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Confessions of a Happily Married Man: Finding God in the Messiness of Marriage
Discover God in the messiness of your marriage, as popular marriage and family columnist Joshua Rogers offers spouses hope with real-life stories from his own marriage and helps you see how God is at work in the ordinary and extraordinary of your relationship.
Confessions of a Happily Married Man is a husband's painfully honest account of his first ten years of marriage. It offers a window into the perspective of a man who went from "hello" to "I do" in nine months and then figured out how hard marriage could be.
When Joshua Rogers thought back on the marriage books he had read or sermons about marriage he had heard, it occurred to him that he could only remember one thing about the stories. That's why this book is anchored by stories that other couples will relate to and can easily learn from. The stories are cringe-worthy, humorous, inspiring, heart-breaking, and full of wisdom--but the author isn't telling the reader what to do with that wisdom. He's letting the reader learn along with him as he's gradually becoming more self-aware, increasingly grateful for his wife, and surprised to discover what God is doing in the middle of it all.
Confessions of a Happily Married Man is a husband's painfully honest account of his first ten years of marriage. It offers a window into the perspective of a man who went from "hello" to "I do" in nine months and then figured out how hard marriage could be.
When Joshua Rogers thought back on the marriage books he had read or sermons about marriage he had heard, it occurred to him that he could only remember one thing about the stories. That's why this book is anchored by stories that other couples will relate to and can easily learn from. The stories are cringe-worthy, humorous, inspiring, heart-breaking, and full of wisdom--but the author isn't telling the reader what to do with that wisdom. He's letting the reader learn along with him as he's gradually becoming more self-aware, increasingly grateful for his wife, and surprised to discover what God is doing in the middle of it all.
208 pages, Hardcover
Published December 17, 2019
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Joshua Rogers
10 books5 followersJoshua L. Rogers is a husband, a father of three, an attorney, and a writer. He has been published at FoxNews.com, the Washington Post, Christianity Today (CT.com), and Boundless.org (a ministry of Focus on the Family). He has also garnered two Evangelical Press Association awards. Over the past fourteen years, he has served as both a civil and criminal prosecutor. You can read more of his writing at JoshuaRogers.com and follow him @MrJoshuaRogers on both Facebook and Twitter.
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December 17, 2019
It is a rare treat to read a marriage book that captivates me as much as Confessions of a Happily Married Man by Joshua L. Rogers. I read much of this book in one day.
In Confessions of a Happily Married Man, Rogers shares much of the story of his marriage coming from his heart. After the introduction, written by Greg Smalley from Focus on the Family, Rogers shares how he met his wife, Raquel, fell in love and were married within 9 months. Throughout the book, Rogers shares story after story of how God worked in their relationship to grow them both up to be more like Jesus to each other. Interestingly enough, with God, they had started working on each other shortly after Rogers proposed and his future wife accepted the proposal. Rogers candidly shares about how the couple worked out their issues around mundane things such as chores to how they worked out much bigger challenges such as in-law challenges, health issues, having children and a cross-country move. At the end of this book, Joshua invited his wife, Raquel, to share her heart from their journey, which I thought was both good and helpful.
Confessions of a Happily Married Man is really one story after another that is part of Joshua and Raquel's story of their marriage thus far. To me, this book read like a novel. I truly struggled to put it down. But it wasn't just that I wanted to know how this couple was dealing with things. I also wanted to learn more through their stories to make my own marriage better. The thing that struck me most was how they looked to God through all of their marriage issues, both the challenges and the things they were grateful for. I could also relate to much of what he was sharing. Some of our challenges through the years have been similar in certain ways. This is a marriage book that I think would be helpful to both young people getting married and people like my husband and I who have been married several years. Many times if we have a teachable heart, we can learn from each other through our stories. At the back of Confessions of a Happily Married Man, there are two appendixes. The first one has a lot of discussion questions to discuss as a couple. The other one shares advice on doing an integrity interview if you want to learn more about how others see you. This couple each did the integrity interviews and shared how it helped them grow. I am not sure I am that brave but it is an interesting idea and I could see how it would be beneficial to a person, and ultimately, as a couple.
