‫قواعد الناس‬

by Richard Templar, ريتشارد تمبلر

جميعنا يرغب في أن يكون "شخصاً اجتماعياً" طبيعياً. إنهم يبدون وكأن لديهم حاسة سادسة حول مايريده الناس بحق، وما يفكرون فيه بحق، وماذا يعنون بحق. إنهم يحصلون على موافقة الناس دون جهد، ويجعلونهم سعداء ومحفزين.
هل هناك شيء يعلمونه لايعلمه بقيتنا؟
هل هذا شيء يمكننا جميعاً تعلمه؟ الإجابة نعم بكل تأكيد.
إنهم يعرفون قواعد الناس.
هذه القواعد تمثل المبادئ التوجيهية التي تظهر لك كيفية التواصل مع أي شخص، وبناء علاقات قوية مع الأصدقاء والزملاء، وحتى إخراج أفضل ما لدى الأشخاص صعاب المراس. سوف تساعدك على أن تقول الشيء المناسب، وتفعل الشيء المناسب، وتعرف بصورة غريزية كيفية التعامل مع أي موقف.

Genres: Psychology, Self Help, Nonfiction, Social, Business, Education, Personal Development

225 pages, Kindle Edition

About the author

Richard Templar is an astute observer of human behavior and understands what makes the difference between those of us who effortlessly glide towards success and those of us who struggle against the tide. He has distilled these observations into his Rules titles. More than 1 million people around the world have enjoyed and now play by Richard Templar's Rules.

Reviews

[هدى يحيى · Rating 2 out of 5]

كتاب خفيف عن أنواع الشخصيات المختلفة وكيفية التعامل معها
المؤلف ذو حس ساخر ويقدم علم النفس بشكل ظريف
سهل الفهم
ويناسب المبتدئين
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[Laurencia · Rating 4 out of 5]

A really easy read, simple and straightforward. Some of the stuff are common sense but are easily forgotten when dealing with difficult people. This book helps to remind you to think kindly of others not for their benefit, but yours.

[المهند السبيعي · Rating 3 out of 5]

Nice book but the title looks very promising while the content was below my expectations. Well no one on earth will manage to revel the rules of this mysterious creature.

In Amazon this book is over rated, I always find Goodreads reviews more realistic than Amazon reviews.

[Mohamed Hamed ElBediewy · Rating 3 out of 5]

كتاب خفيف وبسيط مناسب في رأيي للشرائح العمرية الشبابية وبدايات تشكل الوعي.
لغة الكتاب بسيطة جدا والكتاب انطباعي جدا يمثل مجموعة انطباعات للكاتب مصدرها خبراته الشخصية عن كيفية كسب الناس والتأثير فيهم وفهم سلوكياتهم، الكتاب بعيد عن النزعة العلمية والنفسية التحليلية هو بالأساس أقرب إلى نصائح عامة وإرشادات ومناسب للشباب في بداية مرحلة المراهقة وتشكل وعيهم ولا يكفي وحده كمصدر تثقيف ذاتي في هذه المساحة.
في كثير من الفقرات يفتقر إلى العلمية أو إلى أبحاث تؤيده لكن عزاء الكاتب قاله بشكل ضمني ردا على النقطة دي وهي إن القواعد عبارة عن ملاحظاته الشخصية وليست إلزام وهي بمثابة نتاج خبراته الشخصية لما يمكن أن يكون مفيد في المساحة دي.

[Zee · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of my fave psychology guides so far. Theres no rambling nor unneeded info in this book and I can see myself referring back to this book for years and years to come. The set up for each section is amazing for people who are on the go as each 'rule' is no longer than a page and theres even an outlined box section with the 'bottom line' of each rule. Paired with this you have a realistic story that you can read and refer to if you wish to look deeper into that topic.

This book called me out in more ways than one and really got me studying and thinking of ways to improve my behaviour and communication with people. Definitely a book where you need highlighter tabs and a pencil on hand. Nice easy read I'd recommend to anyone who's looking to better their communication with people and in business.

[Melody Ball]

I think most of the rules are common sense. The most important rule in the light of being proactive in antiracism is that "Prejudice comes from ignorance."

[Kira · Rating 4 out of 5]

I found this book really useful in some of the concepts the author shares. I do wish he'd have shared more examples and stories as these are the places in this book where I best understood his ideas. This is a worthwhile read especially for rules in social situations which other people seem to be aware of but are never explicitly taught.

