered whether an author who had experienced divorce and remarriage could be the source of advice on what makes a good marriage. A friend of mine retired from a career of mental health work told me recently that all marriage counselors he's known were no longer married to their first spouse. It's perhaps counter intuitive that the best marriage counselors are those who have personally struggled with it in their own life.
It's worth noting that Brooks had the option to seek a better "second mountain" because he had been very successful in his working career that constituted his "first mountain" phase of life. It needs to be acknowledged that being able to make midlife changes is a privilege for those possessing the necessary abilities and resources. Many who live near the ragged edge of survival may not have the option of a "second mountain." The second mountain for some people may be accepting their lot in life and proceeding as cheerfully as possible.
The following link is to a collection of excerpts from this book. They are notes and highlights selected by Otis Chandler, a Goodreads.com reader I follow:
https://www.goodreads.com/notes/41023...
May 3, 2019
I believe that many people will find wisdom in this book, but I am afraid that I found it irritating from page one. It seems to me that the point of the book is that a life of service is satisfying. It is. But Mr. Brooks writes in a high handed, preachy manner as though he were a psychologist, respected philosopher, or clergy, making statements throughout that are to be taken as fact: "The soul is....."and he goes on to define it. The nuns that taught my childhood religious instruction classes didn't presume to define the soul for goodness sake. I kept wondering what Mr. Brooks' credentials are to be essentially trying to teach lessons. He remains aloof and didactic. Oh well, maybe it's just me.
May 24, 2019
Milquetoast divorced middle-aged dude pedals pseudo intellectual garbage. Yawn.
April 28, 2019
While I have given the book 5 stars, I have to say it is not as consistently good as this would indicate. Part 1, in which Brooks explains the "two mountain" metaphor, is worth 5 stars by itself. Combining the wisdom of many teachers (including Richard Rohr, James Hollis, Gerald May, Robert Bellah, Robert Putnam, many others), he describes how everyone builds two mountains, the first, to build identity and discover ourselves but often driven by the ego, and the second, after failure, tragedy, or dissatisfaction with the first mountain, we become open to deeper things, deep causes, needs, and are driven by service, compassion, and love. What is especially helpful is Brooks's frank rejection of the siren song of individualism we have been taught as the highest good since childhood. The two mountains, then, offer two contrasting value systems, and our task, both individually and communally, is to move from the first to the second. Wonderful. But this is followed by parts covering "The Four Commitments," though I never quite followed the logic of this transition. Parts 2 and 3, on Vocation and Marriage, are excellent book-report summaries of the best books and advice on these subjects. But he never integrates them with the two-mountain metaphor from Part 1. Then things get interesting again in Part 4, on Philosophy and Faith, where Brooks, over four chapters, tells the story of his long journey to Christian faith and how he is integrating this with his Jewish identity. Part of this is woven together with the story of his divorce and his courtship with his new wife (though not enough detail to qualify as memoir). Overall his reflections on faith, doubt, identity, and apologetics gains him another 5-star section. I only wish more Christians embraced the kind of Christianity Brooks describes. Part 5, on Community, offer excellent observations on what it means to build and sustain communities based on talking to people doing front-line work. The final chapter, what he calls The Relational Manifesto, summarizes the book but in an overly abstract manner that does not make clear what the call-to-action is. So Part 5 gets 4 stars. Brooks is one of our best public intellectuals who many read closely, and so my overall rating reflects the importance of where he points us in Parts 1 and 4. May those sections spur some needed cultural changes.
April 24, 2019
After reading the book one might be left with the impression one has when someone describes how they found God and how that pulled them out of depression, anxiety, lethargy or some other predicament. No one would want to tell somebody to abandon a belief that had such beneficial effects, but a personal experience is just that—personal. Whether it translates from one person to another is highly doubtful.
So while I admire Brooks’ bravery in writing such a counter-cultural work, I have to conclude that the book’s overall argument relies on nothing but testimonials. For someone who loves reading of annual awards in the social sciences this feels like something is missing. Why should I trust these testimonials if my thoughts of the world are so different?
In short, if people read this book and become convinced to be other-centered and discover great joy in their life, I would be the last person to dissuade them. But from David Brooks I wanted more. I wanted some account of human nature that would ground this other-directedness in something rational. A powerful testimonial but, in the end, only a testimonial.
So while I admire Brooks’ bravery in writing such a counter-cultural work, I have to conclude that the book’s overall argument relies on nothing but testimonials. For someone who loves reading of annual awards in the social sciences this feels like something is missing. Why should I trust these testimonials if my thoughts of the world are so different?
In short, if people read this book and become convinced to be other-centered and discover great joy in their life, I would be the last person to dissuade them. But from David Brooks I wanted more. I wanted some account of human nature that would ground this other-directedness in something rational. A powerful testimonial but, in the end, only a testimonial.
August 16, 2020
Dozens of feel-good stories about real-life people making a difference, and dozens of inspiring quotes from moral heavyweights like Viktor Frankl and C.S. Lewis. But David Brooks comes across as just another scam artist working a racket. The thesis of the book, that "hyper-individualism" is bad and "community" is good comes across as unbelievably shallow and hypocritical. If you've ever read War & Peace, this book is like watching Prince Vassily pretending to be Prince Andrey.
Where's Dolohov when you need him?
The author of War and Peace was a Russian aristocrat named Count Leo Tolstoy, and the book started to lose me as soon as I read David Brooks' absolutely jaw-dropping summary of Tolstoy's early life. There is no mention of Tolstoy being a count, no mention that he lived in Czarist Russia, and no mention of a thing called serfdom. Smiling David Brooks assures us that Tolstoy "sowed his wild oats" but makes no effort to understand what that really means. As a young man Tolstoy had the power of life and death over hundreds of human beings. He had extravagant wealth and privileges he did nothing to earn. He could murder, rape, and steal with the blessing of the state. And David Brooks has nothing to say about any of this! He wants you to admire the second half of Tolstoy's life, the repentance, without ever having to acknowledge the ugliness of the society that produced him. In other words, a Russian aristocrat is more honest about the failures of Czarist Russia than a modern American conservative. What does that say about Brooks?