I received this book from the publisher. All opinions are my own. #sponsoredbyfaithwords
In Confessions of a Happily Married Man, Rogers shares much of the story of his marriage coming from his heart. After the introduction, written by Greg Smalley from Focus on the Family, Rogers shares how he met his wife, Raquel, fell in love and were married within 9 months. Throughout the book, Rogers shares story after story of how God worked in their relationship to grow them both up to be more like Jesus to each other. Interestingly enough, with God, they had started working on each other shortly after Rogers proposed and his future wife accepted the proposal. Rogers candidly shares about how the couple worked out their issues around mundane things such as chores to how they worked out much bigger challenges such as in-law challenges, health issues, having children and a cross-country move. At the end of this book, Joshua invited his wife, Raquel, to share her heart from their journey, which I thought was both good and helpful.
Confessions of a Happily Married Man is really one story after another that is part of Joshua and Raquel's story of their marriage thus far. To me, this book read like a novel. I truly struggled to put it down. But it wasn't just that I wanted to know how this couple was dealing with things. I also wanted to learn more through their stories to make my own marriage better. The thing that struck me most was how they looked to God through all of their marriage issues, both the challenges and the things they were grateful for. I could also relate to much of what he was sharing. Some of our challenges through the years have been similar in certain ways. This is a marriage book that I think would be helpful to both young people getting married and people like my husband and I who have been married several years. Many times if we have a teachable heart, we can learn from each other through our stories. At the back of Confessions of a Happily Married Man, there are two appendixes. The first one has a lot of discussion questions to discuss as a couple. The other one shares advice on doing an integrity interview if you want to learn more about how others see you. This couple each did the integrity interviews and shared how it helped them grow. I am not sure I am that brave but it is an interesting idea and I could see how it would be beneficial to a person, and ultimately, as a couple.
I received this book from the publisher. All opinions are my own. #sponsoredbyfaithwords
August 6, 2019
This is a beautifully artistic book with the author sharing the story of his marriage and the lessons he learned. Not intentionally instructional but it can be in places if you want it to be, I think it is a perfect read for couples who want to hear honest stories and vulnerable moments that no one will talk about. A quote from the book, “what is there to hide?” I agree. It is only through real, honest vulnerability that we can see ourselves and others clearly enough to make changes and do better for our spouse. I love this book because not only is it beautifully written, its mission is to help others not feel alone in their struggles. What a smooth read!
January 20, 2020
In Confessions of a Happily Married Man, Joshua L. Rogers shared real stories and confessions that he has encountered in his marriage. He is an attorney and a writer. He starts the book by sharing a personal story of a baby monitor and how this story changed their marriage and helped them both to eventually become a stronger couple. Throughout the book, he shared about how they both met and went into details about both of their family’s background’s with marriage and divorce. He also revealed his struggles with woman and dating. He was very transparent about how they were opened right at the beginning of their relationship about their pasts. He also explored some of the first arguments they had in their marriage and how at first, he was so determined to win the case. Eventually on their second year of marriage a friend pointed out during a Bible study by Henry Cloud about how he didn’t like how he talked to his wife. This study encouraged them to do interview questions and Joshua decided to try it with his wife and got feedback from her and a few other friends. He admits in the book that this was difficult to hear the positive and negative but this helped him to work on his own character weaknesses. In the back of the book, he also included them in here where readers could also enlist one of their own personal friends and spouse in order to improve their own life. He also suggested going over the feedback with your pastor to help you interpret all the feedback. The book also into detail about prayer, sex, dealing with the in-laws, losing loved ones, and health changes.