[Frederik · Rating 3 out of 5]

Udmærket lige-ud-landevejen selvhjælpsbog fundet på et hotel på Mallorca, men dog lidt for banal enkelte steder.

[Nicole Charalambous · Rating 2 out of 5]

I wasn’t too sure what to rate this book, I felt it was insightful but I also felt it was quite “obvious” - I thought there would be more of a “self help” strategy on how to deal or adapt with certain situations or when people are being a certain way, that can benefit the reader.

The book was easy to read but I found it was more-so describing what kind of traits people have and explaining them in a bit of depth. As opposed to giving the reader insight on how to handle different types of people.
There wasn’t anything that I would have found helpful or valuable with the information provided.

There were some interesting pages that make you remember “oh yes” or “true” but it wasn’t my favourite self-help/insightful book if I’m being honest.

[Nadia Fredj · Rating 4 out of 5]

This a very helpful book to remind you about what we do not want to see , the reality of people and the best way to deal with them to keep our sanity.
It's a reminder how human beings are created and that nothing has changed, humans are humans and we have to accept the fact and live with it positively.

I recommend this book if you have difficulties in understanding people's behavior and why they are the way they are .

[Wen Hao 9 · Rating 3 out of 5]

It's a very nice book with some good insights on how to deal with people, but in the end, it all depends on yourself.

I found it myself more interesting to feel conflicted or talked to when Richard was talking about some bad habits.

Richard uses a lot of common sense and the rules didn't blow my mind, but they did make me more aware of myself and others and that I appreciate.

[Sharlene Aminullah · Rating 4 out of 5]

Everyday handbook. "No one can beat the Narcissist", I say make them busy, because "Busy people are less trouble".

[Mokhalad Hikmat · Rating 1 out of 5]

لازالت مشكلة التؤمة بين مشكلات و واقع العالم الغربي والعالم العربي أضافة الى طرق التعامل وحل هذه المشكلات قائمة في هذه السلسلة من الكتب

[Lena Mrshmlow]

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I Have been wanting to read this book for a long time. This book is very exceptional in the way we deal with people and what we should do when we need to do it. the book is simple to understand, each rule fills no more than two pages. However, the rules can often be vague or expect the reader to quite literally 'read between the lines' in every conversation they have. It must take an outstanding amount of emotional energy having to spend all this time wondering how to ask clever questions or what REALLY is wrong with the person in front of you that seems 'off'. Some of it is extremely basic, eg. 'don't gossip behind people's backs', 'listen to them' which I'd feel is the absolute foundation of getting people to like you.
لقد كنت أرغب بقراءة هذا الكتاب لفترة طويلة. هذا الكتاب استثنائي للغاية في الطريقة التي نتعامل بها مع الناس وما الذي يجب أن نفعله عندما نتعامل مع الانواع المختلفة من الناس.. الكتاب سهل الفهم ، كل قاعدة لا تزيد عن صفحتين. ومع ذلك ، يمكن أن تكون القواعد غامضة في كثير من الأحيان وأحيانا يتوقع من القارئ أن "يقرأ ما بين السطور" حرفيًا في كل محادثة يجرونها. بحيث يستغرق الأمر قدرًا كبيرًا من الطاقة العاطفية التي تضطر إلى قضاء كل هذا الوقت في التساؤل عن كيفية طرح أسئلة ذكية أو ما هو الخطأ حقًا في كل حالة وموقف. الكتاب 209 صفحات وأنصح بقرأته بشدة.

[Maya Nightingale · Rating 5 out of 5]

The Rules of People" by Richard Templar is a refreshing guide to understanding how we interact with others. It offers straightforward advice that can change how you see and deal with people, considering their backgrounds and life experiences.

The book makes you think differently about human relationships. It describes different types of personalities in a way that feels familiar—you might even recognize yourself in some of them. This self-awareness is key to improving how we connect with others.

The book is packed with practical tips on listening skills, and effective communication with examples that illustrate these tips really well.

[Macie · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is so good omg.Its a real eye opener.You start to realise that your unintentionally doing things that dont work/other people dont respond positively to.Its also sooooo easy to understand to the point where a 12 year old could understand it yet it isnt childish.It also isnt boring and has a slight humour to it which makes it enjoyable to read unlike some other psychology books that are a chore to read.I would really recommend this book and look forward to reading other books in this series.

