In the vein of How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t , a practical guide to acknowledging and getting rid of the nonsense and bs in your life
Exhausted and overworked lawyer, triathlete, wife, and mom Meredith Atwood decided one morning that she'd had it. She didn't take her kids to school. She didn't go to work. She didn't go to the gym. When she pulled herself out of bed hours later than she should have, she found a note from her husband next to two empty bottles of wine and a stack of unpaid You need to get your sh*t together .
And that's what Meredith began to do, starting with identifying the nonsense in her life that was holding her saying "yes" too much, keeping frenemies around, and more. In The Year of No Nonsense , Atwood shares what she learned, tackling struggles with work, family, and body image, and also willpower and time management. Ultimately, she's the tough-as-nails coach /slash/ best friend who shares a practical plan for identifying and getting rid of your own nonsense in order to move forward and live an authentic, healthy life. From recognizing lies you believe about yourself and your abilities, to making a "nonsense" list and developing a "no nonsense blueprint," this book walks you through reclaiming yourself with grit and determination, step by step.
With targeted, practical chapters to help you stop feeling stuck and get on with your life, The Year of No Nonsense is equal parts girlfriend and been-there-done-that. The best part? Like any friend, she helps you get to the other side.
Meredith Atwood is a recovering attorney, wife, mother of two, four-time IRONMAN triathlete who had never run a mile in her life until she tackled the sport of triathlon. In 2010 she started writing and created her Swim Bike Mom blog.
Over 2.5 million words later, she has built a cult following of women (and men) who desired a change in their lives–but not at the expense of their health, family or sanity.
I have a lot of thoughts about this book. First thing I will say is that I generally try to read a book without reading the reviews. Sometimes, in the middle of the book, I'll go and see what others wrote. In this case, I was a bit surprised at the unequivocal positive reviews. This is a good book, but in my opinion the reviews feel a bit slanted. I am pointing this out because it might be that I am reacting to this as I sit down to write mine and I am moving to the middle a bit more to course correct. So please take this with a grain of salt.
I like the premise of this book and how she focuses on your digging deeper to get to the crux of the matter instead of fixing the surface issues or the outcomes of the actual problem.
"Paradox is a very helpful tool for me, which is why I mention it here. We are not required to be black-and-white about our lives—we can be all the colors of the rainbow and every shade in between."
One of the things I loved most about this book was how honest it was and how it didn't make things sound simple as some of the books can.
"During my Year of No Nonsense, I learned that seeing what is and what was is a fundamental requirement for change."
A very hard distinction at times.
"My job (as a parent) is to be a support for my children. The children are not here to fulfill my needs. They are not here to reflect my own “greatness” (or lack thereof). I am here to support them in their journey of growing up—not dictate how their journey goes."
This resonated with me so much. I don't usually worry about this but I do see it creeping in now and then and I love the way she put it. I am here to support them in their journey. So well put.
"But as a starting point, we might want to take Numbers like body weight and social media followers and put them in the box where they belong—a box of data points that can be charted, not a box of soul points that describe who we are."
So much to unpack in this one, too. We anchor on numbers cause they are easy. I do a lot of rock climbing now and it has numbers and levels and I was telling my husband the other day how I wish the routes had no numbers so I couldn't have any preconceived ideas of which routes I could and couldn't do. Then I'd have to try each and I'd probably learn so much more. Numbers can help but they can also hinder so much.
"Stepping into beliefs, therefore, can be powerful or destructive. So when a belief has a negative or destructive power, like “you will never be a runner,” true Grit and growth happen when we question or challenge that belief."
I've written and thought about this concept a lot. Identity can help or get in the way of how we move forward so much. And shifting one's own identity can be so hard.
"The challenge is to Live each day as the best version of yourself. To make room for your own light and Purpose for your Life. To do the best you can and accept that you are doing so; to assume the Other People are doing the best they can, too—if not because it’s the right thing to do, then because at least they won’t drive you crazy."
In the last week, I've been reminding myself to do this again and again and again. It totally works. It helps keep your sanity and it reminds you to focus on what you can change (your thoughts and actions) and the truth (which you never fully know so just assume the best because it's so much more uplifting.)
So there was a lot of gold in this book, a lot of food for thought, a lot of honesty. I will say that there was also some repetition and the last 30% took me forever to get through and I was so tired of the word nonsense by then. It was too overused and I was feeling annoyed. There were a lot of ideas I'd already read before or seen but it was woven well together. I also felt like I could have used more help with guidance around getting to the root issue myself. Finding my true nonsense. Because much of the book makes the case for it (sold. i believe i need to get to the real heart of the matter before I can change things.) and then she talked about now that i know it what do i do (Except I still wasn't sure I knew mine. Sometimes the cause and outcome can be so intertwined and I just felt lost.) I would have loved some examples of how others (along with her) peeled that onion.
As with most good books that are about working on yourself, nothing changes unless I do the work. This book was a good reminder that it's possible and it highlighted the value of calling yourself on your own bullshit if you'd like to make positive change in your life. I will take what works for me and leave the rest. There was enough gold in here to keep me thinking, moving and focused.