Oh, but there's more. The next hero to get the "Brooks treatment" is rock and roll titan Bruce Springsteen. David Brooks praises the Boss extravagantly for finding his "vocation" and choosing Elvis Presley and the Beatles as role models. Brooks says that people who find their vocations transcend their selfish interests and strengthen the community. What Brooks does not say is that Bruce was rejecting an awful lot when he embraced Elvis. For young Bruce, Elvis was the ultimate hero -- the pope, the king, and the father he never had. But what does that tell us?
Bruce became a rock star because he didn't want to become a Catholic priest. Or work in a factory. Or get killed in Vietnam. Those were his only real options, yet Brooks pointedly ignores all the ways America let him down, along with millions of other working class kids. You don't have to be Dave Marsh to realize that Brooks is a fraud, an opportunist who is only using Springsteen to bolster his own defense of class distinctions and the status quo. He dismisses everything that's personal, angry, and subversive in Bruce's early work, focusing only on the Boss' later success and his hunger for mainstream respectability.
Through gross distortions, lies, and oversimplifications, Brooks advances an argument that our society is in danger because of too much individualism. Too much freedom. He suggests that society cannot survive unless people "form commitments" and "lose themselves" in a cause greater than themselves. It sounds plausible until you actually think about how corrupt society actually is.
Take for example, the well-known case of Huckleberry Finn. Brooks pretends to admire traditional American writers like John Steinbeck, and he has plenty of time for dreary old George Eliot. But he never even mentions Mark Twain's great masterpiece. Why? Huck does everything this book talks about. He moves beyond self-interest when he encounters the runaway slave Jim. Huck forms a commitment to Jim, in fact he loses himself in that commitment, effectively becoming a different person. So what's the problem? The problem is that a slave society can't tolerate unselfishness. Huck's courage, his commitment, his moral growth, doesn't strengthen the society that produced him. Huck's friendship with Jim is dangerous, unacceptable, threatening to both the church and the state. And that makes David Brooks nervous, because he loves the church and state. He's not interested in challenging authority, because he never met an authority figure he didn't like. David Brooks says society can't survive without unselfish behavior. What he doesn't say is that unjust societies also demand unselfish behavior. And that some unjust societies don't deserve to survive.
I wish I had twenty pages to describe everything that's really wrong with this book. There's the long passage about the good old days in Chicago, the old immigrant neighborhoods where everyone knew everyone, and people were happy, "even if they tolerated a lot of racism and anti-Semitism." (Come back, Studs Lonigan, America is *sorry* for what it did to you!) There's the meant-to-be-heartbreaking, but unintentionally funny deathbed scene, where preppy young David Brooks confronts his dying Jewish grandfather and has nothing to say to him. (Our suffering hero wryly puts it down to "constipation of the heart," which sounds like a potty joke from a Kevin Smith movie!)
The funniest moment is when David Brooks tries to argue with a straight face that Christianity and slavery can never coexist, because slavery "devalues the human soul." Or something. The only problem, of course, is that slavery and Christianity did coexist, for about eighteen hundred years. Which explains what a low opinion Mark Twain had of Christianity. And why David Brooks never quotes Mark Twain.
Where's Dolohov when you need him?
The author of War and Peace was a Russian aristocrat named Count Leo Tolstoy, and the book started to lose me as soon as I read David Brooks' absolutely jaw-dropping summary of Tolstoy's early life. There is no mention of Tolstoy being a count, no mention that he lived in Czarist Russia, and no mention of a thing called serfdom. Smiling David Brooks assures us that Tolstoy "sowed his wild oats" but makes no effort to understand what that really means. As a young man Tolstoy had the power of life and death over hundreds of human beings. He had extravagant wealth and privileges he did nothing to earn. He could murder, rape, and steal with the blessing of the state. And David Brooks has nothing to say about any of this! He wants you to admire the second half of Tolstoy's life, the repentance, without ever having to acknowledge the ugliness of the society that produced him. In other words, a Russian aristocrat is more honest about the failures of Czarist Russia than a modern American conservative. What does that say about Brooks?
Oh, but there's more. The next hero to get the "Brooks treatment" is rock and roll titan Bruce Springsteen. David Brooks praises the Boss extravagantly for finding his "vocation" and choosing Elvis Presley and the Beatles as role models. Brooks says that people who find their vocations transcend their selfish interests and strengthen the community. What Brooks does not say is that Bruce was rejecting an awful lot when he embraced Elvis. For young Bruce, Elvis was the ultimate hero -- the pope, the king, and the father he never had. But what does that tell us?
Bruce became a rock star because he didn't want to become a Catholic priest. Or work in a factory. Or get killed in Vietnam. Those were his only real options, yet Brooks pointedly ignores all the ways America let him down, along with millions of other working class kids. You don't have to be Dave Marsh to realize that Brooks is a fraud, an opportunist who is only using Springsteen to bolster his own defense of class distinctions and the status quo. He dismisses everything that's personal, angry, and subversive in Bruce's early work, focusing only on the Boss' later success and his hunger for mainstream respectability.
Through gross distortions, lies, and oversimplifications, Brooks advances an argument that our society is in danger because of too much individualism. Too much freedom. He suggests that society cannot survive unless people "form commitments" and "lose themselves" in a cause greater than themselves. It sounds plausible until you actually think about how corrupt society actually is.
Take for example, the well-known case of Huckleberry Finn. Brooks pretends to admire traditional American writers like John Steinbeck, and he has plenty of time for dreary old George Eliot. But he never even mentions Mark Twain's great masterpiece. Why? Huck does everything this book talks about. He moves beyond self-interest when he encounters the runaway slave Jim. Huck forms a commitment to Jim, in fact he loses himself in that commitment, effectively becoming a different person. So what's the problem? The problem is that a slave society can't tolerate unselfishness. Huck's courage, his commitment, his moral growth, doesn't strengthen the society that produced him. Huck's friendship with Jim is dangerous, unacceptable, threatening to both the church and the state. And that makes David Brooks nervous, because he loves the church and state. He's not interested in challenging authority, because he never met an authority figure he didn't like. David Brooks says society can't survive without unselfish behavior. What he doesn't say is that unjust societies also demand unselfish behavior. And that some unjust societies don't deserve to survive.
