Fear, anxiety, and negative thinking can hold many leaders back in difficult situations. To overcome these unproductive patterns, develop routines grounded in courage, integrity, and resilience. Push yourself to practice these positive behaviors before entering any stressful situation, and you’ll have them at your disposal when the pressure’s on.
Actionable advice:
Journal every morning.
Journaling is a great and easy way to approach problem-solving – so try making it a part of your morning ritual! To deal with a problem, write down five ideas that attack it from multiple perspectives. Don’t worry if they’re not related or don’t seem to make sense. The important thing is to rev up your brain; the solution will eventually follow. That’s what innovation is all about.
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Keep teams aligned through open and focused communication.
Before retiring, Mike “Mags” Magaraci was the most senior enlisted SEAL in the counter-terrorism unit. He was a leader of leaders, and many senior officers reported to him. Far from being easy, the job was like herding lions. The very qualities that make SEALs elite – like independence and a willingness to challenge the status quo – also make them challenging to rein in.
Mags had one major issue: How could he get all these leaders on the same page? His solution ended up being simple but elegant. He scheduled a weekly video conference called the “engaged leadership reflection session” to share visions, missions, and big-picture updates. It also gave leaders an opportunity to answer questions that promoted alignment on focus, innovation, successes, failures, and morale. It wasn’t rocket science, but the payoff from everyone being on the same page was massive.
Alignment comes from communication, but what you communicate carries a lot of weight. Meaningless meetings don’t help align teams – if anything, they add confusion and frustration. So, it’s more accurate to say that alignment comes from focused communication that honors transparency and collective learning.
This is particularly important in the military given that it needs to coordinate dozens of teams spanning a range of agencies, organizations, and countries. Getting everyone on the same page is an enormous challenge that is quite literally the difference between victory and defeat.
To keep meetings focused, Mags and other military leaders used to kick off with the Navy’s overarching mission and vision. This was followed by the goals, or agenda, for the call. After that, they’d cede the floor and let different teams speak. This openness was critical for sharing information – things like challenges, risks, learning, and opportunities. Good communication involves everyone speaking up.
Though many of the SEAL leaders hated the video conference idea when Mags first proposed it, they quickly found that these reflection sessions became an essential protocol for everyone’s success. By regularly coming together, they were able to learn from each other and spot troubling trends before they became major issues. The result? More confidence, new knowledge, aligned teams, and better missions.
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To become more resilient, focus on being adaptable and maintain a positive attitude.
No matter what, you’re going to fail. It’s inevitable. Everyone fails from time to time, regardless of expertise, attention to detail, or follow-through. And SEALs are no exception. Yes, they often succeed in the face of insurmountable odds, but they also fail plenty of times.
What sets the SEALs apart from others is what happens after they fail. They don’t just accept defeat and let their fear wolf in – they bounce back. This resilience makes all the difference. By learning from their mistakes, being adaptable, and refusing to quit, SEALs make the best out of bad situations and learn how to prevent them from happening again in the future.
Ambitious missions can lead to big failures. In 2005, Marcus Luttrell was in Afghanistan as part of a four-man recon mission. When their location was inadvertently exposed to enemy combatants, they had to scramble to extract themselves. Sadly, Luttrell was the lone survivor.
He was injured, but he didn’t quit. He managed to escape, and a local Pashtun villager sheltered him until he was rescued a few days later. But that’s not the end of Luttrell’s story – after he recovered from his injuries, he redeployed with a different SEAL unit. It was only after he was injured again that he was medically retired.
So, what allowed Luttrell to push through failure and bounce back even when the odds were stacked against him? In a word: adaptability. Adaptability is the key to resilience. It’s being able to quickly get over failure and shift gears when things don’t go as planned.
Luttrell’s mission obviously didn’t go as he had hoped, but he didn’t dwell on the past or curl up in a fetal position. Instead, he forged ahead, drawing on his training to come up with new solutions every step of the way. With this approach, he was able to not just survive, but to return to combat and contribute further to the larger mission.
This also speaks to a core element of resilience: a positive attitude. Optimism is easy when things are going well; the true test of a positive attitude is being able to ignore negative thinking in the midst of bad situations. Don’t let yourself dwell on the negative – take a deep breath, focus, and start asking how you’re going to get over this next obstacle.