With thanks to netgalley and hachette books for an advanced copy in return for an honest review.
I genuinely believe the content, the advice, in this book is amazing. It’s eye opening to look at life differently and I for sure believe that I had some amazing take aways from this book. Especially the part about how others are doing the best that they can just like you are and that we want peace not happiness. I don’t think anything in this book was ground breaking but it was a great reminder of things I believe everyone tends to forget. I liked how the authors personality came through the writing. I just think pieces of this made me cringe so bad. Overall it was a good read, especially at the beginning of the year!
I relate to everything the author is going through. I even agree with her approach to dealing with her “nonsense”. But the writing was hard to read. Rambling anecdotes that relate tangentially, if at all, to the point she is trying to make, over-repetitions of phrases and sentences and random capitalizations which, I assume, are meant to stress key emotions and concepts (but I couldn’t find the theme) - all these made the book unreadable for me. It’s a pity - I waited 16 weeks for this book from my library.
I took my time with this book, reading a few pages while having a coffee each morning. She is very relatable and personable. The premise is spot on. And the goal is to get rid of the nonsense, especially our “one nonsense thing” (i.e. alcohol, arguing on social media, or people pleasing) that is affecting our lives the most and preventing us from being our true selves.
I found this book through the author's podcast. I love all the material, content, and references in this book, but I think some sections could have been condensed a bit. But overall a great read and one I will pass on to people who want to get rid of their own Nonsense.
One of the best inspirational books I've read. It helped me take a deeper look into my nonsense and peel back some additional layers of the stories I've created throughout my life. Meredith has a great way of helping to help name and dig deeper into them and offers insights into how to go about changing them. Great read!
I wanted to call this book “nonsense”, but realize that it just wasn’t for me. I expected a book titled “the year of no nonsense” to have more of an empowered (read: badass) undercurrent to it, but that was clearly an assumption. While I appreciate the author’s candid and IFGAF tone, the book seems to be joint therapy for readers who feel broken, stuck, and/or held back by their own internal dialogue. I’ll admit that we all need someone at some point in our lives to tell us to “get your sh*t together”, but this is 271 pages of that messaging. So, if you’re looking for something that reminds you that you have value and can be happy, this book is for you. However, if you already truly and unequivocally know that, you can probably pass on this one.
Well dang. I have onions that I need to peel. This is a book that will be re read in about a week as I work through the work that needs to be done. I listened to the audiobook but will be ordering the physical book to work through the pieces better. Highly recommend.
I didn’t think this book would be for me at first. Nothing in the first chapter really resonated with me, but chapter 2 hit differently. I still don’t think I have that much nonsense in my life, but I did uncover a few reasons behind my beliefs about myself.
I did hate the stylistic capitalization though. Personal preference.
Edit (2/1, 4:53pm) I usually make my reviews as notes for myself should I want to reread a book. I do think I’ll return to this book at another point in my life. Right now, I’m happy just to sort out my core beliefs about myself. I have them sorted (mostly) for external things, so why wouldn’t I give myself the same care? (Perhaps I’m in the contemplation part of the stages of change wheel?)
And maybe hate is a strong word. While the capitalization did cause interruption for me while reading, it did not take away from the content of the book, like when I was listening to the audio version vs reading on my Kindle.
A comment from the author was a good reminder that Goodreads is a social media network not just my personal log and I should aim for constructive reviews on modern books. 😳 PS - Love the podcast!
I’m sad that I forgot to mark this book as “read” and write my review when I finished it, instead of 2 months after the fact! What I most recall is an overwhelming feeling that either I wrote this book or that the author is my long-lost identical twin!! I shared many commonalities, and so the content resonated with me deeply.
I also remember feeling that the book stretched on 2-3 chapters beyond its usefulness. Maybe it was because I was just excited to get started working through my “nonsense”? The “nonsense” I am committed to eliminating in 2020 is caring so deeply about what others think of me. It’s never too late. I am enough. And with that knowledge, nothing can disturb my peace.
Exceptionally well written book that will make you discover the limiting the factors in your life and take action on the distractions in your life. The author takes you on a journey while sharing her own experiences of overcoming her distractions with things like people pleasing and social media.
I really enjoyed this book! Sound ideas to think through...I definitely have some "nonsense" to sort out and this book gave me some real food for thought. I especially enjoy Meredith's sense of humor. While she is offering a serious perspective on improving one's life, she also provides some laugh-out-loud moments. Looking forward to seeing her in person when she comes to my city!
This book seemed like a really useful step by step guide for anyone who needs to make major life adjustments! I enjoyed the no nonsense tone of the author!
the Year of No Nonsense is a good book that reminds us to focus on what is important. Some of the information is not new and there is some repetitive information. Overall it is a good book.
Wow. What a powerful, thought-provoking book. If you are looking to make major changes in your life, this is the book for you. Atwood writes with such honesty, vulnerability, forwardness—and sprinkled with humor.
This took me way too long to get through. I honestly think it’s because the book of no nonsense was actually full of nonsense. Now, there were some subjects she touched on that would be Instagram-quote-caption worthy, but, what I collectively learned from this: she has a drinking problem.