I wish I had twenty pages to describe everything that's really wrong with this book. There's the long passage about the good old days in Chicago, the old immigrant neighborhoods where everyone knew everyone, and people were happy, "even if they tolerated a lot of racism and anti-Semitism." (Come back, Studs Lonigan, America is *sorry* for what it did to you!) There's the meant-to-be-heartbreaking, but unintentionally funny deathbed scene, where preppy young David Brooks confronts his dying Jewish grandfather and has nothing to say to him. (Our suffering hero wryly puts it down to "constipation of the heart," which sounds like a potty joke from a Kevin Smith movie!)
The funniest moment is when David Brooks tries to argue with a straight face that Christianity and slavery can never coexist, because slavery "devalues the human soul." Or something. The only problem, of course, is that slavery and Christianity did coexist, for about eighteen hundred years. Which explains what a low opinion Mark Twain had of Christianity. And why David Brooks never quotes Mark Twain.
May 10, 2019
I really wanted to like this book but it mostly irritated me. I found it preachy and stereotypical. He overthinks and drones on and on. I have to confess that I just couldn’t bring myself to wade through it to the end.
April 1, 2025
Journalist David Brooks explains his metaphor of two mountains. On the first mountain, a person is striving to achieve goals that will be of benefit to that individual. On the second mountain, a person is attaining to fulfill the needs of others. By moving off the first mountain onto the second, a person will therefore find joy and contentment in life. This is a very basic and incomplete explanation; I apologize.
I like the premise but I have to keep in mind that not everyone has the advantage and privilege to hop off the first mountain and climb the second. Some people I think mostly are climbing both simultaneously and is that necessarily a bad thing?
Many quotes and passages given are from greats such as C.S. Lewis, Viktor Frankl, Alain de Botton, and others.
I like the premise but I have to keep in mind that not everyone has the advantage and privilege to hop off the first mountain and climb the second. Some people I think mostly are climbing both simultaneously and is that necessarily a bad thing?
Many quotes and passages given are from greats such as C.S. Lewis, Viktor Frankl, Alain de Botton, and others.
April 24, 2019
The Second Mountain is a book stuffed with anecdotes, quotes, aphorisms, and generalizations. While I don't doubt the sincerity of the author, I couldn't learn from what I read. It was too vague, somewhat directionless. If there are 500 ways to find your path or succeed or find happiness or serve humanity, and you want to write a book about all of it, you'll need to narrow the focus, because otherwise, it's just too much information. I couldn't find threads or draw conclusions. I wasn't compelled to take notes or record snippets of wisdom. Everything was good. It was all good. And therefore, nothing made much of an impression. Maybe it was just me. I read to page 150 and gave up.
September 12, 2025
I read and re-read this all summer. One of the best books I've read on life and purpose. I've been quoting it for years actually but was due for a repeat due to being in a life transition. The book presents a powerful metaphor for the transition to one of life's biggest stages: from the first mountain, or money/work/success, to the second mountain, or purpose/meaning.
Most people spend most of their post school lives on the first mountain, and only encounter the second mountain upon retirement. Some people, are lucky enough to encounter it earlier in life. In 2019 I left my job (and my baby, Goodreads) and moved to France to figure out life. I learned about La Bonne Vie - or "the good life" - but that doesn't translate well - what I found was that France was a place where people's identities were centered not primarily their jobs, but rather other things: their hobbies, their families, their friends, their "life". This was a vast difference from the SF bay area where your identity is your work. And I was so grateful to experience life in that world - I really grew as a person. And yet, it was only a step towards the second mountain.
Because my big insight in reading this book has been that second mountain is not just about purpose, but about helping others and building community. (Something I know something about as those were core to building Goodreads!) But the switch is when your mission isn't the meritocratic ladder we live in on the first mountain - career, money, success - but your mission is to help others. Some people are nobly on missions like this early in life. But most of us view that as a "thing I'll do when I'm older and I've 'made it'".
Brooks gives a lot of good examples of what some people's journey to the second mountain looks like. But frankly, I'd love a whole second book about that, as there are so many paths, and so many variables. I did like his tip to catalogue your passions whenever you have them.
Brooks makes an interesting argument in the book that our society oscillates in the long term between individualism and conformity. Eg post WWII we were conformists, and in the 60s an individualistic cycle broke out. Today, he argues that with all the tech isolating us and dividing us, we are in a strong and dangerous individual cycle, and we need to work back to a society that has stronger community. This seems clear and very true to me once you lay out that way, and I fear that before it makes it better, AI will make it worse.
Too many of us are living first mountain lives and not realizing there is more to life. Easy to say, because unless you are retiring it is very hard to get off the first mountain. But it is good to recognize what it is and what it does to us. Two good quotes on that:
My time in France was about entering the valley between the mountains and start to understand what they are about. I started to realize that there were other things in life that were important, even though the the pull to go back to SF and "work in tech" was (and is) a strong draw.
I think we are at a unique moment in time because we are at the leading edge of a massive societal shift: AI. This give us the opportunity to shift our society to the second mountain values that really matter: our relationships with others. I have heard many people cite studies of people on their death beds saying what they valued most in their lives, and it wasn't their meritocratic successes, it was the relationships they built in life. Their families, their friends, their communities.
I very much look forward to my second mountain journey.
The first mountain is the individualist worldview, which puts the desires of the ego at the center. The second mountain is what you might call the relationalist worldview, which puts relation, commitment, and the desires of the heart and soul at the center.
Most people spend most of their post school lives on the first mountain, and only encounter the second mountain upon retirement. Some people, are lucky enough to encounter it earlier in life. In 2019 I left my job (and my baby, Goodreads) and moved to France to figure out life. I learned about La Bonne Vie - or "the good life" - but that doesn't translate well - what I found was that France was a place where people's identities were centered not primarily their jobs, but rather other things: their hobbies, their families, their friends, their "life". This was a vast difference from the SF bay area where your identity is your work. And I was so grateful to experience life in that world - I really grew as a person. And yet, it was only a step towards the second mountain.
Because my big insight in reading this book has been that second mountain is not just about purpose, but about helping others and building community. (Something I know something about as those were core to building Goodreads!) But the switch is when your mission isn't the meritocratic ladder we live in on the first mountain - career, money, success - but your mission is to help others. Some people are nobly on missions like this early in life. But most of us view that as a "thing I'll do when I'm older and I've 'made it'".