[Rhiane Hacker · Rating 4 out of 5]

Richard highlights a lot of points that sometimes do cross over and feel repetitive, but it makes you more aware of your own behaviour and also of others. I find myself actively thinking how to process someone who I at first struggle with, but later am able to handle from the suggestions in the book.

They are simplified and great examples/anecdotes are given to connect to the same idea he is trying to convey.

[Sool · Rating 3 out of 5]

I call this type of book "the train books", the ones you can read everwhere. When you catch the train after work and you are tired, before to get to sleep, or when you drink your coffee at morning, before you start your day. You can just read one page whenever you want... is very simple.
I really recommend this book for english learners ( like me). Easy to read and you probably will learn new words easly.

[Dee · Rating 3 out of 5]

I would think that this book literally reminded us to always look for ourself first foremost before others. The author clarified each points in detail that made me easy to understand the situation in each chapter. Took a lot of time to read it but really worth it at the end.

It teaches us how to confront with the difficult ppl as I found that sometimes surely ppl so manipulate many things that I also realised I’ve been in that situation. Totally worth it after all.

[Helfren · Rating 4 out of 5]

Have been wanting to read this book for long time. This book is very exceptional in the way we deals with people and what we should do when we need to do it. If you need an answer now,its no. If there is negative voice always ask for specific, sometimes, they have ideas to combat the existing problems with the product or service.Liked the read.

[Reihane · Rating 5 out of 5]

Considering the purpose and the audience it was written for I’d give it five well-deserved stars.
For the most part, what was pointed out was what you might have noticed throughout time and interaction with people.
What you will take away from this is the useful reminder, awareness, and the little tips.

[Azri Razak · Rating 4 out of 5]

A book based on the author's observation of what behavior is most likely to lead a happy and successful life.
I really enjoyed the guidelines and helpful pointers highlighted in the book, it is something that I am truly grateful for as occasionally I have to admit my behavior needs alittle tuning up. Also in some ways, I can relate to some cases the author experienced when dealing with people.

[Daniel Hollands · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love the format of this book. Each rule is no longer than 2 pages, and they all immediately get to the point and don’t outstay their welcome. Many of the rules could be considered common sense, so in most cases they acts as a good refresher, but oftentimes things need to be spelt out to us, and this does that in an effective way.

[Sahvanna · Rating 3 out of 5]

Richard has the right idea of teaching people in simple steps, but the book itself lack references when it mentions 'studies shown'. Also there are frameworks in there that have been misinterpreted such as the non-violent communication style in the first section of the book. Its an easy read however do look up certain rules in more depth if you want to learn more.

[Jace · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is yet another self-help book that has a strong understanding of human behaviours and provides insightful perspectives as to why things happen. The author is very down-to-earth and grounded, and acknowledges that the rules aren't perfect and they aren't meant to be applied to everybody. It provides a fresh perspective of understanding people and their motivations for doing certain things.

[Alyce Hunt]

Have realised if you read too many Richard Templar books you end up reading the same advice over and over again, as a lot of his advice gets repeated. Pick up one of these books, scan the contents list to read all 100 of the rules and that’s as deep as it gets really.

[Matt Bryan · Rating 2 out of 5]

A nice easy and light hearted read, well broken up. However didn’t really induce any revelations on me and i found way too many of the rules irrelevant to me. I suppose it wasn’t as effective after reading how to win friends and influence people

[Ruth · Rating 3 out of 5]

Nice and simple to read. The bottom line is can we learn from other people even when we may find them annoying or just not our cup of tea. ? Well the answer is, yes we can. We need to try and understand where the other person is coming from and to adapt our own responses.
Good read.

[Lauren Hughes · Rating 4 out of 5]

I wasn't sure how much I was going to enjoy / engage with this book, as I had mixed opinions after reading 'The Rules of Living Well'.

However, this book seemed a much more worthwhile read and it was interesting to see how certain people / scenarios came to mind with each rule.

[Zahraa · Rating 5 out of 5]

Okey here we go 😍
The best book I ever read and in the next year I will add to my reading list the rest books to this writer ✅
Like 🤷🏻‍♀️ every one should read this book to deal with people especially introverts 💙