I’d rate this about a 3.8 so I rounded up. The overall rating on Goodreads is probably pretty accurate.
This review is for the audio version.
What I didn’t like: the description and jacket cover should maybe better explain what this is about. Like other readers, I don’t even have anything close to her issues. I don’t know her, don’t know her podcast, and hadn’t even heard of her; so, I had zero background on who she was. I read the jacket and bought the book.
I grew up in a great family with great people, have zero ability to have an addiction (can’t even form a good habit), I’m in a profession that works for me, and overall things are ok... but I’m a high achiever and things could definitely be better. Always. So I thought... this book sounds like me. But it’s not...kinda...
Point being, I’m not relating to her specific issues.
That being said... what I like about the book: We all have issues. We all have nonsense. We all tell ourselves lies. We all have other people who tell us things that affect us. So, I think the ideas she lays out and the map to get through them still apply in some way.
So, I also bought the book while in the 11th chapter of the audio book. I want to work the map to see what I come up with. I think I have peeled a “truth onion.” Let’s see how it plays out.
Since I bought the book, I can now see visually some of the things others were talking about with capitalization, etc- but I think if you *listened* to the book, it might make more sense. Id think the editor should’ve done better. After all, Meredith isn’t a seasoned author. She’s a mom, an athlete, a former attorney... who has something to say... that doesn’t make her a perfect writer. That being said, the long lists of words etc she has in the beginning of the book and throughout now make more sense to me since I’ve now seen them versus listening to them.
So TL;DR: She and I do not have the same issues, and since the book is about her coming to terms with her issues as an example of how to come to terms with mine, that’s hard to relate to. But I did relate to it. I plan on mapping it. And if nothing else, I’ve started to use the phrase “that’s nonsense!” whenever I find I’m worrying about, participating in, purchasing...or whatever other verb... “nonsense.” And I like it.
Written in a casual way, the author starts playing out her lowest life point. It's her story but elements that story resonate. Everyone reading this book can point to something in Atwood's story and and say. "Me too". From the start, you can feel this author's pain and trust that your pain is seen. This author may not have all the answers but she's been through a storm and maybe the lessons she learned could help.
The casual prose may confuse at times, but her made up words and phrases are fresh. There's something personal about the writing. It makes the thoughts more visual, relatable. And when Atwood states the very thing you've been thinking, you'll think she's reading your mind! She's not, it's just that you're not alone in your experiences.
The first chapter the author tries to define "nonsense". I get her idea even if that's not exactly the word I'd use. It's an umbrella term for the BS we have in our lives. And that I can relate to. Each chapter is a deep dive into ways to remove the emotional and mental clutter from your life. She leans heavily on her own stories, but she does have suggestions on how these apply to your life.
Am început cartea lui Meredith Atwood dintr-un impuls personal de "de ce alții şi nu eu? De ce alții pot să citească şi eu nu?" şi am ajuns la concluzia că zeci de ani de frustrări şi nonsensuri nu se schimbă cu 200 şi un pic de pagini pline de îndemnuri şi aşa zise puncte cheie ale unei viitoare vieți noi. Într-adevăr, m-am redescoperit prin anumite pasaje, cartea fiind scrisă într-un mod prietenos (uneori pueril şi prea plin de explicații despre momente din viața autoarei, care, pentru mine nu au vreo însemnătate) şi palpabil, dar nu pot spune că, gata, sunt un om regăsit emoțional (sau măcar cu o listă (mentală) cu ce aș putea să schimb la mine și cum să încep să fac asta)... nici pe departe. Poate, unele persoane, se vor regăsi în viața lui Meredith, în copilăria ei plină de evenimente şi momente complicate şi în viața de adult, înecată în alcool şi drame existențiale. Eu una, spun pas şi trec mai departe.
I was excited to start my Audible year off listening to this book, but I was disappointed almost immediately with the reality of this heavily padded twaddle. Atwood defines much of her nonsense as doing too much for others, which sounds like a humblebrag more than a true self-assessment. When she then spent five minutes first reading the dictionary definition of the word nonsense, and then reading all of a thesaurus' synonyms of the word, I had had enough of the author's nonsense. First time I ever gave up and exchanged an Audible book for something else.
Maybe The Year of No Nonsense: How to Get Over Yourself and On with Your Life gets better, but I was afraid Atwood was going to stretch out this book spending an hour defining the terms "no," "life" and the rest of the words in the title. I got on with my own life and gave up listening to this self-indulgent blather.
Nonsense is a "cat avocado clown car"...is that peaks your interest, you must read this book! This is one of those self-help books that you'll need a copy of, if you want to follow all the steps. Loved the nonsense breakdowns and all the real world applications, so relatable! But what exactly is nonsense, you ask (aside from a cat avocado clown car)? Atwood suggests that "nonsense is a lighthearted word for some deep, dark bullshit" and you'll have to read the book for details, but I promise you it's worth it! In addition to reminding us that "hindsight is 20/20 and that's one of life's greatest bonuses, and downers," Atwood offers us concrete stept to get rid of our personal brand of nonsense. I started taking notes on all the steps and realized that I'm just better off buying the book. So go and buy yourself a guide to getting rid of all the nonsesnse!