Brooks gives a lot of good examples of what some people's journey to the second mountain looks like. But frankly, I'd love a whole second book about that, as there are so many paths, and so many variables. I did like his tip to catalogue your passions whenever you have them.
Brooks makes an interesting argument in the book that our society oscillates in the long term between individualism and conformity. Eg post WWII we were conformists, and in the 60s an individualistic cycle broke out. Today, he argues that with all the tech isolating us and dividing us, we are in a strong and dangerous individual cycle, and we need to work back to a society that has stronger community. This seems clear and very true to me once you lay out that way, and I fear that before it makes it better, AI will make it worse.
Consumerism amputates what is central to the person for the sake of material acquisition. The meritocracy amputates what is deepest for individual “success.” Unbalanced capitalism turns people into utility-maximizing, speeding workaholics that no permanent attachment can penetrate.
Too many of us are living first mountain lives and not realizing there is more to life. Easy to say, because unless you are retiring it is very hard to get off the first mountain. But it is good to recognize what it is and what it does to us. Two good quotes on that:
Furthermore, workaholism is a surprisingly effective distraction from emotional and spiritual problems. It’s surprisingly easy to become emotionally avoidant and morally decoupled, to be less close to and vulnerable with those around you, to wall off the dark jungle deep inside you, to gradually tamp down the highs and lows and simply live in neutral.
The meritocracy gives you brands to attach to—your prestigious school, your nice job title—which work well as status markers and seem to replace the urgent need to find out who you are. Work, the poet David Whyte writes, “is a place you can lose yourself more easily perhaps than finding yourself.”
My time in France was about entering the valley between the mountains and start to understand what they are about. I started to realize that there were other things in life that were important, even though the the pull to go back to SF and "work in tech" was (and is) a strong draw.
We are often taught by our culture that we are primarily thinking beings—Homo sapiens. Sometimes our schools and companies treat us as nothing but analytic brains. But when we’re in the valley, we get a truer and deeper view of who we really are and what we really need. When we’re in the valley our view of what’s important in life is transformed. We begin to realize that the reasoning brain is actually the third most important part of our consciousness. The first and most important part is the desiring heart.
I think we are at a unique moment in time because we are at the leading edge of a massive societal shift: AI. This give us the opportunity to shift our society to the second mountain values that really matter: our relationships with others. I have heard many people cite studies of people on their death beds saying what they valued most in their lives, and it wasn't their meritocratic successes, it was the relationships they built in life. Their families, their friends, their communities.
We often assume that self-interest—defined as material gain and status recognition—are the main desires of life and that service to others is the icing on the cake. And that’s because for centuries most of our social thinking has been shaped by men, who went out and competed in the world while women largely stayed home and did the caring. These men didn’t even see the activity that undergirded the political and economic systems they spent their lives studying. But when you actually look around the world—parents looking after their kids, neighbors forming associations, colleagues helping one another, people meeting and encountering each other in coffee shops—you see that loving care is not on the fringe of society. It’s the foundation of society.
As adults, we measure our lives by the quality of our relationships and the quality of our service to those relationships. Life is a qualitative endeavor, not a quantitative one. It’s not how many, but how thick and how deep.
I very much look forward to my second mountain journey.
September 15, 2019
The smug journalist I remember from the NYT writes a surprisingly vulnerable and personal book about how to live a life of joy. The premise is that people climb their first mountain in life and that looks like career success or a life accomplishment based on what makes them happy. Then something in their life happens to make that happiness go away. So in order to climb the second mountain, people must align to a principled life of the four commitments: vocation, marriage, philosophy and community. Joy is distinct from happiness and living a life of four commitment allows joy to be experienced. Happiness happens to you when you get what you want. Joy is when you forget your
self and the ego melts away.
This line in his closing summary resonates with me deeply.
“You look across your life and review the moments when you felt more fully alive - at most your best self. They were usually moments when you were working with others in service of some ideal. That is the agency moment. That is the moment when you establish clarity in what you should do and how you should live. That is the moment when the ego loses its grip.”
The writing was very clear and accessible while the insights are profound.
5 out of 5 stars.
self and the ego melts away.
This line in his closing summary resonates with me deeply.
“You look across your life and review the moments when you felt more fully alive - at most your best self. They were usually moments when you were working with others in service of some ideal. That is the agency moment. That is the moment when you establish clarity in what you should do and how you should live. That is the moment when the ego loses its grip.”
The writing was very clear and accessible while the insights are profound.
5 out of 5 stars.
May 26, 2019
Terrific book on living a meaningful life. Many of my fellow liberals do a lot of eye-rolling at Brooks' NYT columns, but I've always found him really thoughtful and interesting, even if I disagree with him. He has a unique life story, and he opens up in a very vulnerable, humble way in this book. I enjoyed the many examples of amazing people doing extraordinary things to help others and live full, charitable, and meaningful lives. Brooks advocates connecting with others, building community, and loving and serving each other. It's a beautiful, hopeful message that is increasingly urgent in these very divisive times.
January 6, 2021
Abandoned because it's the pompous wannabe-intellectual drivel of a sanctimonious milquetoast. I could not finish this book and skimmed most of what little I could stomach (though I gotta admit, his style is, as always, easily digestible ((milquetoast!)), but I repeat myself) and I dislike the experience enough to pass judgment on it.
Ostensibly, David Brooks's The Second Mountain "explores the four commitments that define a life of meaning and purpose: to a spouse and family, to a vocation, to a philosophy or faith, and to a community."
First of all, he is the last person to give marriage or family advice. He is an adulterer--he cheated on his wife with his much much younger research assistant while writing, get this, The Road to Character. What marriage advice he does give, in the words of better reviewers (again, because I didn't finish it and, God willing, never will), "sounds an awful lot like crippling codependency." In an interview with Charlie Rose, he said the best thing he could've done for his son(s?) was to die when they were young (given what happens, perhaps he'd meant young enough to view him without contempt) so as to leave them with an emotional void and subsequent drive to "take on the world" was the gist. Perhaps writing this was apt after all; those who can't do, teach.
As for the second, vocation, he's a columnist for the New York Times featured on PBS's The Newshour instead of Fox, so he still merits some relevance and respect, if only to present to the nation the face of a reasonable conservative. And he does pull off that amicably concerned face better than Tucker Carlson, so I'll give him that.