I would recommend this excellent book on marriage to every engaged and married couple. This book contained many stories about their marriage and how they dealt with arguments and conflicts. I liked how real Joshua was in revealing what he struggled with. I was surprised about how open they were about their marriage and he wasn’t afraid to be honest and real. This is probably one of the better marriage books I have read. I appreciated how honest he was with talking about their sex life and how he struggled at a time with sexual dysfunction. I can tell in the book he truly wanted to help readers to become vulnerable with their spouse and for them both to become one like Christ intended. I also liked how the last chapter his wife wrote her experiences on their marriage. I connected with the two appendix’s chapters that he included at the back of the book to help guide readers into fixing and improve their own marriage for the better. If you’re looking for a great marriage book, then read this one!
"I received this book free from the publisher, Faithwords/Worthy Publishing for my honest review.”
I would recommend this excellent book on marriage to every engaged and married couple. This book contained many stories about their marriage and how they dealt with arguments and conflicts. I liked how real Joshua was in revealing what he struggled with. I was surprised about how open they were about their marriage and he wasn’t afraid to be honest and real. This is probably one of the better marriage books I have read. I appreciated how honest he was with talking about their sex life and how he struggled at a time with sexual dysfunction. I can tell in the book he truly wanted to help readers to become vulnerable with their spouse and for them both to become one like Christ intended. I also liked how the last chapter his wife wrote her experiences on their marriage. I connected with the two appendix’s chapters that he included at the back of the book to help guide readers into fixing and improve their own marriage for the better. If you’re looking for a great marriage book, then read this one!
"I received this book free from the publisher, Faithwords/Worthy Publishing for my honest review.”
January 8, 2020
In his book Confessions of a Happily Married Man: Finding God in the Messiness of Marriage, Joshua L. Rogers recounts the first ten years of marriage to his wife, Raquel, and he shares personal, often humorous stories from his life.
I like how the author emphasized the importance of integrity and high character, and he strove to make positive changes in his attitude. One of my favorite chapters was “Prayer Pressure” – it was interesting to see how Joshua and Raquel’s prayer life evolved over the years. There are also many funny moments in the book, such as when Joshua and Raquel are having a private fight, only to realize that relatives can hear them through a baby monitor! Sometimes marriage books feel like instruction manuals, but Confessions of a Happily Married Man feels like a memoir, and the content is witty and easy to relate to.
Rogers provides good ideas about staying connected, communicating well, and conquering difficult situations as a team. We see the importance of spending quality time with our spouses and having an attitude of shared responsibility. And we are reminded that in the midst of trials in marriage, God is right there with us. The book shows how healthy conflict can make relationships stronger, and how challenges can bring couples together.
I received this book for review.
I like how the author emphasized the importance of integrity and high character, and he strove to make positive changes in his attitude. One of my favorite chapters was “Prayer Pressure” – it was interesting to see how Joshua and Raquel’s prayer life evolved over the years. There are also many funny moments in the book, such as when Joshua and Raquel are having a private fight, only to realize that relatives can hear them through a baby monitor! Sometimes marriage books feel like instruction manuals, but Confessions of a Happily Married Man feels like a memoir, and the content is witty and easy to relate to.
Rogers provides good ideas about staying connected, communicating well, and conquering difficult situations as a team. We see the importance of spending quality time with our spouses and having an attitude of shared responsibility. And we are reminded that in the midst of trials in marriage, God is right there with us. The book shows how healthy conflict can make relationships stronger, and how challenges can bring couples together.
I received this book for review.
February 5, 2023
Joshua Rogers is one of my favorite bloggers/writers I’ve come across, and I think this book deserves a wider audience. Even as a single person, I really enjoyed this book and gleaned a lot from it. I listened to the audiobook on Audible, which was great because it’s read by Joshua and his wife. I’d recommend it!
October 26, 2019
Excellent book!!!
January 16, 2020
3.5 stars
January 19, 2020
So much to think about....
November 14, 2023
I plan on re-reading this book!
February 9, 2024
This is one of the best books I have ever read. It spoke to my soul. It was hilarious. Encouraging. Christ exalting. I’d recommend it as the best marriage book of all time.
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