However, he is a Republican who devoted himself to a philosophy and faith that, in Stuart Stevens's words, was "all a lie." While Brooks is not a Trump supporter, on more than one Friday, he did go out of his way to interpret and present the 45th President's actions in the best possible light. He remains in my eyes a quisling feigning neutrality and if there is any justice, history and his newfound God will damn him for his cowardice and collaboration.
FInally, as for what Brooks has to say on community, I wouldn't know, having skipped that part. But I don't imagine he would know, either, having "never been good at looking beyond his own instincts and experience." Whatever it is, his is a now withered community more partisan and splintered than ever --for which he doesn't deserve blame, but he is a Republican.
Verdict: verbose post-divorce mid life crisis pretending at spiritual awakening.
The only part that resonated with me:
I don't mean to dismiss someone's epiphany, but you'll be better off with The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows:
Addendum: because this is a site full of bibliophiles, I leave you with your new word of the day:
Ostensibly, David Brooks's The Second Mountain "explores the four commitments that define a life of meaning and purpose: to a spouse and family, to a vocation, to a philosophy or faith, and to a community."
First of all, he is the last person to give marriage or family advice. He is an adulterer--he cheated on his wife with his much much younger research assistant while writing, get this, The Road to Character. What marriage advice he does give, in the words of better reviewers (again, because I didn't finish it and, God willing, never will), "sounds an awful lot like crippling codependency." In an interview with Charlie Rose, he said the best thing he could've done for his son(s?) was to die when they were young (given what happens, perhaps he'd meant young enough to view him without contempt) so as to leave them with an emotional void and subsequent drive to "take on the world" was the gist. Perhaps writing this was apt after all; those who can't do, teach.
As for the second, vocation, he's a columnist for the New York Times featured on PBS's The Newshour instead of Fox, so he still merits some relevance and respect, if only to present to the nation the face of a reasonable conservative. And he does pull off that amicably concerned face better than Tucker Carlson, so I'll give him that.
However, he is a Republican who devoted himself to a philosophy and faith that, in Stuart Stevens's words, was "all a lie." While Brooks is not a Trump supporter, on more than one Friday, he did go out of his way to interpret and present the 45th President's actions in the best possible light. He remains in my eyes a quisling feigning neutrality and if there is any justice, history and his newfound God will damn him for his cowardice and collaboration.
FInally, as for what Brooks has to say on community, I wouldn't know, having skipped that part. But I don't imagine he would know, either, having "never been good at looking beyond his own instincts and experience." Whatever it is, his is a now withered community more partisan and splintered than ever --for which he doesn't deserve blame, but he is a Republican.
Verdict: verbose post-divorce mid life crisis pretending at spiritual awakening.
The only part that resonated with me:
One morning, for example, I was getting off the subway in Penn Station in New York at rush hour. I was surrounded as always by thousands of people, silent, sullen, trudging to work in long lines. Normally in those circumstances you feel like just another ant leading a meaningless life in a meaningless universe. Normally the routineness of life dulls your capacity for wonder. But this time everything flipped, and I saw souls in all of them. It was like suddenly everything was illuminated, and I became aware of an infinite depth on each of these thousands of people. They were living souls. Suddenly it seemed like the most vivid part of reality was this: Souls waking up in the morning. Souls riding the train to work. Souls yearning for goodness. Souls wounded by earlier traumas. With that came a feeling that I was connected by radio waves to all of them—some underlying soul of which we were all a piece.
I don't mean to dismiss someone's epiphany, but you'll be better off with The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows:
sonderIt's actually less pretentious. They're also awfully similar.
n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.
Addendum: because this is a site full of bibliophiles, I leave you with your new word of the day:
vellichor
n. the strange wistfulness of used bookstores, which are somehow infused with the passage of time—filled with thousands of old books you’ll never have time to read, each of which is itself locked in its own era, bound and dated and papered over like an old room the author abandoned years ago, a hidden annex littered with thoughts left just as they were on the day they were captured.
October 16, 2023
The Second Mountain is supposed to be about "The Quest for a Moral Life." My initial thought is that the author and I would define a moral life quite differently. His definition seems to be a spiritual relativism that didn't feel totally coherent outside of serving others being the key. This isn't a book I would've chosen to read, but my church small group decided to read it, so read it I did. Most of the others bought the book, I fortunately only borrowed it from the library. I try not to buy books I'm highly unlikely to read again. This book absolutely fits that category.
David Brooks is apparently famous as he is a New York Times columnist. I however don't read the Times and I never heard of him. Perhaps if I had heard of him, I would have been more engaged in his semi memoir/semi philosophy book. At times I can fully relate such as when he describes your time in school and "graduating into limbo." At other times he seems to have chosen examples that ramble and don't reinforce his point whatsoever like Etty Hillesum and her husband who she first met when he was her therapist (a therapist who wrestled his patients, "[m]ost of them were young women"). Not sure what point he was trying to get across sharing about Etty's husband either being off kilter mentally or a total pervert who enjoyed wrestling young women. It undoubtedly distracted me from any coherent point he was attempting to make. The book meanders back and forth with some relatable observations followed by anecdotes that may be good or may not make any sense whatsoever.
Unfortunately for me, The Second Mountain didn't inspire me to deeds or actions. The thoughts I came across while at times inspiring examples of serving others were unspectacular and largely forgettable once the page was turned.
2.5 out of 5 stars
David Brooks is apparently famous as he is a New York Times columnist. I however don't read the Times and I never heard of him. Perhaps if I had heard of him, I would have been more engaged in his semi memoir/semi philosophy book. At times I can fully relate such as when he describes your time in school and "graduating into limbo." At other times he seems to have chosen examples that ramble and don't reinforce his point whatsoever like Etty Hillesum and her husband who she first met when he was her therapist (a therapist who wrestled his patients, "[m]ost of them were young women"). Not sure what point he was trying to get across sharing about Etty's husband either being off kilter mentally or a total pervert who enjoyed wrestling young women. It undoubtedly distracted me from any coherent point he was attempting to make. The book meanders back and forth with some relatable observations followed by anecdotes that may be good or may not make any sense whatsoever.
Unfortunately for me, The Second Mountain didn't inspire me to deeds or actions. The thoughts I came across while at times inspiring examples of serving others were unspectacular and largely forgettable once the page was turned.
2.5 out of 5 stars
January 3, 2025
David Brooks is an American political and cultural commentator known for his moderate right political ideology and writing deeply reflective, philosophical books. This is now my 4th David Brooks book (I've previously read 2011's The Social Animal: The Hidden Sources of Love, Character, and Achievement, 2015's The Road to Character and 2023's How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen), and while I don't necessarily agree with Brooks' views and perspectives, I do find them interesting and thought-provoking and can't help apply Brooks' reflections to my own life.
In The Second Mountain, Brooks' central argument laid out in the beginning chapters is that in addition to conquering the metaphorical mountain of personal fulfillment, people should also strive to progress along a second mountain, focusing on bettering society through serving individual people outside of our immediate family, and doing good for broader communities without the expectation of any benefit or gratitude in return. The rest of the book is Brooks extrapolating on these beliefs, highlighting examples of particularly selfless individuals as well as reflecting (and, I would argue, perseverating to the point of obnoxiousness) on examples from his own life, including his own divorce and religious conversion (which, ironically, largely serve himself and his own need fulfillment vs. being done out of selflessness to his broader community).
This book overall doesn't land well with me. While striving to build better, more connected and caring communities is certainly a noble goal, it seems overly aspirational and even tone deaf to presume that people will willingly abandon climbing their personal mountains and providing for their own and their immediate family's needs in order to support their broader communities instead. I would argue that this is largely against human nature, along the lines of Dawkins' arguments about altruism in The Selfish Gene (briefly, we're motivated by own [genes'] survival and would be largely disinclined to sacrifice ourselves for the greater good if that doesn't include our genes). I certainly admire selfless people, but I also am skeptical of what seem to be purely altruistic motives.
Then again, by Brooks' analogy, I'm still very much climbing my first mountain, still striving towards its pinnacle. Perhaps the view from the top once I scale it will change my perspective.
My statistics:
Book 2 for 2025
Book 1928 cumulatively
In The Second Mountain, Brooks' central argument laid out in the beginning chapters is that in addition to conquering the metaphorical mountain of personal fulfillment, people should also strive to progress along a second mountain, focusing on bettering society through serving individual people outside of our immediate family, and doing good for broader communities without the expectation of any benefit or gratitude in return. The rest of the book is Brooks extrapolating on these beliefs, highlighting examples of particularly selfless individuals as well as reflecting (and, I would argue, perseverating to the point of obnoxiousness) on examples from his own life, including his own divorce and religious conversion (which, ironically, largely serve himself and his own need fulfillment vs. being done out of selflessness to his broader community).
This book overall doesn't land well with me. While striving to build better, more connected and caring communities is certainly a noble goal, it seems overly aspirational and even tone deaf to presume that people will willingly abandon climbing their personal mountains and providing for their own and their immediate family's needs in order to support their broader communities instead. I would argue that this is largely against human nature, along the lines of Dawkins' arguments about altruism in The Selfish Gene (briefly, we're motivated by own [genes'] survival and would be largely disinclined to sacrifice ourselves for the greater good if that doesn't include our genes). I certainly admire selfless people, but I also am skeptical of what seem to be purely altruistic motives.
Then again, by Brooks' analogy, I'm still very much climbing my first mountain, still striving towards its pinnacle. Perhaps the view from the top once I scale it will change my perspective.
My statistics:
Book 2 for 2025
Book 1928 cumulatively
May 8, 2019
Started this book around the same time I watched the movie adaptation of Ayn Rand’s Atlas Shrugged. One could say these two are almost the polar opposites. The Second Mountain focuses on conservative community thinking and interdependence whereas Atlas Shrugged is considered as individualist’s ultimate favorite. It is quite interesting to compare the striking difference in their opinions, both seem to have valid points. Half-way through the book, I was quite convinced this was not my cup of tea but surprisingly it had lot of good points to offer. I cannot say I am fully persuaded into conservativism like David Brooks but taking what felt right and leaving the rest is also okay.
December 20, 2025
I really wanted to like The Second Mountain. In fact, I did like it at first. The opening chapters include a few genuine “aha” moments, and I am clearly the target audience for this book. I’ve had a long, successful career in education—my first mountain—and I’m actively looking for a renewed sense of purpose as I enter the second mountain of post-career life. On paper, this book should have landed squarely with me.
Unfortunately, for me, it goes off the rails in the second half.
Brooks, a talented writer and longtime columnist for The New York Times, pivots from thoughtful reflection into dispensing advice about marriage, intimacy, and character formation. At that point, I found myself almost chuckling at his moral musings. Coming from a man who divorced his first wife—the mother of his three children—and then remarried his research assistant, who is more than two decades younger, the advice landed as deeply tone-deaf. Add in his association with Jeffrey Epstein social circles, and it became hard for me to take his lectures on virtue and character seriously. Ugh. Being lectured on moral development under these circumstances was a bridge too far. Give me a break.
That’s the real frustration here: the core metaphor of the “second mountain” actually does get some things right. Brooks is at his best when he discusses themes like growing detachment, social fragmentation, and rising suicide rates—issues that genuinely deserve careful thought and moral seriousness. And to be fair, Brooks is a skilled writer. His prose can be engaging, even moving at times.
But for me, the credibility gap becomes impossible to ignore. What starts as a promising meditation on meaning gradually turns into a sermon that feels unearned. That’s why this book was such a disappointment—especially when compared with Brooks’s far stronger and more grounded later work, How to Know a Person, which I found far more insightful, humane, and self-aware.
Brooks definitely gets under your skin. Unfortunately, with The Second Mountain, it’s for all the wrong reasons.
This review is for the audiobook. Arthur Morey does the narration. Excellent as always
Unfortunately, for me, it goes off the rails in the second half.
Brooks, a talented writer and longtime columnist for The New York Times, pivots from thoughtful reflection into dispensing advice about marriage, intimacy, and character formation. At that point, I found myself almost chuckling at his moral musings. Coming from a man who divorced his first wife—the mother of his three children—and then remarried his research assistant, who is more than two decades younger, the advice landed as deeply tone-deaf. Add in his association with Jeffrey Epstein social circles, and it became hard for me to take his lectures on virtue and character seriously. Ugh. Being lectured on moral development under these circumstances was a bridge too far. Give me a break.
That’s the real frustration here: the core metaphor of the “second mountain” actually does get some things right. Brooks is at his best when he discusses themes like growing detachment, social fragmentation, and rising suicide rates—issues that genuinely deserve careful thought and moral seriousness. And to be fair, Brooks is a skilled writer. His prose can be engaging, even moving at times.
But for me, the credibility gap becomes impossible to ignore. What starts as a promising meditation on meaning gradually turns into a sermon that feels unearned. That’s why this book was such a disappointment—especially when compared with Brooks’s far stronger and more grounded later work, How to Know a Person, which I found far more insightful, humane, and self-aware.
Brooks definitely gets under your skin. Unfortunately, with The Second Mountain, it’s for all the wrong reasons.
This review is for the audiobook. Arthur Morey does the narration. Excellent as always
May 29, 2019
I have never read a book by David Brooks until now. But i have read his NYTs column and watched his thoughtful conservative commentary on PBS News Hour for years. It was on the PBS News Hour that I heard him being interviewed about this book. His passionate description of the book was what caused me to buy it on the spot.
He actually tackles a lot in this book. But it ultimately boils down to the cult of the individual versus the building of community. The first mountain is the ego driven, individualist quest for personal accomplishment. But it is the personal and vulnerable way that Brooks writes about his own journey up this mountain that makes this book such a compelling read.
The second mountain is the one I would describe as finding your true self. The self that feels connected to entirety of humanity. Brooks expresses himself in some surprisingly new age ways although ultimately his second mountain awakening is of a more conventional spiritual nature.
Finding meaning, connection, and community—and healing our fractured country and world, one second mountain climber at a time, is the lofty aspiration that Brooks presents us with. Brooks’ journey into the valley before he climbs his second mountain is a revealing look at the man who no longer calls himself a Republican or a conservative.
The only reason I gave the book four stars instead of five is because there are times when he gets a little too preachy for my liking. But I wholeheartedly agree with his ultimate conclusions.
He actually tackles a lot in this book. But it ultimately boils down to the cult of the individual versus the building of community. The first mountain is the ego driven, individualist quest for personal accomplishment. But it is the personal and vulnerable way that Brooks writes about his own journey up this mountain that makes this book such a compelling read.
The second mountain is the one I would describe as finding your true self. The self that feels connected to entirety of humanity. Brooks expresses himself in some surprisingly new age ways although ultimately his second mountain awakening is of a more conventional spiritual nature.
Finding meaning, connection, and community—and healing our fractured country and world, one second mountain climber at a time, is the lofty aspiration that Brooks presents us with. Brooks’ journey into the valley before he climbs his second mountain is a revealing look at the man who no longer calls himself a Republican or a conservative.
The only reason I gave the book four stars instead of five is because there are times when he gets a little too preachy for my liking. But I wholeheartedly agree with his ultimate conclusions.
August 10, 2020
The rise of individualism has created a range of societal and personal problems, which many people will try to overcome by pursuing material success and hapiness. However, the real road to fulfillment leads to a life of service to other people, which can be practiced through our vocations, marriages, religions and/or the tasks of community building.
May 14, 2019
Turned off. Abandoned after the first couple of chapters.
June 26, 2019
Loved his oped that summarized the main concept, with which I whole heartedly agree. Hated the full length version (book) which I found preachy and boring.
August 24, 2020
اولین کتابی که از این نویسنده رفتم سراغش کتاب جاده شخصیت بود
متاسفانه فرصت نکردم اون کتاب رو بخونم و صرفا به خلاصه اش گوش دادم ولی در همون خلاصه هم کلی چیز یاد گرفتم و این شد که تصمیم گرفتم این کتاب رو کامل بخونم
ولی متاسفانه با ابن که کتاب بسیار خوبی هست به خوبی و چر کاربردی کتاب اول نیست
نویسنده سعی داره بگه هر انسانی در زندگی دو تا هدف دنبال میکنه
هدف اول که پیش پا افتاده ترو رسیدن بهشراحت تره موفقیت فردی و دنیایی هست
رسیدن به ثروت شهرت خانواده امنیت و ...
اما هدف دوم که رسیدم بهش سخت تر هست رسیدن به آرامش روانی و گذشتن از خوده
در نگاه اول این دیدگاه جذاب به نظر میرسه اما نویسنده کاملا راه رسیدن به کوه دوم رو گذر از کوه اول دونسته
این رو در تمام نمونه هایی که به عنوان مثال آورده هم میشه دید و این موضوع باعث شده که این کتاب برای قشر عظیمی از مردم که هنوز در راه رسیدن به قله کوه اول در حال دست و پا زدن هستن بی فایده بشه
به نظرم بزرگترین اشکال کتاب اینه
در مجموع کتاب خیلی خوبیه
نکات مثبتش بیشتر از ضعفهاش هست و خوندنش توصیه میشه
متاسفانه فرصت نکردم اون کتاب رو بخونم و صرفا به خلاصه اش گوش دادم ولی در همون خلاصه هم کلی چیز یاد گرفتم و این شد که تصمیم گرفتم این کتاب رو کامل بخونم
ولی متاسفانه با ابن که کتاب بسیار خوبی هست به خوبی و چر کاربردی کتاب اول نیست
نویسنده سعی داره بگه هر انسانی در زندگی دو تا هدف دنبال میکنه
هدف اول که پیش پا افتاده ترو رسیدن بهشراحت تره موفقیت فردی و دنیایی هست
رسیدن به ثروت شهرت خانواده امنیت و ...
اما هدف دوم که رسیدم بهش سخت تر هست رسیدن به آرامش روانی و گذشتن از خوده
در نگاه اول این دیدگاه جذاب به نظر میرسه اما نویسنده کاملا راه رسیدن به کوه دوم رو گذر از کوه اول دونسته
این رو در تمام نمونه هایی که به عنوان مثال آورده هم میشه دید و این موضوع باعث شده که این کتاب برای قشر عظیمی از مردم که هنوز در راه رسیدن به قله کوه اول در حال دست و پا زدن هستن بی فایده بشه
به نظرم بزرگترین اشکال کتاب اینه
در مجموع کتاب خیلی خوبیه
نکات مثبتش بیشتر از ضعفهاش هست و خوندنش توصیه میشه
June 22, 2019
I liked it at first, which I believe was the most powerful part, but then it sort of turned into elitist navel gazing that demands a certain level of privilege to have any context at all. Could probably have been a long form essay rather than a book, tbh. I well appreciate his warning against living a merely aesthetic life, which is tempting in DC, but his discussion of community basically turned into the “invite people over for dinner” ethos. I agree there is a higher calling, a responsibility to care for others and improve the world, but this book doesn’t do much beyond making an argument that life CAN have meaning.
June 18, 2019
Rather than hyper-individualism—or its toxic byproduct, tribalism—Brooks calls us to an interdependent life characterized by a commitment to community, creed, morals, and a generally outward-focused life. I can’t begin to describe how many times I was nodding and audibly saying, “Yes!” through this book.
November 20, 2019
Maybe David Brooks thought he was writing the book to end all books, the comprehensive manual to our times complete with a (really helpful) manifesto at the end. If so, he pretty much succeeded in diagnosing the problem and then offering a comprehensive solution including stellar examples of this solution in practice (something the non fiction books I read rarely offer). But it’s not a perfect book. As another reviewer put it, it sometimes feels like more than one book. Nonetheless, it’s a compact, well-paced, rich, honest, hopeful exploration of the hyper-individualism that ails is and the ways that community can cure us. I hope this book gets read and put into practice all over America. I hope people read this and look for ways to be a good neighbor. It’s not the final word but it is a great conversation starter.
May 2, 2019
Written for Amazon and copied here: I didn't know who the author was (recognized his name as an author, but couldn't remember what he'd written) but the plot had seemed right up my alley so I had reserved it at my library. I started to read this book yesterday, and it seemed so hollow for what it was supposed to be. I came to Amazon to read the early reviews and see if anyone felt as I did, and now I understand. He is a good writer, but he doesn't live the ideas in the book, which comes across in the writing. I read that he left his wife of 20+ years for the stereotypical 23 years younger (!!) "research assistant." Now, I'm not generally very judgemental about divorce, but he just isn't walking the walk. In the introduction to the book, he writes:
"People on the second mountain have made strong commitments to one or all of these four things: A vocation, A spouse and family, A philosophy or faith, A community." "A commitment is falling in love with something and then building a structure of behavior around it for those moments when love falters."
Do you just get to choose which of your decades-long commitments you jettison when your backpack gets a little heavy climbing that second mountain?
"We're still going to be our normal self-centered selves more than we care to admit. But it's still important to set a high standard. It is still important to be inspired by the examples of others and to remember that a life of deep commitments is possible."
He's watching other people climb the Second Mountain, much like I sit at home and watch people climb Everest. But I don't write books about Everest.
"I take the curriculum of other people's knowledge and I pass it along."
Would you try to learn math written by an author who doesn't understand math? Would you want to learn to learn ceramics from someone who never has touched clay but studied it a bit? I wouldn't. And 3-4 of the chapters in this book are instructions on marriage (mine is 20+ years and is for life and I don't need his instruction). I'm really glad I did a little research before I wasted more of my time with this.
"People on the second mountain have made strong commitments to one or all of these four things: A vocation, A spouse and family, A philosophy or faith, A community." "A commitment is falling in love with something and then building a structure of behavior around it for those moments when love falters."
Do you just get to choose which of your decades-long commitments you jettison when your backpack gets a little heavy climbing that second mountain?
"We're still going to be our normal self-centered selves more than we care to admit. But it's still important to set a high standard. It is still important to be inspired by the examples of others and to remember that a life of deep commitments is possible."
He's watching other people climb the Second Mountain, much like I sit at home and watch people climb Everest. But I don't write books about Everest.
"I take the curriculum of other people's knowledge and I pass it along."
Would you try to learn math written by an author who doesn't understand math? Would you want to learn to learn ceramics from someone who never has touched clay but studied it a bit? I wouldn't. And 3-4 of the chapters in this book are instructions on marriage (mine is 20+ years and is for life and I don't need his instruction). I'm really glad I did a little research before I wasted more of my time with this.
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April 17, 2019The usual windy drivel by one of America's biggest moral hypocrites. Naturally, it's full of the sort of self-serving justifications he uses for his own vile amorality in callously abandoning his long-time wife for a younger woman, then chastising her in the pages of the New York Times, no less, for not taking his abuse with "dignity". He even went so far as to imply she was stalking him, smirked about her desperate love for him, bragged about how much pain he was causing her, and, in a staggering display of narcissistic entitlement, admonished her for not being happy for him, all while implying *she* is a narcissist. He even tried to justify ignoring his children as treating them like adults and helping them to mature. He actually tried to paint dismissive treatment and emotional neglect as a parental duty. All that in one article. This book is a rationalization for all his cretinous behavior as being about personal growth. His navel gazing has a vomitously new-agey feel, as if he's channeling both Deepak Chopra and Donald Trump's ego.
This creature has absolutely nothing to teach anyone about living a decent life. He seems like he may have narcissistic personality disorder or is perhaps a sociopath. At any rate, he's a tiresome, pretentious writer who employs repetitive word salad to fill up the pages. One can only hope his ex-wife writes a tell-all about him. It couldn't possibly be more shoddily written, at the very least.
This creature has absolutely nothing to teach anyone about living a decent life. He seems like he may have narcissistic personality disorder or is perhaps a sociopath. At any rate, he's a tiresome, pretentious writer who employs repetitive word salad to fill up the pages. One can only hope his ex-wife writes a tell-all about him. It couldn't possibly be more shoddily written, at the very least.
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June 12, 2019I wanted to like this book a lot more than I actually liked it. The concept is great, but it's ultimately a disappointment for me. I found the marriage section to be the most painful/exhausting and the first section, which focuses on the concept of the second mountain itself, to be the most valuable. I think I thought this book would be less about generalized drivel and more about the actual people in his social weave project and the components that make these people different from the general population. I wish there had been WAY more on the social weave project, WAY less on generalized nonsense about faith and marriage written as undeniable fact.
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